Sexual Assault

What is Sexual Assault

What is sexual assault/rape? Sexual assault can happen anywhere to women, men, and children. Sexual assault or Rape includes but is not limited to:

  • Unwanted fondling, kissing, or sexual touching.
  • Forcing a person to look at pornography or pose for sexual pictures
  • Forcing a person to have oral sex.
  • Rape or unwanted sexual intercourse
  • Assaults are most often committed by someone the victim knows
  • They happen in familiar settings
  • Not all involve force. Threatening and forced inebriation so the victim cannot resist is also rape or sexual assault.

Rape and sexual assault are never the fault of the victim and it doesn’t matter what they have been doing or wearing.

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How to protect yourself

There are measures that can be taken to avoid or prevent sexual assault and rape.

1. You always maintain the right to say “No.” Even in circumstances such as these:

  • You have been kissing and making out.
  • You have been drinking.
  • You are wearing sexy clothing.
  • You have had sex before.
  • You said yes previously—then changed your mind.

2. Use caution and trust your instincts.

  • Trust your instincts; they were given to you by a higher source. If you feel uncomfortable with someone, don’t go off alone with them.
  • If you are unsure of someone suggest a meeting at a public place.

3. Be aware of different kinds of pressure. Rape is when someone forces you to have sex. That force can be:

  • Not stopping when you say no.
  • Threatening to hurt you.
  • Physically holding you down.
  • Using a weapon such as a knife or gun.
  • Having sex with you when you’re to high or drunk to say no.
  • Makes it seem like something worse will happen if you don’t give in.

4. Be clear about your limits.

  • Clearly say “NO.” if you start feeling forced.
  • If you don’t say no clearly, he or she may think you are OK with what is happening.
  • Remember, if the person doesn’t listen to no, it’s not your fault.

5. Stay in charge.

  • Staying in charge means saying what you want and knowing what you are doing.
  • Avoid drinking and using drugs. They make it hard for you to stay in charge.
  • Call a family member or a trusted friend to come pick you up if you are unsure of your safety.
  • Always carry money for bus or cab fare.
  • Remember, it is better to get into trouble for being somewhere you shouldn’t be than to get raped.

6. Watch out for danger signs.

  • If a person does not listen to you at other times, he or she may not listen to you in a sexual setting.
  • If someone sits or stands too close or stares you down, he or she may not respect your limits.
  • If a person seems to like it if you are uncomfortable, he or she may not respect your limits.

7. If you’re afraid to say no.

  • If you think saying no will make the situation worse, say you have to go to the bathroom. Call your dad or another male member of your family to come get you.
  • It is OK to lie to protect yourself.

8. What if the person doesn’t listen to no?

  • Say no again—loudly.
  • Say, “Stop. This is rape.” By clearly telling the assailant that he/she is about to rape you, it may make him/her wake up and realize what they are about to do.

9. Ask yourself, is it safe to resist?

  • Try to stay calm and decide what to do.
  • Try to talk your way out or distract the attacker so you can get away.
  • If you can, fight back. Push the attacker away—hard!
  • Yell loudly. Yell Rape or Fire! Draw attention to what is happening. If you get free run to where there are other people.
  • Sometimes it is more dangerous to fight back. You may decide it is safer to give in. It is still not your fault.

10. Get Help.

  • If someone tries to rape you or if you have been raped, get help as soon as possible. Talk to a trusted friend or family member, contact your local rape crisis center or call the police. Or call RAINN—a free and confidential hotline for victims of sexual assault: 1-800-656-HOPE.
  • Remember, if a person doesn’t listen to you, it’s not your fault.

Report the Crime

When sexual assault or rape happens to you it is vital that you know what to do in response to the crime just committed against you.

  • You are the victim and it is not your fault. This is so important to realize right away. Most rapes go unreported because of a feeling of guilt or responsibility or shame. Do not feel responsible. You were attacked.
  • Call the police while your attacker is still in the area, and while their appearance is still clear in your mind.
  • The police will know what to do from there but in case they leave you unsure of what to do next. Go to the hospital. The hospital will do a rape kit on you and will be able to tell if you have any injuries related to the incident. Do not shower before you go to the hospital. The hospital will also be able to remove DNA in order to better prosecute your attacker.
  • Press charges against your attacker. If you don’t, that person will be free to rape someone else. We need to get these sexual predators off the streets; you can do your part by pressing charges.
  • Seek counseling to deal with any negative emotions you may be feeling after the rape.

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advisor4qb 7 years ago from On New Footing

This hub should be useful to all who read it. Women should also be careful when going to their cars to watch out for vans parked nearby, people possibly in the vehicle or under the vehicle, and not to sit in the car balancing the checkbook. Just put the receipt in the checkbook so that you will remember at the next point of contact with the checkbook that it still has to be entered into the register.

Also, the panic button on the car key thing is very helpful when you want to get attention from others if you are being assaulted. And putting the keys between each of your fingers before punching the guy is a good thing to know if you want to add power to the punch. EVERYTHING is a weapon when you are being attacked.


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wesleycox 7 years ago from Back in Texas, at least until August 2012 Author

Thanks for reading advisor, and thanks for the comment.


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myownworld 7 years ago from uk

great hub....and a must read for everyone! I just get shudders at the thought of anyone anywhere being subjected to something like this, esp. young children who are often the victims here. thank you for posting this. much love always.


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wesleycox 7 years ago from Back in Texas, at least until August 2012 Author

I am glad that you approve of the topic and it is a disturbing thought but the reality of it is that it happens. Hopefully this hub will help someone prevent or deal with it when it does. Thanks for reading.


Denizee 6 years ago

Being a woman who likes to "help" people, I'll never forget going out local to a convenience store at night, and as I walked in there were a group of about 5 men asking for directions. Of course I tried to explain to them the way they needed to go, but out of the corner of my eye I noticed a male customer behind them, eyeing to me to go - so, in essence I think that stranger saved me from something that could have turned out bad. I love this article for the clear insight, and concern for women in general on how to protect themselves.


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Telynisblessed 6 years ago from Honolulu, Hawaii

Thank you for this hub very informative!


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wesleycox 6 years ago from Back in Texas, at least until August 2012 Author

Denizee: Thank you very much for your comment and I am glad that everything worked out for you in that situation.

Telynisblessed: Thank you for reading and commenting.


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Hummingbird5356 6 years ago

I am glad I have never been in a situation like this and it must be horrendous for anyone who is. A very good hub about a subject which needs to be talked about. It happens and the more it is discussed maybe it will help to stop it.


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wesleycox 6 years ago from Back in Texas, at least until August 2012 Author

One can only hope that this crime will stop all together but realistically it probably wont, but if someone knows how to protect themselves and how to respond after it happens, the criminal will go to jail and have a ruined life like his/her victim.


joselyn 5 years ago

HELLO I AM NOT EVEN SURE I WILL GET A RESPONCE BUT I JUST WENT THREW A VERY UNCONFORTABLE SITUATION AT A LOCAL COVIENT STORE . THE STORE OWNER WOULD ALWAYS FLIRT WITH ME I JUST BRUSHED IT OFF AS NO BIG DEAL THEN THE COMMENTS STARETED GETING SEXUAL IT AMDE VERY UN EASY .. WELL THE OTHER DAY THE STORE OWNER CAME UP FROM BEHIND ME AND PUSHED HIMSELF UP AGAINST MY ASS THEN GRABBING ME TELLING YOU LOOK GOOD FROM BEHIND I WAS IN SUCJH SHOCK I DID NOT KNOW WHAT TO DO SO I MADE A REPORT TO MY LOCAL POLICE STATION THEY WERENT SURE IF THEY HAD ENOFUGH TO AREST THE MAN FOR SEXUAL BATTERY i really need some advice in what to do next


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wesleycox 4 years ago from Back in Texas, at least until August 2012 Author

Joselyn: Unfortunately there are events of this nature happening all over the world. It is a travisty that it happens and its worse that 95% of assaulters are male. The best thing to do would be to stop going to that store. If you eliminate the source of the threat you'll be ok. Or you could take friends with you into the store. I'm sorry but those are really the only things you can do because the guy is sick and demented.


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