Stop being shy – Gain confidence
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Shy girls, shy guys – Gain confidence
Being shy is not a horrible trait to have. However, it is also not one of the best things to be, especially if you want to pursue a more upbeat social life and venture into the business world. There are some people who are so shy that it interferes with the many aspects of life, they miss out on great opportunities and deprive themselves of experiencing all that is available to them. Some of these people lack the skills to socialize with others, whether it’s on a social or professional level the more they allow for this to continue the less confidence they will have to break free from it.
Below I have listed eight tips and ideas to help you stop being shy and gain confidence.
Things that can help with shyness. Begin with what and who you know
Become even more connected to the people you already know, like your friends and family. Make up real life scenarios and practice communicating. I remember doing this with my sister right before going on an interview or date, it was interesting and lots of fun and it also helped me tremendously with my own comfort level.
Don’t get down on yourself
Just because shyness hurts many in the social and business area, does not mean it will necessary hurt you. If you build confidence and courage you will learn how to get around your shyness and excel. Fake it till you make it and build a can do attitude. Moping around asking your self, why? Is not going to help you any, it is perfectly fine to be nervous; everyone gets nervous when trying to accomplish something new.
Go with the flow
Don’t include your self in activities and social functions you dislike just for the sake of being part of something, it will not be genuine. It will probably only seem like you are trying to hard. Involve yourself with people and things that interest you this will make it mush easier to help you with your shyness.
What do you like?
A great way to help you overcome your shyness is by getting involved in activities you have always been interested in. For example, if you always had an interest in kick boxing, than join a class where you can socialize with other classmates. Many cities offer free classes on a variety of interest, if you type in the words i.e.: free classes in Bedford, Illinois in your computer, chances are you will find a list of free or inexpensive events near you. Consider joining a book club or a theatre playhouse club. Volunteering for a local hospital, library or zoo can also help you venture out, meet new people, overcome your shyness while contributing to a good cause.
Maybe your sister, cousin or friend can help you
There is a pretty good chance that the people you already feel comfortable with, know plenty of other people and have a circle of friends of their own. Ask them to include you in some of their outgoings. Getting to know someone, that somebody you already know is friends with can also help you in breaking the shy cycle.
Make the first move
During a function or social engagement you will probably meet people who will give you there business cards, email addresses and telephone numbers. Do not always wait for them to make the first move. If you enjoyed their conversation and company, pick up the phone and call them or email them to build a relationship. If you still feel comfortable with the person, consider making plans to meet for coffee. This can work out for you in any three ways, 1- helps with overcoming your shyness, 2 – it can lead to a friendship or 3 – it can become a very good contact for business in the future.
Some will not like you
In this world you will meet people who like you and others who will not. You can say this is one of those things that make the world go round and it just wouldn't be normal if everyone you met liked you. So you must learn how not to get your feelings hurt to easily, if you do not appeal to others. Live and let live is an important motto to live by and that can be a bit difficult for shy people. Experiencing the harsh reality that there will be people you meet that will not like you, can set a once shy person back into their timid world. This is why learning how not to take things to personal is important. It is also important to understand that just because one person does not like you, does not mean you are not likable, it may very well be that they have issues or preferences of their own.
Go for it!
Seriously, sometimes you just have to do it. If it’s going to help you in a positive way, than risk looking a little silly. What do I mean by that? When you are in the market engage in the senseless conversations others are having over the produce counter. Can’t sing, but always liked karaoke, go for it! So what if you look a little silly. Not only will you have fun but, it will also improve your confidence, social skills and help you with your shyness.
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