Dancing with Myself: Nothing to Prove and Nothing to Lose

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At Night I Lock The Doors...

I'm going to go ahead and confess that I like to dance. I like to watch people dance and I like to break it down. However, unlike many people with Boogie Fever, I don't go out clubbing nor do I take a class. The dancefloor is my room.

While I took dance for three years, it all started when I was a kid and I was watching a commercial for something and the song from Flashdance Maniac and starting to go crazy alongside it. I would drive everyone crazy singing that song and acting like Jennifer Beals. But I couldn't help it, the music moved me!

Before you collapse into a pile of laughs, I am actually serious. I like to dance but usually by myself. Part of being a nerd means you do not always follow social conventions and part of having swagger means you know who you are. Well, for me that comes easier done than said.

I realized in middle school that part of growing up means actually dancing with someone else, regularly. I learned how to do that

Tryin' Not to Start Somethin'

Like I said, those pesky middle school boys did not relent in how they wanted to dance. They did not gingerly take my hand, they pushed it down towards my waist, for slow dances. However, I was smart enough not to dance with them to uptempo songs. Why? Because it's not so much dancing as it is a visualized interpretation of what I learned in my Stepping Stones class.

To put it bluntly, a guy faces frontward while you are backward and well...if you ask me that's not dancing. If anything it resembles a mating ritual from the dark ages.

That and the fact that someone could be that close to me without really getting to know me put me off. However, since I was in the minority I was forced to keep rhythm by myself or in a crowd. And while I was not quite Elaine, I was not exactly the best dancer.

Yet at the end of the day, I realized it did not matter. I was being myself as well as developing something that would come to help me just hang back and let loose.

One Nerd Under the Groove

Since I did not dance the "way" most of my classmates did, I ended up dancing alone. Which was okay until people decidedly stared at me like I was crazy. I was and am not. I believe dancing is not only one's privilege but one's right in expressing themselves. That being said, there is no one right or wrong way to approach it.

At my Junior and Senior Proms I frankly remember dancing and everyone being shocked. Mostly because I did not have the party resumes of some of my classmates nor openly talked about rhythmic involvement either.

So when I started to bust a move, everyone thought they had saw a ghost. But I did not care. I was dancing like I have been doing since I was able to walk.

When I got to college, I flat out did not care about dancing around others. I mean, it was not like I was offending anyone by being publicly happy. Unlike yawning and colds, dancing is contagious in a good way.

I remember going to my first football game with my suitemates at the time freshman year and was about to collapse from boredom. However, I brought my pop culture CPR, my iPod. And after a very long first half, I decided to endure the second half by getting down.

I figured at the time, "If people can come here and get drunk for two hours before the game even starts and spend four more acting a dang-on fool, why can't I get busy with my J-Tims, Hall and Oates, and Kanye?"

So I proceeded to spend the next hour or so nodding to the beat to survive the beating the team took. And when I got back, the party continued.

I did not have a roommate but I had plenty of energy, so I had a dance party with myself and I must say, it was EPIC!

Clorox on the Dancefloor

My habit of dancing randomly comes from childhood. I took dance classes for three years and even though I did not continue formal training, I continued to dance.

I had parents who were crazy enough to give me a television in my room, so sometimes when MTV played videos I would dance along as I was straightening my room or getting ready for school. Summers were even better because I could watch as many crazy videos as I wanted and get jiggy with it.

As I have said before, the only way I would help my mom cleaning is to music. If it had not been for James Brown and Rick James, I would have become a hoarder.

And when I got to college the habit continued. It was even better because I could control the tunes. Cutting loose was a great way to release the tensions of studying.

Honestly though, I do not know how people do not dance at some point during the everyday craziness that is our lives. It does not have to be pretty or perfect but it has to be you.

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Off the Wall

I think Michael Jackson said it best when he said "Leave that 9 to 5 on the shelf and enjoy yourself." 9 to 5 or not, that is quite easy and I will show you how.

  • Devote at least 5 minutes a day to a random dance break- If you work, do it on break or at lunch if you have to. Or if you're shy, do it at home.
  • Close your eyes- It sounds weird, but I do that alot when I jam (well except in the car) but everywhere else is cool. You can pretend you are on stage
  • Pick your favorite jams and organize them into a playlist. Depending on your mood, you might want to break it into different genres or artists who make you move the most.
  • Dance crazily like know one's watching!

While I know some people prefer to follow the trends or seem "normal," I believe the time we have should be spent doing what is not only right for others but for ourselves. Am I saying start a flash mob in the middle of Jackson Hewitt? Well, that's up to you but whatever happens, there's never a wrong time to bust a move!

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alocsin 4 years ago from Orange County, CA

I like the idea of a random dance break, but preferably not in the middle of a meeting at the office. Voting this Up and Interesting.


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Marisa Wright 4 years ago from Sydney

What kind of dance did you learn? I think a "nerd" like yourself would benefit from dancing in company - and I don't mean dancing with boys. There are plenty styles of dance which don't need a partner, and if you go to a belly dance class you'll find 99% of the class is female, most of them your age or older - so you don't have to be shy, and you can bust a move as much as you like!


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tammyswallow 4 years ago from North Carolina

This is super adorable. Sometimes if the beat is right you just can't help yourself. My sons and I would disco in Walmart when we would pass the listening stations. Being unhibitited is healthy and fun. Great hub!!


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Cosmic Bus 4 years ago from Maryland

Voted Up! Good job.


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KevinC9998 4 years ago

I enjoyed your hub (especially Elaine Benes). Nice job and voted up.


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Alecia Murphy 4 years ago from Wilmington, North Carolina Author

Alocsin,

Yeah, I wouldn't recommend dancing in an office but if you're the CEO, it could work.


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Alecia Murphy 4 years ago from Wilmington, North Carolina Author

Hi Marisa,

I don't really mean formal dance styles. I was just talking about general social dancing. I took dance classes as a kid so I've been in those settings. I was talking more about dancing without being conscious of style. Thank for sharing your thoughts.


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Alecia Murphy 4 years ago from Wilmington, North Carolina Author

Hi Tammy,

I can definitely relate to wanting to jam in Wal-Mart. It definitely beats being irritated by people's carts :). Thanks for coming by and commenting!


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Alecia Murphy 4 years ago from Wilmington, North Carolina Author

Hi Comic Bus,

Thanks so much for coming by and commenting!


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Alecia Murphy 4 years ago from Wilmington, North Carolina Author

Hi KevinC9998,

Thanks for stopping by and Elaine's always a riot!


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Robwrite 4 years ago from Bay Ridge Brooklyn NY

Hi Alecia; I advocate taking a break during the day to do whatever makes you feel good and recharges you emotionally. Whether its a dance break, a snack, a brisk walk or whatever. I used to take maditation breaks when I worked in an office. It helped keep me sane.

I enjoyed the hub,

Rob


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Alecia Murphy 4 years ago from Wilmington, North Carolina Author

I agree Rob, anything to promote sanity and clarity during the 9-5 shuffle. Thanks for coming by and commenting.


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weestro 4 years ago from Virginia

This is awesome, recently I was on the trails walking my dogs and the rolling stones were playing on my ipod...I didn't even realize I was walking like mick jagger (or a chicken) and pointing to nothing in particular. Then three runners passed, laughing and looking back at me. I can definitely relate to this one!


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Alecia Murphy 4 years ago from Wilmington, North Carolina Author

Thanks Weestro! I can only imagine what those runners thought when you were trying to move like Jagger!


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bethperry 4 years ago from Tennesee

What a great hub! I love to dance and especially with the kids at an impromptu moment. Well, I take that back, love dancing with hubby even better.

Voting up and wishing you joy in the dance!


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Alecia Murphy 4 years ago from Wilmington, North Carolina Author

Thanks Beth for stopping by and commenting! I agree it's fun to see that parents and kids dancing is precious. Best wishes to your dancing as well :)!


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Ruchira 4 years ago from United States

Hi Alecia,

LOVED the spontaneity in this hub. I love being natural but, darn this society does not let us be...

Dancing to your tune is the best way to be free of all bondage and it helps uplifting one's spirit as well.

Wishing you immense joy, my friend! May this passion of yours uplift your spirits!


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Alecia Murphy 4 years ago from Wilmington, North Carolina Author

Thank you Ruchira! I wish we had random dance breaks in real life. Thank you for sharing your insights :)!


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Jeannieinabottle 4 years ago from Baltimore, MD

Fun hub! I too prefer to break into my dance moves without an audience. Great video clips, too! I love Elaine's dance on Seinfeld. Voted up and shared!


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BizVT34 4 years ago from USA

Voted up, I like it. I too have been known to dance at odd times but very few people recognize it as dancing. Like Elaine, it is more likely to stimulate a 911 call.


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Jennifer Essary 4 years ago from Idaho

I absolutely love to dance. When I was single I used to hit the clubs with my girlfriends and dance until they shut the place down. My husband taught me to two step and I fell in love. (I've always been a sucker for a guy that can dance) Now I usually dance everyday with my toddler. Whether he's sitting in his high chair giggling at me purposely dancing like a fool or we dance together, he always has a smile on his face. Standing 6' tall I've turned down many dance offers from shorter men. Ironically my new favorite partner is less than 3 feet tall. Voted up and awesome. Thanks for SHARING


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Lord De Cross 4 years ago

There you go!! This was fun! We are music people and it shows. Cannot stop dancing to oh! Waht a feeling..! When I'm dancing on the ceiling!!!

LORD


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Alecia Murphy 4 years ago from Wilmington, North Carolina Author

I think it's easier without an audience. Dancing is a performance art that you don't always need applause or laughter for. Thankfully I still don't look like Elaine! Thanks for sharing and commenting!


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Alecia Murphy 4 years ago from Wilmington, North Carolina Author

Hi BuyaBiz,

I say as long as you're dancing and not causing trouble at odd times, there's nothing wrong as long as everyone remembers not to dial 911!


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Alecia Murphy 4 years ago from Wilmington, North Carolina Author

Hi Jennifer,

I would love to meet a guy who can dance as well, there's something about having that ability that is not only challenging but endearing as well. I can only imagine though how fun it is to dance with your little one. Thank you for commenting and sharing!


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Alecia Murphy 4 years ago from Wilmington, North Carolina Author

Hi Lord,

I can tell you are very much into 80s dance music, we definitely could have a great dance party together! Thank you for coming by!


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eye say 4 years ago from Canada

awesome, I used to dance by myself everyday and it was the best energy in the world


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Alecia Murphy 4 years ago from Wilmington, North Carolina Author

Thanks Eye Say! Dancing with yourself definitely provides great energy!


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dghbrh 4 years ago from ...... a place beyond now and beyond here !!!

hi,,,, nice hub.....enjoyed it.....up voting ans sharing too:-)


Janhorner 4 years ago

This is a nice thought. I loved your hub! I will make a point of breaking out (at home only) and dance to...wait for it...Abba! Now you can all fall about laughing! But I simply cannot get past the 70's music culture! I loved the boogie type music as well!

Jan


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Alecia Murphy 4 years ago from Wilmington, North Carolina Author

Thanks dghbrh!


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Alecia Murphy 4 years ago from Wilmington, North Carolina Author

I understand Janhorner, Abba is hard to resist. Thank you for coming by and commenting!


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MartieCoetser 4 years ago from South Africa

Oh, I often dance with myself, instead of doing boring exercises. And I will, too, at a party instead of sitting like a wallflower waiting for a turn :) Lovely, funny videos, Alecia!


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rcrumple 4 years ago from Kentucky

Alecia - If I were closer, we'd go dancing. Then, we'd both give folks something to laugh at! I was always told that I could dance well. Hell, I just had something most of my friends didn't, rhythm. If you move to the beat, stagger the feet, feel the music so sweet, who cares if you look neat. Git it on, girl! lol Hopefully, this will help the score some. It really is a good, fun hub!


AudraLeigh 4 years ago

This is one of my favorite stories of today! I know the tone is serious, but you dance for enjoyment and it's a part of you! It makes you happy! It made me happy reading it! Oh, I remember doing a talent thingy when I was younger to Flashdances (Irene Cara) Oh What a feeling'! Love it!


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Alecia Murphy 4 years ago from Wilmington, North Carolina Author

Thanks Martie for coming by and commenting!


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Alecia Murphy 4 years ago from Wilmington, North Carolina Author

Haha rcrumple, it would be a riot if we went dancing. Rhythm is a dancer that's for sure! Thanks so much for coming by and commenting!


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Alecia Murphy 4 years ago from Wilmington, North Carolina Author

I'm glad this made you happy AudraLeigh! Thanks so much for coming by and commenting!


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ishwaryaa22 4 years ago from Chennai, India

An engaging hub! I could relate to this energetic hub of yours as I am fond of dancing. I adopted dance work-out (So You Think You can Dance work-out) as part of my exercise regime. I enjoyed it and also lost weight gradually. I even took part in school annual day dance programs and danced with my relatives in wedding functions. At the end of your enjoyable hub, I agree with you that dancing is a good stress-buster. Way to go!

Thanks for SHARING. Useful & Interesting. Voted up


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Daisy Mariposa 4 years ago from Orange County (Southern California)

Alecia,

This is such a fun Hub! I'd love to see you add a poll. I wonder how many people will admit they've danced with themselves?!?


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Alecia Murphy 4 years ago from Wilmington, North Carolina Author

Hi Ish,

Thanks so much for coming by and commenting. I didn't know there was SYTYCD workout- that sounds pretty fun. I may look into that.


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Alecia Murphy 4 years ago from Wilmington, North Carolina Author

Hi Daisy,

I might add a poll. Thanks for the idea and for coming by :).


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida

Have you been peeking in my windows??? Whenever I'm feeling down (which is not often), I put on some disco music by the BeeGees and dance dance, dance. In fact, I wrote a hub about getting over the "blues".

Great Hub. Now, I gotta go and dance a little. Voted it UP.


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Alecia Murphy 4 years ago from Wilmington, North Carolina Author

Haha! I love the Bee Gees too Mary! Thanks so much for coming by and commenting!

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