Everybody's Fine

 

I watched this movie the other night called Everybody’s Fine. It starred the great Robert De Niro.Drew Barrymore, Kate Beckinsale and Sam Rockwell as the children. It was quite an unusual movie and I say that because I have never seen Robert De Niro in this type of role before, where he showed so much emotion. He is amazing in every movie that he is in and this movie wasn’t any different, he did not disappoint.

The premise of the movie is that De Niro plays a widower named Frank Goode and he is trying to get his children together for a reunion for the first time since his wife died. He goes all out and buys a huge dinner and cleans the house and prepares for his much anticipated visit with his grown children. What happens next is that one after another his children start to call him and tell him that they cannot make the visit for one reason or another. They all have excuses for not coming and I think deep down he knows that something is up.

He decides that although he isn’t in great health and against his doctor’s wishes, he sets out to visit his children without telling them, he wants to surprise them. His thinking is if they wont come to him then he will go to them. So he sets out on an adventure of sorts visiting his children one by one and slowly realizing that they are not all that happy to see him. Imagine sitting at home not expecting any visitors and your parents are at the front door unexpectedly before you have had your morning coffee. These are the expressions on his children’s faces as he pays them a visit. But there is reason for this, and at the risk of giving too much away, I will not reveal why they act like this but I will say that it has something to do with complications with one of the children, and they are trying to keep this information away from their father.

Now when his wife was alive she was the one that kept the family together. She was the one that all the children went to with their problems and because Frank was kind of tough on his kids, especially his boys, he was unapproachable and therefore they went to the mother and often she kept things from her husband. Needless to say there was much that Frank didn’t know about his own children and was appalled to find out many truths.

My verdict for this movie is that it is a must see movie if you are a Robert De Niro fan because clearly he makes this movie work. It is kind of a movie that is almost, dark, almost comedy and somewhere in between there is some drama. I loved this movie, I cried at least three times throughout and I am not a big baby when it comes to flicks, but there is something about Robert De Niro crying that I would defy anyone from being affected. Critics were not that kind to this movie and most of my sisters do not listen to me when I say a movie is good (unless a movie has Gerald Butler in it, one of my sisters refuses to see it). But this is my hub and this is my opinion so you can take it for what it is and agree with me or not but in my opinion I give it at least 4 stars.

The saddest part of this movie to me was the realization that kids keep so much from their parents and then they wonder why parents worry. I was reminded of this the last time I spoke with my daughter who is getting ready to go on a cruise with her boyfriend. When we spoke on the phone I asked her if she needed anything, and she said, “everything is fine”. The last time I spoke with my son he said the same thing. I know they are fine, but it still made me cringe a little because I so know how children keep things from their parents only because they do not want them to worry or they don’t want to get into a deep discussion about something painful. See the movie.

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Nellieanna 6 years ago from TEXAS

An EXCELLENT review and recommendation. I can imagine the effect of seeing De Niro in this kind of role, although I've long suspected he had a vulnerable and passionate side when it comes to his loved ones. But whoever played the role well would surely also have made the point clearly. I'll watch for a chance to see the movie!

Yes, kids do shield parents from their difficulties for the reasons you named, along with embarrassment to have gotten themselves into the problems or to have been too oblivious to see them coming. And they never quite grow out of fighting for thier rights as full-fledged grownups either, especially when it comes to the people with whom they shared years of being young & not in control of themselves - parents.

Sometimes the best thing for a parent - and probably for the relaionship - is for the parent to accept it when the grown kids choose to go their own way & to exercise their independence - consequences and all, but for the parens to stay ready and willing, without any reminders of all the other times when their counsel was avoided, to simply offer help when asked & acceptance when not. Along with it needs to be allowing the young adults both the freedome they seek and the opportunity to face consequences of their choices! When my daughter chose to marry very young against my advice - I refused to allow her to lay the problems it caused at my doorstep as my doing. I told her I was glad to listen and advise if she wanted me to - but I would not listen to her diatribes and if she continued, I would hang up - and I did. She finally decided to not try that tactic, though she continued to make foolish choices for awhile because she didn't learn well from her mistakes.

But one is not there on the scene to exercise authority over an adult's choices & cannot rightfully permit being dumped on, while the kid/adult merrily goes on doing the same things, knowing they won't have to face consequences. It's wrong to let them believe that.

If nothing else - one's grandkids are likely to seek one out for wisdom and advice as they begin to grow up and as they face big problems. It never helps to remind them of their failings - they know! But one can gently encourage their wiser choices, once they've opened the dialog.

My eldest granddaughter (almost 36 now, with teens of her own) just popped down from Indiana a weekend or so ago, because she said she needed to talk to a "sane person". And, she said, what better choice did she have than her Granny Annie? LOL

She poured out her concerns as we just talked like two good friends. She said it helped, though I didn't really go out of my way to offer ironclad solutions or even much sage advice. I responded to what she brought up & offered her parallels from my own life. Let her draw her own conclusions. In some instances she voiced her conclusions; in others she may have needed to continue pondering.

But - wow - would I have loved it if her mother had sought me out peaceably more!

They say that grandparents & grand kids have stronger connections many times than the parents and their children. They also mention that they are natural allies against the onslaughts of the mid generation they share! haha!


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Michael Shane 6 years ago from Gadsden, Alabama

This was a great movie! Thanks for the review!


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Coolmon2009 6 years ago from Texas, USA

Sounds like a movie worth watching; thanks for the review.


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drbj 6 years ago from south Florida

I saw this movie, too, ladyjane, and De Niro was the best part of it. Despite the gruff exterior he displays in his many films as either the seasoned cop or the clever criminal, he was entirely believable as the concerned father seeking reunion with his children.

Thanks for a very perceptive review of the film.


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Pamela99 6 years ago from United States

You wrote a great review and now I am curious about the whole thing. I think De Niro is a great actor and I will try to see the movie after reading your review. Thanks.


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ladyjane1 6 years ago from Texas Author

Nellieanna you always give such good advice. I envy your kids for that. I try to be the same way with my kids but sometimes if you try to get too close they tend to push away so I am very careful with how I handle them. Luckily my kids have never really made any life altering mistakes and I am grateful for that but now that they are so grown up sometimes they just seem distant and maybe that is why I related to this movie so much who knows. Anyway, thanks for reading. Cheers.


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ladyjane1 6 years ago from Texas Author

@Michael thanks for reading hope you enjoy the movie.

@Coolmon nice to see you and I hope you enjoy the movie, let me know what you think.

@drbj Im glad you liked the movie and you are right De Niro was the most enjoyable thing about this movie. Just watching him and his expressions are so entertaining.

@Pamela thanks for reading and I hope you like the movie. I think if you like De Niro than you will like it. Let me know. CHeers.


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northweststarr 6 years ago from Washington State

Gotta love De Niro! Nice hub!


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Sage Williams 6 years ago

Ah, I saw this movie a little while ago and enjoy it very much. You did a really awesome job on this review. If I hadn't already seen it. I would be putting it in my netflix cue.

Great Job!

Sage


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ladyjane1 6 years ago from Texas Author

Thanks Sage you are a sweetheart. Thanks for reading.


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breakfastpop 6 years ago

Thanks for a great review. I am a huge De Niro fan so I won't miss this one. Thanks.


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Sandyspider 6 years ago from Wisconsin, USA

Thanks for this review. I haven't seen this movie yet, but it looks interesting.


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ladyjane1 6 years ago from Texas Author

Pop and sandyspider thanks for reading and let me know what you think of the movie. Cheers.


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De Greek 6 years ago from UK

Right. Another expense. Have to buy the bloody film, now :-))


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ladyjane1 6 years ago from Texas Author

Ha De Greek just spend a couple bucks and rent it, you wont be sorry lol.


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mwatkins 6 years ago from Portland, Oregon & Vancouver BC

Excellent movie! Very special ending - you are right on with your review! Reminded me so much of how it felt to be screaming at your child for not picking up after themselves while they look at you rolling their eyes to the ceiling and talking over the top of you about how you 'don't understand . . . ,' and you are left thinking that, 'if only the microwave were a little larger you could fit them in it, and then those days are gone - vanished like wet snow - and you are looking at them and they are adults repeating to their children the same words you used on them and looking at you with an entirely different set of eyes. Great hub!


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ladyjane1 6 years ago from Texas Author

thanks mwatkins for reading my hub and so glad you enjoyed the movie, it is obvious that you got out of this movie the same thing I did. I appreciate your feedback. Cheers.


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Ann Nonymous 6 years ago from Virginia

Hi Ladyjane! Great review! I like Deniro but I wouldn't consider myself a fan of his. I thought about watching this movie but drew barrymore is one of those actresses I don't enjoy watching them act! Regardless thanks for the info and who knows maybe some rainy day I will watch it.


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ladyjane1 6 years ago from Texas Author

Ann my dear not a Deniro fan? And I thought we were friends, thats it I am going to have to defan you! Just kidding, hey I will be the first to admit that not everyone would enjoy this movie especially if they don't have children or they maynot connect if they don't have children, regardless, thanks for reading and I still loves ya. Lol


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50 Caliber 6 years ago from Arizona

Lady Jane, I like Dinero and I'll have to check this out. I have a new faster computer with a 19 inch monitor and Bose speaker system. So I'll have to check out online movies to see if I can get it. You've done a fine review.


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haaris_1 6 years ago

Very nice hub Lady Jane, Now i am really looking forward to watch this movie :)


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uliveulearn 6 years ago from Canada

I watched this movie just last night. I agree that you will love this movie if you can relate to it but if not, may find it a bit slow. I totally related to it and found Robert De Niro completely believable. If my dad answered the phone when calling home, as the children in the movie, I would immediately ask for mom. When she died, I realized I did not know how to talk to him. Thankfully I worked through the learning process before he died rather than withdrawing from him. The movie is thought provoking and opens our eyes to family dynamics and need for a little effort.


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ladyjane1 6 years ago from Texas Author

caliber thanks for reading and I hope you enjoy the movie. let me know what you think. And somehow I knew you were a Deniro fan. lol

@haaris hope you enjoy the movie and thanks for visiting.

ulivieulearn thanks for reading and you are correct about this movie. My father died and my mom is still around so I cant imagine my father without my mother, he would have been lost in so many ways and we may not have been able to relate to him like we do my mom as well who knows but you did hit it right on the head. Cheers.


loriamoore 6 years ago

Thanks for the heads up about this movie. I look forward to renting it.


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ladyjane1 6 years ago from Texas Author

loriamoore thanks for visiting I keep meaning to get over to your hubs don't give up on me yet. Hope you like the movie. CHeers.


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Mike Lickteig 6 years ago from Lawrence KS USA

I have not seen the movie but I am a big DeNiro fan. It sounds like he did a marvelous job, and I am pleased to see him branch out from the gangster movies--as good as he is in them. Thanks for the review.

Mike


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ladyjane1 6 years ago from Texas Author

You are welcome Mike and I have yet to come across a man that isn't a DeNiro fan. He is such a man's man isn't he? I hope I didn't make this movie sound like a chick flick because it really isn't but it does show a more human side to Robert DeNiro that we havent seen in most of his tough guy movies. Although recently he has done so well in comedies that there is no end to the talent that is DeNiro. Let me know if you like the movie and thanks for reading. Cheers and Blessings.


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Gigi2 6 years ago from UK

I love all DeNiros films, can't wait to see this thanks to your brilliant review, thanks.


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MFB III 6 years ago from United States

Far too often we grow up and grow apart from our parents, life is hectic and we become parents and we are so busy dealing with our own dilemmas that our moms and dads come up sorely lacking in our vistations. It is lucky but also tragic for me that my dad was hospitalized for five months and ten days in nursing homes and hospitals and I vistied everyday and became quite reconnected to him. Now that he is home I make a point to stop by once a week evewn though he lives almost an hour away. great hub, great movie...and perhaps it will reunite a few families in this chaotic world we inhabit.~~~MFB III


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Micky Dee 6 years ago

Great review! I love Deniro! I'll have to see this one. Thank you LJ!


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ladyjane1 6 years ago from Texas Author

Thanks for stopping by Micky. like I said before I have never met a man that doesn't like deniro. And I have you figured as a Deniro and Al Pacino and director Scorcese fan right? Cheers.


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Green Lotus 6 years ago from Atlanta, GA

What a talented reviewer you are LadyJ! I have not seen this one, but now am intrigued. I had the fortune of interviewing DeNiro once and I've always been a fan of his movies...Drew too. Rated up! Thanks.


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ladyjane1 6 years ago from Texas Author

Green Lotus thanks so much for the compiment. WOW you interviewed De Niro that is something. Was he nice? You never know about people in person but I love his screen prescence. Cheers.


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Green Lotus 6 years ago from Atlanta, GA

Yes, very nice indeed although he was a bit shy since the movie was "Frankenstein" and he was terribly miscast. I don't recommend that one.


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ladyjane1 6 years ago from Texas Author

Thanx for answering that for me I appreciate ya! Cheers!


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saddlerider1 6 years ago

Ladyjane you couldn't have picked a better topic. Robert De Nero is my all time favorite actor, I have seen pretty well all of his movies. He is an amazing talent. I have seen him laugh and cry. Surprising though, I never knew he was such a versatile actor. He was always the tough, mean or bad guy in films. But when he diversified into comedy, well OMG he is amazing. Analyze This and Analyze That blew me away, I never thought I would see the day that Robert De Nero would make me ROFL splitting my gut. Thanks for the share, I am off to watch that movie. And of course The Fockers..another great comedy.


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ladyjane1 6 years ago from Texas Author

Saddlerider thanks for visiting and your nice comments and you are so right about Deniro I fell in love with him in Taxi driver and have watched everything with him ever since and I was equally as surprised at his ability to do comedy. He is amazing I agree with you. Thanks again Cheers.


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Faybe Bay 6 years ago from Florida

I just saw it this past weekend, and I called my daughter to see if she'd seen it yet. She decided to move it to the top of her list at my recommendation. I watched it a second time. It made me cry and laugh and cry, both times.

I agree with you whole heartedly about Robert DeNiro! The actors who play his children are also magnificent. It is a very powerful movie. You cannot watch this movie and make dinner, or go on-line. This movie is a must watch, not just must see. You don't want to miss a moment. I know I have often told people that I was fine and everything was fine, when it wasn't, not really. Kudos on your reviews! You know how to pick the movies I must see.


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ladyjane1 6 years ago from Texas Author

Faybe Bay we are clearly on the same page on this movie. The whole thing was just so sad to me especially watching him go from train to airport with his little suitcase waiting for his son to return home and watching his family unravel as the lies become clear to him and then imagining his grown kids as little children really tugged at my heart. Thanks so much for reading this hub. Cheers to you pal.


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Suzi-Q 6 years ago from The Wild West, New Hampshire

Great review. I need to check this one out. I'm not a huge DeNiro fan, but it is great to see him taking on different roles.


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ladyjane1 6 years ago from Texas Author

Hello again Suzie I think that you will enjoy this movie especially if you are a mother it will really hit home and if you arent you can still sympathisize what parents go through. Deniro was very good as usual and hope you enjoye it. Thanks for reading. Cheers.


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justmesuzanne 18 months ago from Texas

I will add this to my Netflix queue! :)

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