Ponderings: On Commitment

My Inspiration

In 2014, Jo_Goldsmith11 took it upon herself to initiate the Light2Love Project Good Words.

Jo pledged to use good words and publish articles used to empower, encourage, support and defend those who need to be shown love.

Jo offered us a good word for each week to focus our thoughts, behaviors and actions on...In the 16th week, Jo wrote her perspective on the word commitment.

However, as 2014 came to an end, Jo filed away her Good Word articles - as she begins the process of publishing it in e-book'. Shyron E. Shenko continues to write a beautiful poem to accompany each Good Word to inspire and lead us.

The ripple effect of the Good Words Project throughout the HubVille community has been heartwarming.

Please join me with some of my musical thoughts and reflections on the word commitment...



...to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death us do part...

— Anglican marriage vow

Definitions...

As I gathered my thoughts on the subject of commitment, I immediately thought back to September of 1987. I was twenty-five years of age and entering the state of matrimony.

The vows my husband and I exchanged were fairly traditional, as in the Anglican marriage vows I have highlighted above. Even twenty-seven years later, the idea of obedience seems (let's say) awkward, considering my personality style (LOL) - so we chose to omit that one...!

When I mentioned that I was writing about the good word of commitment, my husband's initial response was ... "302". ( Note: A "302" is an involuntary commitment for emergency evaluation and treatment for persons who are "dangerous" to themselves or others due to a mental illness which can last up to five days.)

Oy vey... what a difference in definitions! Forgive me for laughing ...

Back to those marriage vows...I believe these statements of commitment apply to our spouses, our family and friends and more importantly, to ourselves...

Marvin Gaye and Tammi Terrell: You're All I Need

For Worse...

In 1999, I was 37 years old. I was in great physical shape and felt comfortable in my own skin.

As a Nurse Executive, I believed that confidence was demonstrated, even if not felt, when there was not a hair out of place.

After a life - altering incident in June, 1999, I appreciated what is was like to be totally vulnerable and dependent on loved ones. I was at my worst ever, at least in my own mind.

Yet, along with my vulnerability came clarity. I slowly became strong again and was finally able to shed my belief that perfection is possible or even desirable.

Living every day to the fullest is always my priority. Life experience, both the good and the bad, has taught me the most valuable lessons.

I had the support and commitment of my spouse, my family and close friends to get me through the worst days of my life. How could I not but give the same back in return...?

Al Green: Let's Stay Together

For Poorer...

I recently taught a nursing student I will call Tina * (for confidentiality) in a 'Nursing Care in the Community' course.

The sub-culture that Tina selected to focus her service work on was the homeless population. She selected a specific shelter in a nearby New Jersey township, where she currently lived.

I was struck by the breadth and the passion of Tina's work. She focused on two issues of coping with parenting in the homeless population. She offered support groups for women on nonviolent ways to handle discipline and empowerment training.

Tina's final paper was exceedingly well written, demonstrating precision and structure. It was comprehensive, yet there was a strong undercurrent of passion and commitment. Tina's project was a clear 'A' by all accounts and standards.

Included with the paper was a handwritten note. As an Instructor, those are rare treasures. Tina wrote that she had spent two years of her life, from eighteen to twenty, in that same shelter, for battered women. She was trying to get away from a violent household, having been physically and emotionally abused for years. At the shelter, Tina repaired her wings and started Nursing school.

For her 40th birthday, Tina wanted to give back to the place and the people who had helped her become the amazing and beautiful woman she was in my classroom.

Who knew? And this is precisely what Tina taught me. You never know what makes people behave the way they do. I appreciated hearing Tina's reasons. I appreciated Tina's commitment to giving back..

My card ended with: "This is not a thank you note. It is a hug with a fold in it. Many thanks for giving of your time, your energy, your self. Love, Tina"

Tina would graduate with her B.S.N. just after her 40th birthday, still a lifelong journey ahead of giving to others and continuous learning.


Frank Sinatra: I Only Have Eyes For You

In Sickness...

I wrote a post last year on my Dad's birthday, November 16th. A year later, the words I wrote bear repeating:

In November, this month of gratitude and thanksgiving, I am especially indebted to both of my parents.Their children were the center of their worlds and today, we are all well adjusted, happy and productive members of society. My siblings and I are as different as family can be. Yet all four of us share the common love and respect of family and faith.

The loyalty and commitment of family, especially at times of sickness and despair give reason for hope and the push to keep going. For me, some friends have been just as supportive, intuitive and giving of themselves ... even across the virtual miles in this very community.


Peg Cole

Source

Passing the Baton of Commitment to...

Peg Cole, is one of the most accomplished writers I know, both in HubVille and In the World.

If you check out Peg's portfolio of work, you will discover a variety of subjects including her experiences in: "the corporate world, a project manager on telecom infrastructure projects, a corporate buyer, a regional administrator for a fortune 50 company, an administrative assistant, a hair stylist, a small business owner and a flight attendant."

Over these years, Peg has become one of my dearest friends. As such, I have learned to read between the lines in her educational pieces on elder care and health issues. I respect and admire the devotion, loyalty and commitment that Peg shows to her mother, aunt, husband, and every pet that crosses her path. Peg is intuitive and caring, always knowing when and how to support her friends in the perfect manner.

I was delighted when Peg accepted the baton of commitment from me. Thank you for adding your contribution to the Good Words Project, dear friend.

© Maria Jordan (November, 2014)

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Vickiw 2 years ago

Dear Maria,

It's no wonder your family and friends show their commitment to you when the chips are down. You show this consistently to every person in your life, and there are many of us!

I guess commitment shows at its best when life hands you the bad things, and you're finding it hard to endure.

As usual, your music is spot on with the topic.

Looking forward to reading Peg's take on this!

Lovely article, with lots of deep thought.


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PegCole17 2 years ago from Dallas, Texas

Hello Mar,

I'm truly honored that you asked me to contribute to this worthy effort inspired and supported by such a number of fantastic writers here. These lasting reminders of good words serve to help guide our reactions and thoughts as we pass through these different emotions daily.

Your story of Tina was heartwarming and touching, Your description of your marriage vows made me laugh, as we had some of the same reactions to "obey". J wanted to substitute the word command, like I would ever let that happen. hahaha. I certainly appreciate your kind write up of my varied and assorted careers. I've been a Jack of all trades...master of none.

Here's hoping that I can contribute something of value to this important word, commitment. Will send out something in the next few days.


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bravewarrior 2 years ago from Central Florida

Mar, this is such a beautiful piece on commitment. I love 'Tina's' line, "this is a hug with a fold in it." I don't think I could have come up with such a beautiful, meaningful line in a million years. I can imagine you smiling through tears as you read her note.

And, of course, your music choices are stellar as always.

I look forward to reading Peg's take on commitment.

BTW, I omitted the obey part from my marriage vows both times I got married. :-)


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marcoujor 2 years ago from Jeffersonville PA Author

Vicki, Your supportive comments and friendship mean the world to me. Thanks for being the first to visit today!

Peg, I am grateful for your presence in my life and so happy you have accepted the baton for the word COMMITMENT. Like our friends, I am looking forward to your post so very much.

Sha, I am not surprised you also left out the "obedience" bit...I mean really (LOL)! And yes, Tina's note choked me up in the best of ways.

Off to class and wishing everyone a most peaceful evening. Love and hugs, Maria


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billybuc 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

These wonderful articles help us all to know you better and grow closer to you, Maria. Thank you for opening up so that we can bask in all that is you.

Blessings my friend, and excellent choice in Peg.

love,

bill


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always exploring 2 years ago from Southern Illinois

Mar. This piece on commitment is beautiful. I loved Tina's story, it proves that where there's a will there's a way. She will bring compassion to the field of nursing, thank God for nurses like her. We had two young girls in my nursing class, they both had children, I heard them talking one day at lunch, they both remarked that they hated nursing but the government was paying them to go and their children received assistance from the state. Of course we all went our own ways after graduation, but I've often wondered about them. On a lighter note, I'm with Shauna, obey wasn't mentioned when I got married, even back then I had that ' We are women hear us roar, girl power. ' lol I consider Peg a dear friend, not only is she an excellent writer, I love her humor. Hugs to you both..


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vocalcoach 2 years ago from Nashville Tn.

Hello beautiful lady. A hub written by marcoujor is a virtual 'shot in the arm' to make anyones day better. And talking about commitment, you are the perfect example for being committed to your hub friends. No one better to write about this, than you! A lovely article written by a lovely lady.

Love and big hugs,

Audrey


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mckbirdbks 2 years ago from Emerald Wells, Just off the crossroads,Texas

Hello mar. What a litany of fine music I am listening to as I read through your hub musical challenge for the word commitment. What a pleasure to see you honor family, friends and the creator of the Good Words project. What would we do without the support and kindness we receive from our families?

Peg is the best candidate I could think of to accept the baton of commitment. I could certainly learn from her when it comes to the strength and focus needed to take care of the circle of family that she tenderly cares for. I am proud to know her.

The holidays are upon us and let me wish you and yours a Happy, happy Thanksgiving, etc.


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Faith Reaper 2 years ago from southern USA

Dear Maria,

You take commitment to the next level if anyone could; you certainly do that and beyond, sweet friend. This is a most beautiful piece here and I do learn so much more each time I read and hard to believe, love you even more than I already do.

I made that marriage commitment 36 years ago and we are still together. I did have to laugh as I surely did not want "obey" in the vows either, or for me to speak it LOL.

Thank you for sharing Tina's beautiful story with us; what a blessing I have received reading about her love and commitment.

Peg is top notch in all areas, and you have chosen another beautiful person to pass the baton of the "Good Word" of "Commitment" to without a doubt. I look forward to reading her article.

Up ++++ pinning, tweeting, G+ and sharing

Hugs and much love to you both and Tina too,

Theresa


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shanmarie 2 years ago from Texas

Ah, Maria, I have not read this yet, but the first song that comes to mind is LeAnn Rimes "Commitment.""Commitment" - LeAnn Rimes (HQ Music Video): http://youtu.be/1fH_wHeVxUU


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shanmarie 2 years ago from Texas

Now that I have read it, the song does fit. Your commitment to your loved ones and friends is evident. I witnessed that in action recently, along with beautiful Faith Reaper. I consider myself blessed to have done so. Humbled to, because so many others were also willing to pass emails and messages back and forth for hours to pray for someone so loved. It almost makes me feel somewhat insignificant; that anyone else would have done it. At the same time, every prayer makes a difference, I believe, and although it was under such sad circumstances, it was beautiful and heartwarming too to witness such love and commitment from others. This is a wonderful word indeed.


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marcoujor 2 years ago from Jeffersonville PA Author

Good morning, dear friends,

Bill, This is a community I feel safe and welcome to share some of myself, thanks to friends like you.

Ruby, Once in a great while I encounter nurses who enter the field for all the wrong reasons and it shows. Thanks for your support and insights, which mean the world.

Audrey, A visit from YOU is like a 'shot in the arm'...and always brings a smile! Thank you, dear friend.

Mike, I'm glad you are enjoying this music and not surprised you approve of our mutual friend, Peg! Wishing you a "Happy November" as well!!

Theresa, I can see you in every good word I write (well, except for OBEY...LOL!!!) and I sure do love when you stop by with your thoughtful remarks, support, shares and votes.

shanmarie, Thanks for both of your visits. I am listening to this pretty LeAnn Rimes song that I was not familiar with and appreciate you sharing it with us. You are a beautiful and special lady and I'm so happy to have met you through our "Faith".

Off to class and wishing you all peace through your day. Love, Maria


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btrbell 2 years ago from Mesa, AZ

Maria....another great one! I ssh like your definition of commitment quite a bit better than Geoff s!

How gratifying working with people like Tina must be!

Thank you for your beautiful words thoughts and, as always, impeccable musical choices! Xo


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PegCole17 2 years ago from Dallas, Texas

Maria dearest, I released my first draft and could not get onto Yahoo to give you a heads up. Sorry about that. You know me, I'll be editing the thing a dozen times. Hope you're having a great day.


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AliciaC 2 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

This is another lovely hub in the Project Good Words series, Maria. I love the story about Tina! It's an inspiring tale about a very admirable woman. I also loved the mention about the Anglican marriage vows. My parents left out the word "obey", too.


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Jo_Goldsmith11 2 years ago

Once again Maria! Just so lovely and I love the chosen songs. Especially Sinatra and Al Green. Really great voices to add to this project.

You are amazing! Love & hugs! :-) ((((((((( Maria ))))))))))))

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marcoujor 2 years ago from Jeffersonville PA Author

Randi, I like my definition of commitment much better than Geoff's as well...(LOL)! It's always great to see you and your thoughtful remarks.

Peg, I LOVE your article... I'm currently listening to Dante's Prayer and it is hauntingly beautiful. Hoping everyone has a chance to check out your perspective on COMMITMENT.

Alicia, Thanks for your kind words about Tina. With all the couples who leave out 'obey' in their vows, I am starting to wonder about its necessity...hmmm...???

Jo, Thanks for taking the time to visit two of my hubs today! You are pretty amazing yourself and I'm thrilled you are enjoying the music too!

Wishing you all a peaceful evening. Love and hugs, Maria


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BlossomSB 2 years ago from Victoria, Australia

What a beautiful hub -and such a great idea to write on this topic. By the way, when we married in 1955 we - very daringly for the time - omitted the 'obedient' clause, too. We decided that we were a team together. He's gone to his reward, but still miss the other half of the team.


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MartieCoetser 2 years ago from South Africa

Dearest Maria, commitment most certainly belongs in the list of Good Words. It is one of the many characteristics of a well-bred person, and most certainly one of the strong threads in your character.

Commitment and Loyalty are twins. We cannot be one and not also the other. Sadly, it can be destroyed by X-factors, such as the very person you are committed to - like Tina's first husband, or at work by an ill-bred boss, and even online by a site that doesn't stick to their undertakings.

I am lucky to experience yours, as well as Peg's, commitment to your online friends, and I can clearly read your commitment to people and animals in your writing.

Jo has started a good thing with this Good Words project. I suddenly feel like following suit, but from another angle. But oh, Time and Responsibilities and Commitment to oh so many projects just compel me to put this idea on ice for another six months.

This is a good hub to start my day with. Voted up and most inspiring.


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Happyboomernurse 2 years ago from South Carolina

Dear Maria,

Oh my, you have shown the meaning of commitment through such beautiful examples that go to the core of who you are as a woman, wife, daughter, nurse, teacher and friend, and done it in such a way that it brought tears to my eyes, especially when thinking of the commitment that both you and Geoff had to each other when the "worse" happened in your marriage due to unimaginable work place violence.

And Tina's story really gripped my heart, not just what she went through, but her passion and commitment to help others through nursing, plus the touching note she included with her excellent paper.

Am looking forward to reading Peg's hub on this topic.

Voting this up across the board and sharing.

Sending Blessings, Love & Hugs Your Way,

Gail


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Sunshine625 2 years ago from Orlando, FL

It's a shame that many people are afraid of commitment, they don't know what they are missing. Hopefully they will read this article and see themselves in it, or they just might agree with Geoff's response! :)

Peg is a wonderful choice for commitment. I see how committed she is to her fellow hubbers and how much she supports their work.


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tillsontitan 2 years ago from New York

Dear Maria, you understand the world so well. "Tina's" note to you is a testament to your devotion and commitment to life and teaching. What a wonderful hub for all to read and enjoy.

Yes, I loved Tina's line as well. She must be a very special lady.

Peg is a wonderful writer and friend. You couldn't have picked a better person!

Voted up, useful, awesome, and interesting.


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marcoujor 2 years ago from Jeffersonville PA Author

BlossomSB, So lovely to meet you! How cool that you and your hubby opted against the obedience vow in 1955 and that you still refer to yourself as a team. I know I will need to check out your writing for sure.

"Commitment and Loyalty are twins." That is ever so wise, dear Martie...as are you! I know how precious time is and if you ever want to take on another of Jo's future words...you know I am forever looking to pass this baton... :)) In the meanwhile, I am COMMITTED to you taking good and gentle care of yourself!

Gail, Thank you for such a compassionate and understanding comment. Your friendship brings such joy to my life. Peg wrote an awe-inspiring perspective on COMMITMENT with some of the finest music as well.

Speaking of COMMITMENT, hello, Sunshine...!! Do you know you cause an instant smile reaction?? And it is 'not' because I'm anal like that!!

Mary, Et tu, as the expression goes...you are a decent, loving and caring wife, mother, grandmother and friend...COMMITTED...?? I think so!

Have a peaceful weekend. Hugs, Maria


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Car51 2 years ago

Very interesting hub, Mar. Lots of spins on the topic of commitment. Thought-provoking!


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marcoujor 2 years ago from Jeffersonville PA Author

Car51 - I can see you are committed to catching up this evening - thanks!

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    With a Masters of Science in Nursing (MSN) from University of Pennsylvania in 1985, Maria uses a love for music in working with others.



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