Sandra Bullock Blindsided
Sandra Bullock & Jesse James
"Poor Sandra Bullock" appears to be on the lips of everyone in Hollywood and on Average American street. I agree with the sentiment but probably for reasons other than most. This is in no way an indictment of Sandra, afterall, she does seem to be the innocent victim here.
Nor is this support for her piggish husband, Jesse James. Rather, it is an indictment of Sandra's poor choices. We can all feel sorry for her and say what we would do if it were us; as she once did when commenting on the Tiger and Elin affair, but perhaps the real failure began the day she said, "I do."
She took a walk on the wild side and in the process got blindsided. But should she really have been and are we all really surprised? She fell for the bad boy, which in this case turned out to be more than just an image. It is in fact who he is. Meanwhile, Jesse took a break from his usual skeezy tattooed bad girls (before you judge me for judging them, I myself am a biker and I have a tattoo, but it is the behavior that makes these women skeezy). Perhaps he married Sandra in an attempt to find the quintessential girl he could proudly bring home to mom.
A Tiger Doesn't Change His Stripes
Had Sandra seriously analyzed his past in the first place; she might have made a different decision. I, for one, would have wondered why this man who is normally attracted to everything I am not, is suddenly ready to marry me.
Consider that he was married to Janine Lindemulder, a tattooed porn star, and left another woman who was allegedly pregnant with his baby and you get the idea of his base character.
His choice of women before and apparently during his marriage to Sandra Bullock are completely opposite of her persona. Heavily tattooed, large fake-breasted and of questionable moral character (career choices, criminal records, availability to married men, etc).
I won't attempt to number his mistresses since several sources disagree on who's #2 vs. #3, and does it really matter? The facts are still the same and there's probably more yet to be found anyway.
The headliner (pun reference to her tattooed forehead not intended), Michelle "Bombshell" McGee is a tattoo web model and stripper. By the way, if you want a cyber piece of Jesse's action she can be all yours for the low, 'ho price of $7.99/minute although by now her asking price has probably increased thanks to the free publicity. I will not glorify the website by mentioning it here.
Next up is Melissa Smith, also a tattooed stripper who according to Star Magazine, has come forward saying she had a two-year relationship with Oscar-winner Sandra Bullock's husband.
Then there's Brigitte Daguerre -- a Los Angeles photographer who TMZ reports also sells of all things, vintage wedding dresses. Daguerre says Jesse hired her in 2008 to style a West Coast Choppers (WCC) photo shoot. She says the two emailed and texted each other for a year, but claims they "only" had sex four times before she ended it.
Now there are tales that WCC and Jesse James settled a sexual harrassment lawsuit filed by a former high level female executive for over $700,000 in 2007. This one makes me wonder though if the female exec should have received anything. Based on how TMZ reports the story it sounds as if she participated in oral activity with James; in which case she is culpable in my opinion unless she is also claiming rape. Is it harrassment if you willingly participate? Seems to me this was more a preemptive attempt by the James camp to squelch the news. Pay up to shut up!
The Moral of the Story
We can all point fingers and blame Jesse James for being a pig. But we also have to take a lesson from Sandra Bullock. Yes, I feel sorry for her but not because her husband proved to be exactly who he always has been.
I am sorry for her because she did not protect herself. She ignored all the voices in her head. His life story was pretty public and probably only the tip of the iceberg; still she opted to marry him. She is also repsonsible for putting herself in this position.
The lesson for the rest of us is to learn to make better choices; especially those that are likely to profoundly affect the rest of our lives. Now Sandra, based on your advice for Elin; do you have a long-handled wrench ready to mercilessly jack Jesse's ass?