Seduction Secrets--For Women Only!

A couple of glasses of good wine for openers

Secrets of Seduction for Women Only

Here are some timeless secrets of seduction for the ladies. Success is guaranteed if you study the videos linked below of some of the most seductive women in the modern world.

Start Off With a Smile
According to Johathan Kalb, "smiles are our most important form of nonverbal communication. They express warmth and familiarity; they signal receptiveness, openness, alliance, approval, arousal, mirth, and pleasure. They're also pleas for attention, tools of ingratiation, seduction..." The New Yorker, January 12, 2015.

Your objective should be to subtly convince your friend that whatever you have in mind is really his idea. Try starting off with a couple of glasses of good wine and some romantic music, better still, your own singing accompanied by guitar or piano. If you're not up to singing yourself, some cabaret songs by Edith Piaf or blues by Sarah Vaughan will do fine. Jacques Brel works well, and Joni Mitchell is a good choice, too. If he likes jazz, try Dave Brubeck's "Take Five." If he likes poetry, a romantic poetry recording can work wonders. Try some Pablo Neruda or Poe's romantic poems. If you wish, and if you think he's so inclined, slow dancing to something like Louie Armstrong's "A Kiss to Build a Dream On" will get the ball rolling downhill.

A big comfortable couch is a must. As you will see from the videos, don't be afraid to look straight into his eyes. Try not to blink or squint. If you blink, do it slowly while looking downward and then look into his eyes again with wide eyes and a smile. If he needs some encouragement to proceed, touching him on his arm or shoulder can move the ball forward. If he doesn't get the idea yet, a shoulder or back rub will do the trick for sure. Timing is critical--at the appropriate moment, put on Ravel's Bolero or Jacques Brel's "Valse a Mille Temps" or even Brubeck's "Blue Rondo a la Turk" for the jazz aficionado. If he's up for an encore you can't go wrong with Carl Orff's "O Fortuna" from his opera "Carmina Burana!"

Note: It shouldn't be necessary to point out that men are not attracted by gum chewers or, in most cases, cigarette smokers. Drinking more than a glass of wine or two is not advisable. Too much alcohol is a definite turnoff. If you must smoke, an elegant thin cigar might work best. As I recall Marlene Dietrich used a cigarette holder. Finally, needless to say, don't mention your ex-boy friend or mate!

Now you are ready. Go for it!

Romantic Music is Essential

Joni Mitchell--"Both Sides Now"

Louis Armstrong "A Kiss to Build a Dream On"

Marilyn Monroe "Happy Birthday Mr. President"

Marilyn Monroe "Want to Be Loved by You"

POEMA XX – PABLO NERUDA Posted on June 5, 2011

Tonight I can write the saddest lines.
Write, for example, “The night is starry
and the stars are blue and shiver in the distance.”
The night wind revolves in the sky and sings.
Tonight I can write the saddest lines.
I loved her, and sometimes she loved me too.
Through nights like this one I held her in my arms.
I kissed her again and again under the endless sky.
She loved me, sometimes I loved her too.
How could one not have loved her great still eyes.
Tonight I can write the saddest lines.
To think that I do not have her. To feel that I have lost her.
To hear the immense night, still more immense without her.
And the verse falls to the soul like dew to the pasture.
What does it matter that my love could not keep her.
The night is starry and she is not with me.
This is all. In the distance someone is singing. In the distance.
My soul is not satisfied that it has lost her.
My sight tries to find her as though to bring her closer.
My heart looks for her, and she is not with me.
The same night whitening the same trees.
We, of that time, are no longer the same.
I no longer love her, that’s certain, but how I loved her.
My voice tried to find the wind to touch her hearing.
Another’s. She will be another’s. As she was before my kisses.
Her voice, her bright body. Her infinite eyes.
I no longer love her, that’s certain, but maybe I love her.
Love is so short, forgetting is so long.
Because through nights like this one I held her in my arms
my soul is not satisfied that it has lost her.
Though this be the last pain that she makes me suffer
and these the last verses that I write for her.

Jennifer Gray & Patrick Swayze

Eartha Kitt "Santa Baby!"

Peggy Lee "I'm a Woman!"

Peggy Lee "Fever"

Silvana Mangano "Anna"

Ingrid Bergman-Scenes from Casablanca

Elizabeth Taylor scenes from "A Place in the Sun"

Ravel--Bolero" Daniel Barenboin

Jacques Brel "La Valse a Mille Temps"

Edith Piaf--"Non,Je Ne Regrette Rien"

Jacques Brel "Ne me quitte pas"

"The Lady is a Tramp" Quinn Lemley

La Valse a Mille Temps by Krystal

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Comments 3 comments

Iðunn 7 years ago

What excellent advice, Ralph, especially this : "Your objective should be to subtley convince your friend that whatever you have in mind is really his idea."

It's a beautifully put together hub and quite practical at least in my opinion. The music additions are grand.

I think the best way for a woman to seduce the man of her dreams is to let him know he's already emotionally seduced her. This Hub is all about that. Very nice~


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Jeff May 7 years ago from St. Louis

Some good advice sure, but I would argue that many guys are "hapless" and that "subtley" is better used with a heavy hand. For example, your back rub idea... guys probabaly will pick up on that one. And I actually like the idea of "it" being the woman's idea, so convincing me that it was my idea wouldn't work so well. Not really sure how many guys share that view, however.

Your youtube links are great and I especially like Joni Mitchell's "Both Sides Now," a long-time favorite song.

In any case, advice to women about dating men coming from men can, I think, be helpful to women. So here's a link back to my hub: http://hubpages.com/relationships/Dating-Advice-Of...


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Ralph Deeds 4 years ago Author

8-5-12NYTimes--"Love Goddess Who Keeps Right on Seducing" Maureen Dowd

The Love Goddess Who Keeps Right on Seducing - NYTimes.com

Some like it hot, lush and vulnerable. Why the luminous Marilyn continues to glow.

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