Selling it -A Southern Tradition
Selling It In The ATL Cast
Mentality of Southern Women Over-Sexualized Business Practices
While channel surfing I was able to catch a small part of the show “Selling it in the ATL”
The premise of this show appears to capture the professional and private lives of real estate agents/brokers in Atlanta, GA. What struck me the most is the use of sexuality to lure clients, particularly practiced by agent Thalia, in order to secure business. For your potential client to show up to a social function and give you a dozen roses only to be followed by your boyfriend later showing up at the function to also give you roses was quite interesting. Showing homes in after 5 attire with high-heeled open toed shoes-interesting. Admitting to flirting and using sexuality in an attempt to win business seemed perfectly normal to this agent and she represents a mentality among women that is not prevalent as much when conducting business in other cities. You have to be more than fluff and your biggest asset should not be your shape.
Fellow cast member told the truth - “maybe that works in the ATL, but in New York where I’m from that stuff wouldn’t last a day.”
What are you selling?
Hyper Sexual Presentation
Tons of make-up, hyper-sexual presentation, flirting and creating sexual tension, disloyalty, and the need to disrespect other people in an effort to make yourself feel secure. While this is a “reality” (scripted) television show it captures the presentation and mentality of many southern women portrayed on television and in real life. This presentation is not unique to Selling it in the ATL. It's present on The Housewives of Atlanta as well. Stripper shoes are not business meeting shoes, never the two shall meet.
My concern is that these women are presenting themselves as business women and little girls are watching this behavior. While making money and creating wealth is amazing there is still a responsibility to set some type of standard about how you present yourself and conduct yourself.
Is This Southern Tradition?
Maybe there is a different mentality that is part of the southern culture.
While you want to celebrate being a woman, perhaps many missed being taught in business school how to:
- Make sure your breasts are pumped up and fall out of every outfit you own.
- Don’t forget to play helpless. You don’t want to show strength, intelligence, and competency rather be soft-spoken, appear compliant (while being manipulative) and smile showing your body to secure business.
- Bring your child along on a real-estate showing. After all nothing says professionalism like trying to calm your crying child while showing a house.
- Act childish and catty. Anytime you meet a fellow industry professional find some way to belittle and cut them down revealing your insecurities.
In all fairness while watching this show there are women that are incredible, focused on their business, determined to be successful. It is wonderful to see women in control and desiring to make money for themselves rather than attempting to sleep and partner themselves into a lifestyle.
A deeper psychological question-“I don’t know what I would do without my ebony sister.” This was the statement made when a real-estate agent showed a rental property to a rapper. Did you need someone that was the same ethnicity as the person that you are showing a property? But granted the property was rented however this behavior confirmed the segregation of the south. Often in business, although you are intelligent and speak proper English, people often act as if “your people” need to help you. You African American to sell to another African American ? Are people not capable of conducting business with anyone?
For people who have experience the south, southern women, and southern culture please explain your viewpoint on the age old debate. Be a woman taken seriously or get money using what you have to get what you want? While this debate of respecting yourself in presentation and business settings is not new by any means, it seems everything is sexualized with the presentation of many women in the south. Why is that?
Most colleges don’t have 20 years old wearing stilettoes and pants so tight they are bound to get an infection? The mentality of being sexual seems to begin so young while in other parts of the United States, particularly places like NY, Chicago, DC, LA-this oversexualized flirtatious behavior is not celebrated. In other places people are impressed most by your competency, confidence in your ability to get things done, and the ability to make the business/client money quickly-no excuses.
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Empowerment or Degradation?
- Women in the Media: Empowering or Degrading? (with images, tweet) · samiblom · Storify
Today, women are seen in a vast majority of advertisements and the media. The question this exploratory essay is focusing on is whether these women are seen as empowered or degraded, and the effect that has on other women today.
The Great Debate / Who Cares
For people who have experience the south, southern women, and southern culture please explain your viewpoint on the age old debate. Be a woman taken seriously or get money using what you have to get what you want. While this debate of respecting yourself in presentation and business settings is not new by any means, it seems everything is sexualized with the presentation of many women in the south. Why is that? Most colleges don’t have 20 years old wearing stilettoes and pants so tight they are bound to get an infection? The mentality of being sexual seems to begin so young while in other parts of the United States, particularly places like NY, Chicago, DC, LA-this oversexualized flirtatious behavior is not celebrated. In other places people are impressed most by your competency, confidence in your ability to get things done, and the ability to make the business/client money quickly-no excuses.
More and more there is a trend through media influences to push women back in subservient roles rather than embracing the power of their minds. More promiscuous presentation, promiscuous behavior, is bound to result in difficulties in life. What bothers me is young ladies and little girls are absorbing these images and what gets men's attention and without proper influence to reverse this message these girls will grow into non-achieving broken women. Here we are in the age of possibilities, watching a serious woman candidate running for the office of the president while images are being given of women in tight dresses, short skirts, and giving a mass of little girls the idea that your looks and bodies are their best feature. If that's the message it's just a matter of time before they are pimp property.
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