Selling it -A Southern Tradition

Selling It In The ATL Cast

Mentality of Southern Women Over-Sexualized Business Practices

While channel surfing I was able to catch a small part of the show “Selling it in the ATL”

The premise of this show appears to capture the professional and private lives of real estate agents/brokers in Atlanta, GA. What struck me the most is the use of sexuality to lure clients, particularly practiced by agent Thalia, in order to secure business. For your potential client to show up to a social function and give you a dozen roses only to be followed by your boyfriend later showing up at the function to also give you roses was quite interesting. Showing homes in after 5 attire with high-heeled open toed shoes-interesting. Admitting to flirting and using sexuality in an attempt to win business seemed perfectly normal to this agent and she represents a mentality among women that is not prevalent as much when conducting business in other cities. You have to be more than fluff and your biggest asset should not be your shape.

Fellow cast member told the truth - “maybe that works in the ATL, but in New York where I’m from that stuff wouldn’t last a day.”

What are you selling?

Hyper Sexual Presentation

Tons of make-up, hyper-sexual presentation, flirting and creating sexual tension, disloyalty, and the need to disrespect other people in an effort to make yourself feel secure. While this is a “reality” (scripted) television show it captures the presentation and mentality of many southern women portrayed on television and in real life. This presentation is not unique to Selling it in the ATL. It's present on The Housewives of Atlanta as well. Stripper shoes are not business meeting shoes, never the two shall meet.

My concern is that these women are presenting themselves as business women and little girls are watching this behavior. While making money and creating wealth is amazing there is still a responsibility to set some type of standard about how you present yourself and conduct yourself.

Catty Behavior

Is This Southern Tradition?

Maybe there is a different mentality that is part of the southern culture.

While you want to celebrate being a woman, perhaps many missed being taught in business school how to:

  • Make sure your breasts are pumped up and fall out of every outfit you own.
  • Don’t forget to play helpless. You don’t want to show strength, intelligence, and competency rather be soft-spoken, appear compliant (while being manipulative) and smile showing your body to secure business.
  • Bring your child along on a real-estate showing. After all nothing says professionalism like trying to calm your crying child while showing a house.
  • Act childish and catty. Anytime you meet a fellow industry professional find some way to belittle and cut them down revealing your insecurities.

In all fairness while watching this show there are women that are incredible, focused on their business, determined to be successful. It is wonderful to see women in control and desiring to make money for themselves rather than attempting to sleep and partner themselves into a lifestyle.

SEGREGATION

A deeper psychological question-“I don’t know what I would do without my ebony sister.” This was the statement made when a real-estate agent showed a rental property to a rapper. Did you need someone that was the same ethnicity as the person that you are showing a property? But granted the property was rented however this behavior confirmed the segregation of the south. Often in business, although you are intelligent and speak proper English, people often act as if “your people” need to help you. You African American to sell to another African American ? Are people not capable of conducting business with anyone?

The Difference

For people who have experience the south, southern women, and southern culture please explain your viewpoint on the age old debate. Be a woman taken seriously or get money using what you have to get what you want? While this debate of respecting yourself in presentation and business settings is not new by any means, it seems everything is sexualized with the presentation of many women in the south. Why is that?

Most colleges don’t have 20 years old wearing stilettoes and pants so tight they are bound to get an infection? The mentality of being sexual seems to begin so young while in other parts of the United States, particularly places like NY, Chicago, DC, LA-this oversexualized flirtatious behavior is not celebrated. In other places people are impressed most by your competency, confidence in your ability to get things done, and the ability to make the business/client money quickly-no excuses.

Do you feel women in the south rely more on their sexuality to sell themselves than women in larger cities/states?

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The Great Debate / Who Cares

For people who have experience the south, southern women, and southern culture please explain your viewpoint on the age old debate. Be a woman taken seriously or get money using what you have to get what you want. While this debate of respecting yourself in presentation and business settings is not new by any means, it seems everything is sexualized with the presentation of many women in the south. Why is that? Most colleges don’t have 20 years old wearing stilettoes and pants so tight they are bound to get an infection? The mentality of being sexual seems to begin so young while in other parts of the United States, particularly places like NY, Chicago, DC, LA-this oversexualized flirtatious behavior is not celebrated. In other places people are impressed most by your competency, confidence in your ability to get things done, and the ability to make the business/client money quickly-no excuses.


More and more there is a trend through media influences to push women back in subservient roles rather than embracing the power of their minds. More promiscuous presentation, promiscuous behavior, is bound to result in difficulties in life. What bothers me is young ladies and little girls are absorbing these images and what gets men's attention and without proper influence to reverse this message these girls will grow into non-achieving broken women. Here we are in the age of possibilities, watching a serious woman candidate running for the office of the president while images are being given of women in tight dresses, short skirts, and giving a mass of little girls the idea that your looks and bodies are their best feature. If that's the message it's just a matter of time before they are pimp property.

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dashingscorpio 11 months ago

I believe the road to success has different paths for different people.

I'm sure Whitney Houston and Rhianna or Jennifer Lopez and Barbara Streisand would give a young budding female singer completely different advice on how to succeed in the entertainment business.

Clearly each of them is qualified to give out advice based upon their own success. Ultimately the individual has know herself well enough to decide which route feels (natural) for her.


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realtalk247 11 months ago Author

Yes, all chose a different path to success. Entertainment is one arena and business is another. True women don't whore themselves. My problem with this is young women and young ladies are observing this behavior and believing that is how you get over in life. The women's movement was not for the benefit of putting on a maids office and wearing low cut blouses to sex oneself into a career. Disgusting.


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dashingscorpio 11 months ago

Actually this is a very interesting topic!

I suspect this is one of those many "gender differences" things.

If a muscular man used his physique and flirtatious manner to close business there would be no men who would call him a "whore".

Women have always been (harder on other women) then men are on other men. I imagine that's one of the reasons why the "double standard" will always be with us. I've often wondered what the world would be like if women "stuck together" or at the very least never called other women whores, sluts, or b*itches when it came to how they approached or dealt with men.

Essentially you'd have men sticking up for men and women sticking up for women. My theory as to why that will never happen is as follows:

If a guy knows another man is a "player" or "man-whore" he does not feel threatened by him! There is no worry that he'll (steal their woman). Truth be told the other guys will either "admire him" or want to know his "secret".

Where as when it comes to women who see another woman dressed proactively and behaving flirtatious/seductively with men they hate the fact this woman may draw the attention of their man!

Secondly they believe the more women who behave like her the more men will expect all women to be that way.

Lastly there is the belief if all the women adopted the same conservative dress code, refused to have sex on the first date or within "Steve Harvey's 90 Day rule" that men would have no other option but to change.

However for women to be equal to men socially two things have to happen.

1. They have to stop caring what men think about them!

A women can call a "player" a "dog", "liar", "no good", "cheater" or a "whore" and it won't bother him at all!

2. Other women have to be willing to accept the fact each woman is an "individual" and has the right to live life according to (her) rules. Although some men may call a promiscuous woman names her fellow "sisters" agree not to. Right now there is no unity among women.

One man's opinion!:)

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