Songs of Love and Loss II

One day I may write a hub about lovers who stay the course and live happily ever after. Just off the top of my head I can think of two songs on the subject. Unfortunately, one of them is by The Captain & Tennille ("Love Will Keep Us Together").  Accordingly, for the foreseeable future I'll stick with the demise and aftermath of love.

Herewith, part two (possibly in a series) of songs about love and loss. Enjoy!

 

PP&M Leaving On a Jet Plane

Open-ended good-byes

The haunting harmonies of Peter, Paul & Mary remind me of my childhood. This song is the ultimate romantic leave-taking ballad. One partner's slipping out early in the morning and doesn't want to wake the other one. Isn't that considerate? Where is s/he going? Will s/he ever come back? Should the sleeping partner wait around? Would you? So many unanswered questions!

Cat Stevens - Wild World

The perfect ex

This is one of, if not the most famous Cat Stevens song. It's hard to believe it's a song aimed at an ex-lover. But it is. "Now that I've lost everything to you..." What kind of ex sends you packing with the admonishment to "take good care, hope you have a lot of nice things to wear...."? Guess it's no surprise that Cat Stevens ultimately went on to embrace his inner Muslim. He's now changed his name to Yusuf Islam and performs and rides the Peace Train under that name today.

Beatles - Baby's In Black

Classic love triangle

Let me get this straight. The chick in this song has both Paul McCartney and John Lennon crooning to her (in perfect harmony), but she's in mourning over some other dude? Is she insane? I just love this video. The boys look so wholesome and adorable and sexy as hell.  I was too young at the time, but can definitely see why females went berserk for the Fab 4.

Janis -- Piece of My Heart

Here, let me rip it out for ya

God love her, Janis Joplin could belt out a tune like nobody's business. It's like she reached deeper and depper into her soul for each note.What came out flowed effortlessly from melody to animal wailing. In this song she pretends to be strong, but you know she's aching for the man she's singing to. The question is, will he take her up on her dare? Or will he stay "out on the streets looking good" and ignore her pleas?

BB King with Clapton -- The Thrill Is Gone

Free at last!

It definitely sucks to be in a relationship and suddenly find you no longer feel "it" for the other person. But that's not exactly what this BB King song is describing. In it, King is talking to a lover who done him wrong. He's pretty much convincing himself that he's over her. He knows he'll live on but will be lonely. In the last lines he says, "I'm free from your spell and now that it's over all I can do is wish you well." Hmmm. I wonder if he's buds with old Cat Stevens/Yusuf Islam?

George Harrison - Isn't It a Pity?

Personal, global -- or both?

Hubby calls George "the spiritual Beatle." Known for his association with global issues like Bengali liberation (George organized the first ever concert for a humanitarian cause, the Concert for Bangladesh in 1971), it's easy to assume he's talking about international relations, human prejudice and cruelty in this song. Maybe he is. I choose to view the lyrics below as consummately personal.

Isn't it a pity
Now, isn't it a shame
How we break each other's hearts
And cause each other pain
How we take each other's love
Without thinking anymore
Forgetting to give back
Isn't it a pity

Paul Simon - 50 Ways to Leave Your Lover

Lots of ways to get the hell out!

I remember listening to this catchy, kitschy Paul Simon tune in college. It's from his album "Still Crazy After All These Years" (another song that could easily find a place in this hub or Part III, IV or V). It's a tongue-in-cheek instruction manual for the man who can't "un-commit." Apparently it was written shortly after Simon's own divorce. I bet I know what happened: he refused to shave that caterpillar off his lip so she dumped him:-).

Sidenote: The distinctive, mesmerizing drumbeat has been sampled in a rap song my son plays. When I find out the name/artist I'll add it.

KC and the Sunshine Band - Please Don't Go

Stop singng and maybe I'll stay!

Now, being a good little disco diva, I grew up grooving to KC and the Sunshine Band.His dance tunes are incomparable (ok, that may be a stretch). And for a guy of that era, ol' KC is quite a hottie. I did not include this song because I like it (quite the opposite). I include it because I feel compelled to stick one clunker into the mix. Sorry, Mr. Sunshine. You can whine all you want, but as long as you continue singing this saccharine, cloyingly inane song, I'm outta here. On the next jet plane. Slipping out the back, Jack.

Andy WIlliams -- Can't Get Used to Losing You

He carries his torch in his sweater

Those of a certain age (middle and above) remember Andy Williams. Kinda sorta? You know, the smooth crooner with a sweater for every day of the year? Family Christmas specials? Perfect hair? I sort of stumbled upon this song in my research. It's not clear if the breakup is recent or he's still struggling months or even years after she's left. But at least he seems to be reconciled to his fate of living his whole life through still loving her. Not very realistic if you ask me!

Jimmy Ruffin-- What Becomes of the Broken Hearted

An anthem to moving on

First off, is the title supposed to be a rhetorical question? Although Jimmy Ruffin (I know -- Who?) is clearly referring to himself and his own heartache, the anthemic quality of this song calls out to any/all lovers. Are you, too, wandering around aimlessly, searching for peace of mind ,"maybe" like me? Have you had love that's now departed? Come along and join the cause. I'm on a quest to find someone to care. Hey! Maybe it could be you!

Nilsson- Without You

Could you be more dramatic?

I love Harry Nilsson's music. He has incredible range. Although not as prolific as they, the variety of his music reminds me of The Beatles. Fact is, he was good friends with them, especially John. Anyway, this song manages to get across a very simple concept with a melody that gets under your skin --- in a good way! If you've never felt that life would not be worth living without him/her, then you haven't (yet) had your heart properly stomped on!

Alanis Morissette - You Oughta Know

Moi? Oh no. I'm not the least bit bitter:-)

And last but not least we have what I consider a "normal" reaction to the end of the affair. From the 1995 album titled "Jagged Little Pill" this song burst Alanis Morissette onto the airwaves, notwithstanding a couple of words had to be "bleeped" out for the FCC (which only added to the song's impact). Yep, Alanis is pissed and she doesn't care who knows it!

There are so many great lines in this song it's hard to select just one, but if I had to choose the one that sums it up for me it's this: "And every time I scratch my nails down someone else's back I hope you feel it...well can you feel it." Still got the old hooks in him and still making him suffer. Atta girl!

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jayb23 7 years ago from India

Nice collection Mighty mom. My personal favourite is open ended good byes


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Triplet Mom 7 years ago from West Coast

Great choices! So many ways to say goodbye and move on.


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Mighty Mom 7 years ago from Where Left is Right, CA Author

Hi Jayb23. Can't argue with that. It's a lovely song.

TM -- Yep. And ways to say good-bye and NOT move on, too!

Thanks for visiting, friends. MM


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advisor4qb 7 years ago from On New Footing

Awesome hub (again)! I sing that Janis Joplin song sometimes, and I have always liked the song by Alanis. I also love the 50 Ways to Leave Your Lover. Paul Simon is awesome!

Carly Simon also sings a really good one called "Do the Walls Come Down." I love that song, too!


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Mighty Mom 7 years ago from Where Left is Right, CA Author

Carly Simon -- has quite a few songs that would fit here. Also "Her Town Too" by James Taylor about their divorce.

The list could end up being a Top 100!!! Thanks for enjoying my musical selections! MM


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SweetiePie 7 years ago from Southern California, USA

Very enjoyable hub! These are all great songs, and I am glad you made the point about how many Muslims such Cat Steven, aka Yosuf Islam, are actually peace loving people. This is a very cogent point especially after the thread where the man was accusing Obama of getting in touch with his enter Muslim, as if that would be a bad thing if he were Muslim. I liked Nilsson also, he is a great musician. Of course the Beatles are the best, even though I do like the Moody Blues slightly more :).


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dohn121 7 years ago from Hudson Valley, New York

I had a lot of fun listening and reading this hub, Mighty Mom! You have great taste in music! Thanks for sharing.


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Cris A 7 years ago from Manila, Philippines

Another great collection MM or should I say MMM or 3M - for Mighty Musical Mom! or Musical Mighty Mom! or Mighty Mom of Music! and i love your anecdotes too. Greta hub! :D


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Mighty Mom 7 years ago from Where Left is Right, CA Author

SP -- Worry not. One of these days I will find a way to work in the MBs into a Top 10 hub. I adore them, also. But I dare say not quite as much as you:-)!

Dohn - Thanks. Giving my readers pleasure in listening and reading is the goal here. Glad to see I've succeeded.

Cris -- Coming from a master such as yourself, applause is music to my ears! I love doing these hubs. One day I hope to get into the whole Photoshop thing that you use on your list hubs. That makes the hub even more interesting! Thanks, friend.


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Cris A 7 years ago from Manila, Philippines

MM

I wish you'd hub about your "wild" days as a minx during the 80s plus of course the music. Something like your life and times and the soundtrack! Or should I make an official request? :D


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Mighty Mom 7 years ago from Where Left is Right, CA Author

I've been ruminating on that, Cris. Being one of (it appears) very few frequent Hubbers who does not yet have an alter ego, I may just go out of MM character to write the story off MM the formative years. LOL.

But yes, I definitely will.

I already have the bones of a hub called The Best Alternative Bands of the '80s in the works. I could include commentary from personal experience.

Stay tuned.

BTW, every time Lady Gaga comes on the radio (which is often) I think of you!!! In a good way, of course!! MM


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Zsuzsy Bee 7 years ago from Ontario/Canada

Oh, Janis Joplin all the way especially 'Piece of my heart'

great hub once again MightyMom

kindest regards Zsuzsy


\Brenda Scully 7 years ago

looking forward to being able to listen to the sings soon, just catching a few hubs on a friends computer...


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tony0724 7 years ago from san diego calif

Love Cat Stevens ! It Is too bad we did not meet sooner MM , we would have had a ton of fun at the clubs on the westside In LA ! Your taste In music Is so good !


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Mighty Mom 7 years ago from Where Left is Right, CA Author

Zsuzsy Bee -- It is always a treat to see you. I'm delighted we share a love of the late, great Ms. Joplin.

Brenda -- Please do come back. Or share the songs with your friend!

Tony -- I couldn't agree more. I believe it's more than being "of a similar age" that makes people bond. There is a ton of crap music from "our generation" the others like. My taste has always been somewhat ecclectic.

You are such a dear friend. Next time we time travel back to the '70s and '80s we can visit each other's clubs. I was tearing it up in Boston. Oh yea!


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tony0724 7 years ago from san diego calif

I love Boston ! Although getting to the top of the Bunker Hill tower damn near killed me ! Oh and by the way that Jimmy Ruffin song was excellent too !


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k@ri 7 years ago from Sunny Southern California

Mighty Mom, This is great! I loved when Cat Stevens walked out, made them turn the lights up and said "Wow, That's a lot of people". Great, absolutely great Janis video. I love the blues and I love that BB song! (Have the CD) I had forgotten about that Paul Simon song, love it. I never knew the name of the artist who I know now is Harry Nilsson...beautiful. You Oughta Know is a great ending. I really loved this hub! :D


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elisabethkcmo 7 years ago from Just East of Oz

Here's a sad sad song that will have you crying in your beer...

http://music.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=musi...

track 8--Guilty

You gotta play it loud to get the total effect


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Mighty Mom 7 years ago from Where Left is Right, CA Author

Hi Elisabethkcmo, Yep, Bonnie knows the feeling, doesn't she? That's a good one. I also like "Love Has No Pride."

Knowing what I know (from your profile) of your current life situation, I'd say listening to this kind of song is very appropriate. I lived through it and came out the other side, and I know you can, too. Please be sure to write, write, write your experience. Your moods, your dating experiences (when you get to that point), etc. You'll connect with people who have already "recovered" and those who can benefit from seeing your strength and your frailties. I'll be watching for your hubs! MM


lyricsingray 7 years ago

Your Amazing,so is this Hub Mom.

Your biggest fan,

Kimberly


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SerinaSkye 5 years ago

This is a great set of songs here!


september girl 5 years ago

Bitter-sweet hub. I love most of the videos here. Need to come back and re-read. Great hub! : )


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Mighty Mom 5 years ago from Where Left is Right, CA Author

Hi september girl,

Thank God for breakups. Think of the impact on the commercial music business if everyone found the love of their life and stayed happily together forever.

Now THAT would be a huge loss to the industry! LOL.

Thanks for commenting, MM

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