THE FILIPINO MEN

FILIPINO ANCESTRY

The people of the Philippines are called Filipinos. Our ancestor, who were of Malay stock, came from the Southeastern Asian mainland as well as from what is now Indonesia. From the 10th century, contacts with China resulted in a group of mixed Filipino-Chinese descent who account for a minority of the our population. Culturally, the Philippines is the most Westernized country in Asia, a legacy of over three centuries of Spanish and American colonial rule. Filipino culture has taken a Latin and Catholic flavor from Spain, which ruled the country for centuries. Most Filipinos are distinguishable from other Asians by having a Hispanic and Hispanic-sounding name and/or surname (see: Catálogo alfabético de apellidos), by practicing the Catholic religion, and by speaking Spanish[dubiousdiscuss] and English. Spanish-Filipinos and Filipino-American may be distinguished by their fairer complexion, taller stature, and aquiline nose structure. The relatively small numbers of migrants from the Indian subcontinent added to the population's racial mixture. The aboriginal inhabitants of the islands were the Negritos, or Phymies, also called Aaetas or Balugas; they now constitute only a small percentage of the total population.

COMMON CHARACTERISTICS

Regarding the Filipino male, Dr Lapis states that ‘the ego-ideal for men is that of one who is cool, cautious, inoffensive, pleasant, relaxed to the point of being rather easygoing, incapable of anger except when his amor-propio ... is provoked. His masculinity is definitely and emphatically regarded as intrinsic to this narcissism (self-esteem). Of this masculinity he is quite conscious and proud, and will emphasize it in many subtle and not-so-subtle ways. Outside of this ego-ideal, the Filipino male may appear to some, and in particular to foreigners, as not being masculine enough. He tends to be fastidious about his appearance, particularly his hair and clothes, to have soft and graceful movements. With strangers and in some unfamiliar situations, he may tend to say very little and act even less, which is the antithesis of the American male’s tendency to quickly state his identity and give his opinion. The Filipino will be quiet and will strive to be inoffensive in situations where an American would feel obliged to be more vociferous.’

‘In American culture, parents force autonomy upon their offspring at an early age with early severance of dependency ties. It is not unusual, for example, to see young people with moneyed parents working in order to have money of their own. In the Philippines, if a boy has parents with money, it hardly occurs to him to work. Sons are expected to grow up loyal to their parents, look after them, help younger siblings and generally be unselfish.

THE NORMS

The usual cultural norm for masculinity is firstly, the ability to perform sexual intercourse and secondly, freedom from marital controls in a man’s activities.’ The first criterion is measured by the number of children a man has, which is why large families are preferred in the Philippines. A large number of offspring is evidence of a man’s virility. It also explains why a man will have children by his mistress.

The second norm is one that every Filipino husband strives to give an impression of, for fear of being called ‘under the saya’— henpecked. This threat is real because Filipino wives are very dominant and, though they may appear quiet and submissive before others, are very skilful in manipulating their husbands to get what they want. Because the wife runs the household, she considers it her territory and the husband does not have much say in household issues. He gives his opinion only when consulted and even then his recommendations may not be followed. Thus, the Filipino husband concentrates on being a good provider for his wife and children.

the MODERN PINOYS

Men now have a more holistic view on beauty and know that to look good naturally is not enough. They have to work at looking good and feeling good,” King said.Fortunately, Filipino men are not so difficult to turn on to beauty products because they have always been into good hygiene. We would rather not talk to other men about beauty and grooming products and are more comfortable talking about their routine with women.

Modern Pinoys today still possess the virtue of being respectful. When he see's the elders or a lady standing in the bus, he would offer his seat to them. Gentleness, especially during courtships and dating. Even being tagged as "baduy" or " bakya" , being romantic is the best (I think) way of a Pinoy to get his girl. He would still find time writing poems and loveletters to someone who means so much. Being married to a Filipino or a falling into relationships could be a good idea, simply because "we always try to treat the lady right."

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joel 7 years ago

I am under the saya and proud of it.


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Travis Pyle 7 years ago from Vineland, New Jersey

WAIT WHAT


Orchid 7 years ago

How can they "treat the lady right" when they are having children with their mistress? Or was that the old filipinos? That's horrible! So do Modern filipinos still do that? The most important thing you can ever do to treat the lady right is, first and foremost, be faithful to her!


Nestor the molester 7 years ago

I'm a Proud Filipino UNDER THE SAYA

WIVES rocks


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valeriebelew 6 years ago from Metro Atlanta, GA, USA

If that is true, orchard, about one man in a million treat their women right, and that applies to men in the united States and probably all over the world. The guys in the video were cut. Men are not monogomous creatures; never have been, and never will be. As long as they are only friends they are fun, and great. All this tryinig to control somebody else is a waste of time, so why bother. Just enjoy the smiles and have them as friends.


una labrador 6 years ago

in general, filipino men are pampered. they are the "king" in the house and they expect their wives to serve them. sadly, many women do work outside while the men stays home, jobless. this trait i think were inherited from the spanish. in short, filipino men are weaklings. most are unfaithful husbands, corrupt in the workplace, lazy and can't support a family. no wonder the country is what it is now. don't they boast of being the only christian country in the far east? this is what they say but what they do is another thing. so sad, indeed.


Gabby 6 years ago

Hey. I read your article and I think it's so true! My boyfriend is Filipino and he's the sweetest! I really like him and he makes me smile all the time. I do get nervous around him though because I PREFER to wear pants, but only for him will I wear skirts and dresses because I want to look pretty for him. He loves his little brother and his little brother is polite too, though he is mischevious. His mother is the dominant one in the family, she is the only female and looks so quiet and nice, but I think all three of them are scared of her. I get along with his mom though. :) I feel guilty because both of us aren't allowed to date yet, but we secretly go out. We don't get to see each other often because we are always bust and go to different schools. We only see each other on Sundays at church and even then, it's not like we can hug, hold hands, kiss, or anything. My birthday just passed and he doesn't know, but I wanted to go on a date with him(we could tell our parents we were going out as friends), but he was busy and when he was free, I became busy. I feel bad because he is getting treated like this by me, but he still stays with me. I feel as if I owe him something, but I really like him. A few days ago, we were talking on the phone and he told me he loved me and I couldn't help, but say it back. He's really amazing! I think that filipino men are awesome because of him. I like mostly asian men, but the ones I have like previous to him were all....assholes, basically. But I do agree with you. :D LADIES, IF YOU WANT A GOOD ASIAN MAN, GO WITH A FILIPINO GUY! THEY WILL TREAT YOU RIGHT!


Ruby 6 years ago

My best friend is filipino. I have a lot of filipino friends and i love the islands. I am a christian living in TX. I am a hispanic and a single girl but i have always wanted a filipino man as my boyfriend ever since i got introduced to the island cultures when i joined the Army. so yeah i would eventually like to fins a good looking christian filipino or someone from the islands to be my man. just because i know how sweet and loving they can be. I'm going to the philippines this summer with my school so good luck to me lol maybe i'll find one. ;)


Jack Bennet 6 years ago

The only good filipino is a dead one.


Rick Hershberger 6 years ago

Having a mistress is the only freedom a Filipino husband gets. The wife is the head of the household. Filipina women are very dominant. The wife controls all the money. The husband is expected to work hard and give all the money to the wife. He is considered lucky if his wife chooses to share some money with him. Husbands in the Philippines are treated badly. They have no rights to the children. The children don't have to respect him. The wife does all the raising of the children and the husband has no say in how to bring up the child. It is a wonder why Filipino men would even want to get married.


Loneman21 6 years ago

[b]At time to wake…

Let us all stand against today immorality growing that weakens our beloved country…

Let us make change for the better future and for the next generations,

“Calling all good Christians, non- Christians, Muslim, Buddhist, Atheist, Agnostic, Skeptics and other group to SET ASIDE OUR DIFFERENCES and unite for thise great movement for good!”

Walang mangyayari kung patuloy na paiiralin ang PRIDE at SELFISHNESS , tignan natin kung anong pahirap at epekto ng kasalanan at mga masasamang panukalang batas ng mga pulitikong baluktot ang prinsipyo at katwiran.

If you’re a PRO- GOD, PRO LIFE and PRO GOOD GOVERNANCE against Corruption and injustice, come with us and let us [all] work together for God and for People sake,

Let us SERVE AND BE GOOD CITIZEN OF THE PHILIPPINES na ituwid ang mga pagkakamali noon at ating harapin ang katotohanan ngayon…

Labanan ang KAHIRAPAN AT LINISIN ANG ATIN BAYAN MULA SA LAHAT NG KARUMIHAN (tulad ng sigarilyo, alak na nakakasama sa katawan at ang sugal na ang mga nalilikom ay napupunta sa mga buwayang kumukontrol nito)

ANG DROGA nag SUMISIRA ng isipan at kinabukasan… ang takot at kaguluhang dala ng TERRORISMO!

Ang PROSTITUSYON na nagkalat lalo na sa bayan ng ANGELES AT MANILA…

Kaibigan MAY PAG- ASA PA, hahayaan ba nating masira ang marami pang buhay at pati tayo maapektuhan?

Kung walang magsasabi at kikilos wala talagang mangyayari, wag nating abusuhin ang DEMOKRASYA AT KARAPATANG ipinagkaloob sa atin at gamitin natin to sa tama at wastong pamumuhay,

Wag sana nating sayangin ang bawat oras at panahon, kaya sa inyong KATAPATAN AT KATAPANGAN malinis na PANININDIGAN at TAMANG PANINIWALA ikaw nawa ay maging kabahagi para sa KINABUKASAN AT PAG- UNLAD.

Tayo na sa TUNAY NA DAANG MATUWID- BANGON PILIPINAS!

[Abortion is MURDER (Binubura ang lahi) that the evil minded leaders/officials suggest this to other country so that man power or because of fear that will empower a one nation , DIVORCE that destroy family, the side effect of contraceptive and pills, homosexual and same sex marriage contradict to the nature of man…]

“Save our environment on CLIMATE CHANGE ISSUE and LET US STOP NUCLEAR WEAPON PROGRAM OF OTHER NATIONS.”

JESUS SAVES, PHILIPPINES REFORM BETTER!

Thank you and God bless you all!

By: James307

(CHRISTIAN NATIONALIST)

Add me @ FB: Jamesmg22307@yahoo.com

~END~[/b]


Simpleman2009 6 years ago

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Thank you and God bless!

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Nananalangin siya bago lumaban, dala ang karangalan para sa ating bayan...

Hindi siya mayabang at hindi masyadong ma bisyo.

Tumutulong siya sa ibang tao kaya siya pinagpala at pinapanalo ng Diyos.

Salamat congressman manny at sana tularan ka ng maraming filipino :)

JESUS SAVES!

PILIPINAS PARA SA TUNAY NA PAGBABAGO AT PAG- UNLAD...

LABANAN ANG KA IMMORALIDAD AT KAHIRAPAN!

FROM: GLOBAL NET MINISTRY, A.C., PAMP. PHILIPPINES 2010.


Yo Man!  6 years ago

Jack Bennet, you must be BUTT-HURT by the fact that your girlfriend/wife cheated on you with a Filipino guy! SUCK ON THAT LOSER! :D


Texas 5 years ago

I was hurt by one, very badly. He told me he was getting divorced and wanted to date me. Turns out the Filipino guy was slandering his wife quite horribly and was trying to have an affair with me. When she found out what he was up to, the coward painted me as a stalker and a liar to cover his own @ss.

Be careful. They don't always treat you right.


John 5 years ago

yo man, I don't know Jack Bennet. But I do know what Filipinos are like. 95 percent of the Philippinine people are no good. So we might as well say that the only good Filipino is a dead one.


Lou 5 years ago

Yo John, i have to disagree with you and Jack Bennet. maybe the reason you think most Filipinos are horrible is because you've encountered only certain Filipino individuals with less than appealing dispositions. It's the same principle with any race/group. It's hard to get a good feel of it if you haven't seen the whole picture.


Jm 5 years ago

i totally agree wth you LOU.


Neil 5 years ago

I'm a Filipino. There are some parts that I don't agree in this article.

There are liberal Filipinos out there who tend to get all the girls and getting hooked up with it.

I'm an Agnostic Filipino though I still respect the Christian religion.

Its hard to find good girls these days because the media is brainwashing them that getting into clubs are cool and get laid after.

I have a Filipina girlfriend last year and then lately I notice that she hooked up with a liberal Filipino. sucks.


imelda1970 5 years ago

"Gabby" please contact me. thanx


Jo 5 years ago

Fillipeanos are beautiful people and the men are so charming and gentleman like :)


bernie. 5 years ago

filipino men are indeed lovely...


Joey Jay 5 years ago

The world would be a much better place if a typhoon would completely destroy the Philippines and all those rotten Philippine people.


blondie 5 years ago

filipino are a joke, they are sneaky and sly. not good dating material for a white women......they just want a chick on the side for a fuck and then their filipina wifes....it's true. so be warned! its simply mind games and bullshit


cyrus 4 years ago

helllllllllllllllllllllllllllll


mae 4 years ago

blondie your absolutely correct...i am a pilipino i've been in a relationship for 11yrs..i feel like from that 11yrs relationship its really a hell life for me..i was mistreated,i experienced everything from that guy,he is having affair with a lots ladies...its really a damn world im living..i don't give up until now i don't know what makes me holding on..from my mind i wanna stop everything..there are times that i cant cry anymore im afraid that my love for him will takes for a lifetime hatred...but although i still love him i get a chance to know some guys but unluckily their all the same they have this one mentality to play with any ladies...sad but so damn true...and know im single i don't wanna be in a relationship with any of the pilipinosss...crap man..


sandra 4 years ago

I am a british white woman and married to a lovely filipino man, he is so loving and caring and hes my world.I met him on holiday he was a waiter on the cruise. I think some of the comments on here are very racist and if said in the united kingdom you be locked up that's jail. i feel sorry for the lot of you.


Alex 4 years ago

Interesting posts! I have met 3 filipinos guys and the first one really was a player, living life for his own personal sexual pleasures which hurt me because he was quite handsome. Since him, I've met 2 others that are truly nice guys, caring, loving and willing to commit to a lasting relationship (and handsome). The obstacle seems to be distance--these great guys are out there...you just need to find them and take a chance if it feels right! Life ALL RACES, there are good and bad values that people have :).


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lancedimetri 4 years ago from Philippines Author

I'm back....


Victor Chang 2 years ago

Yes Ladies and Gents!! some of your comments are exactly to a tee in terms of ladies' man and Gents player, Most of them are just after your money!! Once the well is dry, you'll never hear from them again. I had four experiences, yet I still crave for more. If you expect a long lasting relationship, forget it. You are better off with a dog or cat, but not Flips.


lost with no words 2 years ago

All the philps ive met have been very respectful there may be one that has his eyes on me i like the attention he starting to give me im mexican american never dated out of my race im willing to taste something new


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frewty55 2 years ago from Toronto, Ontario

I am a straight Canadian older man who has an older but beautiful Filipino stylish slender gf who waits for me to come there... she says that she wants a child since she is older and worried time will pass... I very much want to help... but i am older and not see her for a few months... she only has had 2 men in her life but no child... she wants to find a man on the street to gain experience but there is worry for her safety... she is willing and able and asked me to help her connect with men who will not hurt her... she wants nothing but respect her for her choice... it is still risky here I know, but better than the street... I hope to find a man for her for no commitment but to help her before she gets too old... please email me and i will enable her to connect with her in Manila... my email is frewty55@gmail.com ... neither of us want any money except perhaps for her to travel to meet... thanks Rob


KageMaru 2 years ago

Are Filipino men only "cheater/have mistress" in the world? lol... don't be f&ck*ng idi*& almost all in the world have this type of guy "A cheater and an opportunist".


Nouo 2 years ago

I don't know what to do ???? S philipino man trying to get close to me ! I'm just divorced and scared to trust him .he seems nice and caring but you never know if he s after my money !i do love him ...


M Castle 2 years ago

I'm Filipino I've been with my Beautiful caucasian wife for 15 years. I've been faithful to her for 15 years. I Love her, respect her, cherish, protect, serve, provide for and absolutely adore her. I've had opportunities to be with other women. I said no every time because I Love my wife. Commitment, Fidelity, Honor, Integrity is part of my character. There are Filipinos that cheat. There are men of every race that cheat. It comes down to the individuals values. Saying that one race or another are scum is generalizing. Whoever I do believe there are tendancies and cultural norms. Many Filipino men have mistresses. But many are also faithful you just have to pick the right one.


qwerty 2 years ago

Yes.. thank you for those people who admires us filipinos..... And for those who are not lucky and mistreated by my fellow mates, i would like to say sorry about that... But not all filipinos are cheaters.. most of them are kind and caring :) Ladies be careful next time choosing the right guy :) goodluck :)


Anita 2 years ago

Wait.... What.... Treat a woman right....uh...no. I have been with a Filipino man for almost 5 years . He is CONSTANTLY online (fb) telling women he loves them... Flirting all the time... They call each other.. Text each other. He hides all this but I find out. He even went to the Philippines to see one of them... Told me he was going to visit family. He NEVER compliments me.. EVER. The other women get tons of compliments. I just recently found out about all of this... So... I'm done. I am writing this because of all the people talking about how wonderful Filipino men are...i thought mine was too.. Then I found out the truth. The have huge egos and think that all women want them. Well... At least this one does. I'm a little overweight... He constantly says.... You're so big... And i am never allowed to go to their parties or anything like that. So... Filipino men are no different from any other men.... Cause this one I was with is a huge a-hole.


glazer 16 months ago

this gotta the one of the most racist comment i've ever saw.

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