Top 10 reasons people are unfriended on Facebook

Facebook, which is an online social networking service, began over ten years ago in February of 2004. The popularity of Facebook has soared out of sight, and just about everyone on the planet has heard of Facebook, unless they have been living under a rock like the guy in the Geico insurance commercials. Today there are well over one billion people around the world who are using good old Facebook.

Social media has four main basic uses in our day to day lives. One is it's for friends and family, which includes maintaining family contact, finding and maintaining old friendships, and to find new friends. The second reason is career networking which can be anything from simply finding a job to business contacts. The third reason is for products and services, which includes learning about products, reading consumer feedback, getting coupons and promotions, and giving both positive and negative feedback. The final main use for social media is lifestyle and entertainment. This includes entertainment, gaming, dating, following celebrities, how to information, as well as a creative outlet for some people. Men are more likely to use social media for dating, careers, and networking, while women use social media for a creative outlet, giving positive feedback, and coupons & promotions.

Some of the reasons we add friends on Facebook are that we know them in real life, we have mutual friends, for business networks, and physical attractiveness. Other reasons people add friends are for increasing their friend count, the quality of their photos, their number of friends, or they just simply friend everyone no matter who they are. Have you ever been unfriended on Facebook or ever wondered why other people unfriend people on Facebook? Unless you have a constant fluid number of friends around 4,850 then you probably wouldn't even notice when someone comes and goes from your friend's list. If you have a low friend count like a co-worker of mine at work has then you will notice almost right away when a person decides to dumps you as a friend. The average Facebook user has around 130 friends. Keeping this all in mind a study was conducted to find out why we unfriend people on Facebook, and there are plenty reasons when it's time to kick some so-called friends out of your social networking life, and to the curb. While there certainly are many more, here is a list of the ten most common reasons to unfriend somebody on Facebook.

Top 10 reasons people are unfriended on Facebook

1. Bragging is the biggest, and number one reason why people are unfriended.

2. Gushing and lovey dovey updates can get very annoying and under other people's skin, which is why this is the number two reason people find themselves unfriended.

3. Don't see them in the real world, lack of interaction, or you don't really know them all that well - These are the people that you haven’t seen forever, and therefore don’t even qualify as friends anymore. Three examples are it was your cousins friend's boyfriend who you went to Six Flags with one time many years ago, you’ve only met this person once but they “like” everything you do on Facebook, and someone adding you as a friend on Facebook is the most that you've ever heard from this person in years & after accepting their request you still haven’t connected with them at all.

4. Too frequent and numerous - You sign on to Facebook and the first 10 status updates on your news feed are all from the same person, who’s usually the biggest over sharer that you know. They have a high school yearbook with a scanner along with a passion for tagging, or they can’t stop posting pictures from their wedding two years ago. They share every Up-worthy video they have ever seen, show way too many baby pictures, and they want the entire world to know what they had for lunch, how many miles they just drove, and what movie they are going to the theater to see tonight.

5. Annoying status updates, they update their own profile way too often, they are always trying to sell something, or they changed their relationship status to single instead of breaking up with someone in person.

6. Inappropriate photos and sex-related posts are the sixth reason that people find themselves not only unfriended but many times blocked on Facebook as well.

7. Too personal - like depressing comments about another couple's nasty breakup or divorce.

8. Bad language, inflammatory political statements, political comments, offensive comments, consistently bad spelling along with purposeful bad spelling, or every single word that is written is in capital letters and is followed by a whole bunch of exclamation points!!!!

9. They add too many people, don’t like their friends, or they are friending our friends - Sending friend request to other people's friends that you don’t even know is often grounds for an unfriending right there on the spot.

10. Jealousy of other people's vacations, and holidays is the tenth biggest reason people are unfriended on Facebook.

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Bear in mind that not everybody can be your friend on Facebook. The powers to be at Facebook limit your number to just 5,000 people. That's probably enough friends anyway.

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Bk42author 2 years ago from New York

My biggest reason for either unfriending a person or hiding them from my newsfeed is constant negativity or post gross/tasteless jokes and pictures.


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FlourishAnyway 2 years ago from USA

Oh, yes. You've listed just about all my reasons. I especially don't like the oversharing of political, religious and other very personal points of view, especially when it's shared in a hateful way (bashing other political perspectives, religions, races, sexual orientations, etc.). It's just unnecessary. I'm pretty tolerant but I get embarrassed of certain people's rants. And I get embarrassed for them.


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Melinda Longoria 2 years ago from Garland, Texas

Great article! :-) I can definitely identify with a few of these. I think the point now is to try & not do some of these things so that I do not offend or irritate others.


darkprinceofjazz 2 years ago

Facebook for me is very different than other social media platforms, I do NOT use it for article promotion at all. I consider it a personal REAL friends and family thing, I have less than 150 friends.

I am now 42 years old, the best view of my High school was in the rear-view mirror, Facebook reminds me constantly why that was. I am amazed at how many people I didn't like then, still say and do the same things 25 years later.

Crying about relationships, or too many of the pre-made slogans and photos are grounds for unfriending.


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Tracy Lynn Conway 2 years ago from Virginia, USA

I can see both sides of the coin, on the one hand I have unfriended people who I felt were directly rude and I felt justified in that. On the other hand, it really hurts to be unfriended, this can feel like a real rejection. I think that facebook could design a better way to handle this. I don't think the problem lies in the people themselves but in the system, the way friending and unfriending works. I think Google Plus had a better way of managing this friend and unfriend conundrum. Now there is also "following." If someone is following me are we then 1/2 friends?


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Sparklea 2 years ago from Upstate New York

Great hub, voted up and useful! You provided great information why people unfriend, which I have always wondered about. That being said, I have never unfriended a person, and I never will. My sister had a close friend who unfriended her and she was heartbroken! All over a nasty comment that friend made to her on her answering machine. My sis wrote her a genuine letter of apology for any misunderstanding, and the person UNFRIENDED her! Also I have a niece who had unfriended me because 'she wants to keep face book out of the family.' huh? Unless a person is totally out of line, I would not unfriend them.

One more thing, most of my 'friends' on FB are actually acquaintances or people I knew in school...which we joke and banter back and forth or share a humorous quote or a beautiful photo. FB is good, and it's bad.

A lot of people are on FB for one reason: SEE ME. I think FB can be addicting, but, yet, it is good for people, especially those who are lonely, widowed...it allows a human connection. I DO like FB, but I don't allow it to run my life. Blessings, Sparklea :)


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MizBejabbers 2 years ago

Despite all the hateful political remarks and cartoons, and all the religious proselytizing, I have not unfriended these people. In fact, I have unfriended only one person. Somehow a Nigerian got into my friend list, I think I thought he was a friend of a friend. Anyway, he started getting “too comfortable” with me, and I finally told him I was old enough to be his mother – maybe even his grandmother. When he asked if he could call me “Mom”, I unfriended him. I figured the next step would be to tell me he needed money for something like coming to the USA. I'm glad to know why people unfriend others on Facebook. Voted you up, useful and interesting.


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denise.w.anderson 2 years ago from Bismarck, North Dakota

I have unfriended people for mainly three reasons: 1) getting inundated with posts from internet sites, 2) political and religious bashing, and 3) swearing and explicit pictures. For me, these things are really annoying.


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vkwok 2 years ago from Hawaii

That's why I only friend people I know.


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sassypiehole 2 years ago from the ATL

I had this girl from where I grew up "friend" me once. I barely knew her (friend of friend), but I accepted anyway. Her updates were so "trashy" and poorly written, I was embarrassed to have that connection. I've only deleted a handful (mostly family), but sometimes you HAVE to!


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Foodeee 2 years ago from Pennsylvania

I had facebook for about a year and soon realized the drama was over the top. It came mostly from members of my own family which is sad in itself. The double personalities made me scratch my head and start really disliking people. So I unfriended facebook. That was 5 years ago. I am considering looking into it again for business reasons but I will try other avenues first.


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wordswithlove 2 years ago from Pennsylvania, USA

Facebook..ah! That is why I am not there!!! You "friend" and "unfriend", you feel obliged to accept, then you squirm and wriggle out, then someone posts something despicable and you feel offended or hurt, then you wonder what the heck it is all about!


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sassypiehole 2 years ago from the ATL

Right there with you, Foodee---Family and facebook is an oxymoron!


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Ann1Az2 2 years ago from Orange, Texas

Interesting reasons and pretty good ones, I'd say!


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wordswithlove 2 years ago from Pennsylvania, USA

If you have 500 friends on Facebook, do you even remember their names? I wonder if there is such a thing as "too many friends"!


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Writershub 2 years ago

Getting to Personal, silly relationship satus updates, are definitely very annoying and make the top reasons why people are unfriended on Facebook. I couldn't agree more with the reasons you've listed in your article.

Great Hub. I hope people read this and avoid doing such annoying activities on social networking sites.

Keep Up the good Work.


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mdgardner 2 years ago from Virginia Beach

I enjoyed reading this hub. I think have at least one of each type on my friends list. But for me it's more entertaining than annoying.


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DChance2 2 years ago

It is too hard for me to unfriend someone.


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Doris Dancy 2 years ago from Yorktown, Virginia

I have only unfriended one person who seemed not to have one good day in her entire life. …too much negativity for me. Your hub is both interesting and informative. I really enjoyed reading it. Thanks for sharing.


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grand old lady 2 years ago from Philippines

Unfriending is something that everyone does, but your hub helped me to understand why this sometimes happens. Very interesting, I could identify with some of your points:)


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Country-Sunshine 2 years ago from Texas

Ironically, I unfriended several people today. The main reasons is they are people from my past that I was never close to then, and have nothing in common with today. I have whittled my way down to just 56 friends, and could go down a bit more. I'd much rather talk with them in person than on FB! Good reasons NOT to friend people in the first place!


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MariaMontgomery 2 years ago from Central Florida, USA

Great article. I have also unfriended someone because of too many invites to play games, after I sent a message that I don't play games on FB.


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LL Fugate 2 years ago from Central Virginia

I have unfriended people on facebook - mostly for trying to friend my other friends. Who complained to me, or I would have never known. But also, and this one is kind of ridiculous, for sending me sexy messages. Really? Why would you do that? Unfriend.


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Say Yes To Life 2 years ago from Big Island of Hawaii

I rarely get on FaceBook, because my life isn't particularly exciting. At first, I was enamored with the lives of others, but jealousy set in. The main reason I would un-friend someone is if they proved to be obnoxious.


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Zeron87 2 years ago

LOL, number 4 is what kills me, buddy. I friended this one guy from high school who posted and shared so much crap, my timeline was full of his stuff instead of mine! I felt bad for it, but I had to unfriend the guy.


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tea lady 2 2 years ago from Midwest, USA

In addition to what you have mentioned here, I unfriend people that post details about their every other day meltdown and people that are really boring!


Hazall 23 months ago

I used to be a lot stricter. My kids both get A's and B's with out me piunshg them. We work together on home work and most things come pretty easy to them. I used to be pretty hard on my son when he would come home with a B or even a C on a paper when it was something I knew he could do better at and he just didn't follow directions or finish the assignment. Then last March he was diagnosed with ADHD and Aspergers. So although he was capable of the work he couldn't focus to the extent he needed to to get the higher grades. So I am more understanding now but I still encourage him and I do believe he is doing his best.


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Susan Trump 22 months ago from San Diego, California

I just deleted a bunch....got tired of seeing every meal they ate. Very funny. Thanks for following. I'm honored. I've never seen a hubber with so many followers as you. Congratulations.

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