Whitney Houston Post Mortem

Here I go with one big politically incorrect and tactless rant. Read at your own peril.

“We all die. The goal isn't to live forever, the goal is to create something that will.”  Whitney Houston
“We all die. The goal isn't to live forever, the goal is to create something that will.” Whitney Houston | Source

Heart of the Matter

I'm NOT happy that the poor Whitney Houston died, nor was I happy with Michael Jackson's death, nor Amy Winehouse's, nor James Dean for that matter.

But I've gotten sick real fast of all the crap I've seen posted about the woman on the net in the span of one week. Same went for Michael Jackson or the young Amy, by the way.


Cutting 'em some slack?

Do we need to cut some slack to all these celebrities?

I don't think so. Or, at any rate, I don't think we need to collectively turn a blind eye on what they did to themselves. Yes, they did it to themselves. And you know what else? Nobody cared until the day they actually kicked the bucket.

I'm not above feeling sorry that Whitney Houston died, but let's call a spade a spade. We were all sort of waiting for this to happen one day or the next. Yes. We were. Now it finally happened, so let's please put this crap shot death in perspective.


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Turning a blind eye

Society at large sheds tears about the death of these celebrities, when we tend to be ruthless and unforgiving when drug addiction, or alcoholism, are suffered by just about anyone else.

But it seems society doesn't hesitate to turn a blind eye on total addicts and the example they mean to our children, when they aren't ready to even acknowledge that regular folks, folks maybe in their families, may have become addicts for a lot deeper issues than all these drugged out celebrities.

Who knows why these famous users become abusers. They probably have their deep rooted reasons as well. Insecurity? Living in an environment where cocaine is as frequent as water? Peer pressure? Pressure to obtain results? Pressure to always appear on top of the world? Why?

Who knows and, frankly, who cares once they are dead? We should have cared a lot sooner, if it really meant anything to us.

These celebs only become trending topics, however, when there's nothing left to say, and then it seems we can't stop babbling. What monumental hypocrisy, to turn the Whitney Houstons of the world in some sort of angels in disguise when they die.

"The biggest devil is me. I'm either my best friend or my worst enemy."   Whitney Houston
"The biggest devil is me. I'm either my best friend or my worst enemy." Whitney Houston | Source

Shocking news? I don't think so...

My question at this dire time is, why is everyone acting so shocked that it finally happened? I, for one, am surprised that she lasted as long as she did. And no, I'm NOT happy that it finally happened, but then again, I can't swallow the idea that this is a shock to anyone.

But a shock it appears to be, I guess because there isn't anything more permanent than death, no way back from it. Death is a real turn on for empathy.

We say we're sorry and then tune out, or maybe we tune in to fancying who the next big name will kick the bucket for exactly the same reason. We don't care until it's way too late to care, if we ever thought of truly caring, which I don't believe for a minute.

Let's not claim innocence at least and, fundamentally, let's not pretend shock.

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Empathy

I'm sorry for this woman, not for her finale, but for her tenuous, half-lived life. I'm even sorrier, however, that a drugged, spaced out person for more than half her life may be at some point an example or a matter for arguments.

So many of the condolences floating around focus only on the "good" that I can't help feeling they are tainted with an aura of insincerity, nor can I help thinking we're all collectively perpetuating the myth that it's OK for celebs to "be that way". Such fine examples for our kids!

And that's the true reason why I get so mad about the deaths of Michael Jackson, or Whitney Houston, or Amy Winehouse. It's just not cool, nor right, nor decent, to look from the sidelines and sing their songs.

In short, let's not perpetuate the myth, and let's try to avoid that our kids have them as role models. May Whitney Houston rest in peace, and may she be an example of what not to become in life.

One Moment in Time ... indeed

Post Mortem

To the Whitney Houstons and Michael Jacksons of the world: I commiserate with your disastrous life stories, and I pity that you went downhill so fast.

What I feel sorriest for, however, is that Whitney Houston or Michael Jackson or Amy Winehouse didn't teach anyone a lesson. They just served as fodder for blabber, like mine, and nothing else.

The one lesson I wish would be learned, once and for all, is that we all STOP taking a collective standpoint where all these drugged out celebs, these ostentatiously bad examples, become saints on wheels post mortem.

May they rest in peace, of course.

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Feline Prophet 4 years ago from India

Ahhh...long time no rant, Elena! :)

We do tend to deify people (especially celebrities) once they pass on - it's like our collective common sense takes a hike for some reason!


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Elena. 4 years ago from Madrid Author

I've been drastically circumspect for a while, haven't I FP? :) I suppose it was inevitable that something would eventually happen to trigger my serial ranter instincts!


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maggs224 4 years ago from Sunny Spain

I agree with you Elena and you have put it far more eloquently than I could have I shall vote this hub up :D


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Elena. 4 years ago from Madrid Author

Cheers, Maggs! :)


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G-Ma Johnson 4 years ago from NW in the land of the Free

Great and you rant so well and so truly said.I believe she was actually crying for help, we just didn't listen. Oh I know each of us has a choice to make and we are responsible for our choices.

The media and fans do make one feel superior though, which of course some can't handle...I think this song was really a great example of her feelings.

"The one lesson I wish would be learned, once and for all, is that we all STOP taking a collective standpoint where all these drugged out celebs, these ostentatiously bad examples, become saints on wheels post mortem.

May they rest in peace, of course."

A great statement from you I Love it.

Each moment in time counts so we need them to be the best they can be...:O) Hugs G-Ma


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VioletSun 4 years ago from Oregon/ Name: Marie

Good to have you back ranting! I am not much into idolizing celebrities and actually dislike the superficial attention, but I saw her in a 2009 interview with Oprah a couple of nights ago, and she seemed to have gotten her life together, reason why I assume so many were shocked by her sudden death. You make some very good points though, we need better role models for our children.


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Elena. 4 years ago from Madrid Author

Hi G MA! You hit the nail in the head here, "if she was crying for help, we just didn't listen"… Hence listening NOW is a bit redundant. One has to wonder about how much her family and people close to her listened. I guess we'll never really know...

Violet, howdo! The role model aspect is something that eats at me. For example, with Amy Winehouse, most if not all that one could hear about the kid when she was alive is what voice and talent she had, and her substance issue was often minimized. Oh, it did come up in the news all right, but I felt it was discussed as a sort of side issue. In short, she continued to be presented as a STAR. She may have been one, but ahead of that she was a person with a huge issue, and the media only used that to show snippets of her falling on her feet at concerts, as if it were a laughing matter, a coup for the audience. Shameful.


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KF Raizor 4 years ago

I remember, wayyyyy back when, Rusty Young of Poco and Billy Payne of Little Feat were on a rock radio talk show. The subject of Little Feat lead singer and guitarist Lowell George and his untimely death from a drug overdose at the age of 34 came up and the host asked why deaths like Lowell's (and Elvis' before him) happened. Rusty Young hit the nail on the head when he said, "They are surrounded with 'yes men' who all say, 'Isn't he wonderful?'" That's the problem we have nowadays: we have let our celebrities get away with drug use, drunken stupors, and even murder (hello, OJ and Robert Blake). When do we finally stand up and say, "ENOUGH" -- when they're all dead?

This is an excellent hub, and you have stated something that has so desperately needed to be shouted from the rooftops. The problem is, I don't know how many people would listen.


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DarylnCochrane 4 years ago from New York, NY

I totally agree with what you are saying here. These stars with all their money take so much for granted. They receive all the awards and accolades for their talent, but are they really serving a good purpose if they allow drugs to take their lives? No. It sickens me to know of a celebrity who came from nothing, made it and then ruin their life with the use of drugs because they think it's cool or the "in" thing to do. The people around them feeding their egos do nothing to help and don't really care about them, only what they have and represent. They can do and have anything in the world, and they choose to throw it all away by with addiction. Seems that no one has learned anything from others' mistakes.


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Elena. 4 years ago from Madrid Author

KF – Thanks for saying so. I agree with you, the problem is nobody listens, maybe privately some of us think its disgraceful the way drugs and other abuses are tolerated in celebrities, but collectively the world seems to thrive with these disasters, thus sending a message that it's all right, and hey, let's wait for the next one. So, even if nobody listens, I did feel like I wanted to shout it from my particular rooftop.

Daryln - Yes, it seems all is learned is that this will happen again, any day now. This is exactly the same that happened with Michal Jackson or Amy Winehouse recently, and many others before. I wonder why the world at large, and Hollywood in particular, make such a fuss about smoking but they never ever uttered any equally strong statement about hard drugs. Did they give up on that? Do they think it's a lost battle? Fine, at least then stop acting as if these celebs' deaths are a shock.


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DarylnCochrane 4 years ago from New York, NY

Exactly. And not only the hard drugs, but so many young celebs are dying from prescription drug overdoses. You would think that by now they know not to mix prescription drugs with illegal drugs as well! I'm sure that half the time they're not really needed. What's going on with the doctors??? But, sadly enough everyone becomes a "yes man" to these people instead of really helping them.


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suzettenaples 4 years ago from Taos, NM

I think you bring up a very vital point in this hub and I commend you for having the courage to write it. I think when someone dies, we have to look at the total life and their contribution to the world. Whitney's was music. That she burned out too quickly is tragic and sad; that she lost her singing voice to drugs and alcohol is tragic and sad.

You are correct when you say anyone else rather than a celebrity dying of drug and alcohol abuse, we are ruthless and uncaring towards them. That is our society's fault and our twisted priorities. We worship the god of money, fame and celebrity in this country and until we change that fact we will continue to see these sad lives burning out way too early. Money buys these drugs and really our law enforcement does nothing about celebrities' drug use. It is a sad and vicious cycle.


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Elena. 4 years ago from Madrid Author

Hi Suzette - You are very right regarding our society's twisted sense of what's important. You're accurate as well in what we worship, and I'll grant you a third bull's eye on the vicious cycle comment :-)

The thing is, considering all of the above, why ever would people act so shocked when these deaths happen? Is it only at the time of death that we cease to worship money? Or only at the time of death that we somehow sort out our priorities about what's important?

That is what eats at me, the hypocrisy.


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VioletSun 4 years ago from Oregon/ Name: Marie

Elena, I just saw in the news that Whitney's daughter has a drug problem, was found getting high in a hotel room as she can't cope with her Mom's passing. It's sad to start life off with this issue.


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Elena. 4 years ago from Madrid Author

It's just terrible... heard the news myself and was privately thinking 'here we go again"... very sad. Now I wonder, are we gonna watch the train wreck from the sidelines or will we feel compelled to do something this time around? :-/


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DarylnCochrane 4 years ago from New York, NY

It is terrible. And already the family is saying that she is fine. Really??


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Elena. 4 years ago from Madrid Author

Indeed, Daryln. Will Social Services step in? They certainly do for a lot less dramatic issues...


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DarylnCochrane 4 years ago from New York, NY

Probably not. She is 18 years old, so I suppose she's considered an "adult". Sad.


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Sally's Trove 4 years ago from Southeastern Pennsylvania

Great to see you, Elena. Your voice is refreshing. FP, G-Ma, and the others have very much said what I'm thinking about this topic. I'm just happy to see you here.


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Elena. 4 years ago from Madrid Author

Hi Sally! Will you believe me if I say I'm trying to show up here a bit more regularly now? I'll understand if you don't believe until you see it :-) but I'm really trying to find a rhythm again -- too much work and too little play for the past months!

As to the poor Whitney... yeah, I don't have much left to say besides what's above.


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cynamans 4 years ago from Washington DC

Elena,

I think it's easy for a person who has never walked in the troubled individuals shoes to past judgement on them. You are not perfect, none of us are. Why should we believe celebrities are any different. Whitney, Michael, and Amy all had their demons but so do all of us. Why can't we remember the good that came from these talented artists. Our children are not looking at an Amy, Michael or whitney for the drugs that they took or the lifestyles that they led. Young kids love their music, their videos, their dancing. I don't know anyone who has ever said that they love michael because he owned a home called neverland or whtiney because she used cocaine or amy because she was alcoholic. when those who were inspired by these artists talk about the talents in your hub, they speak of their voices and many musical achievements not their shortcomings. Celebrities are not Gods or angels. They are just like everyone else except for the fact that they were born with an enormous talent that God has blessed them with and has enable them to share with miilions around the world. I loved all the artists you mentioned in your hub. their music touched my soul and enriched my childhood. Amy winehouse song rehab helped me overcome some difficult struggles in my own life. I respect all of their talents and disagree with you. They should be remembered for all the joy they bought to so many lives. you forget about their greatness by highlighting their pitfalls as if you are without fault. I would by your arguments more if you were writing this hub about an Anna Nicole Smith who was talentless and had drug problem. the media glorified the woman as if we should really care about her lifestory. children should not look up to someone like that but the people you mentioned in this hub. Unlike Anna, they had real talent and should be remember for it. God rest their souls.


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Elena. 4 years ago from Madrid Author

Yes, may they rest in peace. I think you missed the point I made, which is precisely regarding the lack of perfection... whereas these celebrities are practically turned into saints post mortem. Total contradiction ...

You say people don't look up to these celebrities because of the drugs, but because of the songs and dancing. I certainly hope that's the case, which is entirely my concern with all of this. The fact that one adores the artist and ignores the issue. That, and the fact that these celebrities perpetuate the myth that "it's OK", thus sending out a very fuzzy message out to anybody looking.

It's fine to admire talent, it's not to ignore what's underneath. In my book, of course.


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MelChi 4 years ago from Cape Town, South Africa

Thank you for saying what most of us have been thinking! Great hub, voted up :)


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Elena. 4 years ago from Madrid Author

Cheers, MelChi!

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