Who's Behind the Screen Name?

The screen names on some of the websites out there are very intriguing to me. I have seen some strange ones, some naughty ones, some make you ask yourself ' What were they thinking?' and some just plain old down to earth names. There is a site that I have frequented for about 4 years now. I have spent untold hours there and met a few very nice people. For the most part people are honest about who they are, at least I think so anyway. But there are some who want to be mysterious, asking lots of questions of you yet giving no answers about themselves. I have learned to avoid playing them again. I have learned what questions to answer and what not. I give very little information about myself. The less you answer the less conversation. I have found that about 95% of the time it is best to just play and not converse.

The thing about being online and hiding behind a screen name is you can be anyone you want to be. You can lie all you want and who is going to know. You can be the King of Egypt or a millionaire, a cop or a criminal, a good girl or a sex kitten . You can portray yourself as true and yet lie through your teeth. It's the same in life though, you can meet someone face to face and still not know them. But online there is a freedom that comes with the territory, you can let go and just be who you want to be. Kind of like when one wears a mask, people tend to be freer when you don't know who they are. No one sees you and of course, because of the screen name, or the mask, no one really knows you either. I am a creature of honesty and there have been times when I was too trusting. From experience on the internet I have learned to be very cautious in life as well as on the the internet.

I don't talk to many men on there as I have come to find that many of them have one thing on their mind. I know that sounds crazy, you say 'Online? c'mon now', but it is true. I used to play many all the time on this particular site, now there is only one that I play that I have come to know and trust and enjoy playing with. Every now and then I will accept a game if I am bored but I am cautious about the conversation. If I play a new screen name, I usually just play and not converse. It is nice to play with someone that doesn't change the conversation to sex mid-game. Some don't even wait that long. One guy blantantly said, ' Let's Cyber F---!' I could not believe what I was reading. I told him in no uncertain words ' Do Not contact me again in any way shape or form'. Of course he did a few times but I totally ignored him and he stopped.

I have met people from all walks of life. Moms who want to talk about the kids. I have played some kids too, silly but fun. Bored wives complaining about their husbands. And husbands complaining about their wives. I have talked to women who have lost their husbands and were still grieving but just needed a kind word from a stranger. I have talked to a few that seem to think I am some kind of counselor, LOL!!! I let them talk and encourage them in whatever positive way I can. I have talked to people all over the world. Australia, England, Africa, Canada, Egypt, just to name a few. Once I played a young woman who was in college. As the conversation progressed she began to tell me more about herself and a few phone calls were made and it turned out she was from the town that I lived in and her parents turned out to be old friends of mine. Small world!

I enjoy reading screen names. I can't name any here, if I could some of them would blow your mind. And I do mean 'Blow Your Mind'. Some of the names tell you what they do for a living, what their hobby is, how many kids they have, what they would like to be, how they like to do things, what is on their minds, if they are single or married. Some are just down right filthy, some are sweet, some crude, most are decent. Some names draw others to them, some you just want to leave alone.

Being on the internet can be very informative and can be fun. But, as I am sure by now you know, you have to be very careful about divulging any information about yourself to these unseen faces. There are people out there who are looking for victims to cheat, or rape, or steal from. And they hide behind those screen names. Then there are those who are lonely and just want someone to talk to, converse with. Just be in touch with the outside world. So have fun but be on your toes. Some have a way of getting information out of you and then you kick yourself and say 'why did I tell them that?' So just be careful and be safe. Stay on your guard but have some fun. We all want to trust and share, but the internet world can be very dangerous because you never know who or what's behind the screen name.

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Dim Flaxenwick 6 years ago from Great Britain

Good advice for people of all ages. Nicely done. Thank you. Take care. x


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singlmomat52 6 years ago Author

Thank you Dim. God bless


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loveofnight 6 years ago from Baltimore, Maryland

thumbs-up, you are so right....it is easy to hide behind screen names.i too have run into trouble by being too honest, it's a shame that we have to be on guard at all times.......


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singlmomat52 6 years ago Author

Yes it is a shame, but better to be safe than sorry. thanks for reading my Hub and for your comment!!


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ahorseback 6 years ago

Singlemom , this is interesting , but I understand very well. This spring I found hub pages after writing for about ten years, My writing has always been very private. Mine ! if you will. And after facebook for a very short time I came here. But my poetry has always been pretty private , even from my wife, It has become for me an outlet for a private kind of guy , me! I don't think I could ever reveal my writing to those I know in life , its just to personal, does that make sense? And so , hence the picture of a horse , one of the two of my favorite animals. Anyway, your hub is very informative and wise. More power to you and women like you. And thanks for always reading and commenting. I guess thats why some authors use a ghost writer. LOL.


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singlmomat52 6 years ago Author

Yes it does make sense, having said that I believe that many would benefit in their spirit from your beautiful poems. Seriously, you should put your many poems in a book and try to publish it. Your poems are deep, descriptive and filled with emotion. You should share with your wife and the many others who would love the rhythm of your words. Think about it!! Thank you for stopping in and reading another of my hubs, if you read some of the more serious ones I have written you will see why I write on here. I need it!! Thank you for your comment!!!


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gr82bme 6 years ago from USA

Great hub and advice


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singlmomat52 6 years ago Author

Good, glad you liked it!! Thanks for stopping in!! and for your comment!!

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