Yoko Made John Happy

Yoko Made John Happy

"Laurel and Hardy, that's John and Yoko. And we stand a better chance under that guise because all the serious people like Martin Luther King and Kennedy and Gandhi got shot."

John Lennon

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"It matters not

Who you love

Where you love

Why you love

When you love

Or how you love

It matters only that you love."

John Lennon

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Yoko Ono Made John Lennon Happy

Despite what we thought or felt as fans, John & Yoko had a lasting love.
Despite what we thought or felt as fans, John & Yoko had a lasting love.

The Ballad of John and Yoko

Say what you will about Yoko Ono, she made John Lennon happy. We, the masses of adoring fans, may never understand why and the reason for that is because we don't want to.

He was ours first!

Certainly, we as teeny boppers and teenagers during The Beatles' reign had no concept of the intricate workings of an adult relationship. We would've rolled our eyes if someone had tried to explain it to us. It didn't matter, you see. What counted was keeping the Fab Four as they were - together and singing for us. After all, no one could love them like we did. I think what surprised me most, was that they didn't return the sentiment as obsessively. Hence, Yoko's appearance in John's life was perceived as threatening in the lopsided world of crazy fan love.

John & Yoko in Love

John Lennon and Yoko Ono were happily in love
John Lennon and Yoko Ono were happily in love

John Lennon was More Than Just One of The Beatles

Our John had other passions beyond music. He was a writer and an artist. We, the adoring fans, cared not about these things. We didn't know about them initially, and once we did we associated them with the woman we felt took John away from us. In truth, rather than betraying us, he was being true to himself. Not that knowing that would've made a difference back then. We were kids and totally absorbed in our own wants and needs.

It's unfortunate that we missed out on a few years' worth of enjoying John's poetry and art. It was the eighties before I owned or read one of his books. The two little tomes that I had were precious glimpses of an expanded view of John's creativity. Some of the drawings and verses were done while he was a teenager, but it wasn't until after he met Yoko that he had them published.

It seems safe to say that Yoko inspired John. As an artist in her own right, I'm sure that John was kept interested in her by virtue of the creative stimulation alone. It would have made for good conversation and helped to keep their relationship fresh over time.

Author's Note

A while back, DJ Funktual sent me an email asking me to write this hub. I originally thought that it would be a piece on Yoko's business acumen. I learned during the research phase that she's unafraid and smart. Yoko Ono sues people if she feels the need.

"Hmm," I thought, "I don't want Yoko coming after my piggy bank and Canadian Tire money."

So, I changed direction, thinking that Yoko's early story would make an interesting read. However, none of the pictures were under a creative commons license, and they would've made the piece really shine. As a result of all that, Dear Reader, you are left with something of a cross between my unwavering bias and my begrudging adult understanding of events that took place decades ago. There's a bit of fact thrown in for good measure.

Shirley Anderson

Yoko Made John Happy

Confidence would've been a big drawing card for John too, I imagine. Yoko loved him, but I never got a sense that she needed him. Not that I was close to them, but she always seemed strong to me. There was no clinging, except from John's fans. From where I sat, it just looked like he wanted her at his side always. That's why she was such a danger to us. John was going willingly. I, for one, did not want to let go of things as they had been. But, that's where John's heart lie, and what made him happy.

Over the years, John and Yoko went through some pretty tough times. Drug abuse, peace demonstations, threat of deportation. I'm sure there was more that I've either forgotten or didn't know about. The point is, the couple went through stuff together. That makes you stronger or tears you apart. Obviously, surviving adversity was part of the glue that held them together. They leaned on each other, supported each other. In the lonely world of celebrity, I'm sure that must be another way that Yoko made John happy. They were inseparable life partners, yet never overrode each other's identity.

John Lennon and Yoko Ono were both strong individuals. As such, each needed a strong partner in order to be happy. The two loved each other in a way that would have kept them together until they grew very old, had they been given the chance.

So, as much as it as has pained me in the past, I have to say that Yoko did indeed make John happy. Considering what they accomplished together in John's short life, I think it's important that she was a part of things. Without her, he may have done less.

Now that I'm older, I guess I can feel good that my beloved Beatle knew that kind of love from someone other than me, his most adoring fan.

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The Beatles Album Cuts

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Paraglider 7 years ago from Kyle, Scotland

There was also the sympathy for Cyn who had been accepted at least partly because she was never in the spotlight. The British press never forgave Yoko for that break-up. There was some good stuff on Double Fantasy. (And some pretty poor stuff too!) Good hub :)


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Shirley Anderson 7 years ago from Ontario, Canada Author

I always felt bad for Cynthia. She was hidden away right from the first and never given much credit for her part in John's life. Julian also seems to have been put way in the background.

I don't think most people will forgive Yoko. To tell the truth, I shuddered when Jamie emailed me and said that there must be something good to right - John loved her so there must be something good. I didn't want to write anything good about Yoko Ono because I still hung on to blaming her. It was as I was writing this that I realized that it serves no purpose and like it or not, she did make John happy.

Yes, the Double Fantasy album is a good one - Woman, Starting Over, etc.. That's the record I think of when I remember John's death, and those songs make me sad. I can't remember for sure though....is that the one that Yoko screams like a tortured cat on her tracks?

Thx, Paraglider!


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Paraglider 7 years ago from Kyle, Scotland

I've never been a Yoko fan and I think some of her claims of co-writing with John are very exaggerated. But I agree they were happy for a time at least in New York. Some of that peace comes across in 'Watching the Wheels go round'


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Shirley Anderson 7 years ago from Ontario, Canada Author

Oh, I still can't say that I'm a fan, I will begrudgingly admit that some good came out of their relationship, though. And if he was only going to have a brief time here, I'm glad he got to spend it with someone he loved so much.


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Shadesbreath 7 years ago from California

I've never been a big Beatles fan and particularly not one of John Lenon, he always seemed so darned "hippy" to me (being the stodgy conservative type that I am), but as a human being, I never did quite understand why people harshed on him for the woman he chose to love.  I've actualy found myself defending him on that front on occasion over the years, which is funny given how little interest I really had in music from that time.  Maybe it was just because it was/is an obvious human argument that is outside music or ideology. 

Nice hub.  Thanks for a pleasant read.


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Shirley Anderson 7 years ago from Ontario, Canada Author

I have heard of the odd person who didn't like the Beatles, Shades. A little therapy could help that, ya know. :)

I understand what you're saying about John's right to love anyone he pleased, but we obsessive, clingy fans felt otherwise. It was all about us, you know. Well, all about me, anyway.

We as the adoring (or not) public can argue it back and forth all we want, but John loved Yoko and there's no reason why we need to understand it, I guess. We made it our business, but I guess in human terms, it really wasn't anymore than the average Joe's would be.

Thx for reading, Shadebreath. I appreciate the comment.


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Dottie1 7 years ago from MA, USA

Shirley...so what, who cares if she made John happy.... Maybe someday I'll try to forgive her but today NO I am definitely NOT in a very forgiving mood. Please forgive me! :)


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Barbie-Perkins 7 years ago from Cincinnati, OH

Shirley,

As a young teeager, Elvis was my favorite singer, then the Beetles came in second. Thanks for bringing back some fond memories.

Barbie Perkins


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Shirley Anderson 7 years ago from Ontario, Canada Author

Oh Dottie, thank-you!! I can stop pretending! ~ I was going to add something else, but thought better of it. ~ Please forgive ME for upsetting YOU! Believe me, I feel your pain....I've been hauling that Yoko grudge around a long time. Hey, thanks for coming to see me, even if it made you grumpy! What a pal. Let me know when you have an upsetting hub for me, and I'll drop by and be appropriately upset.

Barbie, thanks so much for dropping by to read and comment. I also like most Elvis songs - not more than The Beatles, though. We have to agree to disagree on that one, Barb. I'm sorry, I know you said you're a fan, but Elvis made the WORST MOVIES EVER!! I cannot watch them. Love his early music, though. He was s-e-x-y, too. Glad it brought back some good memories for you.


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Dottie1 7 years ago from MA, USA

Shirley...can you please find some new pictures of Yoko not kissing John. PLEASE! or put duct tape or something over her face...Will you? oh buddy oh pal!


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evemurphy 7 years ago from Ottawa

I love Yoko and I love John Lennon even more and I love this Hub! :)


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Shirley Anderson 7 years ago from Ontario, Canada Author

Hey, Dottie! Look up. Up there, over the comments.

Wow, Eve! You are the first person (aside from John) that I've ever heard say that. You're a better woman than I am, I've only gotten to the point where I could write this and start to have charitable thoughts.

Thanks so much!


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Dottie1 7 years ago from MA, USA

Shirley...you silly silly nut.  LOL  Do you have a blanket or anything I can throw over me please.  Or could you use my real butt, I'd  like that better than Yoko's. Yuckkkky! LOL


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Shirley Anderson 7 years ago from Ontario, Canada Author

Sorry Dottie, you're probably cold! The snow will be starting soon, maybe I can find you a pair of jeans or something. Meantime, no one will ever recognize your bum if you ever decide to get into streaking.

If I'd had my software from the office I worked at, those pics would have been as close to perfect as possible. The effects would have been much better.

*sigh* Oh well, guess the artist in me is frustrated.


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msms 7 years ago

Except 'paraglider' it seems this Hub from Shirley is for 'women'?

I appreciate Shirley's style of handling such a personal topic so publicly. After all the part of life that relates to happiness and love is very very personal. How can we understand whether John was happy or was he pretending to be happy with Yoko?

It is great work of research in nice interesting words. Shirley your Hub makes a happy reading. Yoko!

Mahendra


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Shirley Anderson 7 years ago from Ontario, Canada Author

Mahendra, thank-you so much. You are right, of course that happiness and love is a very personal thing and means something different to everybody. Much as I was not a Yoko fan, I like to believe that John was as happy as he seemed to be with her, especially in view of the fact that he didn't get to live a long life.

I'm so glad that you are well enough to come by and read.


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Dottie1 7 years ago from MA, USA

Shirley...I remember there was a time when John and Yoko split up for a year and was curious to see what that was about.   Here is an article from mail online that I found pretty interesting about their relationship based on love and addictions. What a difficult one it was for them both.

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-1069338/...

 

 


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CJStone 7 years ago from Whitstable, UK

Hey Shirley, it seems like rather a long time to be hauling a grudge around for a women you didn't even know. But then, as you say, that's the nature of obsessive fandom. As for Shade's comment: sir, you need medical attention very fast. I've heard it can be fatal.


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Dottie1 7 years ago from MA, USA

Shirley just to set the record straight here, I know you are not hauling a grudge and neither am I but perhaps this is an overflow from all our fun we had on the The Beatles Album cuts hub.  No one can really appreciate it who weren't there.  LOL  I miss that fun with you and I know me and you could gather up another 200 comments on this subject, all in the name of FUN!

(p.s. Shirley...thanks for the stunt bum, I just noticed what you did! LOL)


thequestfortruth 7 years ago

thanks, yeah spotting that we begrudged her stealing him away is interesting. but there were many other women in John's life more behind the scenes, because thats where they wanted to remain. there are hidden stories that maybe most of us will never know. so we cant begrudge those secret women at all.

personally i was just happy for them both. fame and a lack of love in his childhood had a devastating effect on Johns mental health, how could i possibly begrudge him what he found in Yoko? Why?


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bladeguy 7 years ago

Nice hub. She gets a lot of grief for "breaking up the Beatles", but c'mon -- I'm guessing that the Beatles themselves had more to do with that!


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Shirley Anderson 7 years ago from Ontario, Canada Author

Sorry I missed you all yesterday. It was a long day and by the time I got on here, I couldn't get on here. That was when my computer decided freeze up, so I just went to bed.

Dottie, you like the yellow stunt bum cover? I'm glad. Yeah, John was seeing a Ming something-or-other for 17, 18 months, something like that. John and Yoko were really heavily into drugs. Maybe that's part of what kept them together long term, the fact that they came out the other side of it. I haven't checked the link out yet, but I will. Thx for posting it!

C.J., if a woman can hold a grudge from her teenage years, she is psychologically clinging to her youth. Besides, it's fun and Dottie and I can make snide remarks that neither of us really mean. And you're right, Shadesbreath needs H.E.L.P.!

Thequestfortruth, we don't really begrudge John's happiness with Yoko, we're glad he was happy. Lord knows, not everyone gets a shot at that. Thanks so much for coming by, I appreciate you taking the time to comment.

Bladeguy, you're right, of course. There came a time when the Beatles lost their cohesiveness - even their sound people noticed the rift that was growing between the boys. Now, these years later, we can look at it with adult eyes, but back then we only had one thought about what the reason was. Thank-you for reading and commenting.


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compu-smart 7 years ago from London UK

Great Hub Shirley and what a lovely couple they were! Im like Barbie and prefered Elvis and never really got into the beatles music although i admired them for there acheivements!

Thanks also to DJ Funktual for asking for this hub and lmao @ the pic and comments of Dottie and John!!

:)


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Shirley Anderson 7 years ago from Ontario, Canada Author

*{{{ gasp!!! }}}* Elvis over The Beatles?!? Our Mr. Furry Pants from London?? Hmmm. I guess I can live with it because I like Elvis' music. Not better than the Fab Four, but I do like it.

You know our Dottie, C.S., she's modest. I had to cover up her hiney with a stunt bum blanket.

Thx for coming by....even if you do prefer Elvis. :)


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Dottie1 7 years ago from MA, USA

 m-o-d-e-s-t    m-o-u-s-e


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Shirley Anderson 7 years ago from Ontario, Canada Author

:) Well, no worries, now! Your booty's covered AND toasty warm to combat the New England cold.


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Uninvited Writer 7 years ago from Kitchener, Ontario

Great hub...sorry it took me so long to read it :)

I don't like how everyone blames Yoko. Like you said, she made him very happy. It takes a special woman to put up with someone like John Lennon. I have the greatest admiration for his music and his political beliefs but like many great artists he could be an ass.


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ripplemaker 7 years ago from Cebu, Philippines

Yoko who? Hehehe Do I need a therapist too? Shirley, I enjoyed reading your thoughts on this hub and the comments posted here and of course, seeing Dottie's picture up there! LOL


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Shirley Anderson 7 years ago from Ontario, Canada Author

Thanks, Susan.  It's okay re taking awhile to get here, I haven't had much time to peek into HP myself lately - I miss it!

I'm sure you're probably right about John, but we all needed someone to blame for The Beatles breaking up and she was it.  I'm sure she got sick of hearing about it, too.

Michelle!  You don't know who Yoko Ono is?  Oh no!  Yes, I'll have to send you along with Shadesbreath to Beatles therapy 101.  :)

Doesn't Dottie look good with John?  I had to cover up her hiney, though.  She wasn't crazy about how it looked, and it's getting cold in New England this time of year.

Thx so much for coming by!


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Shirley Anderson 7 years ago from Ontario, Canada Author

If there is any question of what the general consensus is regarding whether or not Yoko broke up The Beatles:

http://www.craigslist.org/about/best/sea/878346656...

Yoko is now a verb.


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Constant Walker 7 years ago from Springfield, Oregon

Great pice, Shirley- I was never able to join in the hatred for Yoko which everyone else had. Isn't it bad enough that a woman who breaks up a band is called a "Yoko"?

John Lennon was a strong, independant, intelligent man. I doubt anyone ever made him do anything he didn't want to or agree with. Had John wanted to stay with The Beatles, he would have, with Yoko's complete support.

Clearly, he was ready.


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Shirley Anderson 7 years ago from Ontario, Canada Author

Thx, CW.

I agree with you about John, and the name Yoko. Had to chuckle about that. You're a better man than I, being able to forego the "Hate Yoko" campaign. I was very young and had to believe that somebody MADE my boys split up. Naturally, it was all because I wanted them to stay together, regardless of what they wanted.

I think you're right too, when you say that Yoko would've supported John had he decided to stay.

Thx for coming by!


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Dottie1 7 years ago from MA, USA

Just stopped by Shirley to see what kind of craziness you were up to today!  Heard rumor that you placed an ad on Craigslist.  Had to see for myself, you little evil devil you.

This morning I sent out some mail from Dottie and John which made me laugh and think of you.   Did you know that I already have a John.  Now I have two.  One John's birthday is 10/8th, the other 10/9th.  Both John's have a son named Sean.  And both have an affiliation with the name Chapman which I told you about in the Beatle Hub.  I thought you might like this piece of useless information. 

Also just checking to make sure you didn't steal my blanket! Thank you for not.  Bye and will see ya later!


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Shirley Anderson 7 years ago from Ontario, Canada Author

Okay....Yoko is publicly exhonerated here:

http://www.randomhouse.ca/catalog/display.pperl?is...

According to this, John didn't even tell her before he resigned.

DOTTIE! Thx for coming by to check on me. That's hilariously coincidental about your other John (does that sound funny?). Your John's b-day is Oct. 8th? So is my grandson's. Sounds like fate to me!

Oh no, I won't take away your blanket or your modesty - you're safe with me.

Re the ad....you weren't supposed to be able to tell it was me. :)


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C.S.Alexis 7 years ago from NW Indiana

I always liked Yoko myself. I hated the break up but nothing lasts forever, a lesson I must have learned too young! I was lucky enough to have high school teachers who saw the music lyrics as poetry and we studied John Lennon, Simon and Garfunkle and Bob Dylan way back in 1971. Very enjoyable reading and thank DJ Funktual for asking you to do this one. C.S.


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Shirley Anderson 7 years ago from Ontario, Canada Author

I never did like Yoko, C.S. but that was for the same reason as everyone else. It was funny coming across that article today (the link above) that said that she didn't even know that John was going to quit. And yes, you must've learned that early....I'm not sure that I've learned it yet!

We took those same musician's lyrics in high school, which was great. I still remember those English classes and the meanings that the teacher pointed out that I hadn't thought of previous to the class.

Thx for the comment, C.S.


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Dottie1 7 years ago from MA, USA

I am listening to John Lennon and Yoko Ono sing Happy Christmas (War is Over) or as I know it "So this is Christmas". Won't you join me Shirley in listening to John and Yoko sing us a beautiful Christmas song.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hb2YSAVHmIE


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Shirley Anderson 7 years ago from Ontario, Canada Author

Awww, thx Dottie!!! I will definitely join you, with pleasure!


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Dottie1 7 years ago from MA, USA

Today is December 8th, 2008 and

I read the news today (Oh Boy)

Here's a collection of John Lennon images........Don't CRY Shirley!

http://www.mahood.com/lennon/


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Shirley Anderson 7 years ago from Ontario, Canada Author

Hey Dottie, you're always one step ahead of me! I've already cried twice today! Thx for the link....going to look now.


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Shirley Anderson 7 years ago from Ontario, Canada Author

I absolutely love the pic of him as a little boy in his cap, that's so precious!

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