43 "Children and Respect"

Now, what was that you were saying about the Jonses?
Now, what was that you were saying about the Jonses?

Learning from the parents.

When it comes to our children everyone is always pointing fingers at movies, music, TV and even individuals like actors, singers, sports celebrities and especially, my favorite, politicians. They are always saying that they are responsible for those of our kids that turn out bad and have been badly influenced.

Most people, parents to be specific, don't ever want to face the fact that the responsibility starts at home with them. That's where the children should learn respect for others. But, that is hard because there are so many parents that don't practice responsibility or have respect themselves.

Respect for others is one thing that children need to learn, and at home, and everything else they need in life will pretty much fall in place.

I was listening to the radio the other night and a song came on that I had forgotten about. It is a short song but says a lot about this subject.

It was released in 1968 by Henson Cargill and later released by George Jones. The title of the song is "Skip A Rope". I am going to write a few excerpts from the song. If you have the opportunity, please listen to it and if you remember the song you know what I'm talking about. I brought it up to a friend and he remembered the song but when I read the lyrics to him he said, "I didn't realize it was that deep". The song does say a lot and even though they are words from 1968 they still apply today.

Here are some of the lines from the song:

Oh, listen to the children while they play
Now ain't it kinda funny what the children say
Daddy hates mommy, mommy hates dad

Last night you shoulda heard the fight they had

Gave little sister another bad dream

She woke us all up with a terrible scream

Cheat on your taxes, don't be a fool

Now what was that they said about a Golden Rule?

Never mind the rules, just play to win

And hate your neighbor for the shade of his skin.

Stab 'em in the back, that's the name of the game

And mommy and daddy are who's to blame

Just listen to your children while they play

It's really not very funny, what the children say


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Charlu 5 years ago from Florida

I haven't even thought of that song in I don't know how long. Your so right about parents not having respect, which makes it hard or impossible to teach what you don't know. Great hub


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gregas 5 years ago from Corona, California. Author

Hi Charlu, thank you for the comment and yes, it is hard to teach something you don't practice yourself or have never had someone to show you how to be respectful. The funny thing is, with my family, from as far back as I can remember, respect was something that just seemed to come natural I don't remember anyone ever having to tell me to show respect and I don't remember ever having to tell any of my children, grand children or great grand children to be respectful. Thank yo. Greg


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Charlu 5 years ago from Florida

Me either, but I think I learned from examples they set.


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gregas 5 years ago from Corona, California. Author

Hi Charlu, That's it. The old saying, "Lead by example". Greg


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prasetio30 5 years ago from malang-indonesia

As a teacher, I love this hub and how you present this hu for parents. I know this culture (children respect) is decreasing now. We can see this because of the influence of technology. We have to improve this and closer to children by giving the more advice about what should they do and what should they don't. Nice and useful hub. Well done, my friend. Vote it up!

Prasetio


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gregas 5 years ago from Corona, California. Author

Hi Prasetio, Thank you for the kind comment. I do feel for most teachers because they do have to deal with so many disrespectful children. Greg


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Miss Mellie 5 years ago

As with all other childhood lessons, learning about manners and respect begins in the home. Outside influences certainly can have their impact on children's behavior, but kids who are initially raised with good breeding in the home are more likely to withstand the attitudes and postures of their (less well-trained) peers. Voted up. Thanks for the follow!


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gregas 5 years ago from Corona, California. Author

Hi Mellie, Thank you for the comment and the vote. Yes, their peers do have a lot of influence and if what they learn at home is of good substance, they should be fine. Greg


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Connie Smith 5 years ago from Tampa Bay, Florida

Having four little grandchildren under the age of six, this is a very good read. I had never seen the lyrics either. Unfortunately, I do believe that we only have a short time to influence our children at home before those outside influences kick in. Having already raised two daughters, I do know how much teens look to their peers to fit in. I decided to take time off while my grandchildren were small to care for them and try to instill the values in them while I had the opportunity. My grandmother cared for me when I was small and many of the values that I hold today come from her. I only hope that I have been able to influence my grandchildren the way she did for me.


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gregas 5 years ago from Corona, California. Author

Hi Cinnie, Good luck on your endevours with raising the grandchildren. Thank you for the comment. Also, you sound like you care and that is the main ingredient. Greg


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kathryn1000 5 years ago from London

I like that.Interesting to imagine what life looks like or sounds like to children.i hear that here in the UK children are going to school aged 5 and some are still in nappies.The parents say the teachers will train them.That is so sad.


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ladybluewriter 5 years ago from United States

I was a teacher for 29 years and I could tell the children that came from a respectful home with values. Those are the families trying to hold down jobs and raising children today. I say that because I went back to see some of mine that grew up in school to be adults. Then is when you know you taught them the right values.


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Gypsy Willow 4 years ago from Lake Tahoe Nevada USA , Wales UK and Taupo New Zealand

You are so right. Excellent hub!


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gregas 4 years ago from Corona, California. Author

Hi Gypsy, Thanmy very much. Greg


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Don Fairchild 3 years ago from Belgrade, ME

Great hub! Let the reality begin... Even though I don't remember those particular jump rope lyrics, it does bring out the everyday cynicism that is present in today's society. Thanks for the reminder to get our act together.


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Cantuhearmescream 3 years ago from New York

gregas,

I could write a whole hub on this issue and I'm glad you brought it up! Since my early twenties I've been complaining that there is no respect anymore. Remember the days of sir and ma'am, aunt and uncle, please and thank you? Kids act like they are equals to authority anymore. Teachers don't get respect, parents don't get respect, neighbors. I think it's important that we, as adults give respect back but there is really no such thing as "respecting your elders" anymore; kids act like they're entitled. Yes, it comes from the home. These families walk around posing as perfect, but they've neglected one of the most important tools, teaching respect. Argh!


Vickiw 3 years ago

Hi Gregas, respect for each other is such a magic ingredient in the mix of everyday life, and it is so sad to see how it is slowly disintegrating, as we accept more and more watering down of manners and values, such as consideration of others. Gosh I feel old fashioned just writing this!

Nice Hub, and so timely.


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Express10 3 years ago from East Coast

So many people lack respect for not only others but themselves. When I was a child I was taught to respect my elders and have a very hard time seeing this at all today from many people of various ages. As you stated no one wants to own up to the fact that it all starts at home.


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grand old lady 2 years ago from Philippines

The song is so true. What you say is something many people know but fail to keep in mind -- that teaching children respect is a responsibility of the parents.


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gregas 2 years ago from Corona, California. Author

Hi Mona, thank you and yes, some people don't have enough respect themselves to even be able to teach the children. Greg


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mothersofnations 2 years ago

Straight to the point - well said!


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gregas 2 years ago from Corona, California. Author

Thank you MoN. Greg

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