50 Reasons to Thank Mother

Have you ever taken the time to reflect on how good a woman your mother has been, and concluded that you haven’t thanked her enough for the many ways she has been good to you?

This has been happening to me lately, so I allowed the Thanksgiving breezes to blow through my psyche and bring some details to the surface. Here are fifty reasons, among others, that landed in a list on my page.

Knowing that some of my reasons to thank my mother will remind you of some reasons to thank yours, I invite you to read with your pen in hand and your notebook before you; you can make your list at the same time you read mine, and soon you will have documented a precious list of reasons to thank your mother.


Gifts She Gave Me

"All that I am ... I owe to my angel mother." - Abraham Lincoln

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My mother was not talkative during my childhood. She never told me, but I knew she loved me because of the precious gifts she gave me, and I thank her.

  • (1) The gift of life;
  • (2) Adequate care and comfort in less than ideal circumstances;
  • (3) Good food;
  • (4) Appropriate girlish attire;
  • (5) Makeshift toys;
  • (6) The habit of worship—singing, praying, Bible reading;
  • (7) Health checkups;
  • (8) School all the way to completion;
  • (9) Bus fare always;
  • (10) Books to read;
  • (11) Necessities she bought for me when she could not afford to buy for both of us;
  • (12) Daily chores which fed my sense of responsibility;
  • (13) Safe surroundings;
  • (14) Investments of time and money toward making my life better and easier than hers;
  • (15) Protection (never leaving our island till I was old enough to leave home);
  • (16) Altogether, a happy childhood free from abuse and adult concerns.


Values She Taught Me

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Funny how grateful we become for the values we've been taught when it's our turn to teach them to our children! We stop taking them for granted.

  • (17) Hard work and independence for which my mother was my first model;
  • (18) Respect for her, for myself, for everyone else and for God;
  • (19) Appreciation for family, especially on my father’s side;
  • (20) Good manners (courtesy);
  • (21) Personal hygiene;
  • (22) House cleanliness despite its size, and the quality of furniture and furnishings;
  • (23) Responsibility to share, especially with family members who had more needs than we had;
  • (24) Punctuality, which sometimes require setting out clothes and other necessities the night before the event;
  • (25) Gratitude—writing thank you letters for gifts;
  • (26) Excellence in knowing and reciting my poems;
  • (27) Resource management (like washing my white school socks on Friday night to make them ready for church the next day);
  • (28) Commitment to show up, barring illness, when and where duty calls;
  • (29) Wisdom, allowing her mother’s input in raising me;
  • (30) Kindness; (Once a week, every summer of high school vacation, she had me visit a certain neighbor to find out what I could do to help her and the children.)
  • (31) Loyalty, reminding me not to buy from the city stores what I could buy from the neighborhood store;
  • (32) Contentment, being happy with who I am and what I have.


Privileges She Denied Me

My mother's parenting during my teenage years may be considered over-protective by some standards. Still, when I see the self-defeating habits which some young people display today, I thank my mother for being the best parent she knew how to be.

Anyone could tell from the following scenarios that she had good intentions; and in retrospect, I have no complaints.

  • (33) After watching me playing with a male neighborhood friend (both of us preteen) who chased me and grabbed me in his arms, she told me never to let anyone play with me like that again.
  • (34) Another boy visited often to exchange books we both loved to read. She advised me not to allow him in the house when I was home alone.
  • (35) I would have loved to run through the sugar cane field with my friends after school; she convinced me that I would get cuts and bruises.

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  • (36) I bought four fashionable pairs of shoes at a great discount; she made me return them. “Don’t take more than you need,” she told me.
  • (37) I bought a slinky, straight forest green dress which I thought looked good on me. “Too revealing,” she decided. I never ever got to display that sexy look.
  • (38) She denied me the right to relax for the entire summer vacation. She had me become an apprentice to a seamstress.
  • (39) She never gave me the freedom to go where I wanted with whom I wanted, without submitting the details. This unreasonable restriction continued for as long as I lived with her.
  • (40) The greatest privilege I think she denied me was the right to argue my point when we had different opinions. I didn't even know I had that right.


Legacies She Established

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My mother has established several beginnings on which I now build. In some instances, life would be difficult without these foundations. They are all legacies of love and I thank my mother.

  • (41) Whenever I do repairs or improvements on the house we live in, I give thanks to be able build on what my sensible, responsible mother started.
  • (42) Whenever someone reminds of how beautifully my mother kept her house and yard, I am motivated to repeat her performance.
  • (43) After being away for more than half of my life, my mother’s church affiliation and her good citizenship record influence the kind acceptance I enjoy on my return to the neighborhood. Most people only know me as her daughter.
  • (44) In my youth, my mother sent me to deliver Christmas dinners to her elderly aunts on Christmas Day; last Christmas several cousins delivered dinners to our house.
  • (45) Occasionally, I call my children to remind them that I am praying for them; my mother reminded me in her letters.


Opportunities She Still Offers

There are Many Hats to Inherit

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My mother is now in her 80s and diagnosed with Alzheimer’s. Our mother-daughter dance continues with some unique opportunities for me.

  • (46) The honor of giving personal care to the one who cared for me;
  • (47) The chance to develop the kindness, patience and compassion with which she cared for her mother;
  • (48) Witnessing the value of some basic long-term habits like seeing her never forget to wash her hands and say her grace before meals;
  • (49) Becoming her advocate, and looking after her interest, the way she once did for me;
  • (50) The chance to express my love and thanks like I should have been doing all along.

These fifty reasons may provide conversation for fifty nights—one reason at a time.

© 2015 Dora Isaac Weithers

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aminebombom 13 months ago from Doha, Qatar

Just the fact that she helped bringing me to this world, is a lot and never can be paid, even if I carried her on my shoulders and went touring her the world.


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FlourishAnyway 13 months ago from USA

What a fitting and beautiful list. One of the best things that my mother gave me is to value education. She particularly values reading and always spent a lot of time reading with us and playing board games like Memory and checkers and later games of strategy. When I was a teenager, both my sister and I nominated her (unbeknownst to one another) for the town's Mother of the Year contest by writing an essay. It was sponsored by the local newspaper. She won. She was so very proud and to this day references the honor. My brother didn't submit an entry but he loves her too. You know how boys can be.


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sallybea 13 months ago from Norfolk

MsDora,

Thank you so much for sharing your 50 reasons to thank your mother. I love the feeling of quiet dignity and calm which always emanates from your writing. It is that which keeps me from returning over and over again to your Hubs. It was my privilege to read this Hub.

Best wishes,

Sally.


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Jodah 13 months ago from Queensland Australia

A beautiful hub and wonderful tribute to your mother MsDora. Obviously she is a very wise and loving woman. These are 50 very good reason to thank your mother. Unfortunately my mother passed away about 10 years ago, but I apprecite everything she did for me.


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word55 13 months ago from Chicago

Hi Dora, This is another one of your classic master pieces. I thank God that I appreciated my mom in the same way. My mom is gone and I have no regrets about my appreciation for her. You put it down awesomely. Just like God, mothers deserve love returned love because she loved her children first and showed it according to their characters and personalities. My mom never told me that she loved me. She didn't need to. She showed care in every way possible. Thank you for such an awesome article. Voted up too!


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Ericdierker 13 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

Taking me out of school like I was someone special to go with her up to 9,000 feet to paint the Aspens changing colors and run free and learn about autumn in the real. And on the coldest days taking me out to go and learn how to ice skate on the pond and learn about ice and how fish still lived below the ice.

Wonderful article my friend. Prayers for mine and yours.


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MsDora 13 months ago from The Caribbean Author

Amine, I agree with you. It is still a happier feeling to make a list; both mother and child will love it.


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MsDora 13 months ago from The Caribbean Author

Flourish, I like what you and your sister did for your mother. "She was so very proud and to this day references the honor." That's hard to beat!


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MsDora 13 months ago from The Caribbean Author

Sally, you are so beautifully kind. Thanks for your encouragment.


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MsDora 13 months ago from The Caribbean Author

Jodah, thanks for sharing. Memories of mother are often described as "precious." Happy for you that you have some.


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MsDora 13 months ago from The Caribbean Author

Word, there are many mothers who did not hear "I love you" from their parents and never learned to say it to their children; but you're so right about them showing their love in ways that make it obvious. Thank God for mothers like yours and mine!


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MsDora 13 months ago from The Caribbean Author

Eric, your mother kept you in school, just not in an indoor classroom; the great outdoors have numerous benefits. Yep, she gave you special treatment. Bless her, and thanks for sharing.


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annart 13 months ago from SW England

Great list with great values. I like that you suggest we talk about, and give adequate time to, each one. I agree with Sally about 'the quiet dignity and calm'; she's so right.

My mother (and father) taught me much; she was gentle, protective, kind and had a great sense of humour. She died in 2008 but lives on in the hearts of me and my children.

Lovely idea and a great tribute to your mother, Dora.

Ann


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billybuc 13 months ago from Olympia, WA

I can't thank you in person now, but I tried when she was alive. Most definitely I didn't try enough or as hard as I should, but the shoulda coulda wouldas will eat you alive if you let them. :) Beautiful list, Dora!


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Pacesetter Abbey 13 months ago from Houston, Texas.

My mum has been the greatest blessing ever known to me. She is a great part of what I am today both spiritually and emotionally. The best gift


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shprd74 13 months ago from Bangalore

MsDora,

I think like a prayer chant you have listed what one should always remember about our mothers. Excellent.

- Hari


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MsDora 13 months ago from The Caribbean Author

Thanks, Ann. Happy for you that you and your children have happy memories of your mom; that's a blessing.


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Reynold Jay 13 months ago from Saginaw, Michigan

Moms are wonderful in every way. My mom is gone and I know she loved me as much as any mother could. Great article and tribute to moms everywhere.


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MsDora 13 months ago from The Caribbean Author

Bill, most of us never think we do enough, but mothers see beyond our actions to our hearts. They forgive our shortcomings.


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MsDora 13 months ago from The Caribbean Author

Pacesetter, I encourage you to make your list; your mom would love and you will feel good about it.


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pstraubie48 13 months ago from sunny Florida

What a wise woman your Mother was....the loyalty one is a goodie and one I still practice today.

How blessed we are to have Mommas who cared enough to teach us important lessons that will hold us in good stead all of our years.

Angels are on the way this afternoon. ps

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Faith Reaper 13 months ago from southern USA

Thank you for sharing this lovely list here about being thankful to your precious mother. I, too, had an angel of a mother in this life, and I know just how blessed I am to have the best mother on the planet ...as I always say, because in my mind, it is true!

I've never met another person yet on this earth who is stronger, wiser, selfless or more beautiful in heart, mind and spirit than my precious mother.

My mother went on to be with the Lord just five days before Christmas in 2012 at the age of 84.

God bless you and your precious mother.

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MsDora 13 months ago from The Caribbean Author

Hari, good idea to chant the list. Thanks for your input.


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MsDora 13 months ago from The Caribbean Author

Reynold, I'm happy for you and everyone else who had loving mothers. Thanks for the kind comment.


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MsDora 13 months ago from The Caribbean Author

Patricia, thanks for the angels and for your valuable input on thanks to mother. Thanks to God and thanks for them.


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MsDora 13 months ago from The Caribbean Author

Faith, my mother is also 84. Glad that you totally enjoyed your mother; I know that also affects your parenting. God is good!


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Jackie Lynnley 13 months ago from The Beautiful South

I love this Dora and the part where your mom limited you so you would be a proper, decent young lady; something I am sure few mothers today even consider. Saying no could be the most precious gift they could give their daughters or sons and they have no idea. Or simply leading them in the right directions.

I think we had very like mothers and again seeing you there with your mom, you look exactly like my only living and favorite aunt. The smile, hair, stance; just a shade color difference and it could be her. I have always thought she was so beautiful and that smile was a big part of it. I know you both are very beautiful inside and out!


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MsDora 13 months ago from The Caribbean Author

Jackie, what sweet thoughts you share in this comment! Thank you. Yes, I appreciate the privileges she denied me, and I wish some of these careless youngsters had mothers like mine. I'm blushing at the thought of resembling your beautiful aunt.


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North Wind 13 months ago from The World (for now)

The fact that you thought of this means that she raised you right. There are many children you do not think of their caring parents in a grateful way. You are the fruit of her hard work because now God has given you back the chance to bless her in her time of need. I think it is a great blessing to be able to care for a parent who becomes dependent the way that we depended upon them when we were children. This is a great gift that God has given to you, MsDora but I think that you already know that.


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MsDora 13 months ago from The Caribbean Author

North Wind, I may know that but reading it in your comment gives it new depth and value. Thank you very much.


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gingerka 13 months ago from Colorado

You had a great Mom from what I can see. I have the best Mother in the world and I will implement some of your suggestions.


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MsDora 13 months ago from The Caribbean Author

Thank you, Gingerka. Happy for you that you're blessed with the best Mother. I appreciate your comment.


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bravewarrior 13 months ago from Central Florida

Dora, these are all wonderful things your mother has taught you. Mine has taught me most of the same. I'd like to add:

1. My mother taught me strength of character. There's nothing I can't overcome.

2. She taught me to have dreams and strive until I achieve them.

3. She taught me to laugh. A sense of humor is essential in life.

4. She taught me to stand up for myself and what I believe in. Don't be taken advantage of by being a doormat.

5. She gave me the gift of music. I played violin and piano when I was in elementary school.

6. She gave me the gift of song. I remember her singing all the time as I was growing up. Music was always on. To this day, I sing and cannot go through a day without music.

7. She taught me to be compassionate. Don't judge. You have no idea what anyone else is going through.

8. She taught me to be creative. Creativity sets the soul free and allows the spirit to soar.

9. She gave me the freedom to explore spirituality. I went to Catholic school, but I think it was more for the education than the teachings. I was given the freedom - once old enough - to seek what was comfortable for me.

10. She's taught me to let my spirit fly and become who I want to be - not what's expected of me. As the result, I'm a multi-talented, multi-faceted individual.

11. She taught me responsibility. Take care of your have-to's, then you have the freedom to explore your want-to's.

12. I'll say it again because this is so important and so integral to who I am: be creative. Dance. Sing. Laugh. And most of all,

13. Love.


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MsDora 13 months ago from The Caribbean Author

Shauna, I am so inspired by your comment, especially because your reasons show that you value your mother enough to take the time to list them. Most of your reasons I cannot attribute to my mother; a few I cannot. 'Twould be great if everyone just listed one reason to thank his or her mother. Wish there was a way to back up and write that at the top.


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bravewarrior 13 months ago from Central Florida

Dora, there's a way to set the most recent comments to show at the top. I see many hubbers that set the comment settings that way. However, I've not done it, so it will take some research on your part. Perhaps click on Comment? Maybe the setting is there.


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MsDora 13 months ago from The Caribbean Author

Thank you, Shauna. Anyway, I'm may have already gotten most of the comments I will get, so its late now. Thanks anyway, I will remember that option the next time.


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MartieCoetser 13 months ago from South Africa

MsDorah, this is truly a heart-touching tribute to your mother. You pulled my tears! I, too, was blessed with a wonderful mother like yours.

You can set the way your comments show in the comments-capsule of an unpublished hub, or one you are busy to edit.


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Frank Atanacio 13 months ago from Shelton

MsDora what a wonderful list and I always feel good after reading your hubs.. bless you :)


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MsDora 13 months ago from The Caribbean Author

Thanks, Martie. Happy for you that your mother was a blessing. Our mothers deserve a life-time of gratitude. Will figure out the comment issue.


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MsDora 13 months ago from The Caribbean Author

Frank, that's a sweet thing to say. Thank you so much.


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DDE 13 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

A wonderful tribute to your mother. I learned to appreciate my mother over the years. A strong and willing person in my life. I don't see my mother living so far away. I do miss that time together. Thank you for a lovely thought.


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MsDora 13 months ago from The Caribbean Author

Thanks, Devika, for your comment, sharing about you and your mother. Hope you can see each other soon.


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manatita44 13 months ago from london

Well, what can I say, Dee? You've said it all. I fully support and commend you, and truly appreciate your article. I know that you have your struggles, but you seem to have done this Hub with Love and Joy. So you should, my Sweet, but I believe you knew this.

In terms of your salient points, they were nicely presented and a joy to read. Lots of good wishes to you both. Much Love.


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MsDora 13 months ago from The Caribbean Author

Manatita, welcome back. Thank you for your very kind comment. So glad that you enjoyed the read.


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lifegate 13 months ago from Pleasant Gap, PA

Hi MsDora,

The love and respect you have for your mother shows through in this and several of your other hubs. My natural mother died when I was four years old, but God gave me a replacement. She's in her mid-nineties now, can't see or hear very good, but she is one of God's biggest blessings in my life. There are certainly many reasons to thank her. And thank you for the reminder to do so.


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MsDora 13 months ago from The Caribbean Author

Bill, sorry about the loss of your natural mom, but isn't God good to provide someone to mother you. So happy that the arrangement worked fine for you. Thanks for sharing.


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aviannovice 12 months ago from Stillwater, OK

Your mother is an amazing woman. I can see the determination and fortitude in her proud eyes. She raised you the best way that she knew how, and I am proud to know you a little through your thoughts.


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MsDora 12 months ago from The Caribbean Author

Deb, such precious thoughts! Thank you. I appreciate you.


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Lareene 12 months ago from Atlanta, GA

This is such a wonderful tribute to your mother. The love and the honor is a sweet thing. We that love our mother's beyond words so appreciate this.


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MsDora 12 months ago from The Caribbean Author

Lareene, truly love and mothers go together. What a blessing! Thanks for your comment.


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swalia 12 months ago

Such a befitting tribute!


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MsDora 12 months ago from The Caribbean Author

Thanks, Swalia. Always appreciate your comment.


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Laura335 12 months ago from Pittsburgh, PA

It's nice to read such a positive article once in awhile. I love your mom's hats!


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MsDora 12 months ago from The Caribbean Author

Laura, thanks for noticing the hats. She has a bunch. I appreciate your reading and commenting.


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teaches12345 12 months ago

What a lovely tribute to your mother. I miss my mother but she left me many of the values you list here. You mentioned bus fare which reminded me that I never had to go without lunch money. Somehow, she always had it for me.


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MsDora 12 months ago from The Caribbean Author

Teaches, good mothers are like that. Sometimes they say that they don't have money and then they discover that the child needs something and the money miraculously appears. Thank God for them and thanks to them.


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rajan jolly 8 months ago from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar,INDIA.

What a fine tribute to your mom. A mother's influence on our lives is the most strong and lasting.

A mother's debt, if it can be called one, can never be repaid.


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MsDora 8 months ago from The Caribbean Author

Rajan, I'd call it a debt too, but with the knowledge that is never paid in full, like you suggested. Thanks for the feedback.

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