Advice for parents on grooming children

Had you been to a restaurant lately and your little one rushed out of the door or broke the crockery? Had you been to a party recently and you had to rush home because your kids created a chaos there?? If yes, here is a bit of advice about how you can groom them and avoid embarrassing situations in future.

Educate them

Children should be handled properly and should be educated about everything, they should not be disciplined. I am not talking about school education here,I mean the manners and all we teach them.For example,educate them about how to behave around people, do not discipline them. Disciplining is strong in essence and therefore should be avoided. Educating and guiding them around should be your mindset.

Build patience in them

Patience should be build up in them. Do not rush to pick your child up the minute he/she starts crying, let him learn patience and do not pick him up instantly. Similarly, do not entertain your children at all times. Give them space and let them entertain themselves by letting them play alone with their toys. In this way they will learn to do things themselves and it will also give you time to relax or to complete your chores or do other important work. Also, when they will come in the habit of being on their own, it will be easier for you to go around with them to restaurants or parties instead of avoiding such social gatherings because of the fact that your kids do not behave well. For instance, if you are talking to your friend and your child interrupts you, say to him “Peter I am talking to somebody, I will talk to you after five minutes.” This way your child will learn to wait and it will build patience in him.

Say "NO" with conviction

Moreover, when you say no to them about anything, say it with conviction. Let them know who is the authoritarian figure and to whom the power belongs. If you want to stop your child from going out of the gate of the park, do not shout at him/her but say no with conviction and strength. The expressions of the eyes works wonder in such cases and your child will realize your stare and will eventually learn to obey you when he/she sees your similar expression again. Patience on the part of the parents is important as well. Your child will learn from you, if you are patient then there are a lot more chances your child will be patient as well.

Happy grooming your children!!

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BakingBread-101 4 years ago from Nevada

I disagree somewhat. There is a difference between discipline and punishment. You are disciplining your child when you educate them as to right or wrong choices. They need to learn that wrong choices have consequences and the consequences need to fit the situation. Being disciplined helps a child to understand and make better choices. For example, in my house your room is your room. I would prefer you keep it in a reasonable order; however, it is your room. There are certain rules that must be followed with no exception. If you don't follow those rules, there are consequences. One rule is a clear aisle must be maintained from the door to the bed at all times. This is for safety. If there is an emergency, I don't want anyone tripping over stuff in an effort to get to my child. Consequence for not maintaining the clear aisle is those items are put into time out. My daughter has been following this rule since she was 3 years old and now she is almost 6. Things have only gone into time out a couple of times -- one full day for each year of age that she is -- and she does very well with the rule. Another rule is she can eat one chip before half her sandwich and then she can have more chips. This helps her eat healthier food first. If she breaks the rule, she can't have chips for the time out period. It works because it is an appropriate consequence to the behavior. She learns.

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