Can I help You? - Family Education

This situation usually occurs in a family which does not have good cooperation or relationships among its members. They do not respect one another or they do not have enough opportunities to talk with one another. Each member is busy with their own business.

When I was child my mother said that the key to developing concerns about other people was to train people when they were still young, still with caring and loving parents. The best way to start, she went on to say, was to try to create as many opportunities as possible for getting together to talk and share concerns with one another. The best time for these was at meal times, she concluded.

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In practice, however, it is sometimes very difficult to find good time when all the members of a family can be together. In the morning, when everybody is busy getting ready for their own work or school, it is usually very difficult to have breakfast together. It is worse when each member has different habits. One likes to stay in bed for quite a while after waking up. Another likes to stay up late at night and so usually gets up a bit late. Another likes to have breakfast a bit late because of not feeling hungry early in the morning. Still another does not like even having breakfast. If this is the case, no matter how hard we try to have breakfast together, it will not work.

For example the family In Indonesia, school for children and working parents usually go home at about one o’clock pm. Hopefully they ge home for the sometime.

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However in a family without good arrangements, this does not work, either. One likes to see what film will be on that night and thus goes around downtown, checking all the movies on the way home, without letting the others know that s/he is going to be late for lunch. Another likes to have snacks in the cafetaria and so does not hungry until three o’clock in the afternoon, thus preferring to stay away from home until needing lunch.Still another likes visiting friends after school and so will not get home until too late for lunch. Mothers sometimes quite angry with their children if they do so.

Dinner time seems to be much easier for everybody in the family to arrange. The darkness of night falls right after 6 o’clock in the evening and that drives people to go home as soon as possible. In practice, however, things are not as simple as that. With electricity everywhere, night time has become an even more exciting time for people to stay away from home. Mothers still have difficulty getting everybody in the family to have dinner at the same time.

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Another friend of mine told me about his personal experience in this regard. He had a discussion with all the members of his family, and they came to a consensus that everybody in the family had let the others know when s/he could not come home on time for meals. When one member is late for a meal, another member must be told and give an acceptable reason as well. If not, the other members of the family will wait and be expecting him/her to be home and eat with them, no matter how late s/he is going to be.

In this way the others will be made to suffer because of his/her ignorance. If this happens several times, there is a kind moral pressure, but also only from his/her parents but also from the brother and sister to obey the consensus decision made earlier.

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AliciaC 2 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

This is an interesting article about life in a family and the responsibilities of family members. Family time is very important!


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always exploring 2 years ago from Southern Illinois

Interesting topic. I know it is difficult to have all the family together in this hurry up world but it is important. Great article...


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vocalcoach 2 years ago from Nashville Tn.

Your mother is blessed with wisdom and light. This reflect in you, her son. Thank you for writing about the responsibilities of family life. Voted up and more and sharing. - Audrey


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cinderella14 2 years ago from Philippines

This is a wonderful and timely hub. With the present technological advancement, everyone tends to be so busy that they already forget the importance of being together. In our country, meal time is the best time for the family members to be be together especially during dinner because this is the best time so that each and every one would be able to know what happened during the day.


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Nell Rose 2 years ago from England

Hi pras, interesting article, and yes these days its so difficult for people to get around the table at the same time, as you said what with electricity there is no excuse to come home on time, sadly I think these times have past, great hub pras!


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prasetio30 2 years ago from malang-indonesia Author

Dear, AliciaC. I do agree with you that family is important, especially family time which is too difficult to achieve now. Thanks for coming. Take care!

Prasetio


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prasetio30 2 years ago from malang-indonesia Author

Dear, Ruby (always exploring). Thanks for dropping and sharing your opinion about this topic. I have the same idea with you. Have a good day!


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prasetio30 2 years ago from malang-indonesia Author

My friend, Audrey (vocalcoach). Thanks for your compliment to my mother. She is very strong woman and I really proud of her. Again....thanks for the vote and shared this hub. God bless you!

Prasetio


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prasetio30 2 years ago from malang-indonesia Author

Hi, cinderella14. Welcome to this hub and sharing your thought about how the family gathering is very important as we know that difficult to met family member very often, including the holiday. Because of each family member has their own busyness. Thank you so much for coming. Take care!

Prasetio


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prasetio30 2 years ago from malang-indonesia Author

Dear friend, Nell Rose. Thank you very much for coming. As you said before that gadget like mobile phone have a big role in family, but it's too difficult to contact each family member to come home on time. It wouldn't happened in the past. Maybe, the modern era most of people love something quick and easy, like fast food. So, dinner together with family member is difficult to achieve. Take care!

Prasetio


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denise.w.anderson 2 years ago from Bismarck, North Dakota

When our children were young, time at the table together in the morning and evening brought a great deal of stability to our family. My husband, being a school teacher, was able to order his schedule to make it happen. When our children grew to be teenagers and my husband was a school administrator, things changed. We lived close to the school, and with the activities our children and my husband were involved in, they were rarely home. Our together mealtimes only occurred on the weekends. This was disconcerting to me as a parent, however, it helped me to let go of the apron strings and allow the children to eventually leave home. Family unity changes as the family evolves with the growth and development of children. No matter what stage we are in, though, it takes time and effort to be together as a family. The dividends are priceless.


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dilipchandra12 2 years ago from India

This is so beautiful, the family and love and everyone are together. This environment will give lot of peace and happiness.


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torrilynn 2 years ago

This was great a great hub thanks for the read.


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prasetio30 2 years ago from malang-indonesia Author

Dear, denise.w.anderson. Wow...thank you very much for sharing about your family. I think you have great family among your husband and your children. You still have nice memory about what happened in the past with your family. I mean the dining time when your children were young. It also happened with me. Take care!

Prasetio


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prasetio30 2 years ago from malang-indonesia Author

Thanks, dilipchandra12 for coming to this and sharing your opinion about family. Have a good day!


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prasetio30 2 years ago from malang-indonesia Author

Your welcome, torrilynn. I am glad to know that you love this hub. Take care!


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suzettenaples 2 years ago from Taos, NM

We have the same problem in America. How to get everyone together for a meal is a real challenge. This is such an interesting and thought-provoking hub. I enjoyed reading it. Communication is so important within a family and getting together for at least one meal per day is important. It is good to hear what everyone did that day and to share their experiences together.


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prasetio30 2 years ago from malang-indonesia Author

Dear, suzettenaples. Thank you very much for coming and sharing your opinion about difficulty to united the family member in dining table. I do agree with you that communication is so important within a family, where we can share each other and each family member telling about their activity during the day. Have a good day!


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aviannovice 24 months ago from Stillwater, OK

It is best if the family gets to eat together. It is a time to learn more about each other, and to support the family.


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prasetio30 24 months ago from malang-indonesia Author

My friend, aviannovice. Thanks for coming and I totally agree with you that one of the best moment for the family is meal time. Take care and have a good day!

Prasetio

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