How can we stop bullying?
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This hub is not intended to offend anyone, but I think we need to look in our collective mirrors to find some of the real answers to this question.
I am convinced that bullying (online and offline -- children and adults alike) has its roots in the fundamental foundations we adults and parents give to our children as they are growing up...in their "formative years". In addition, our "acceptance" (or ignorance) of many of the harsh and ugly entertainment venues with over-the-top violence, blood and guts, hatred, sex, crime, war, and very obvious bullying behaviors and attitudes...and numerous other "negative behaviors and attitudes"...is not helping our kids get very positive messages.
We would not, as good parents and good citizens, purposely teach such ugliness to our children, but in our busy-ness of life and all that takes our attention and energy we seem to lose sight of the importance of giving them that solid and enduring foundation which helps them develop sound moral concepts and understanding. We let them feed on these things and expect them not to be affected by them. If we continue that, we will continue to see behaviors like we are seeing now...and probably even worse.
Parents under pressure
Parenting today is clearly a struggle; and current economic pressures all but require full-time incomes from both parents. Many (or most?) parents have to work outside the home, so children are essentially reared by others, even in the very earliest months of life, in most cases. Maternal and paternal laws do not allow a great deal of parenting to be done before parents must return to the workplace. Thus, the children must be reared by the "systems" now in place for such child care. Those operating such systems might not have the time, skills or even the impetus, to teach other peoples' kids some of the most basic and acceptable morals, attitudes and behaviors.
I fully expect that parents will soon be held "rigidly accountable" for their children's behaviors; at least while they are still minors. Indeed, it might even be that parents will be held accountable even after the children 'come of legal age'...after all, much of our adult behavior is rooted in some of our earliest childhood learning, isn't it? If parents cannot do a good enough job of rearing their offspring, rules will be made to restrict and regulate parenthood...it's bound to happen if something isn't done to curb the waves of violence, hatred, "in-your-face" arrogance, vengeance/revenge, and other negativity that seems to be all around us.
What to do?
Where are our leaders when it comes time to look harder at and legislate these negative influences? They leave such decisions up to the parents, who, as we've already discussed, end up passing their children over to the daycare providers, teachers, and others.
The law-makers say they cannot restrict "freedom of expression" because the Constitution guarantees that; but when that freedom of expression is promoting and otherwise encouraging or influencing vulnerable minds in such negative ways, it needs to be controlled, in my opinion.
I encourage you to use the link provided below to contact your government representatives (U.S.), to let them know how you feel, and what you think they should do to help.