Children From Small Families Have More Superior Social and Cultural Skills Than Children From Large Families
By Participating in Varied Cultural and Intellectual Activities, Children From Small Families Have Skills That Children From Large Families Lack
There is a prevailing myth that children from large families learn social and interaction skills that children from small families do not. Well, this is a falsehood and has no basis in reality! Children from small families have the same and/or even better social skills than children from large families. I shall elaborate on the reasons why.
In small families, there are more economic resources allotted for each child than there is for large families where economic resources are stretched to the limit. Because there are more economic resources in a small family, children are exposed to varied cultural and intellectual activities such as dancing school, music lessons, foreign travel, trips to museums, and other cultural activities where they interface with more different kinds of people. Association with different types of adults and children educate children from small families thus making them very culturally aware and savvy.
Children from small families interact with their parents more so than children from large families. As a result of this individualized interaction with adults, children from small families acquire advanced knowledge from adults because adults have vastly more experience and knowledge than a sibling does. Sociologists and psychologists steadfastly maintain that children from large families do not have the intellectual acumen/awareness that children from small families have because they are constantly interacting with one sibling or another but not parents. This is very apparent if you observe the difference between a child from a small family and a large family. Children from small families have larger and more advanced vocabularies whereas children from large families often have more elementary and rudimentary vocabularies.
Children from small families talk to adults even outside the familial circle more than children from large families who are more comfortable interfacing only with other children. For example, as an only child, I communicated with other adults besides my parents and relatives. In fact, many of my childhood friends were adults. I gained immense knowledge from these interactions. In fact, these interactions broadened my outlook in life and made me mature at a young age.
To not digress, I remember my mother, who was one of ten children, telling me that she learned more from same age peers than from her parents. My mother further maintained that it was a slightly older cousin who taught her about life. This confirms why children from large families develop slower than children from small families. In the large family, there is little or no parental interaction with their children. Children raising each other in large families is a commonplace occurrence.
Children in large families are usually either poor or impoverished so they did not participate in cultural and intellectual activities. As a result of this, children in large families do not interface with different types of people. Because of the aforementioned, they often become very insular and parochial in outlook as they only have themselves to keep company. Furthermore, in homes of large families, there are few, if any, books, educational, and other cultural paraphernalia to stimulate children's minds and curiosity.
Because of better economic conditions and more exposure to more varied and different types of people through participation in cultural and intellectual activities, children from small families develop superior social and interaction skills. When children travel, they receive an education through different cultures, foods, and people. This makes for a high intellectual and cultural level attainment. Children from small families are also more mature in their relationships with other children than children from large families.
Children from small families because of their small family size easily reach out to other people and have truer friendships. From mine and other people' childhood experiences, children from small families do not engage in petty and vicious behaviors with other children. They also do not indulge in upmanship with their playmates and friends. Children from large families are fiercely competitive and territorial because they had no space and no privacy. Furthermore, children from large families seldom had parents giving them individualized attention so they react by exercising upmanship among their playmates. Children from large families are often more contentious in their relationships with playmates and peers than children from small families because of the same aforementioned reasons.
Children from small families are noncompetitive and have a live and let live attitude because they do not always have to fight for space and to be recognized like children from large families do. Children in small families often have more time in addition to monetary access to participate in extracurricular and related activities than children from large families who often had to work after school either to provide things for themselves and/or supplement the family income and to care for siblings. Children from large families do not participate in such activities because of familial responsibilities. Children who regularly participate in extracurricular and school-related activities develop social skills which help them in later life.
To summarize, children raised in small families have the same or often superior social skills than children from large families. There is more money allotted in small families than it is in large families. More money means more participation in cultural and intellectual activities such as foreign travel, dancing/music classes, going to foreign restaurants, going to museums, and attending other cultural recitals.
When children do these things, they are exposed to many different types of people, learn new and different lifestyles, and hone their social skills. As a result of a child participating in such activities, he/she develops an international and universal consciousness and know how to interact with different types of people. As the saying goes, traveling is an education in itself.
On the other hand, children from large families are insular and parochial in outlook because they only socialize among themselves. Children from large families seldom have friends or have a need for friends. Everything they learn is from each other. Because economic resources are very tight in large families, they do not have the opportunity to participate in cultural and intellectual activities thus they do not come into contact with different types of people outside of their school environment.
Children from small families have more time to participate in extracurricular and other outside school related activities which further hones social and interaction skills. Children from large families do not participate in such activities because of familial obligations such as an after school job to financially help their parents, daily household chores, and caring for their siblings. In conclusion, having siblings is very inconsequential in developing social skills and anyone who states this is being medieval and atavistic to say the least. Parents need not have a conglomeration of children in order for them to learn social skills.
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© 2011 Grace Marguerite Williams
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