Children Pre-School Age Separation Anxiety

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Separation Anxiety when Starting Pre-School

It is natural for a preschool child to feel anxious when they are left in a new environment without mommy or daddy, which is referred to as separation anxiety. After all, starting preschool is a big step for a child particularly if the child has not been out of the home very often or spent time with a relative. They often don’t want to say goodbye, and they will cry. Clingyness, crying or tantrums are considered healthy reactions to separation in the early years. They may stop and then start again up until the child is 4 years old.

This is not abnormal, but just a stage in a child’s development which can indicate a healthy attachment with their parents. It means that a strong, loving bond exists between you and your child. Most children stop crying 3-4 minutes after the parent leaves. As a parent it can be a little heart wrenching. but fortunately most children outgrow this reaction quickly once they adapt to daycare or kindergarten. The separation anxiety can vary greatly from one child to another. Some children are more clingy and irritable than others, and they may have a more difficult time adapting to a change in their daily routine. This doesn't mean the child will have problems later in life. It just requires a little more effort on the part of the parent. Staying patient and being consistent by gently setting firm limits is important.

Ease the Transition

There are several things you can do to ease the transition for your child from home to preschool.

  • Before your child starts class take them to visit the school to see the classroom and to meet the teacher.
  • If possible have a play day with one or more of the children that will attend their class because they will be happy to see their friend again.
  • Give your child a lot of reassurance that Mommy or Daddy are coming back.
  • Give them a comforting object like a teddy bear or favorite blanket to take with them. Also you can take a favorite book that the teacher can read to them. If they have a backpack you can put a small family picture in the pack.
  • Keep your goodbyes short and you might use a special little wave or quick kiss to develop a positive routine of dropping them off. If you are anxious and hover around your child will sense the anxiety and react.
  • Don’t sneak out as you want your child to know they can trust you.
  • It is also important to not let children watch scary shows on TV as they have vivid imaginations and these can trigger anxiety or nightmares.
  • Never bribe or bargain your child to behave. Children have to be allowed to have their own feelings to become a little more independent.


Methods of Easing the Transition

You must be clear with the message that they are expected to attend school no matter how much they fuss, cry or stamp their feet. Never take them home because they are acting out. Boundaries are important for children and actually promote a safe atmosphere for them to grow.

Once they start school, invite children over to play from their class which will ease the transition to making new friends.

Have your spouse or another family member drop them off or pick them up occasionally, or maybe you can pick up one of their classmates to take to school also which should help with the difficult goodbyes.

Discuss problems with the teacher in the morning as necessary but save more interactive questions for after school.

Involve the teacher if your child is having difficulty making the transition.

Don’t be surprised if you think you have resolved the problem then after a few vacation days it returns, but usually just briefly.

Believe that your child has the ability to make this positive change.

Anxiety Disorders in Children and Teens

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Separation Anxiety vs Separation Anxiety Disorder

Many of the same characteristics are shared by Separation anxiety disorder and normal separation so it can be difficult to determine if your child just needs time to adjust or if there is a more serious concern. The main difference between these reactions are the intensity of your child’s fears and if these fears keep them from normal activities.

Some children experience separation anxiety that doesn’t go away even when the parent is doing everything right. There is a continuation or constant re-occurrence of intense separation anxiety during elementary school years and it can even go beyond.

Separation anxiety disorder is not a normal stage of development, but a more serious emotional problem. The child experiences extreme distress even when they just think about being left somewhere away from home without their normal caregiver. In separation anxiety disorder the child’s fears limit their ability to engage in a normal life.

Symtoms of Separation Anxiety

These children feel constantly worried or fearful about separation and are overwhelmed with one or more of the following scenarios:

  • They have fear that something will happen to a loved one. For example, they may constantly worry that their parent may become hurt or sick.
  • They may worry that some unpredictable event will lead to a permanent separation. These children may worry about getting lost or kidnapped.
  • These children also have nightmares about separation. They have scary dreams about their fears.

Common symptoms of separation anxiety disorder that interferes with a child’s normal routine:

  • They may refuse to go to school. A child with this disorder may have an unreasonable fear of school and will do anything to stay at home.
  • They may have difficulty going to sleep. They can become insomniacs, either due to the fear of being alone or due to nightmares about separation.
  • Complaining of physical illness, like a headache or tummy ache is common.
  • These children may cling to the caregiver by shadowing you around the house or clinging to your arm or leg if you attempt to go somewhere.

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Common Causes of Separation Anxiety Disorder

What are the common causes of separation anxiety disorder? The child feels unsafe in some way. Try to figure out what caused your child to develop this fear. If you can pinpoint an event that caused them to feel threatened, then you are a step closer to helping them gain victory over their anxiety.

Some common causes of separation anxiety disorder:

  • Changes in environment are a common cause of stress in a child. For example; a new home, a new school or daycare, constant bickering between a husband and wife observed by the child, or divorce can cause a great deal of stress.
  • Stressful situation like switching schools or the loss of a loved one, including a pet, can trigger this disorder.
  • Over protective parents may cause this disorder where the anxiety of the parents is perceived by the child.

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Tips for Dealing with the Disorder

If this disorder happens overnight then it may be related to a traumatic experience rather than separation anxiety.

The best way to help your child is to create a very stable, sympathetic environment at home which will make you child more comfortable and able to cope better with school.

Some other tips for dealing with separation anxiety disorder:

  • It is important to educate yourself about the disorder as you will understand how you child experiences these feelings and you can easily sympathize with their struggles.
  • It is very important to listen to your child’s feelings. Whether they are valid is irrelevant as they are real to them. This way the child won’t feel isolated and it can have a powerful healing effect.
  • Talk about the issues. Be empathetic but remind your child that they survived the last separation.
  • Look ahead to anticipate transition points that may aggravate this problem, such as going to a new school or meeting with new friends to play. If you child separates from one parent more easily than the other, let that parent drop the child off if possible.
  • Encourage your child to participate in healthy social and physical activities.
  • If you child has been absent due to illness return them to school as soon as possible after they regain their health.
  • Always praise your child’s efforts, even the smallest accomplishments from going to bed on time to a good report card.

When to Seek Professional Help

Since children with anxious parents tend to get this disorder more readily, make sure your are making healthy choices, such as, talking about your problems, eating healthy, exercising, getting enough sleep and practice relaxation or meditation techniques.

If your child has separation anxiety disorder and you have tried everything to help them overcome the disorder, but no progress has been made then it is time to seek some professional help.

The disorder can be diagnosed by a professional and there are several types of treatment that are usually effective.

  • Talk therapy: a safe place for your child to express his feelings with someone that is empathetic that can guide your child toward understanding his or her anxiety.
  • Play therapy: play or coloring is a common way for the child to express their feelings.
  • Counseling for the family: family counseling can help your child interact with the thoughts that cause his or her anxiety while you as the parents can help your child with coping skills.
  • Medication: used in severe cases but only in conjunction with other therapy.

Conclusion

Most small children have some anxiety when starting school or even going to places they are not familiar with, and this is healthy and normal. Following the suggestions listed above for the common symptoms of separation anxiety disorder will probably help your child to outgrow the problem. For those situations that require intervention it is a good idea to do this while your child is young, as problems left untreated until the child reaches their teens are much more difficult to treat and have a positive outcome.

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Have you had a problem with separation anxiety with any of your children?

  • Yes, My child had mild separation anxiety but they outgrew it quickly.
  • We had more of a problem with our child's anxiety but it resolved over time.
  • Our child had full separation anxiety disorder and we got intervention.
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ecoggins 6 years ago from Corona, California

This is excellent information. My wife runs a kinder-readiness program at one of the local elementary schools as well as the toddlers class at our local church. She deals with this issue a lot and would agree that the parents need to lovingly stick to their guns and not give in when the children fuss and cry. You give many other good practical suggestions as well.


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Tom Whitworth 6 years ago from Moundsville, WV

Pamela,

You have done a good public service by publishing this Hub. It full of very useful information that's important to normal development to every child. Thank you for this info!!!!!!!!!


"Quill" 6 years ago

Wonderful information for young families as they go through this transition. Very well put together and of course well presented.

Hugs and Blessings


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carolina muscle 6 years ago from Charlotte, North Carolina

Some great info here... parenting ain't easy, and good information on the topic is hard to find... nice job!!


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zzron 6 years ago from Houston, TX.

Very informative Pamela, great hub.


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Pamela99 6 years ago from United States Author

Ecoggins, Your wife definitely has her hands full but she must be wonderful with children. Thanks so much for your comments.

Tom, I agree that it is important for normal development. I very much appreciate your comments.

Quill, It isn't easy being new parents and I hoped this would be a good reference hub for families that are struggling. Thanks for your comments.

Chris, No, it isn't easy being a parent. I had 3 boys and there were challenges but they all grew up just fine. Thanks for your comment.

zzron, Thanks you for your comments.


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prettydarkhorse 6 years ago from US

Hi Pam, Good job, now this is very timely for the school will open soon again. I remember my oldest son, he had separation anxiety, but he finally passed that stage. Very helpful hub and well done, Maita


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Pamela99 6 years ago from United States Author

Miata, One of my sons did also but it passed quickly thank goodness. Thanks for your comments.


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DiamondRN 6 years ago from Charlotte, NC USA

My youngest son Doug just hopped on the bus on his first day in preschool; apparently eager for his next adventure. My wife was crushed because he never even looked back or gave her a wave.


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Hello, hello, 6 years ago from London, UK

You have done a great job here with your good advice. Thank you.


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Pamela99 6 years ago from United States Author

DiamondRN, Some children have the confidence to step out for a new adventure. Thanks for sharing your experience.

Hello, Thanks so much for your comments.


Wife Who Saves 6 years ago

This is a wonderful hub filled with good information. And, you are correct, let the child know from the first day that it is his obligation to go to school every day. He will adjust much faster and make friends sooner.


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JY3502 6 years ago from Florence, South Carolina

Very, very good Pam!


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Support Med. 6 years ago from Michigan

Some children just need that little extra encouragement. I did not experience this with either of my children. I was the one with anxiety symptoms, LOL!! Voted/rated.


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vrajavala 6 years ago from Port St. Lucie

We have a daycare here and the children love to come and play with the other kids. VPK is a good experience for children, too.

When we have some crying, we usually bring the child to some kind of activity we know they like, or give them something to eat.


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Pamela99 6 years ago from United States Author

Wife who Saves, Thanks you so much for your comments.

JY, Thank your for your comment.

Support Med, I admit to a bit of anxiety at that time too but as they quickly adjusted I was fine. Thank for your comments.

vrajavala, You obviously are good at handling this children. Thanks for the comment.


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Roberta99 6 years ago

Great Hub. Very well written.


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Pamela99 6 years ago from United States Author

Roberta, Thanks so much for your comment.


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Smireles 6 years ago from Texas

What a great hub filled with useful and necessary information for young parents. Great job, Pamela99! Voted up.


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G L Strout 6 years ago from Ohio, USA

I have children at the other end of the spectrum: grown up. My anxiety is that they WON'T separate!!!


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Pamela99 6 years ago from United States Author

Smireles, Thank you so much for your comments. I've missed you lately.

G L Strout, I think a lot of parents are feeling that anxiety these days. Thanks for sharing a comment.


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habee 6 years ago from Georgia

My granndaughter just started pre-k. For the first few days, she cried when her mom left her. Since, however, she's been fine. Great info!


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Pamela99 6 years ago from United States Author

Habee, I think that is the way it is with most children. Thanks for your comment.


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akirchner 6 years ago from Central Oregon

I was so fortunate that mine just wanted to go to school all the time! I'm not sure what I would have done if they'd been terrified but I'm sure I'd have coped. Great information, Pamela.


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katiem2 6 years ago from I'm outta here

Oh this can be the hardest time for parents, I had a really tough time walking away from my very attached baby, but in the end it was the best thing for both of us. Great tips and guidance here at Children Pre-School Age Separation Anxiety


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wordsscriber 6 years ago from California

Pamela99 preschool seperation anxiety great suggesstions. This could be a traumatic experience for the little ones if not handled properly.


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dallas93444 6 years ago from Bakersfield, CA

Good advice and timely. Thanks for sharing!


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Pamela99 6 years ago from United States Author

Audry, Thanks so much for your comments.

Katiem, It it tough on parents. I had a hard time with one of mine but luckily it didn't last too long. He would cry and I'd leave with tears in my eyes too. Thanks for your comment.

wordsscriber, It is so important to handle it right and ease them into the change. Thanks so much for your comment.

Dallas, Thank your so much for your comment.


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Teddletonmr 6 years ago from Midwest USA

Your hub, Children Pre-School Age Separation Anxiety, really hit home for me.

Our three year old little girl Molly just started preschool.

Having spent the last three years at home, with dear old dad, that's me. The separation anxiety in our household was as much mine as Molly's. She shed a few tears when wy wife left here at her big girl school, and I spent the whole day walking from one room to another looking for her.


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Pamela99 6 years ago from United States Author

Teddletonmr, Thank you so much for sharing your experience. I didn't mention the stress for the patients but I left dropping them off with tears in my eyes also. A good healthy loving bond with our children is healthy. I bet your daughter is adorable. Thanks again.


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dawnM 6 years ago from THOUSAND OAKS

great informative hub! Both of my children had a problem going to pre-school as most kids do and it was hard for me to let them go, but what you stated about showing them the school, teachers even play dates with friends before hand can help. short days are also best for little ones. I put my daughter in at two and a half, but my son started at three because I just knew being his mom that he was not quite ready for pre-school. Each child is different.


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Pamela99 6 years ago from United States Author

Dawn, This is so true about each child being different and often girls will mature a little faster when they are young. Thanks for your comments.


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kingkhan78 6 years ago

great article about children school education thanks for sharing


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Pamela99 6 years ago from United States Author

kingham, I'm glad you enjoyed the article and I appreciate your comments.


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K9keystrokes 6 years ago from Northern, California

Children Pre-School Age Separation Anxiety, what a wonderful bit of information. Really cool advice. You always have such interesting hubs Pam!

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Pamela99 6 years ago from United States Author

K9keystrokes, I am glad you enjoyed the hub. Thank your for the comment.


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ladyjane1 6 years ago from Texas

Wow Pamela your wealth of knowledge is outstanding and I cannot keep up with your hubtivity...you go girl. Great hub, cheers.


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Pamela99 6 years ago from United States Author

Ladyjane, I just enjoy doing research. Thank you so much for your comments.


Artoflegendindia 6 years ago

Nice hub. thank you for sharing your knowledge.


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Pamela99 6 years ago from United States Author

Artoglegendindia, Thank you for your comment.


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_cheryl_ 6 years ago from California

Hi Pamela99, this is great information. My youngest who's 3 is dealing with this right now. My older two weren't too bad and more independent about actually going and being dropped off at school. My son now will cry and scream for about 10-15 minutes straight until teachers bring him back out to me. Luckily I'm taking him to a 1hr session every morning so it's not that bad. I was able to stay in the class with him today, but have mixed feelings about it. I'll have to go with what works for now I guess. Thanks for all your info!


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Pamela99 6 years ago from United States Author

Cheryl, Children are all different but your mother's instinct will tell you what to do. Thanks so much for your comment.


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writinggoddes 6 years ago from Ohio

Loved this it was very well thought out and put together as well as including helpful ways to help your child adjust from staying at home with mom and dad to going into preschool.


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Pamela99 6 years ago from United States Author

writinggoddes, Thank you so much for your remarks.


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EmmaMedu 6 years ago

This is great article, I find it very useful. I'm about to go through something like this very soon and, to be honest, I'm worried how the things will go. But, aren't all parents??

Anyway, good to know that all you described is normal and expected, the only thing wee need to do is emotionally go through the process of separation, which is as hard for the parents as it is for the children.


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Pamela99 6 years ago from United States Author

EmmaMedu, It is as hard for the parents as I remember well. Thanks for your comment.


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Pamela Kinnaird W 6 years ago from Maui and Arizona

What a fantastic job you've done on this hub. So much research and information. Reading it gave me insights I wish I'd had 30 years ago when my children were starting school. I know this hub will be very helpful to many people.


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Pamela99 6 years ago from United States Author

Pamela, I wish I'd known this about thirty years also. Thank you so much for your comments.


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nancy_30 6 years ago from Georgia

Great hub with really useful information. My daughter will start kindergarten next year. She loves to learn so I'm hoping I won't have any problems.


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Pamela99 6 years ago from United States Author

Nancy, I'll bet she will adjust well as long as you do. It's hard to let them go. Thank you so much for your comment.


scholarshipsformo 6 years ago from California

Thanks for sharing your info with this hub. Great job by the way.


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scholarshipsformo, Thank you so much for your comment.


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HealthyHanna 5 years ago from Utah

This is a subject that is dear to my heart. I love little children and I am convinced we don't take their fears serious enough. Remember, some children have anxiety and some don't. I don't know why, but it is something we need to be aware of and understand when needed.


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Pamela99 5 years ago from United States Author

Healthy Hanna, Thanks so much for sharing your concerns as I feel the same way. I appreciate your comment.


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mrsbudryzer 5 years ago from Jersey Shore

This is excellent. My daughter suffers from separation anxiety and I've done lots of research...you touched on everything that I've read. Great job! This is an issue we still struggle with. She'll be 8 next week and it still has good days and bad. But, we make it through. I made it clear to her that she HAS to go to school. Every once in a while I still have to give her that pep talk. That's the one thing that seemed to help her the most. Mommy has to go to work and Emily has to go to school so she can learn how to be like Mommy. :)


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Pamela99 5 years ago from United States Author

mrsbudryzer, It sounds like you are being loving but firm and consistent which is probably the best thing. I'm glad to know that my hub covered the major factors since you have experienced them. I appreciate your comments.


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Sun-Girl 5 years ago from Nigeria

A fascinating article which i found to be an interesting and very informative one,am bookmarking this very one and lots of thanks for the information.


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Pamela99 5 years ago from United States Author

Sun-girl, I am glad you found this hub helpful and I appreciate your comments.


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howcurecancer 5 years ago

One vote up. And one AWESOME from me!


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Pamela99 5 years ago from United States Author

howcurecancer, Thank you so much for your comment.


laura19888 5 years ago

very useful information :)


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Pamela99 5 years ago from United States Author

Laura, Thank you for your comment.


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Stone Gifts 5 years ago from London

Thanks for your hub, was very interesting to read, taking into consideration that my daughter will start pre-school in the nearest future.


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Pamela99 5 years ago from United States Author

Stone Gifts, I hope it will be helpful. I remember what that felt like as a parent as it is definite a step up. Thanks for your comment.


kidsuniverse 5 years ago

Thanks for sharing such a wonderful tip. New couples really benefited with this topic, as we have faced the same problems. Keep it up.


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Pamela99 5 years ago from United States Author

kidsuniverse, Yes, I remember facing these problems and my goal is to help new parents. Thank you so much for your comments.


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teaches12345 4 years ago

You have covered all the frequently asked questions regarding this topic and answered them quite well. Highly recommend this to all parents with young children. As a former child care director I talked with many parents about how to handle separation anxiety and your hub is one I would recommend reading. Voted up!


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Pamela99 4 years ago from United States Author

teaches12345, I think this is an important topic for young parents with questions. Thank you for all your kind comments.


Priya 4 years ago

i liked this....my daughter is jus 3years and 8 months. she cries hard to go to her nursery...i have tried all possible ways to keep her calm. but in vain:-(


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Pamela99 4 years ago from United States Author

Priya, It is a big adjustment at that age. Sometimes the little children cry until just after we drop them off and then start to play. I hope that is the case and she will outgrow this phase. It is hard to leave them crying as I had to do that for a while also. I appreciate your sharing this problem and wish I had more answers.


Holly 4 years ago

I am having major issues with my 5 year old Kindergartner. He will hold on to me in the morning when I drop him off. It is very stressful for me to deal with. It has only been five days. I have been following your advice, just wanted to know how long it usually takes for them to grow out of it.


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TeachableMoments 4 years ago from California

Excellent Hub!! I voted up, beautiful and interesting. As an early educator for the last 13 years and a mother of a five year old, I can't stress enough the importance of educating FAMILIES when it comes to separation anxiety. You did it brilliantly and I'm planning on sharing this useful information, I love how you structured the hub, for my families at school. With a new school year starting soon it's important to make the transition easier for the child and the family as a whole. Bravo!!


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Pamela99 4 years ago from United States Author

Holly, I think it is different for different children. I am no expert but I do know it takes consistency on your part and I think he will become used to the routine fairly soon. You might try offering him some little reward to get after school if he doesn't cry when you drop him off. I had this situation with one of my boys and it is heart wrenching to leave them crying. He did get better but I don't remember exactly how long it took for that to happen. I wish you the best and hope the situation improves very soon.

TeachableMoments, I am so glad this hub might be useful for families that are dealing with this difficult. I very much appreciate your comments.


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Pamela99 3 years ago from United States Author

Angela, I think most mothers really worry about their children's safety these days. It sounds like you have made a wise choice. Thank your for your comments.


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida

Excellent, excellent suggestions, Pamela. And they are also good for those children entering kindergarten even some who have been in preschool. Some children need a quick good bye and then the child will settle in nicely.

My last two years as a teacher I was the teacher of kindergarten children. (I had taught middle school most of my career and then transitioned to elementary which I loved as much as middle school.) The first year in kindergarten I had a parent who came to the classroom the first day which was fine except little Jonnie cried and cried and it was the wailing crying. She left and returned the next morning with him (the rule was that they came only the first day but she ignored the policy. I asked her please to not come again the next morning as it only left him very upset. After she was gone a very few minutes he was fine...it was that initial separation you speak of. Well, she did come the third day and I spoke with the principal. He asked her to drop him off at the front of the school just like all of the other children. Guess what?? No more tears.

So this is appropriate reading for all parents/caregivers with little ones. I know it is hard to see your little one cry but it really does not last and the kidoes are just fine.

Voted up, shared, and pinned Angels are winging their way to you this morning ps


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Pamela99 3 years ago from United States Author

Patricia, You have really had the experience that proves the point. I remember how hard it was to take my 3 boys to school that fist day or two and I didn't know as much then as I do now. We all survived however, and I am so glad my granddaughter is in her last year of college to be an elementary school teacher for the younger ones.

Thanks so much for your comments.and of course, the angels. Sending many anges back to you!


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rose-the planner 3 years ago from Toronto, Ontario-Canada

Wow, a very interesting and insightful article on children pre-school age anxiety! You have some excellent information and useful tips. A former colleague of mine had a lot of issues with her little guy and his separation anxiety issues. It was pretty rough, unfortunately. Thank you for sharing. (Voted Up) -Rose


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Pamela99 3 years ago from United States Author

Rose, It certainly can be a big problem, and it is so hard for the parent I think. Hope your friend and child are doing better. Thanks for your comments.


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DDE 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

The first day of my son's preschool was tough on me but for him it was such a happy day. Interesting hub and so well thought of about Children Pre-School Age Separation Anxiety. You have thought about an excellent hub. A useful, and helpful hub to parents


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Pamela99 3 years ago from United States Author

DDE, I am glad your son had a happy day. I appreciate your comments very much.

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