Confident children

Today’s children are more confident than their parents. I attended my children’s school day recently. The school is situated in a remote village of India. But it has around 4000 children studying from lower kindergarten to class twelve. The medium of instruction of the school is English and they have children from different parts of India. They also have boarding facilities.

Children from various classes presented a variety of cultural items. The whole show was run by the students. There were skits depicting moral values, different dance forms, songs, drama etc. It was a feast to the eye of parents and guests who attended the function. I am sure various other schools in other parts of the country and abroad do the same thing.

I searched the memory for my primary school. My first school was also situated in a remote village. I remember my school next to the woods (not very dense though). The woods spread across acres of land and was filled with tall trees like teak, banyan etc. There were also small shrubs covered with red coloured berries. Our attraction for going to school was to pluck those berries. They tasted heavenly. Now a days such woods have reduced in number, forget about berries. Most of our time was spent in playing or exploring the nearby forest. No one seemed to bother so much about our safety or about our learning. There was not much of attention and guidance given to us as children.

What could be the reason for increased confidence in present day children?

Present day children are exposed to many things at a very tender age. They get better schooling and of course better guidance from parents.

School: Private schools compete each other to get students and as a way to attract good students, they offer many facilities. My children’s school has a very big library with quite a good number of books. It also has well equipped computer, physics, chemistry and biology labs. The school gives extra coaching for basketball, table tennis, athletics etc. It also conducts speaker’s club and science club on Saturdays. One good thing about the school I appreciate is that while encouraging co-curricular activities, they don’t ignore the lessons.

Parents’ role

Parents’ role in building confidence of the children is exceptional. The way we talk to the child, for example, is very important. If we respect the child while talking to him, he will grow confident and learn to respect others. Parents who encourage them to participate in co –curricular activities and prepare them to face success and failures equally are actually preparing them for life.

Television and Internet: I remember watching television for the first time when I was 26 years old, whereas my children know television as part of life from child hood. Children also have access to internet at a younger age. They take the help of internet for doing assignments in school.

Extracurricular activities

Children’s confidence is improved by attending regular co –curricular activites. In this part of the country, girls are sent for lessons in Bharathanatyam and Carnatic music lessons from a very young age. That definitely helps them to overcome stage fear, recognise self-worth and teaches them to mingle and communicate with others. Children are also influenced by their peers and their confidence to interact with the opposite gender increases due to supervised group activities.

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thumbi7 3 years ago from India Author

Hi Au fait

Thanks for that wonderful comment

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Au fait 3 years ago from North Texas

Children should definitely be involved in activities that help them become socialized. As you know I home schooled my own daughter and more than a million children in the U.S. are now home schooled. There are many ways for children to learn how to get along and work with others while building confidence and self esteem at the same time. It's important to get children involved and help them develop a sense of responsibility towards the community as well as their family.

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thumbi7 4 years ago from India Author

Hi shampa sadhya

Thanks for those wonderful words

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shampa sadhya 4 years ago from NEW DELHI, INDIA

Voted up and beautiful!

I completely agree with you on every aspect of this article. It's true that today's children are far more ahead of us and that poses a great challenge to every parent. Naturally, confidence is the key word. Thanks to the education system, exposure as well as the change in the thought process of the present day parents.

Loved your article and sharing!

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V Kumar 4 years ago

Nice Hub. Very useful too. Grat share.

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thumbi7 4 years ago from India Author

Hi Jennifer Madison

I am happy that you liked this article.

Thanks for the visit:)

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Jennifer Madison 4 years ago from Lohmar

Wow, I am impressed, I loved the cultural insights and your findings on confident children, great job!

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thumbi7 4 years ago from India Author

As a teacher you are the best person to comment on this hub.

Inspiring, motivating and providing a conducive environment improve the learning of school children.

Thanks for sharing

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Brett.Tesol 4 years ago from Thailand

Good hub and nice pics. The school system has changed a lot, from a time of lecturing, to a time of inspiring and motivating.

Thanks for SHARING, up and interesting.

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thumbi7 4 years ago from India Author

Hi vasmenon,

Close attention is required in the beginning years to shape their character and to slowly make them independent.

Family and school play equal role in this

Thanks for the visit.

Thanks for the visit.

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vasmenon 4 years ago from India

Thumbi7, another great hub. I was on the look our for a play school for my 3 year old, and have almost finalised it, and was starting to write a hub on it!!!...your hub is a great pointer selecting the right exposure today's children need...thanks for the wonderful read.

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thumbi7 4 years ago from India Author

Hi jpcmc,

You are right about helping the child to discover his /her capabilities.

Unknowingly we tend to impose our likes and dislikes on them and that suppresses their growth.

Thanks for the visit

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jpcmc 4 years ago from Quezon CIty, Phlippines

I beleive that confidence starts at home. Providing the most appropriate experiences, exposing to different activities and more importantly helping the child discover his/her capabilities. Parents truly have a mahor role in this.

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thumbi7 4 years ago from India Author


Thanks for sharing this hub:)

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Deepunetfish 4 years ago

very informative, let me follow those tips, voted up and sharing in twitter

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thumbi7 4 years ago from India Author

Hi Kannan

I dont' know whether I am a great mom. But I encourage my children to learn our traditional arts, pay attention to their studies and am trying to make them responsible by making them involved in household chores etc.

Thanks for the visit:)

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kannanwrites 4 years ago from Mumbai

Agreed that extracurricular activities make a child more confident. Sure, all parents must actively encourage it.

Also, I'm sure you're a great mom.

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thumbi7 4 years ago from India Author

Hi creativelycc

Todays children are much more advanced than us, their parents because of exposure to different kinds of opportunities from a tender age.

Thanks for the visit:)

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creativelycc 4 years ago from Maine

Great article for parents of young children to read. Children have so much more availabe in terms of modern technology to facilitate their learning and confidence.

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thumbi7 5 years ago from India Author


Fellow Mumbaite,

I am glad that you have come again and for your genuine concern about nature

Thanks for the compliment.

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Fellow Mumbaite 5 years ago from India

Yes you are right and sorry to hear about that..I hope this thing stops somehow, or the kids and their kids won't have anything left which can be called nature for themselves...Nice article by the way:)

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thumbi7 5 years ago from India Author

Hi Ruchira,

Thank you for validating this hub.

Todays children are exposed to various opportunities at a tender age. If there is proper guidance from parents, thay can accomplish a lot in life.

Thankyou for the visit.

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thumbi7 5 years ago from India Author

@Fellow Mumbaite

The green cover is fast getting depleted here as well.

People are busy constructing something or the other always and cutting trees.

Thank you very much for the visit.

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Fellow Mumbaite 5 years ago from India

Nice hub..Felt good reading it, especially about the school location. Sounds beautiful, would love to visit such places sometimes. Can't see anything as such in the concrete jungle of Mumbai

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Ruchira 5 years ago from United States

Hi Thumbi7,

I agree that today's kids are more confident and better speakers than what we used to be at their age...

Thanks to media and so much they get exposed to at such a tender age :)

Good pointers indeed and I agree with all of them!

voted up as useful. Sharing this hub amongst my followers :)

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thumbi7 5 years ago from India Author


I feel previleged by your visit.

I am glad that you found this hub intersting and thank you very much for sharing and leaving that thoughtful comment:)

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J.S.Matthew 5 years ago from Massachusetts, USA

I agree that kids who participate in extra curricular activities have more confidence. In this day and age it is easy to sit in front of social media like Facebook and what psychologists are finding is that kids who spend too much time in front of FB tend to have low self esteem and depression. The reasons cited are that they subconsciously envy and become jealous of those that they identify as better looking or more popular than themselves. This is a great article and I enjoy the point of view from another side of the world! Voted up and SHARING!


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thumbi7 5 years ago from India Author

Thank you Amy. It depends on the parents also. Some parents want their children to be independent and encourage children to take care of their things at a very young age. But many households in India will have a maid who will take care of many of these things.

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amy1oowho 5 years ago from Atlanta

It's exciting to hear about what children are learning in India! I would love to read more Hubs on life for children in India--education, what boys and girls are expected to do at home, etc. I'm an American, and I love learning about other cultures.

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thumbi7 5 years ago from India Author

Thank you Ashantina, Your visit is appreciated-:) Please come again.Have a great day.

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Ashantina 5 years ago

Childrens/teens communication skills are somewhat lacking due to our technology/internet/texting culture. However, this is balanced out by parents encouraging these extra-curricular activities which you mention... so important.

An interesting read thumbi7.

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thumbi7 5 years ago from India Author

Thank you very much instantlyfamily. I am thrilled that you stopped by and made a comment.

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instantlyfamily 5 years ago

Auh, nice Hub! I also appreciate your last comment. Well done, thumbi7.

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thumbi7 5 years ago from India Author

Yes Ruchi, That happens because they get everything what they want and become self centred. We can help them by giving small household tasks and encouraging them to participate in some school activities as volunteer, regular prayer timings at home etc. Thank you for your comment-:).

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Ruchi Urvashi 5 years ago from Singapore

Great article. I agree the children are more confident in present times. However, they tend to be spiritually and emotionally weak as compared to earlier times.

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thumbi7 5 years ago from India Author

@Jenubouka. Thank you for your visit. I really appreciate and welcome your comments. I am happy that you liked the photos.

@Alur. Thank you for validating the hub. I agree with you totally that we have the responsibility to guide our children without imposing our own thoughts to them.

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ALUR 5 years ago from USA

Confidence buiidng is the intricate art of supporting your children and choosing words carefully. Most of us have a notion that we do for our children with an expectation of being rewarded. To take this approach may harbor the potential of children. Our children are the new sees of life. The only thing they "Owe" us is to live to their full potential.

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jenubouka 5 years ago

Lovely hub, and great advise. If the parents don't display confidence than the children may inhibit the same behavior. Ps wonderful photos!

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thumbi7 5 years ago from India Author

Thank you Saba Sarish for the visit

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sabasarish 5 years ago from Abbotabad Pakistan

Great duty

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