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DATING AT 13?? NOT IN MY HOUSE (Now with update from Dr. Phil)

Updated on February 29, 2012

Teens Situations

My little angel
My little angel
meeting in halls of school
meeting in halls of school
having make-up/ boy chat
having make-up/ boy chat
No to Alcohol
No to Alcohol
Forbidden
Forbidden

As some of you may know I an raising my three grandchildren. I love them all so much. We have been having a good time this summer. We been to the beach, bowling, the movies and to a few concerts that I must say left me a little deaf for an hour or two, but it was fun.

At one of our movie nights my granddaughter, Ja'Laya seen some friends of hers from school. These friends seemed to be paired of as in couples. At 13 years old I can not see this happening with my granddaughter. Are they really on a date, hanging out or do they think they are in a relationship and are doing what I believe entails a boy/girl relationship?

As you probable figured out Ja'Laya wanted to ditch her family to go "kick it" with her "homies". I finally allowed her with a bit of trepidation and a few dollars.

I must say that these girls and boys, my granddaughter included, do not really look like 13 year olds. more like 16 or 17 year old.They have make-up on, hair extensions in, and false eyelashes. Yes, Ja"Laya has hair extensions but no make-up or eyelashes yet, I won"t allow that yet. Their look can deceive you but when they open their mouths to talk you then realize that they are just kids.

But then I see all these things on the news and on talk shows that some teens are doing and things that are being done to them. Violence, date rape, drugs, teen pregnancy and I cringe at the thought of these things happening to my granddaughter. I do my best to get her to understand that she has to be careful, aware of her surroundings,to trust no one, and to tell everything no matter how small you may think it may be.

Dating In Our Day

This whole dating has me fearful of letting my girl out to experience these so called wonders, after all its not like it was when I started ,when i was 17. I guess that you have to trust that they have listened to you when you had that "talk" (for the millionth time) and told them how you can get pregnant and how to "prevent" pregnancy with "abstinence".

I have preach over and over to my granddaughter so much that certain commercials that come on T.V.. like advertisement for beer, she says "hey grandma, you said not to drink alcohol until you are 21 right" and I have to smile because I know she is being funny because I say things so many times, but deep inside I know that she is paying attention to what I have been telling her, that God.

In Los Angeles they are teaching the school board,staff and administrators how to recognize teen dating abuse.

Teens have made pacts to get pregnant together and have picked who they want to be the father based on his athletic scholarship and which professional sports team he will be playing for in the next six or seven years.They have chosen fathers based on the fact that they want this baby to have straight hair not kinky like theirs

All things are turning with the times but not all things are turning for the good of change.



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