Do You Want Your Kids to Always Remember or Never Forget?

always remember or never forget--which is the right way
always remember or never forget--which is the right way

To any or everything in this life there is always two ways to look at it or to deal with it. There is the right way or wrong way, or there is the good and bad ways. It is all how you look at it and interpret it for yourself or your children.

When we are referring to our children and teaching them life's lessons, methods, or techniques to teaching them how to have discipline, morals, or structure in their lives, there are always, again two ways to go. Either way the child will remember and retain the lesson involved, but how and why they remember is the question.

As you may have noticed, the terms always remember, or never forget, may or may not bring to mind a positive or negative silent meaning that lies just behind the words. If you always remember something it is usually for reasons that are positive in nature, and perhaps something that is easy to remember because of the way you learned it. Never forgetting to me has a negative silent definition that implies a negative application of perhaps a punishment that was imposed as a result of learning this life lesson. The words that ring in my ears are ones that were spoken by my mother when I was a youngster, and I quote--"I'll give you a spanking that you will never forget".

Always remember, and never forget- - which way is the better way to instill a lesson in you youngster's life? Is one more apt to stick better? or is there a fundamental difference between either that would make the wanted behavior thought about before action is taken. Is one term indicated as a lesson learned out of a more loving situation and the other from an indication of lessons learned from punishment as an afterthought of having taught the child after he made the mistake of doing it wrong first.

After some research, I had to notice that when the terms were used together in the same sentence, that it was a term that was asking us to remember a particular time when either a lot of people died, as in 911, or a wartime situation that ended brutally, or that saved our freedoms due to the loss of life.

When these terms are used together, in the political arena it is usually a battle won that is indicated to always remember, and the soldiers who paid with their blood and lives that we are told not to forget, as in this slogan: Aways remember that Memorial Day is the time to celebrate all the freedoms we have, and never forget those brave soldiers who gave their all to make sure you have those freedoms. " and this one, " It was the veteran not the journalist who has given us the freedom of speech...and It was the veteran not the preacher who has given us the freedom of religion.

All of the above examples given indicate that the never forget part is something learned or given by means of a more violent or physical application of learning or giving.and a more difficult example. Either way, when you never forget something it is usually due to a negative experience.

In ending and suffice to say then, that it would probably be to the benefit of your whole family unit to try to make all of the lessons you teach your children, events that are warm and good to remember as a lesson, rather than an example of something you will never forget.

Try to make life's lessons a positive example of a loving hope of something you can choose to avoid. A loving way to make an impression of how it is better to do something correctly and in a gentle manner rather than in an explosive and hurtful punishment for things not known but mistakenly walked into unknowingly and then taught the difference between right and wrong.

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TheBarefootwriter 5 years ago

Always remembering and never forgetting are the same to me. I personally don't think I will ever forget the spankings I got from my mother. But I do pray for amnesia. Sometimes forgetting everything is necessary. Our morals are actually someone else's morals that we never learned to question. Because we were never allowed to question. For this reason If I ever raise a child, I will teach them to do what feels moral to them. Not necessarily what is moral to me. Their happiness should matter most. Not my opinion. I am personally never satisfied and happy with anything. But they certainly do have the right to be happy with anything that makes them feel good about themselves.


marellen 5 years ago

Good advice but its not always easy to accomplish. Voted Up...


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Paradise7 5 years ago from Upstate New York

Great hub, thank you, I'll always remember it!

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