Embarrassing Moments With Your Child And How To Deal With Them - My Tips

Parenthood Embarrassment 101

Children are not born with etiquette and normally learn how to socialize through experience. Unfortunately for most parents, the experience is usually learned at the parent's expense. If your child does something embarrassing you can either ignore it, make a huge fuss over it and call more attention to yourself and your child, or handle the situation appropriately with an apology or explanation.

Most people are willing to forgive a child's slip-up if the parent corrects the child or apologizes and explains the child's behavior. The parent that chooses to ignore the behavior can be annoying however, because he or she is missing out on a valuable opportunity to teach the child about proper socialization.

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The Bus Incident

My children have provided me with a wealth of embarrassing situations. Through the years I have learned how to deal with them without curling into a ball, rocking back and forth, and repeating 'Why me, why me, why me?'

My oldest daughter has an issue with clothing. She is 7 and a 1/2 and still cannot properly dress herself. Ok, that's not true. She can indeed dress herself, it's that whole keeping her clothes on thing that she has trouble with. I will set a scene for you. I am standing at the end of my drive on a very busy street. I see the bus coming to drop off my daughter and I move closer to the street. The bus stops, the doors open, and out bounds my princess in her tights and a t-shirt. I was so shocked and embarrassed that I didn't know what to say! I quickly rushed my daughter up the drive, hoping not many people noticed her while they were sitting behind the bus in their cars. I was mortified to learn that my daughter's jumper strap broke while she was at school, so she took the whole dress off and was running around half naked all day. This is one time I didn't have to deal with my embarrassment in front of the public and I clearly explained to my oldest that she must come home in all the clothes she leaves in.

The One with the Big Belly

One time that I did have to deal with my embarrassment in the public eye was during a trip to Burger King with my 4 year old. I had yet to truly get the point across to her that it was ok to think anything, but not ok to always say it out loud. My daughter and I were standing in line, waiting for our food, when she pointed at someone working behind the counter and said "I don't like her - the one with the big belly. The fat one there. She looks funny." Don't ask me how she got so much out before I realized what she was saying. She is a fast talker and has been loud since the day she was born. A few people waiting for food started laughing and "the one with the big belly" behind the counter looked annoyed. At the moment, I wanted to revert to my embarrassment ball. Instead, I apologized to the woman, loudly explained to my daughter that she shouldn't judge someone on his or her appearance and then shot mean looks at the teenagers still laughing. To avoid further embarrassment, I quietly changed my order from dine-in to take-out and ran like mad, my daughter in tow with blond curls swinging in the wind.

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Don't Eat That!

Nothing is more embarrassing to me than when one of my children picks her nose and eats it. To me that just screams "I learned it from Mommy!" What's worse is when you are in a fancy restaurant, you're talking to your spouse and notice something out of the corner of your eye. You ignore the movement because your significant other is telling you about his horrible day and you don't want to be rude. Then you notice the movement again, and again, and again. Finally you break from the engaging story of the bad day to look at your child. You realize the 15 minutes worth of movement you saw was indeed, yes, your sweetie picking her nose and eating it. First thought, smack her hand tell her no! Second thought, scan room and see who may have seen. Third thought, make ball and rock. This is one of those situations where I scold my child loud enough for people nearby to know I don't condone that behavior, take my child to wash her hands, and then ignore the fact that it happened. No reason dwelling on that type of thing right before you eat.

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I Like Stars

The same daughter who doesn't like fat people, does like stars. She draws them any time she can get her hands on paper. During my oldest daughter's softball practices, I would pack a pad of paper and some crayons to keep my other two daughters occupied. My 4 year old befriended most of the parents because she is a real chatter-box. One evening, she was drawing stars all over her piece of paper and one of the dads asked her if she likes stars. She sweetly replied, "Oh, they're my favorite. Must be Mommy's favorite too 'cuz they're all over her undies today." I was so embarrassed I am sure I turned 12 different shades of red. The other dad started laughing and I just said sorry. What else could I have said at that moment? Later when we got home, I explained to my daughter, again, that just because you know, think, or notice something does not make it ok to say out loud.

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Anyone Smell Something?

THE most embarrassing thing I had to deal with because of one of my children involved a date I was on. A while after my divorce, I started dating again. My first outing/date was with my baby-sitter's son. I know how that sounds, but my babysitter was 62! The date was at a huge playground where my oldest could play and my date and I could talk for a while. Then we all went to a kid-friendly restaurant for a late lunch. I don't remember what I ordered or what my date ordered. But I do remember what my daughter ordered; macaroni and cheese and a hot-dog. The restaurant was pleasant enough but we decided to pack up and leave because my daughter was saying she didn't feel too well. Then, I saw a look on my daughter's face that I knew all too well. I picked her up to get her to the restroom, but I was too late and she vomited mac & cheese and hot-dog all over me. I was so embarrassed. I rushed us both to the bathroom and we cleaned up as well as we could. Even after cleaning up, I smelled awful the whole ride home, which was 40 minutes long. I apologized profusely and knew I'd never get another call.

Boy, was I wrong. I am now married to that same man. Of course, he still makes jokes about that horrible first date.

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Princessa 7 years ago from France

LOL I had my share of that :( The last one was when we went into the lift with my 4year old. A fat man came in -he was enormous even for my standards of fatness! We were the only ones in the lift and my boy asked me "Why is that man so fat? he is enormous? Is he going to eat us?"


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goldentoad 7 years ago from Free and running....

as a a parent, I found it to be a great hub. My stepdaughter has ADHD, and has several episodes of bad behavior and has put us in a spot, like this one guy with a sleepy eye worked at a resteraunt, and she pointed up to him and said "why is your eye funny?"

we had to move her from three pre-schools because of the off the wall disruptive behavior. She's doing better though, as we maintained a close eye on her.


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Ardie 7 years ago from Neverland Author

Princessa,

I can just imagine a 4 year old asking if someone was going to eat him!  How funny!

goldentoad,

Keep the faith in your stepdaughter. I read in numerous places that girls tend to out grow ADHD. I often wonder if any of my 3 girls have a mild form of it, they have such energy and can be so off the wall sometimes. Whether they do or not, I've definitely learned to be a more relaxed person because of them.


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Jerilee Wei 7 years ago from United States

When my daughter was in pre-school, she was very disruptive to the rest of the class during nap time, as she never napped.  So they put her in the hall. Imagine my embarassment when I picked her up that day when they explained that she had taken off all of her clothes and neatly folded them at the bottom of the bed.  Confronted, she then told the director of the school - "My mommy always lets me sleep that way." The woman looked at me like, well do you?

This was the same week she flushed 40 paper cups down a toilet. 

She's 36 and she still goes out of her way to embarass me. LOL

Good hub reminder to keep a sense of humor when raising kids.


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Ardie 7 years ago from Neverland Author

Jerilee, Your daughter sounds like she was a trip to raise. I always try to find humor in the things my kids do. If everyone else is laughing at me, I may as well be too :)


Bardie 7 years ago

OMG!! My son was the sweetest little boy when he was little and he could do some crazy things, I was always so embarassed. Now he is grown with children of his own and I love to remind him how he used to act. What a funny hub and I love all the comments. Somehow we live throgh all the embarassment and we even miss it when they are grown.


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Ardie 7 years ago from Neverland Author

Hi Bardie :) Thanks for the nice comment. I'll get back to you in another 10 or so years and let you know if I miss the embarrassing moments. Somehow I bet you are right - because once the embarrassing moments stop that means the kids must not be around any more!


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ajcor 7 years ago from NSW. Australia

Hi Ardie - the embarrassing moments eventually diminish and then when your children are older the tables turn and your fun can start as you remind them of the awful things they said and did when they were young!...cheers


Vincent 5 years ago

I have no children, but when I myself was little, I embarrassed my mother once. I even remember myself ... I was three years old and was taken to a pediatrician for something or other, and the doctor had REALLY hairy arms. So much so that the hair came up on his hands. Mom said she saw me staring and knew I was going to say something, but had no way to head it off. I finally said, "Boy are your hands furry!"

Of course, PARENTS can also be embarrassing. Like my Dad when he tried to be "cool" and say "chill out", and ended up saying, "Freeze up!"


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Haunty 4 years ago from Hungary

Hahah this was the funniest hub I've read in ages. Are you still getting those embarrassing moments three years later?


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Ardie 4 years ago from Neverland Author

Hi Haunty! I*m glad you enjoyed this hub. It was so much fun to make. I DO still get the embarrassing moments today. Even though my oldest is big now, my littlest is still young enough to not really know any better. Maybe I will add a part 2 soon!


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Haunty 4 years ago from Hungary

I'd love a part two. I miss your cute and funny stories about the kids.


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tammyswallow 4 years ago from North Carolina

This hub brought back some old memories of raising three sons. My boys were 6, 7, and 8 when they learned what a "mullet" was. Once they learned this word, it was impossible to get them to stop yelling it out. It became their newest adventure to point them out when possible. One day while shopping in Bilo, we came upon a VERY large man with a very pronounced mullet. My oldest two stood behind me whispering "mullet" back and forth to one another. Suddenly, the youngest thought it would be hilarious to notice it loudly.. he pretended to cough and ended up yelling.. cough.. mullet... The man with then interesting hair did not have a sense of humor and started to approach us. I left my cart in the store. That word was forever banned in my presence. Very cute hub!


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RealHousewife 4 years ago from St. Louis, MO

So funny! Oh you know with my three I can relate to this! I have those moments where I can feel myself getting hot and my face gets all red! Lol.

Sydney was always a pistle...once in the grocery cart the lady behind me started to tell her how cute she was sitting in the basket ...Syd pauses, stares and after a long minute - much to my horror - she says to the LADY "Are you a boy? Or a girl?". Ummm well I could tell it was a girl! Hahaha!

My neighbor Charlie - a bachelor who lived across the street would go to get in his car and Syd would be yelling "hey Charlie - could you bring me a happy meal when you come back?" haha! He probably thought I was starving my children! Lol

Super fun up awesome and very little thing terrific!


kelleyward 4 years ago

So funny Ardie! I just got back from our oldest son's first baseball game and my two younger boys were wild to say the least. My youngest ran out onto the field and starting running bases and my middle child followed. They love to be "on stage". Thanks for the great laugh, although sometimes it's hard for me to laugh when it's happening to me!


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Ardie 4 years ago from Neverland Author

oooh Tammy hahah mullets are just that way aren't they? You do realize it was NOT the kids' faults right? I still have a hard time not doing the mullet cough when I am in WalMart.

RHW - that Sydney is my type of girl. I always beg my neighbors for food too. I can literally smell the bacon in the mornings during summer because the windows are open. I just hang out the back door and cry "bacooon, baaaacon??!" Usually I just hear their dog barking back at me.

Hello Kelley! Aaah to be the mom with the wild kids hahah When they ran out onto the field to do the bases was the game still going on?! Oh my too funny. It IS hard to laugh about while its happening so be sure to keep notes for future Hubs!


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swilliams 2 years ago from Arizona

Very good motherly advice! Very entertaining article as well. Voted up!

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