Evolution of Parenting- The Dysfunctional Epidemic
You can keep the cell phone-I'de rather raise my kids
Is it really advancements in our overall happiness?
A large part of being a parent is understanding what our children are going through and teaching them to learn from their experiences and situations. Although not all people that do bad things as adults can justify their behavior on the lack of parenting skills their parents possessed while raising them, parents do have something to do with the way that their children view society and turn out.
The lack of parenting in this nation has become an overwhelming epidemic, where the family meal and the discussions that go along with sitting down as a family unit is being replaced by violent television programs, divorced, arguing or absent parents. Parents no longer monitor the family diet as they did 20 years ago, they allow school cafeterias to do so, and leave McDonalds to fill in any of the blanks. Many parents are not around to tuck their children into bed, read a bedtime story and kiss them on their cheeks before whispering I love you into their ears. Cell phones and Email has taken the place of sitting down to write a grandparent a Thank You Note for the $10 bill in a Birthday Card. Spell Check has taken the place of actually learning how to spell and improving grammar and writing skills. Debit Cards have taken the place of Check Books when people actually balanced their checkbooks, to monitor their spending in order to budget.
What has happened over the past 10-15-20 years to the most important support systems each of us have, The Family Support System? What will happen to the country, to the world if we as parents are not their to tuck our kids into bed and remind them that they are loved? Will our children magically know that they are loved; will they know how to show their children that they love them? Will our children know how to find their way, when they get lost and their GPS stops working, if they don’t know how to read a map or look to the stars for guidance? I am sure each of our children will have extraordinary typing skills and be able to find anything on the internet, but will they be able to sit down and have a conversation with a person who is sitting in front of them?
As parents, if we are too busy with paying bills, working and being adults to ever sit and speak, or joke or laugh with our children, how will we ever know if our children stop laughing, joking or speaking? Will we notice a change in behavior if our children are being abused, if we aren’t around enough to know how they normally behave?
Are the standards of being a parent today reduced to taking a few family pictures during holidays with our expensive digital cameras but never printing those pictures and placing them into photo albums because they are on a memory card or burned to a CD (somewhere)? If we lead our children by example, why do so many of us set so many poor examples for the ones who view us as Super Hero’s and the Ultimate Mentors? We show our children that if you don’t agree with someone, it is okay to scream, say horrible things, to hit, as long as you say I am sorry later? Are we teaching children that it is okay to walk away from problems when they are hard by divorcing our spouses? Does divorce teach our children, that saying I love you today doesn’t mean that I will love you tomorrow if you do something I don’t like or someone better comes along?
For as advanced as the human race has become over the past quarter century with inventions and improvements to the items we use in our day to day lives, our day to day lives and the ones who are deemed the ‘most important’, are now being raised by these objects. We work hard, to show our kids that it is important to put in the extra effort and time needed to do a job well done in order to get ahead in the world. But as we are off working hard, we aren’t putting in the hours as parents and helping our children get ahead in life.
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