Feeding the Picky Eater

Involving kids in gardening is a great way to help them develop a love of fruits and vegetables
Involving kids in gardening is a great way to help them develop a love of fruits and vegetables

After having two children who would pretty much eat whatever I set before them, I was handed a challenge, my third child was as picky an eater as they come. He wouldn’t try much of anything. He would have been happy eating plain pasta and a cup of milk at each meal. However, I was determined not to accept his limited palate so I set out to broaden it, all be it, one day at a time.

Broadening the palate of a picky eater is a slow process, beginning with incremental goals and a long term vision. My vision for all of my children was that they enjoy a wide variety of healthy food as a part of experiencing life to its fullest. To fulfill this vision I calmly set out each day using a multi-layered approach to make food both a pleasurable as well as, healthy experience. Here are some things that worked for me:


Rid your house of unhealthy options!

Junk food warps our taste buds and distracts us from enjoying the flavors of healthy food, in particular fruits and vegetables. You are not doing your child any favors by giving them only food items that taste good to you. Preference for food is learned and our taste buds are varied and adaptable.

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Regularly include vegetables from the start

After the baby food stage has passed, parents should continue to serve vegetables as the normal fare. Try and find at least a few vegetables that are your child's favorites to use as snacks, like baby carrots, sliced cucumbers or celery sticks.

At the dinner meal try to include a salad AND a cooked vegetable, this gives your child more chances to develop a taste for veggies. Pasta by itself does not constitute a well-rounded meal although I know of one dad that tried to convince me otherwise.

Some negotiation might be necessary to encourage a child to try a new vegetable or a familiar one found sitting on the plate. If the child states that they don’t like the vegetable, the parent can offer that the child simply take ‘one bite.’ This is a compromise but should be stated in a matter of fact way using a calm tone of voice. The child may need to develop a taste for the vegetable and after a few tries might realize that they do in fact “like” the formerly offensive item.

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Try serving a salad as a first course, or raw vegetable sticks to take advantage of the time when the child is at their hungriest, as this might push them towards trying a new vegetable that they might otherwise avoid.

No special meals for individuals

Offering individual meals is a slippery slope. Some parents have been known to make individual meals not only for their children, but for their spouse as well. One person likes pasta with no sauce, one likes sauce, the other doesn’t like pasta. When all is said and done leaving the 'chef' washed out before even beginning their own meal. Individual meals are not a long term solution.

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Imagine you are feeding a larger family (maybe you are)

Larger families have fewer issues with food aversion because catering to certain children is unrealistic. It might not be so difficult to make a special meal for one or two children but if you were serving a family of 5 or more it would just make sense to expect everyone to eat what was set before them or at least not to complain or make an issue out of it. Catering to each child’s likes and dislikes creates an expectation for the child that the world will cater to them as well. Begin your meals with the calm expectation that your child will eat what is being served rather than giving into what the child thinks is best.

Put peer pressure to work for you

Sometimes a child will be motivated to try a new food when surrounded by other children who already enjoy that food. This could be at a birthday party, a play date or in a family setting. Taking advantage of these social opportunities can work to motivate a picky eater to try something new.

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Don’t make a big deal out of food

Make it matter of fact, and don’t lock horns, at least not for long. You wouldn’t discuss whether or not a child should brush their teeth or take a bath, these are a given. The idea that we would continue to “negotiate” about eating a healthful diet is problematic.

You can also make food a celebration, using this as a way of introducing a new vegetable or other food. Kids get so excited at the thought of a holiday or party. With all of this enthusiasm around an event, children are more likely to try something new. This doesn’t have to simply be about vegetables but rather about widening the palate and of course every celebration can include a veggie platter with a dip.

An avocado dip to try

Make a dip – kids love dips!

Dips make food fun! The action of dipping is very enticing to children and offers a fun way to introduce new vegetables to children. My kids love hummus dip but other options include sour cream, salsa or cream cheese.

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Variety IS the spice of life!

While it might take more work on the part of the parent to encourage the child to eat their vegetables and develop a broader palate, in the end this work will pay off. Not only will the child be open to trying new foods in the home but they will also be able to experience the varied culinary delights that the world has to offer.

Plant a Garden!

When spring rolls around, make a project of planting a simple vegetable garden, it could even just be in a small pot. When the child takes part in the sowing and tending to a garden they not only learn a great lesson, but will likely be enthusiastic about eating the vegetable as well.

Plant a garden with kids!

I can proudly say that my picky eater will eat just about anything now. He truly enjoys a variety of food and fits right in with my other children at any meal. At times he still hesitates to try something new but with my calm encouragement he will try a food that is outside of his comfort zone.

Broadening a child’s exposure to a variety of foods works to build a lifetime love of not only healthy foods, but broadens the child's horizons for the varied wonders that life has to offer them as they grow.

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© 2013 Tracy Lynn Conway

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Dorian Bodnariuc 3 years ago from Kanata, Ontario, Canada

Great ideas Tracy, we have to deal with a picky eater. Lots of personality involved...


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Tracy Lynn Conway 3 years ago from Virginia, USA Author

Dorian - That is interesting, I had not considered the picky eater personality factor, there must be something more to that.

Best, Tracy


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carter06 3 years ago from Cronulla NSW

Good advice here Tracy..sure to help many families if only implementing one or two ideas..getting rid of unhealthy options is such a good start and limits choices for them..one of my daughters has a picky eater and they are working on it at the moment and some of these ideas might be useful for them..cheers


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randomcreative 3 years ago from Milwaukee, Wisconsin

Great tips! There is something for everyone here. Very comprehensive overview.


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Tracy Lynn Conway 3 years ago from Virginia, USA Author

Carter - There are more food choices available now than ever before, keeping limits in house is an effective way to steer a child in the right food choice direction. I hope your daughter can navigate a healthy path.

Best, Tracy


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Tracy Lynn Conway 3 years ago from Virginia, USA Author

Hi Randomcreative - Nice to see you. Thank you for the praise!

All the best,

Tracy


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Heather Says 3 years ago from Buckeye, Arizona

Congrats on HotD! I enjoyed this article. My husband was a very picky eater when I met him ten years ago. He grew up eating individual meals and was catered to, as you discuss in your hub. I'll eat just about anything, so this was very strange for me. Since then, I've done my best to beat it out of him. So I do think the picky eater can be changed as my husband is living proof. You have such great tips here. I agree that healthy eating isn't and shouldn't be negotiable. Oh and your children are adorable! I thought you had even more than you do when I saw the picture of them on the picnic blanket... it took me a second to realize a few of those were dolls-- haha ;)


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Theater girl 3 years ago from New Jersey

Thanks for your ideas. I have tried many with my picky eaters, who seem to have been born that way. at 6 and 8, they make small forays that I view as victories. We have little problems with fruits and veggies, our issue is with meat.....I like what you said about seeing the big picture. Its not about whether they loved the chicken tonight, its about whether I am helping them make better choices for ttheir whole life of eating!


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ComfortB 3 years ago from Bonaire, GA, USA

I was a picky eater, but now, I eat pretty much everything. Picky eaters can really be a challenge.

I have one of my own too, the youngest of my three children. He is content eating cold cereal everyday, but mama won't have that. So, I'll sneak veggies and greens into the menus and tell him there'll be no screen time unless those fruits and veggies are all eaten up. That's usually all it takes.

Great hub. Voted up and useful. And, congrats on the HOTD award.


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida

Congrats on HOTD....picky eaters can be challenging for sure. My grandson eats only certain foods and very little of those.


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rebeccamealey 3 years ago from Northeastern Georgia, USA

Planting a garden with the kids is a great idea. Thanks! Great Hub, congratulations!


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Careermommy 3 years ago from Los Angeles, CA

Great hub! My oldest is the pickier of my two boys. He's gotten a lot better. I like the idea of adding dips. There are some healthy varieties and they go great with vegetables. Thanks for sharing!


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sybol 3 years ago

Hi Tracy,

I am a picky eater and I have been all of my life. I am 58 and I am, in the eyes of many still a picky eater but I eat many more foods in the last 10 years. Your points are valid. I hate when people make a big deal about what I don't like. It makes me cling to my favorites and not want anything else. I find that I like raw or uncooked vegatables. I stayed away from vegetables until I started trying to eat healthier. I don't like a lot of sauces and this, I found out, is why I stayed away from salads. Too much dressing. I could go on but this is a comment.

sybol


Faisalrbj 3 years ago

Hi, the options you have given are very good and i think they are the most appropriate one, they would increase the metabolic rate and also the growth of the child

Thanks

Good Luck


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Your Cousins 3 years ago from Atlanta, GA

Love the idea of having them help plant a garden and eating produce that they grow. My older daughter didn't like tomatoes and it rubbed off on the younger one. But we planted some and sliced them for dinner. Now the younger daughter likes tomatoes -- one out of two ain't bad! Congrats on HOTD.


MsDora 3 years ago

Great article! Great suggestions! I like the one about peer pressure, although I'd call it peer support. Thank you!


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Tracy Lynn Conway 3 years ago from Virginia, USA Author

Heather – I am like you and consider food an adventure, so when I first had to approach my picky eater it was like entering unchartered waters. I enjoyed reading your adult perspective on the matter. Thank you for your interesting comment and that was funny about the dolls!

Theater girl – The food aversion in children has an evolutionary purpose, it would protect a child from eating something poisonous or rotten, but now this need is nearly non-existent. Having a vision for your children puts daily challenges into perspective. “Keep your eyes on the prize.” Thank you for your comment!

ComfortB – Rewarding good behavior or behavior modification is a useful approach and sometimes the only thing that works. Glad to see that you found a compromise that works with your son. It is interesting that you started out at a picky eater yourself. Thank you for the praise and votes!

Pstraubie – I hope your grandson can broaden his choices. Thank you!

Rebecca – My son and I planted a garden that included string beans. He loved eating the string beans that were just picked, but said he would not eat any that were store bought. I convinced him otherwise, but I found the whole thing funny. Thank you!

Career Mommy – Yes, dips are a wonderful way to encourage a child to try and continue to eat a certain food. My 14 year old daughter and I made a French dressing a few days ago and she put it on everything. Thanks you for commenting and for your praise!

Sybol – I appreciate you mentioning the point I made about not making a big issue out of a picky eater’s choices. I find it ruins the meal for all involved. Meals are ideally a pleasurable experience; battles have no place at the table. Your point about dressings is an interesting one. I find I like vegetables plain, like raw carrots or green peppers. My husband loves seasoning everything. Some foodies say that fresh vegetables don’t necessarily need anything added to them. I have read that some people have stronger taste buds and therefore the pure food has enough by itself while others need more punch to taste what they are eating. Thank you for your interesting comment.

Faisalrbj – Yes, healthy eating enables our children to thrive. Thank you for your comment.

Your Cousins – Great story! Lots of people have an issue with raw tomatoes but then love pizza; it must be the texture of the tomato.

MsDora – Thank you very much!

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