From Water Broke to Hospital Stay | Birth the other view

My water broke

Baby, its 5am havent been able to sleep yet , its impossible I think, in the next few hours we are likely to forget all these little details, Im watching you sleep in a hospital bed staring at the dimly lit empty infant incubator behind you


Its 9:45PM your standing in the Kitchen.

You: "I think my water just broke or I just peed myself"

Me: " Okay, I'll go get the mop....(gets mop, looks for something to mop..doesnt find anything) nah, thats not that impressive, I dont think your water broke"

You: (From the bathroom) "Yes, My water definitely broke, call the doctor"

Me: "Number is on the fridge, right?"

You: "Yes !!!!!"

Since we had an appointment today and we both know your only 1cm dilated, this is a bit of a surprise, I dial the number on the card...

"You have reached the nighttime service of blah blah blah ... please stay on the line if you are experiencing complications, unusual pain, contractions ..blah ..blah ..etc. etc. Please do not call for prescriptions or general advice ..please stay on the line ..blah ...blah ..blah"

Ring ,Ring , Ring ..........

Phone Voice: "Hello, Blah and Blah Associates, how can I help you?"

Me: Well my fiance's water just broke and this is our Doctors number.

PhoneVoice: Her name please?

Me: ( I told them your name )

Phone Voice: Doctor Blah (never heard of him!) is on call tonight, he'll call you back within 20 minutes.

Me: Baby, I called! The doctor will ...

You: (Interrupting) Call back , I know , make sure you tell him, no contractions and only 1cm dilated at todays check-up. Get my hospital bag from the closet, the red pillow and the other one in there go to... and dont let me forget my Panaway, its in the dropper on the kitchen table.


The (not so) Mad Rush to the Hospital

Your father stopped by for a relaxing visit around 9:15, you got to visit for a moment ..but the whole relaxing concept was quickly crushed, oh well...

Your Father: Im guessing these bags need to go to my car?

Me: Yes, plus this Panaway stuff

Ring, Ring, Ring.. (Only about 5 minutes have passed)

Doctor: (He said he was calling to return your page, he knew your name..he had a really cheery voice - perfect demeanor for the moment) " So her water broke ... Your sure?"

Me: Yes, But, no contractions and according to todays visit only 1cm dilated.

Doctor: Well then time to head on down to the Hospital then.

Me: Right now?

Doctor: (still very cheery) Yes, head on down to the ER for admissions, I will let them know your coming and we will get your room ready in labor for an evaluation.

Me: Ok, we are only 15 minutes away.

Doctor: Great, see you soon then (still cheery!)

Me: No rush, but we will be ready for you and we can give you an assessment

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So we are off to the hospital, you are in the bathroom - pretty much telling us how your grossing yourself out.

Im off to collect your hospital gear and grab some stuff for myself in case we are overnight bound - your 11 days early as far as Im concerned and didnt have a grab and go bag.

Off to feed the rabbit , give her a scratch behind the ears.....now , quick, what next? water for the dogs - fill their food bowl for tomorrow morning, will have to get someone to swing by and put the bowls on the floor.

Ok, damn - cameras might not be charged - hurry and go plug in new digital video camera purchased just for today, mp3 is plugged in to charge and regular camera all set to go - make sure a cards in there ...ok , what next ..hmm..tell facebook what going on! ;;keep it short

baby time!

Your Father and you are off to the car , I wrap up the electronics, stop by the bookshelf - hit a couple of lights and run out the door - hide a key in case we have to send someone over for dog care or a place to stay.

And we are off!

Admissions

Easy , breezy - learned the big attachments on the wheelchairs are to keep people from sticking them into their cars!


(note Doctor uses an iPhone app to track fetal movement and various other measurements in conjunction with the fetal heart rate monitor)

It was fun to watch your father check facebook and message the family on his iPhone while the doctor used his iPhone to track and enter your chart.

Tranquilizing you for the night

Around 12am, the nurse really wants you to relax and sleep. The contractions are coming every 5-6 minutes but you are still only 1cm dilated. I can feel your whole stomach clench into a tight ball -you can see it if you look closely, it must be amazingly painful.

We (Your Mother, Sister and I ) are supportive of the medicine. We (me and you) were as anti-drug as possible , but the Nurse is pushing for Stadol, so you can sleep and have full strength tomorrow , I have my laptop and the Hospital has open wifi - so I google it (what a world we live in - fiance in labor and Im on a laptop! ) I read a few dozen forum threads of mothers who had experienced the effects of Stadol and some top ranking authority sites for the term. Im supportive of relaxing you and Stadol seems very low risk , it was the pain med suggested by our specialists, we are supposed to trust them?

After some jokes about how pain meds had turned your sister into a bit of a space cadet and some cajoling from the nurse , you acquiesced.

What is Stadol? - Pain Medication during Labor? ( I will find  a link later)

You were a little freaked out about the feeling of the Stadol - your Sister and Mother left around 2am in order to catch a nap at the house and to be able to watch the dogs, feed them in the morning.

Truthfully, The Nurse, Lis, kind of shooed them out .... I held your hand and we stayed that way until you slept ... it was during the time between when your eyes closed and you awok ein pain that I was able to start drafting this...sleep was impossible...



This is the song that put you to sleep

These Helped

Your awake and obviously feeling the contractions , Ive been bringing you sips of water and playing calm music ...while typing this, not sure if ill be able to finish this tonight , or if the details will be remembered come morn ...but I guess I should try for some sleep.


Dont worry, I got lots of photos of you sleeping!

The first morning

Your Stadol is long wore off - the pain of the contractions is keeping you from sleeping, but your pretty groggy from the medicine, the nurses have changed shifts - they appear right after you click the big red button.

We help- you to the bathroom and prepare the jacuzzi bath for you. Your in the bath now - you seem content.

The family is arriving - your managing to relax and sleep again its 7:22 am - but you occasionally will cry out..we have rubbed the panaway on your lower back - the smell i sthick in the air, Ive been putting pressure on the accupressure points in your hands, it seems to work very quickly ..Im also trying reiki - it may work but then again that could just be the lull between contractions.

A movie to listen to

You requested that we put in a movie for you.

Im laughing aloud, that you have decided that Supertroopers would be one of the movies you would bring. So now we are watching Supertroopers in a hospital room - This is great I wonder what the nurses will think?

Labor Log

8:45PM Thursday Water Breaks

2am-ish Friday Stadol given after 6 hours of contractions - you sleep for 3 hours

6am-ish Friday You awake - in great pain - jacuzzi tub soothes you a bit

9am-ish Friday After 10 hours of contraction you are given an epidural

3PM - Friday - Active Labor Begins

6Pm friday - after 3 hours of full pushing , you are exhausted and losing hope (I laughed and cried)

7pm - Friday - the Doctors slow your contractions and consider a vacuum assist or c-section

8;35 - w/o any further techniques and a short rest you deliver naturally (you got a couple of tears here too)


Epidural + ??????? + ????????

Cant pronounce the words - everything has been stunning success in the eyes of the doctors. But,no baby yet.

Horrific .. in my eyes, I guess the beauty comes when there is a product?


They say your doing a great job - you just got a short respite via anesthesia - your not allowed to push.

You have spent 3 hours in active labor already.

I can sit now.

20 hours in

i could collapse ..can not imagine what it must be like for you

Can hear babies crying from other rooms

Perhaps delivery will be catching?

Never thought the sounds of infants shrieking could seem like a blessing

Waiting for a prognosis

Will we be trying a vacuum assisted delivery, will we be going with a c-section?

Risks of vacuum assisted delivery

You really didnt want a c-section - but, really, does anybody?

Doctors calmed you down to pause labor so they could make a decision based on your strength..not sure If im liking this waiting game.

But, you took 24 hours yourself to come into this world and were only at 21.5 now.

<Insert Final Jeopardy Theme>


... I would trade if I could

Everything as fine as it gets!

She was born naturally! no c-section , no vacuums - no damage to anybody - no stitches or anything - approx 24 hours after the water broke


( At this point I have been at the Hospital for 36 hours - 2 nights of chairs and floors has taken its toll, I will revisit and add what I can remember...in the end everything was exactly as it should be)

She was 6lb 9 oz when she was born and 19 inches long - she will be 24 hours old as I write this addition - she rarely cries, roots automatically and is easy to calm. Ive never knew true beauty until this day

Our Beautiful Girl with a full head of long hair!

Blessed , Is this Life - we get to sleep for 3 hours at a time and it feels like a blessing

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Thank you everyone! When I get out of the hospital I will be able to finish - still havent been able to sleep very long 61 comments

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frogdropping 6 years ago

Ohhh wow sunforged this is beautiful. Sincerely ... the best of everything and looking forward to hearing the news!! Hugs, good luck and keep us informed :):)


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Susana S 6 years ago

This is awesome :) Feel like I'm there. Anxiously waiting to hear the rest of your special story. Love to you both x


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sunforged 6 years ago from Sunforged.com Author

Thanks! I actually read many of Susana S' articles while preparing for what to expect and Frogdroppings articles for selecting nursery items.

Im typing this from the laptop that were using to give her soothing music while she trys to relax in the Jacuzzi ..it seems to be working, the typing/writing is keeping me calm


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Sufidreamer 6 years ago from Sparti, Greece

Nice one, SF - Best of luck with it and keep us posted!

Blessings from Greece to you both :)


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Lily Rose 6 years ago from East Coast

My heart was pounding with excitement as if I was there with you while I read. I am amazed at the things you were able to remember to do before leaving your house! You may not know it, or you may since you're doing it, but this writing you've done here will be incredibly special to you both in the future and I think it's just incredible to have it documented in this way. I'm so excited for you guys and I wish you all the best. Can't wait to read more and see some pictures. CONGRATULATIONS to you both!!


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rebekahELLE 6 years ago from Tampa Bay

Joshua, how exciting! yes, I feel the adrenaline rush as I'm reading. You sound very prepared and ready. Signs of a great father and mother!! thrilled for you and can't wait to read more. best wishes for a beautiful birth and healthy child! love, light~


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Hello, hello, 6 years ago from London, UK

Thank you for a wonderful hub and I send my best wishes.


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Pearldiver 6 years ago from Tomorrow - In Words & NZ Time.

Ladies and Gentlemen please start your engines! Track Marshalls please remove the technology off the race track and have those spectators stand behind the fenced barriers! It's Race Time Josh... Good luck to your better half and your new babe. YeeeHaaaa!


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Edweirdo 6 years ago from United States

How exciting! At least you made it to the hospital ;)

Keep the updates coming and enjoy this experience!!


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sunforged 6 years ago from Sunforged.com Author

looks like were getting a second shot at au natural


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sunforged 6 years ago from Sunforged.com Author

alive and natural! all toes and fingers and such


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Edweirdo 6 years ago from United States

Congratulations Mom & Dad!!!!!


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englightenedsoul 6 years ago

Congratulations Joshua. I am sure you must be the happiest man in the world right now. It's really a great news.


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Ohma 6 years ago

Congrats Sunforged and best wishes to you and all your Family.


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Cagsil 6 years ago from USA or America

Congratulations Sunforged! Positive thoughts and best wishes to your entire family. You must be overjoyed that the baby has arrived. :) Then again, usually sleeping is forfeited during the first month. Good luck. :)


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lakeerieartists 6 years ago from Cleveland, OH

Wow, what a journey so far. Positive thoughts your way.


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emievil 6 years ago from Philippines

Congrats Sunforged! Now the baby's really here :).


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wavegirl22 6 years ago from New York, NY

Mazel Tov! It was long and toil at its truest form but there is nothing to compare. . and the pains and pushes will long be forgoteen . .Sending lots of love and joy! Shari


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NaomiR 6 years ago from New York

Congrats to you and your family! Beautiful hub!


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wilderness 6 years ago from Boise, Idaho

Congrats to you and yours, sunforged! A great hub that brings back 30 year old memories.


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Shadesbreath 6 years ago from California

GRATS! That is so cool. I'm so happy for you both. (Nicely done hub too.)


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pakpub 6 years ago from Ohio

This is a great hub. Best wishes!


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Lisa HW 6 years ago from Massachusetts

Sunforged, as you know, I don't know you other than from some HubPages conversation here or there; but believe it or not, just yesterday when I realized Father's Day is coming up, I wondered if your baby had made her entrance yet. I'm guessing this will be a particularly nice Father's Day for you this year. :)

Sincerest Congratulations to you, your wife, and your whole family.


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KCC Big Country 6 years ago from Central Texas

Congrats, Sunforged! What a cute article about the arrival.


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raisingme 6 years ago from Fraser Valley, British Columbia

Wonderful, wonderful, wonderful. Congratulations to both you and your wife! It is a real treat that you could allow your friends on HubPages to be part of it! Thank You and All the Best to you and your family!


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Faybe Bay 6 years ago from Florida

Congratulations Sunforged! I cried most of the way through this hub! It is an amazing way to remember an awesome (as in being filled with awe) event in your family's life. What a beautiful legacy for your little one, and a lovely tribute to your fiancé.

In dedication to your event: This is a video from an old movie (probably older than you) Kate Bush "This Woman's Work".

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r3dnFmwQy04


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rebekahELLE 6 years ago from Tampa Bay

I came back to read more. your presence of mind is truly inspiring. this is so beautiful for everyone involved and this documentation will mean so much to you later in life, and to your little precious daughter. she is beautiful beyond words. :)


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Sufidreamer 6 years ago from Sparti, Greece

Great stuff, Sunforged - congrats to you both :)


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shazwellyn 6 years ago from Great Britain

This is beautiful! I told you, you would be early!!! Remember? hehehe CONGRATULATIONS DAD! wahoooie! Congrats to mum too... but I guess mums always get taken for granted! Good luck x


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Money Glitch 6 years ago from Texas

What a wonderful hub to celebrate her birth. Beautiful baby, Congrats and glad to hear all it well. :)


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KCC Big Country 6 years ago from Central Texas

Came back to see the pics! What a darling little girl! I know you're beaming with pride! Congrats!


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englightenedsoul 6 years ago

I also came back to see the pics...The baby is sooooo soooooo cute. Congrats again SF.


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Mike Lickteig 6 years ago from Lawrence KS USA

What a wonderful (if stressful) event! I am so very happy for you and your family!!! And, you described it all extremely well.

Congratulations, my friend.

Mike


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raisingme 6 years ago from Fraser Valley, British Columbia

BEAUTIFUL!!!!!


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Jewels 6 years ago from Australia

A child is born - well done you two. I can give you her chart if you like, but it's Sidereal which aligns to the actual planets in the sky - makes your dear one Taurus and not Gemini by a few days. Tropical hasn't allowed for the earth's axis movements. Let me know. I need her Date, time, place (city and state and country.) And you can have her potential and personality traits in front of you. Send me a pm and I'll pdf it all back to you.


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IzzyM 6 years ago from UK

I've had many babies and this brought it all back! I felt for your poor wife - that was a looooong labor the poor soul I am so glad she came through it well. Your daughter is beautiful and worth everything you both went through. I wish her a long and happy lifetime...saying this with tears on my face. The birth of a new baby is truly wondrous.


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Uninvited Writer 6 years ago from Kitchener, Ontario

Congratulations again. This was a great hub...I laughed, I cried :) She is beautiful.


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sunforged 6 years ago from Sunforged.com Author

Thank you everyone! We are still in the hospital, our pediatrician wants 2 full days of viewing and assessment as a matter of policy. We are getting to sleep in sporadic 2 hour doses, its been around 36 hours since Ayla was born, she has yet to eat properly - which is becoming a bit stressful for mama and daughter ...but all the doctors are supportive and helpful and Im sure it will work out - they both just need a little more practice


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writer83 6 years ago from Cyber Space

congrats sunforged :) wishing all the best in mother hood.


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sunforged 6 years ago from Sunforged.com Author

@writer83 - me too! Im the Daddy though


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Lily Rose 6 years ago from East Coast

So happy I came back and got to see pictures! She's just beautiful and I'm happy for all of you that all went well! Practice definitely makes perfect and you will all be doing a lot of practicing in the days, months and years to come. CONGRATS!!


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prettydarkhorse 6 years ago from US

Congratulations to you and your wife, shes a beautiful nice hair sweet little girl, Giving birth is amazing - gift -- thats why I like writing about pregnancy and giving birth -- it just give me happiness to see the feelings of other who give birth and the dads and the families!That was a long labor though,

The reason to love your fiancee more and reason for a nice, busy but fulfilling days ahead and many more years! Maita


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sunforged 6 years ago from Sunforged.com Author

@PDH - Your right! Its amazing how protective one can become overnight - She is sleeping now - beware the nurse who wakes her inappropriately ! They are both so beautiful - Momma is still glowing (even though she doesnt know it)


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Jen's Solitude 6 years ago from Delaware

What a beautiful story of how your daughter's father feels about her birth. I am glad she is healthy and all is well. Congrats dad, thanks for sharing your special moment of time with us.


ryankett 6 years ago

This nearly produced a tear from me! I'm kinda glad that you didn't finish it Sunforged, tears aren't really 'me'. I am really happy for you, I cannot imagine how happy you must feel right now.


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rmcrayne 6 years ago from San Antonio Texas

I'm so relieved there was no need for vacuum or C-section! Well done!


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charanjeet kaur 6 years ago from Delhi

Congrats and Welcome to parenthood. She is so darn adorable and precious. I love the narrative, almost felt being part of the journey. Good luck to you and your wife and bless the little one. She is one day gonna be so proud of this hub you dedicated for her. Cheers and best wishes.


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Jane@CM 6 years ago

Congrats to you all! She is beautiful!!


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katiem2 6 years ago from I'm outta here

This is a great unique time capsul your daughter will treasure so keep adding to this virtual moment as it's a keeper. I have two daughters 11 and 14 and we constantly enjoy the memories caught on tape, scrap books and photos etc. Congrats :)


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iantoPF 6 years ago from Sunny California

Wonderful SF you coped with it far better than me. These are amazing times to see a baby grow and develop. I know you will have great joy, endless frustration and sleepless nights and you wouldn't swap it for the world.

My very Best Wishes to you and your family.


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thranax 6 years ago from Rep Boston MA

Awwww Sunforged its so cute da itty bitty baby girl!

Gratz on the new addition! (make sure to sleep while ya can!)

~thranax~


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Norah Casey 6 years ago from San Francisco Bay Area

Congrats Sunforged, what a beautiful little girl! Can't wait to see her on HubPages in 18 years. ;)

Best wishes to you and your family!


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sunforged 6 years ago from Sunforged.com Author

@All - Thank you , it brings a smile to my face to read your comments - I look forward to sharing this with mama after she gets her first good nights rest (kinda)


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samsons1 6 years ago from Tennessee

so, so beautiful... life, a new beginning. You described everything so well, makes me remember my third daughter, by then the dad's got it made - wrong! Enjoy; birth is such a wonderful experience and meant to be enjoyed by all...


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Ivorwen 6 years ago from Hither and Yonder

Congrats on the beautiful little girl!


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cbris52 6 years ago

Best of luck to you. I just love your writing style. Hub was really exciting to read!


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frogdropping 6 years ago

Well Sunforged you three are almost through your first week. I truly hope you've enjoyed getting acquainted, I loved the first weeks with all of mine - it's truly magical :) And now I must go as I have much to do! Keep smiling and enjoying all Family Sunforged!!


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Angela Harris 6 years ago from Around the USA

She's beautiful. Congratulations.


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thisisoli 6 years ago from Austin, Texas (From York, England!)

Congratulations!


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CulinaryFool 6 years ago

She is beautiful! Congratulations!


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Whitney05 6 years ago from Georgia

Nice story. I was a little confused by some of it. Gorgeous baby girl.

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