How Far Would You Go To Protect your Child?

How far would you go to protect your child? The world has always been a dangerous place, but over the last 70 years or so it has become safer and yet more dangerous.

This sounds as though I am contradicting myself but if you think about it, everyday we take our kids to school, pick them up and sometimes let them stay over at a friends house. In this case we live in a safe environment.

But out there, in the world or even around the corner from where you live there maybe someone who is dangerous. To protect our children we are constantly on the look out for danger.

It may be something as simple as the child falling from a tree. Or at the other end of the scale a full blown abduction. Most things that happen are usually something that can be sorted out pretty quickly, grab the phone, call an ambulance and get them to a hospital.

Those sort of problems are stomach churning but in some ways they are expected as our children grow up and start to explore the world around them.

But what would you do if someone either hurt them or tried to attack them in front of you?

How far are you willing to go to help your child?

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I remember when my son was about 12 years old. He came in from school in floods of tears because a group of older boys had attacked him on the way home.

After asking him what was wrong, I looked out of the window and saw at least 20 boys two or three years older, outside my house. Without thinking I ran down the stairs and confronted the leader.

He was much taller than me, but in my temper I slapped him hard around the face. To my astonishment he burst into tears.

Later that night his father and mother came to the door. I thought it was to apologise. But no. They started on me and my husband. The man was huge, 6 foot tall and very fat. I went for him as well, he was carrying a baseball bat.

I said to him, 'well at least now I can see why your son is a bully'. The women started yelling at me, but trust me, I may be little but I have a very big mouth. Luckily they went out the door with their tails between their legs so to speak.

To me, my reaction was totally over the top. But it was something I just could not help doing. It was though something had overtaken my mind. I could see and feel my actions, but nothing would have stopped me.

But how far would I have gone? Could I, in different circumstances, have killed someone if they had really hurt my boy?

I think so. Shocking? Well yes, but I am a mother. The same woman who would be embarrassed to walk into a shop and ask for a refund. But when cornered, I would turn into a lion.

I am woman, hear me roar.

Self Defence

So how can you protect your children? Well a good way is to learn self defence. Check out your nearest self defence classes for women. Just learning a few moves maybe the difference between life and death. I went to a few classes ten years ago, and I still remember the moves. Whether they would help me I really don't know, but its there, in the back of my mind and does give me confidence.

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Mothers Who Have Killed To Protect Their Children

Ms. Anonymous of Ball Ground GA, was attacked and assaulted while her child was locked in a closet.

When the attacker threatened to harm the child, the woman, who was badly injured managed to grab the knife and kill him.

The child was safe. Ms. Anonymous was given hospital treatment, but not arrested.

Mari Carmen Garcia of Spain was out walking seven years after her daughter had been raped.

She spotted the assailant, and after hearing him taunt her about her daughter, went home, grabbed some gasoline and walked into the bar where he was drinking.

She set him on fire, and a few days later he died. She was convicted of murder, and sentenced to 9 years in prison.

After an outcry of 'shame' with over 5,000 petitioners claiming her innocence, it was reduced to just one year.


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Self Defence For Children

When my son was small he went through years of learning different self defence techniques. He started when he was ten years old, and worked his way up through Judo. Then he decided to go to Karate which lasted a few months. Then he tried kick boxing, but gave up on that quite quickly.

Whatever the self defence program, it's a good idea to let your children learn if only for a few months. It will give them confidence, and may even help to stop school bullying too purely by the fact that if the other kids know they do it, it should put a stop to any harassment.

To be honest, after reading about the woman above who killed her childs attacker ages after the event, I am not sure whether my temper would still be as hot after all that time.

I would hope by then I would ring the police and take them through the courts.

On the other hand if it was happening at that moment, then I know for a fact that I would attack, and attack quickly.

We always say that if anybody hurt our kids we would go on the defensive. I know for a fact that with the way our minds work, we do just that.

Its a strange feeling. Something in our minds and bodies takes over, and whether we want to or not, we automatically spring like a lioness and take down the perpetrator.

The part of our minds that are usually timid or scared just totally disappears.

So, could I kill to protect my kids? I hope so. Like a cornered animal protecting their offspring, a mother will bare her claws and strike. Believe me, I know.

I am Woman hear me Roar!

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billybuc 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

There would be no hesitation; of that I am sure. I would kill to protect my child or loved ones and I would do it in a heartbeat. If that is shocking then so be it. Good job, Nell!


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Rosemay50 3 years ago from Hawkes Bay - NewZealand

You bet. It is just amazing where we find the strength and courage when we need it. Our instincts just take over.

Great hub


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida

Your reaction is totally understandable. "I am woman he me roar" is so true...I am Momma hear me roar on top of that and what a combination you have. I know that there is no doubt that if it was a question of my child or grandchildren, I would act whatever the consequences may be. That's just me....

Sending Angels to you ....:) ps


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Nell Rose 3 years ago from England Author

Thanks billy, no that's not shocking, its totally understandable, I have done it on a smaller scale, thanks as always, nell


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Nell Rose 3 years ago from England Author

Hi rosemay, that's so true, its funny how a part of our minds take over and we turn tribal! lol! thanks as always, nell


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Nell Rose 3 years ago from England Author

Thanks so much pstraubie, its our instincts and they are so strong, thanks for the Angels, sending some back to you too, nell


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Larry Fields 3 years ago from Northern California

Hi Nell,

When the safety of one's child is at stake, there's not much difference between Mama Human and Mama Griz. Voted up and awesome.


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carter06 3 years ago from Cronulla NSW

Absolutely!! would kill to protect mine, without thought & regardless.. Thought provoking, gut wrenching stuff that all parents need to consider..Great hub Nell, you go girl!! VUUABI shared & tweeted..cheers


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Mhatter99 3 years ago from San Francisco

Thank you for this. Sadly the one time my young son was in danger, I went blank. All I remember was the coffee the police were giving. I guess I came to his rescue too much.


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christopheranton 3 years ago from Gillingham Kent. United Kingdom

I just hope you are never put in a position, where you would have to kill. Luckily these things don't happen too often.


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Nell Rose 3 years ago from England Author

Thanks Larry, that is so true, glad you liked it, nell


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Nell Rose 3 years ago from England Author

Hi carter, lol! thanks so much! I turn into a tiny rockweiler when I need too! thanks!


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Nell Rose 3 years ago from England Author

Hi Mhatter, that's understandable, sometimes we do freeze up, its just in our nature, our minds go blank and we can't move, thanks for reading, nell


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Nell Rose 3 years ago from England Author

Thanks christopher, yes I totally agree, to attack is one thing, to kill someone? maybe, we don't know until the event, thanks as always, nell


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Sunshine625 3 years ago from Orlando, FL

I'm a firm believer in an eye for an eye...if anyone brings harm onto my kin folk chances are they should expect the same in return. I just hope I'll never have to be placed in that position. I feel bad when I have to swat a bug!


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Nell Rose 3 years ago from England Author

Morning Linda, yes I know what you mean, I even try to take out spiders! yuck! lol! thanks as always, and have a great day!


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Vinaya Ghimire 3 years ago from Nepal

I have seen mother's anger to protect her child.

Once in our orchard I was chased my wild bees, my mother came running to rescue me. Until then I had never seen her violence. She is a kind of woman who cannot watch chicken being slaughtered.


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carol7777 3 years ago from Arizona

I think we would do almost anything to protect our children. You brought it all to light here..and also we never know what we are going to do until we are in a situation to do so.


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Nell Rose 3 years ago from England Author

Hi Vinaya, lol! she sounds like a wonderful mother! That must have been terrifying! thanks as always, nell


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Nell Rose 3 years ago from England Author

Hi carol, that's right, anything can happen in a split second, so its down to us to see how we react, and hopefully we do it, thanks so much, nell


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Ruchira 3 years ago from United States

Becoming a parent changes everything. We tend to put them first for everything on this darn planet but making them walk alone on that street...yup gotta do it cause unfortunately I will not be there walking with him all the time...so give him the basics, teach him right and wrong and let him walk along....my mantra!

A very essential hub, and I loved reading the pros and cons of parents about it.

sharing it across


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MartieCoetser 3 years ago from South Africa

Never under-estimate mother's instict. It is nothing but a wild animal.


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drbj 3 years ago from south Florida

When their offspring are in danger, parents will attack - whether animal or human. That instinct for the preservation of our young is, I believe, hard-wired into our brains.


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Nell Rose 3 years ago from England Author

Hi drbj, yes that's true, we lash out thank goodness! thanks for reading, nell


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Nell Rose 3 years ago from England Author

Hi Martie, that's the truest words I ever heard! lol! thanks martie, nell


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Nell Rose 3 years ago from England Author

Hi Ruchira, we can't always be with them, and teaching them how to protect themselves is essential, great points ruchira, and thanks!


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lrc7815 3 years ago from Central Virginia

Nell, this is a wonderful piece of work. The short answer is that I don't think any of us really know what we would do until we are standing in that place. I am protective of everyone I love and in the heat of the moment, I think I could be dangerous if someone hurt one of them. If given a little time to think about it, I think I would be even more dangerous in a calculated, legal manner. Hopefully, none of us ever have to make that decision. Wouldn't that be wonderful? Voted way up.


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Nell Rose 3 years ago from England Author

Hi Irc815, thanks so much for reading, its a scary thought that we may have to do something but when it happens it just takes over your mind and we go for it, thanks, nell


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Gordon Hamilton 3 years ago from Wishaw, Lanarkshire, United Kingdom

Hi, Nell. You always find an amazing variety of subjects to write upon! :) I was 13 and the eldest when my Dad walked out and my Mum was left with her boys. God, did she fight for us! We had no money, so she lived on toast until my Gran and my uncles found out. We didn't even have heating or hot water in the house, so she got us up one by one in the mornings as she boiled a kettle. She was too proud to ask for help.

There is no love on this planet like a mother's love. I am living proof. I often hear comment about those charged with abusing children and people say give them over to his/her father instead of the executioner when convicted by a court of law - I say no: give them to the mother...


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always exploring 3 years ago from Southern Illinois

I would defend my child in a heartbeat. I believe it is the ' flight or fight ' factor and the adrenaline takes over. Great topic Nell...


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Nell Rose 3 years ago from England Author

Hi Gordon, she sounds like an amazing woman. It must have been so hard for her, but as you say she fought like a lion to keep you safe bless her. Mothers have an inbuilt instinct to keep us safe and she did a grand job by the sound of it, thanks for reading, nell

Hi Ruby, yes that's it exactly, we go for it big time! lol! thanks so much as always, nell


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dilipchandra12 3 years ago from India

Good hub with interesting information. Really a good hub Nell, it was well written with good info.


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bac2basics 3 years ago from Spain

Hi Nell. Yes I would in a heartbeat. My daughter was bullied at school for a long time and in the end I just snapped. I had started to collect her from high school whenever I could and waiting at the school gates one afternoon I heard a boy saying that she was involved in a fight in the park behind the school, without thinking I ran right through the front doors and out of the back into the park , throwing my handbag at a teacher on the way past and telling her to hold it until I got back. It wasn´t hard to spot a gang of kids all milling about and I ran straight into them and grabbed my daughter. There was no fight going on because the girl who was planning to beat her up had been held in detention and her posse was trying to keep my girl there until she was let out. I shouted so loudly at the group that almost all of them burst into tears and I left no doubt in anyones mind that if my daughter was hurt or harassed in anyway whatsoever $6 that I would sort the lot of them out and their parents too, I just completely lost it. Next I went to see the headmistress and then one of the ringleaders parents, I couldn´t find out where the biggest bully lived so that had to be it. The headmistress tried to tell me that my daughter had made herself a target to be bullied and so my girl also got a dressing down from me, but Nell, I was bullied at school too for being an individual and sticking up for those who were also bullied and there is no making yourself a victim, all it takes is to not follow the other sheep and you become a target. Great hub Nell and you are spot on, when it comes to your kids you will do anything to protect them and reason goes out the door, you just attack.


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kittythedreamer 3 years ago from the Ether

I would do whatever it took to protect my children. Wonderful hub, Nell. Very thought-provoking.


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Fossillady 3 years ago from Saugatuck Michigan

Ah, yah . . . you think? If someone was harming and threatening my child, I would not have to think about it. The mama bear came to mind as I read this. I think all mother nature's creatures are wired to protect their offspring at the cost of their own lives. I'm proud of how you defended your son! And I don't blame the woman who set the guy on fire after all was said and done. The scars of something as heinous as rape don't go away overnight. I'm sure they all were still suffering . . . but it's not for us to judge. I'm glad she got a lesser sentence. Well, girl, you got my blood boil'n with this subject! Great article!!! Fossi, :O)


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Nell Rose 3 years ago from England Author

Hi Kathi, lol! yes a mama bear does come to mind! thanks as always, nell

Hi kitty, thanks so much, and glad you liked it, nell


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Nell Rose 3 years ago from England Author

Hi dilip, thanks so much for reading, nell


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marcoujor 3 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

Oh Nell,

I will have to add I have the same fierce protective instinct of the furry babies I have had through my years... If anyone dared to hurt someone I love, then they need to be held very responsible. It is truly an instinct that comes right to the surface to do what has to be done. At these times, I honestly believe women are colder than men... At least the women I know and love are when push comes to shove.

Very thought provoking as your work is...thank you. Voted UP & UABI.


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Nell Rose 3 years ago from England Author

Hi Maria, thanks so much for reading, they say a woman acts colder because she thinks out the revenge! lol! glad you liked it, nell


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aviannovice 3 years ago from Stillwater, OK

Mel, anyone would kill to protect a loved one that was in IMMINENT danger. I can see why the parents that showed up at your place had a bully for a child. It was a learned response. Not everyone is meant to be a parent. Sadly, nobody is forced to attend school before they have children. And look at the state of our world now...


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Nell Rose 3 years ago from England Author

Hi Deb, yes they were taught it themselves, and then passed it onto the boys, when they came up I was so shocked! but soon kicked back! the kids today never have disipline, so they grow up stealing and attacking people, bring back the cane I say! thanks for reading, nell


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tillsontitan 3 years ago from New York

I don't think we have a choice. Our instincts are to protect our young at any cost. In a flight or fight situation one may hesitate but not when our child is involved, then our own life becomes unimportant and protecting our child IS our life. Good subject Nell and I bet you'll get lots of comments on this one!

Voted up, useful, and interesting.


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Nell Rose 3 years ago from England Author

Hi mary, thanks so much I think we all have the same idea on this one, fight first before we can even think about, thats what mums do! thanks again, nell


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Nell Rose 3 years ago from England Author

Hi mary, thanks so much I think we all have the same idea on this one, fight first before we can even think about, that's what mums do! thanks again, nell


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DzyMsLizzy 3 years ago from Oakley, CA

My kids are grown now, but believe me, I'd have protected them if anything like that ever happened.

This reminds me of a post I've seen making the rounds on FaceBook, that says, "I may seem meek and mild, but mess with my kids and you'll unleash 7 kinds of crazy."


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Nell Rose 3 years ago from England Author

Hi Lizzy, lol! that sounds exactly right! in my case it would be 7 kinds of attack! thanks for reading, nell


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celeste inscribed 3 years ago

I have not been physical (yet) but I have taken on a school, a mother, other children (teens) and an activity center management. I might be small too but dynamite comes in small packages! Nobody messes with my boy! Unfortunately I have embarrassed my son on occasion, and I regret that. It is as though instinct, anger and adrenalin kick in and I go a little loopy.


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Nell Rose 3 years ago from England Author

Hi celeste, that's it exactly! lol! we go a little loopy. I remember storming up to the school to stop my son being bullied, I saw the kids looking out the windows with a what the... expression on their faces! haha! they soon stopped! thanks for reading, nell


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Glimmer Twin Fan 3 years ago

It scares me to think how far I might go if someone were hurting my child. Even when she is upset about something small and comes to me, I find my "mama bear instinct" rising up. Of course there are instances where I step back. Being a parent is tough work!


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Nell Rose 3 years ago from England Author

Thanks Glimmer, yes you are right, there are times when we should have enough sense to step back. If its too dangerous, or we are going to make it worse, then yes its the best idea, thanks again, nell


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CrisSp 3 years ago from Sky Is The Limit Adventure

"I may be little but I have a very big mouth." ---Oh Nell, that's so witty of you!

Yes, I would (and without hesitation) to protect my children. Like you, I am Woman hear me Roar!

Great hub! Very interesting! Voted up and sharing.


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stephanieb27 3 years ago from United States

I feel the same way, DO NOT mess with my babies!!! :)


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Nell Rose 3 years ago from England Author

Hi CriSp, lol! yes a big roar! thanks so much for reading, nell

Hi steph, I think all mothers feel the same way! lol! thanks for reading, nell


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Faith Reaper 3 years ago from southern USA

Nell, I think any mother would to protect her child. When someone messes with my children, my horns come out big time. It is just that natural instinct to protect one's child. Great article!

Voted up ++++ and sharing

Blessings, Faith Reaper


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Nell Rose 3 years ago from England Author

HI Faith, thanks so much, and yes I agree with you completely, my teeth grow bigger! lol! glad you liked it, nell


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trusouldj 3 years ago from Indiana

Great job. Keep up the good work.


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LongTimeMother 3 years ago from Australia

Hi Nell. I have actively encouraged each of my children to learn self defence, but I have also taught them to tell lies if necessary, and try and talk themselves out of trouble before fighting. I believe that equipping our children with skills to defend themselves is part of the process of protecting them.

Would I kill an attacker who threatened the life of my child? Absolutely, if that's what it took to stop them.

Would I take on a giant with a baseball bat who had one foot inside my front door? lol. Perhaps not the same way as you did, Nell, but I'd certainly give it a shot.

Great hub. Voted up. :)


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Nell Rose 3 years ago from England Author

Hi LongTimeMother, thanks so much for reading, yes its amazing what we will do for our kids, lol! yes talking is the best way to tackle it, but if in doubt then its best to jump in, thanks, nell


Sherrie Young 3 years ago

I know I would if I had to. I have had to stand up for my children more than once. Even made police reports. Not to mention cops getting called by the bystanders. If it came down to my children or my life... I would use my last breath to tell them I love them. Just Sayin


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Nell Rose 3 years ago from England Author

Thanks Sherrie, that's it exactly, I think we just go nuts if anybody trys to hurt our kids, its a mothers instinct, thanks so much for reading, nell


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brakel2 3 years ago from Oklahoma City, Oklahoma

Hi Nell. Great article. You do think of the best articles to write. I see that we have many hubbers who would go all out for their children. Your stories about yourself show what a good mother you are. Thanks for sharing this caring topic with us. Take care Audrey. Shared !!


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Nell Rose 3 years ago from England Author

Hi Audrey, thanks so much, yes we women are like tigers! lol!


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LadyFiddler 2 years ago from Somewhere in the West

LAUGH out loud at you slapping the boy, sounds like something i would do if i had a child and they had done that. I have a nephew i always tell him do not hit people just like that but if they hit you then hit them back hard, your mum never made any beh beh or stupidy. These bullies have a way about them once they know they've got you in the bag.

What was that guy going to do with that baseball bat knock you out. Hmmm!!

Thanks for sharing this with us Nell Nell


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Nell Rose 2 years ago from England Author

Hi Jo, lol! yep a good slap! seriously I think we all would do these things for our kids, most of us would you wait till you got some children! lol! hope your having a great day, nell


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Vellur 2 years ago from Dubai

I would do anything to protect my child. I think all of us should know some form of self defense to protect our kids and ourselves. Great hub.


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Nell Rose 2 years ago from England Author

Hi Vellur, thanks so much for reading, yes a mother and of course a father will do anything to keep their kids safe, nell


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Paula Atwell 2 years ago from Cleveland, OH

Of course I would do everything I could possibly do to protect my children and they are both teetering on adulthood. Hopefully, not necessarily violence, but also in teaching them to protect themselves.


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Rhonda Lytle 2 years ago from Deep in the heart of Dixie

When I read about the women sent to jail for attacking her daughter's assailant years later, I wanted to weep. I would have been the first to sign for her release. She should not have done a day and I don't care if it was 50 years after the fact.

I couldn't help but think of another article I read recently where fathers trying to save their daughters from gang kidnappings and rape were actually jailed for the rescue attempt.

When the law doesn't protect kids, maybe it's long past time to replace the law and the predators that have highjacked it enabling folks to hurt kids. Just my thoughts.


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Nell Rose 2 years ago from England Author

Thanks Paula, yes we women just turn into mad women if anyone tries to hurt our kids, thanks so much for reading, nell


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bravewarrior 2 years ago from Central Florida

I would absolutely do whatever it takes to defend my child. Maternal instinct comes equipped with vengeful fire. You don't even know it's there until put to the test.

I love the photo at the end of this article. I'd love to have a t-shirt with that picture on it!


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Nell Rose 2 years ago from England Author

Hi Rhonda, that's terrible! if we can't protect our own kids without being prosecuted what the hell are we supposed to do? the law is a jerk sometimes! thanks so much as always, nell


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Nell Rose 2 years ago from England Author

Hi bravewarrior, yes that photo is great isn't it? I am woman hear me roar! yes its quite scary to think that we could get really violent, but if that's what it takes, well! thanks so much for reading, nell


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Barbara Kay 2 years ago from USA

I don't know if I'd be capable of murder or not, but I turn into a bear if someone hurts my child. I guess I need to learn karate or something.


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Paula Atwell 2 years ago from Cleveland, OH

Nell, not just women. Men, too will protect their kids just as much.


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Nell Rose 2 years ago from England Author

Hi Barbara, yes I think we all should learn karate or judo, just something that would get them away but not feel too nasty, I would hate myself if I actually killed someone, but who cares when our children are involved, its just afterwards that the guilt would set in, thanks for reading, nell

Hi Paula, yes of course, parents either a man or woman would do something they didn't even know they could do, its the animal instinct in all of us, thanks so much for reading, nell

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