How to appreciate your children? Brings out the talent in your child
‘Encouraged people achieve the best; dominated people achieve the second best; neglected people achieve the least’- ANONYMOUS.
How apt these words are. Appreciation ‘boosts up’ your morale, motivates you to do even better, and gives you the pep to make you feel accomplished. It does not cost us anything to appreciate others, but do we do it. why is it you are averse to appreciate. it is because you do not know the worth of appreciation. do you appreciate your children? your answer would invariably be a big ‘no’.
Shall we create a scenario where you and your child are the main characters!
Your son returns from school waving a paper with his drawings in it. ‘Daddy look at my drawing, do you like it?’ The drawing might not be a masterpiece, but to the small child it is indeed a masterpiece. You take an indifferent look at the drawing and you start giving him advice of how it should be drawn. The poor child cannot understand why his father did not have a word of appreciation which he so longed for. His face becomes dull and his enthusiasm peters out.
Your son returns from school waving a piece of paper with his drawings in it. ‘Daddy look at my drawing, do you like it?’ You take your son in your lap, have an interested look at his drawings, then you say ‘wonderful son, excellent work’ and you give him a warm hug. Watch your son glow and in reality you had sown the seed of talent in him .who knows? You might find a great artist in him.
It brings out the talent in your child.
Appreciation is the key factor in bringing out the hidden talent in your child.
Why do you not feel like appreciating your children’s talent?
It is because you feel that it is not up to the mark as you are seeing everything from your adult attitude. You forget that your child is still in the evolving stage and you cannot have a master piece as yet.
Appreciation is encouragement
When you appreciate him you can see the answering radiance in your child’s face and he feels encouraged to go further in his talent. His mind seeks out the ways to improvise himself in whatever field he might have proficiency and it never fails to interest him as he had been ignited by your appreciation. He goes more and more up the ladder, all because of your faith in him.
It shows your trust in your child
Appreciation is one way of showing that you believe in your child’s talent and this trust makes your child more confident and this confidence gives him the necessary energy to be innovative and ground breaking in his talent.
Do not underestimate appreciation.
You lead a very hectic lifestyle and feel exhausted when your return from work. You overlook your eagerly awaiting child who wants to share his tiny world of fame with you. In your fatigue and stress you fail to understand that your appreciation is like water to the seed of his talent.
Make the talent of your child flourish
When his talent seed gets watered by your appreciation, it germinates to a healthy plant and further appreciation spreads out his talent so that one day it will branch out to become a tall figure of eminence and what more happiness a parent will want than the blazing fame of their children.
Your indifference kills the talent of your child
But if you are indifferent to your child’s talent, he gets discouraged and does not find the drive necessary to go higher up in his talent. His talent is nipped in the bud and it dies under the crumbling burden of complete blind eye you turn towards his talent.
It is in the hands of parents to mold their child’s talent into a story of fame and recognition. Be the first to acknowledge the budding talent of your child and be his guide and channelize his prowess into the public view and appreciation.
© 2011 mathira
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