How to Identify a Bad Baby Sitter

With the increase of woman in work place and due to the need of double income to support the increasing cost of living, demand for child care centre, baby sitter and nanny is also increasing.

Well, choosing a baby sitter or nanny is as important as we choose our career. A good baby sitter would be the right combination of a co-mother and teacher (giving guidance) to your child. Having a bad baby sitter would totally be a nightmare.

How to know your baby sitter or nanny is doing the job? To find out, it is not easy. You may have to do some detective work like surprise visits or use surveillance equipment. However, through thorough observation, there are some signs that will tell you this.

You may need to consider your baby sitter or nanny not doing the job if:

Your child seems reluctant to go to the baby sitter or nanny’s place and is unhappy to see the baby sitter or nanny;

Yes, agreed that bonding between parents and the child can never be replaced by any baby sitter or nanny. But, it doesn’t mean that your child does not bond with others whom he or she spends a lot of time with, like the baby sitter or nanny. In fact, if the baby sitter or nanny is providing the kind of warmth, love and comfort to your little one, the child must be very happy to see the baby sitter or nanny. Children instinct is very sharp. They know who cares for them. Trust your child’s instinct and observe his or her reactions. If your child is uneasy and withdrawn, be alert. I have seen a child crying when his parents send him to the nanny and continue to cry even long after his parents left. This happens frequently. Time to change the nanny, don’t you think?

Your baby sitter or nanny always complains about your child or other child in front of you;

If your baby sitter or nanny is always complaining about the misbehaviors of your child or telling you she has to put a lot of attention for taking care of your child, start your observation. Or probably, she may complain on the misbehavior or naughtiness of other parents’ child. Be observant and try to find out the truth behind the story. It could be the sign that the baby sitter or nanny isn’t the right person to take care of your child and providing your child with love, warmth, and care and being patient. She probably has other stuffs going on in her mind and child care is just another source of income.

Your baby sitter or nanny seems reluctant to communicate about your child’s daily routine;

Your child’s daily routine should be communicated openly. Some professional baby sitter or nanny will keep a record of the daily routine for the parents to review. As most of the parents will want to know what their child did while they are away. Questions like how many meals a day, how many hours of sleep or probably how many times of “potty” per day are common communications between parents and the baby sitter or nanny. If your baby sitter or nanny is not forth coming with these answers, either she's does not know or she is hiding something from you.

Your baby sitter or nanny is pushing away responsibilities;

Baby sitter or nanny’s responsibility is taking good care of your child. Make sure hygiene and safety are the top priority. She does not report to you if something happens to your child. When you find out, she will find a lot of excuses to cover it. So, never tolerate someone who is dishonest. You have to be able to trust your baby sitter or nanny in order to leave your precious one under her care.

Fundamental disagreement and your baby sitter or nanny insists on her own way of child care;

Both parents and baby sitter or nanny are playing an important role in influencing the child. Normally, the baby sitter or nanny will be much older than the child’s parents. It would be a perfect team if both are working well together. The baby sitter or nanny may be more experienced in child care and can give you good advice. And you should always welcome suggestions from your baby sitters or nanny, especially if she spends a lot of time with your ever-growing child. If both of you are not on the same frequency, even on the basics like food, sleep, and safety, then you may need to rethink your options.

Your child is frequently involved in “accidents” which can be prevented;

Your baby sitter or nanny has to be aware of your child’s activities and prevent him or her from getting hurt. She is not supposed to be doing her own work or other stuffs and neglecting your child. She is not supposed to leave your child unattended even when he sleeps. Many accidents can be prevented if due attention is given.

Your baby sitter or nanny always not reachable during care time and always not able to shown up due to a thousand of excuses;

A responsible and understanding baby sitter or nanny will always be contactable whenever you need to communicate with her or your child. But, some irresponsible baby sitter or nanny will leave you in a worry state. For instance, the baby sitter or nanny will bring your child out without your permission. In order for you to not find out, she will not answer your call. Some will tell you in last minute that she needs to go on leave for some personal reason. This leaves the working parents a dilemma, as in such a short notice how are they going to get an alternative baby sitter or nanny to take care of their child. Eventually, it may affect the job performance of the working parents. Find someone who is committed to the job. Inconsistency and frequent absences may indicate that she is unreliable in other aspects as well.

Your child often looks untidy and dirty or too often sick;

Hygiene is very important especially for children as their immune system is not fully developed. Many diseases may start to say “hello” to your child if hygiene is not taken care of. If your baby sitter or nanny cannot even take care of the basics, it may be a sign that she is suitable for the job. Parents should visit the baby sitter or nanny’s house to check her hygiene awareness and concerns. Previously, I have many a time took my baby home only to find out that the baby sitter did not even know that he has done “potty” in his diaper. This seriously meant something and I have changed the baby sitter.

Just be observant and the above will surface automatically if your baby sitter or nanny is not up to the job. Who says that being a nanny is easy?

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Comments 33 comments

Karin Six 6 years ago

The more connected your childcare provider is to your children the better! I help people find au pairs as it is often the most affordable way to get safe, quality, and reliable childcare for your children. Most au pairs are also 'coached' by people like me (a local childcare coordinator) to give their best to their host families. I love this program as it is soooo rewarding to see children learn a new language and love their au pair! (I was also a former au pair twenty-some years ago!) I am happy to answer and questions on this program so parents can feel secure when they leave their children at home... Can't leave my site name but just google "Karin Six" and "au pair" together and you will find me thanks to LinkedIn.


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jasonycc 6 years ago from South East Asia Author

I think au pair is not common in some countries. Here, we have domestic servant or maid. Au pair is rare. However, I think countries that have au pair program should take full advantage of it and feel it is really beneficial for both parties.


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona

Thank you jasonycc for a great hub with valuable information. Thank you for sharing. Godspeed. creativeone59


Mike 6 years ago

My wife and I started an online babsitter referral service and use feedback from the parents to make sure that only the best babysitters are allowed into our network and retained. All sitters are evaluated at the end of a session and any sitter who's rating falls below a certain level are removed from the network.


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jasonycc 6 years ago from South East Asia Author

Hi Karin, I have visited your site. You have great stuffs to offer!


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jasonycc 6 years ago from South East Asia Author

creativeone59, thanks for visiting.

Mike, your company matches parents and babysitters for free.. cool!


Candi 6 years ago

Here are several childcare requirements you should expect from your nanny.

1. You can expect your nanny to arrive on time for work.

2. You can expect you nanny to notify you in a timely fashion if he/she is ill or will be late in arriving.

3. You can expect your nanny to keep you up-to-date on any significant milestones, changes and issues regarding your child.

4. You can expect your nanny to keep you informed of your child’s activities, whereabouts, and eating habits during the day.

http://tinyurl.com/yax2mzg


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jasonycc 6 years ago from South East Asia Author

Candi, appreciate your advice on the expectation of a nanny. More often than not, we can identify a bad nanny if she does not meet the requirements above. Thanks for your visit and contribution.


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NewHorizons 6 years ago from Gozo, Malta, EU.

Hi Jasonycc, Great Hub and sensible practical tips for those who hire a babysitter. I am your follower too, now. I do babysitting with my granddaughter who is 4 years now, while her mother is a t work as a teacher. Now I have a grandson too to take care of. He 3 months old. i know what a babysitter shd be like. Keep it up.


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jasonycc 6 years ago from South East Asia Author

NewHorizons, congrats on your new grandson. Babysitting is no mere easy task. Kudos to you on babysitting two of your grandchildren. They are very fortunate to have their grandpa taking care of them. I am sure they get tons of love from you.


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ripplemaker 6 years ago from Cebu, Philippines

This is a wonderful hub..if one learns to identify the good from the bad baby sitter, it can truly help you make the right choice.

Well, the Hubnuggets Team chose the right hub too. Congratulations, your hub is a Hubnugget Wananbe! Yes, it is! Just move your mouse over this link and click, it will take you right where you want to go--the Hubnuggets! :) http://hubpages.com/hubnuggets10/hub/hubnuggets-th...

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jasonycc 6 years ago from South East Asia Author

Wow! What a big surprise. This is totally unexpected. Thank you. We are honoured to be selected.


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ripplemaker 6 years ago from Cebu, Philippines

jasonycc..have you voted? Promoted your hub? I hope so... :)


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jasonycc 6 years ago from South East Asia Author

Thanks for prompting ripplemaker. We have voted. And now promoting our hub via emails.


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donotfear 6 years ago from The Boondocks

This is really good! I'll need to pass it on to my son. His 10 month old is in day care, however, it appears to be a very loving environment. When he arrives little Alek is taken by one of the ladies. Then the other children, who are all very happy, say, "The baby The baby! I want to play with the baby!" Thank you for publishing this!


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obsexed 6 years ago from Sensual, USA

This is great advice. Although I am past the days of needing a sitter, I found many of these points out through experience.


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jasonycc 6 years ago from South East Asia Author

donotfear.. Thank you for your support. It's good to know that your grandchild is being taken care of in a loving environment. Also, interaction with other toddlers and children is great as it helps with baby's developement.

Another point to note is, if little Alek is the youngest amongst the group, his immune system may be the least developed and easily infected if any of them is sick. We experienced that when our son was the youngest in the groupof 8 other toddlers.


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JOE BARNETT 6 years ago

i have gone through this in raising my 3 kids. had some nightmares too. i learned all this the hard way, great hub!


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shazwellyn 6 years ago from Great Britain

Very effective advice... well done!


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jasonycc 6 years ago from South East Asia Author

obsexed, joe, shazwellyn thanks for your comments. Really really appreciate your comments as I know all of you are speaking from experience.


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jasonycc 6 years ago from South East Asia Author

Joe Barnett, i received your email earlier. Thank you for your support. :))


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TINA V 6 years ago

I voted for this article in our Hubnuggets week. This is informative and helpful to all parents. Good work!


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jasonycc 6 years ago from South East Asia Author

Thank you for your support, Tina V. :))


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jasonycc 6 years ago from South East Asia Author

Thank you all for your votes. The official HubNugget poll is closed. This hub received the highest vote in the Home & Family category. Thank you all for your support. Appreciate it very much. :))


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2besure 6 years ago from Charlotte, North Carolina

Great hub, this is one of the most important decisions a parent can make. Voted up!


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jasonycc 6 years ago from South East Asia Author

2besure, thanks for the vote. At times it is as important as deciding on a career or choosing a job.


thecarepost 5 years ago

These are great tips. If you ever need to find a sitter come over and check us out! Great hub BTW!

Keli

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jasonycc 5 years ago from South East Asia Author

Thanks Keli.

Always check for warning signs. Having a good baby sitter gives you peace of mind and focus.


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Knightheart 5 years ago from MIssouri, USA

A great article for all parents that are seeking a babysitter for their children!

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jasonycc 5 years ago from South East Asia Author

Thanks for your visit and comment, Knightheart. Having a good baby sitter can reduce the parents stress level tremendously.


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marriednokids 5 years ago from California

These are all great tips. In my hub http://hubpages.com/family/5-Ways-to-Insure-Your-F... I talk about why friends won't baby sit but if you find they have the qualities above you may not want them to.


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jasonycc 5 years ago from South East Asia Author

mnk, I have read your hub. I do agree with you especially on point no.3 not being appreciative. Thanks for your visit and comment.

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