How to potty train children: All we need to know about potty training

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How to potty train children: All we need to know about potty training

How to potty train a child

All parents want their children to get off their diapers soonest as it entails saving on time, money and diaper rashes. While parents appreciate their children and they are always ready to assist their children in putting diapers, at some point children needs to be potty trained for their independence. Developmental growth and learning happened by stages. Potty training is a stage in the life of a child which they start to become independent and self sufficient in a way. Proud parents will always look forward to the day when they are showing signs that they are ready for the big day. They become a “big boy or girl” to some extent.

The aim of this short article is all about tips on how to potty train a child.

Some of the questions we have are: when do we know that a child is ready for it (this is important to avoid frustration on the parent part and also for the child who always have to please and seek for parents approval when they do something). Do we start at a certain age? And the how part, how to do potty training? What are the things to consider?

As caretakers of our children we need patience and understanding when we potty train them. Cooperation between the child and parent is very crucial. It is a two way process. Like what I always say, knowing your child is always a plus so we should always be observant when they show signs of wetting and BM. Training them in advance if they are not ready is futile as they are not willing and would not cooperate. We should not force them to do it as we will be frustrated and it might take longer to potty train them than to wait for them when they are ready. Once they are ready to do it, it will be very easy. Some would say it will take a day, three days or within a week. In my experience it ranges from a week to a month.

It will help if you familiarize them with the parts of the body and its uses

The child should be ready physically, emotionally and physiologically ready for potty training. The child should be bladder ready meaning he can able to hold urine at interval, say her diaper is dry every two hours and she/he can know or sense it. It means they can control when to pee or BM it or she knows that the bathroom is the place to go and they show interest when somebody go there. Of course the child should be walking already by this time. She could at least say simple words such as pee, poop or eat. They must have control when to pee or have BM. One sign that they are ready is when for example they can pull their own diaper already and remove it or when they begin to undress or put clothes on themselves.

Children’s cognitions and learning ability differs so there is no correct age to start potty training. Their willingness to be trained is important. My fourth child who is nearly adolescent now start to be potty trained at the age of thirteen months while my first is only one year and the two others are approximately 18 to 20 months. For my toddler who is 22 months at the moment she is yet to be potty trained. I tried doing it at early age but she cant hardly talk yet so it is a continuing challenge for me. Every child is unique in their own way.

According to research, the average age for which children are potty trained is 24 months. The earlier they develop their motor skills and language ability the earlier potty training is introduce to a child.

In summary/key points:

There is no exact age when to introduce them to potty training. They should be ready physically, physiologically and emotionally.

The role of the parent is very crucial, they must be patient and know their children well. Talking to them like explaining what is going on and encouraging them or praising them is also important. We can always say good job when she tries to go to the bathroom and tell you she will pee. We should always support them lovingly so that they will enjoy the learning process. Devoting time is also important as potty training is a round the clock task.

Parents must decide which to use like pull ups, underwear, potty chair or just let them have jogging pants. Some parents would just leave their children without nothing on them. In this way they say she will have the association or connection between pooping and their body.

Select what potty training tool is best for the child like chair, pull ups, underwear etc.

A plastic toy (any toy, choose a toy which they like) which they can play while sitting in their chair. Don’t force them if they cant stay there for long.

Talking to your child about it is also very important, sometimes we underestimate our babies ability to comprehend. It helps if we explain to them what we are trying to do. Try going to the bathroom and remove their diaper there so they will know the use of it.

Rewards and appreciation is also encourage every time they go to bathroom or tell you in gestures they are going to wet.

If we take all these things into consideration , we will be surprised that potty training is not so difficult task at all and so we can all enjoy while we do it with our child.

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Ivorwen 7 years ago from Hither and Yonder

With my last two children, I have found that the emotional part of being ready is probably the most important part of potty training. My four year old swore it was the diapers that made the mess, not him! It wasn't until he dug through all of the unused diapers and discovered no poop, that he was willing to consider that he might make the mess! He was done with diapers shortly there after.

My youngest is fully capable of using the toilet and has for several days, with no accidents, but insists that he is a baby. He is not ready to give up the diapers, and until he is, I know it will just be a battle.


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prettydarkhorse 7 years ago from US Author

hi Ivorwen, your right, emotional part is very important for children! I smile about your four year old child, hmm thats quite a story, you know I love children I have five of them so far, and I enjoy every funny moment with them too!

with your youngest one i am happy that he is in the right track now, sometimes children just start the process of not liking diaper anymore, and there it goes, we will be a happy mom,,

thanks Ivorwen for dropping by, have a good day!


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Ben Zoltak 6 years ago from Lake Mills, Jefferson County, Wisconsin USA

Nicely done Maita, I will be coming back to this article in a year or so! Depending of course, on whether or not my new child is ready! Cute new hair by the way in your profile pic!

Cheers!

Ben


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prettydarkhorse 6 years ago from US Author

thanks for your nice comment Ben and is your baby infant yet, how old is he/she? Maybe is he/she walking now? must be fun taking care of them at these stage as they are so full of energy too,

Have a good day, Maita


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RedSelassie 6 years ago

Very good hub--For I have learned the hard way of what u speak--my daughter after makin the beginning strides well reverted back when the new child was born now the oldest is 3 and the youngest 1--i fear they will be potty trained at the same time. The youngest is tryna keep up and the oldest is trying not to get too far ahead of the pack. I look forward to reading more of your hubs and feel free to peruse my work as well.


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H.C Porter 6 years ago from Lone Star State

Perfect timing for me to find this hub! My two children are 2 1/2 and 1 1/2...I am ready for potty training---I live in the land of stinky diapers :) Thanks for the advice...


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prettydarkhorse 6 years ago from US Author

oh, you busy mom, take care so you can take care of your children, Maita


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MFB III 6 years ago from United States

I was lucky in that I found a great book called Potty training in 24 hours. I took my three year old son on a day of practicing having to go to the potty, whether he did have to or not. He would be out in the back yard playing and I would say, "Honey it's potty practice time, and he would run in, and run upstairs and sit on the toilet and practice what he needed to learn, we also did it at meals, and when he was napping and when he was at a nieghbors I called him to come in and practice. We did this all day Tuesday and Wednesday,

which was no longer a

wet-his-day, and even twice in the middle of the night and he learned to go all by himself from then on. I was very proud of how hard he practiced and rewarded him with something nice each time he went up to practice and that solved the potty training dilemma. I am sure the book is still in print, on Amazon or somewhere and it works. at least in my case. Great and helpful hub to a learning stage of life for all the little ones. ~~~MFB III


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prettydarkhorse 6 years ago from US Author

MFB< wow, youre a great dad, you did that, your son is smart, how old is he now, maybe the book is still there at amazon, helpful book, but you know what rewards and punishment really works specially rewards and I think bonding between you and your son, it helps a lot, Thank you so much MFB< Maita


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Betty Reid 5 years ago from Texas

Awesome choice of photo!


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dmop 4 years ago from Cambridge City, IN

I have seven kids five of which are potty trained, and each of them learned at different ages with different amounts of work. My one year old is very smart, we may start to teach her this summer some time. Our youngest boy is 31 months now, he seems very smart, but is very stubborn and will not do anything we tell him. I am very frustrated, but continue to try to be patient and loving. I know each child is different so don't expect him to be like the other kids, but some days I sure wish he was. Great article, thanks for writing. I gave it a vote up and useful.

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