How to take care of your physically challenged child?

Obviously, because of my disability, I need assistance. But I have always tried to overcome the limitations of my condition and lead as full a life as possible. I have traveled the world, from the Antarctic to zero gravity.’ –Stephan Hawking

Children are the anchor of your life and you are very emotionally inclined towards them. But it is a nerve wracking experience when your child is physically challenged and you cannot accept the fact easily. You feel emotionally drained and at loss! You are also terrified about the future of your child. ‘Who will look after him\her when I am not there’ you agonizingly ask yourself many a time.

But you cannot sit back in agony as now is the time for courage and strength. Your initial problem is to make your child realize that he\she is not a lesser person to anyone. You should not talk negatively to the child as it instills in him\her a feeling of incapability. He\she should be made to realize that everyone has some talent and it is those who realize it make it big in life.

Do you know many renouned persons had some physical disabilities!

Ludwig van Beethoven had hearing impairment

Stephan hawking has amyotrophic lateral sclerosis

Helen Adam Keller- the adversity of being blind and deaf

John Milton –blind

These people were famous in their field and their mental ability was never cramped by their physical disability. Your child too is very capable and you should tap his individuality. I was very impressed by a reality TV show in Tamilnadu India where physically challenged people dance, sing, play musical instruments with such talent that they cannot be called lesser than anyone. I could only salute the parents who had brought forth such hidden talents of their child.

You should inculcate self confidence in your child as this helps him survive this harsh world. There are institutions that cater to different types of handicaps and your child can join in an intuition which caters to his\her particular physical handicap.

Do not talk negatively before your child and curse the fate that made him\her handicapped. If you do so, your child grows up feeling that he is not normal and lacks something which others have got. You should allow him to mingle with other children which make him feel included in the society.

Appreciate whatever small success he\she achieves to make him\her feel worthy. You should consult a specialist for advice to look after your child. There might be exercises, mental games or even counseling which helps him\her a long way.

There must be a community of parents of like wise challenged children and when you interact with them you get lots of new ideas of how to deal with such a disability. It also makes you feel psychologically better when you know that you are not a lone sufferer.

You should always encourage your child and there should be no partiality in your behavior to your other normal children. Your partiality makes your physically challenged child feel depressed and miserable. The feeling that you are always there to support him\her makes your child feel very sheltered and secure.

Always include the child when you are doing some family preparations. If you exclude him\her citing his inability it makes him\her become a loner who does not want to face the outside world- a very dangerous incapacity than his\her physical inability.

You must train him\her to do his\her personal needs so that he\she does not depend on you for his\her day to day ablutions. You should teach him\her the essence of life and make him\her capable of facing it with courage.

Your child might need devices which can help him handle life better. You should consult a specialist and buy him\her the best gadget available. Do not make him feel handicapped by hovering over him\her in parental worry as it makes him\her resent it.

He\she should be handled with great care. You should not make him\her feel wanting of your love by behaving partially with your normal children and ignoring your handicapped child. You should not also be too protective which makes him\her feel that something is wrong with him\her. The need of the hour is your inner stability to make your child realize his\her worth.

© 2014 mathira

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billybuc 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

Very important information here. I know parents with physically handicapped kids and I marvel and the positive way they handle the adversity.

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MG Singh 3 years ago from Singapore

Very topical and interesting post.

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jpcmc 3 years ago from Quezon CIty, Phlippines

Lot's of value in this hub. Having children with special needs is no easy responsibility. I just admire their strength and love for their children.

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MsDora 3 years ago from The Caribbean

Good inspiration for parents of impaired children. It is mostly the love and empowerment of the parents which make the children excel. Thank for sharing this message.

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stephanie mclain 3 years ago from Texas

Thank you for sharing the great info!

Stephan Hawking has always been kind of a hero of mine as when I was a child my father had amyotrophic lateral sclerosis (ALS)

I truly believe there's a special place in heaven for parents of handicapped children. It takes a special type of person to deal with what they have to each day.

Thanks for sharing this hub! Voting up!

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mathira 3 years ago from chennai Author

Very true billy, I have always marveled at parents who courageously hide their sorrow to give the much needed care for their physically challenged children.

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mathira 3 years ago from chennai Author

MG Singh, thank you for the visit.

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mathira 3 years ago from chennai Author

jpcmc, parents with physically challenged children should admired for their extraordinary courage.

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mathira 3 years ago from chennai Author

MsDora, you are absolutely true that it is the love of the parent which make such children excel in life.

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mathira 3 years ago from chennai Author

I too am an ardent fan of Stephan Hawking. Extraordinary is an understatement when we talk of him. Thank you for the visit stephanie.

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