If Bullying Is So Bad, Why Do We Allow The Media, Politicians And Ourselves To Do It?

I’m guilty (and not just the usual guilt that comes with being a Jew who is about to atone for his sins for the past year in a few days). I have been writing this blog since 2006 and I have to admit that there are times when people have left me comments that I have felt the need to fire off a response that was less than kind. That’s right, I myself am a member of the bullied to bullying community. I have “written” people off and unfriended them when they quote the bible to me or tell me that I’m not going to heaven because I haven’t made Jesus my pal or that my 23 year relationship with someone of the same sex is an affront to all that is decent. I have encouraged others to come along with me and tell these self-righteous people just how wrong they are and although I feel less than the most powerful person in the world, I’ve seen people jump on my bandwagon and attack the people I attacked. So, does that make me a bully? I guess it does. And as more and more kids decide to take their lives because they can no longer take being bullied I have to wonder if we aren’t all a bit guilty. If bullying is so bad, why do we allow the media, politicians and ourselves to do it? – Don’t Get Me Started!

I’m disgusted by the likes of Perez Hilton who have made a career (and small fortune) for outing gay celebrities and/or bullying celebrities by posting their pictures online and drawing obscenities over them. Is what he does so different than the kid who posts hate on another supposed “friend’s” wall on Facebook or a photo that isn’t all that nice of them? Just because celebrities are supposed public figures, does it make it right to build them up just to tear them down? Think of all the television programming that exploits the exploits of celebrities and so-called celebrities. We love to see Britney get out of the car with no underwear on and flash it across every show from Entertainment Tonight to the Today show as if it were news. While some may say this can hardly be considered bullying and that the celebrity “had it coming” because they knew the paparazzi were following them, etc. I have to wonder how our kids are translating the information we’re giving them by our example. It’s a 365, 24/7 feeding frenzy that has our kids emulating the same thing. That’s right, Facebook is their own TMZ where they can stalk and make snarky comments about one another, just like the people they see on TV! We’ve modeled it for them pretty well and they’ve learned, maybe faster and better than we expected. We’re all so hungry for blood and outlets like television, the Internet and social media have become the modern day coliseum where we throw people in just to watch them squirm and dog pile up on the weaker creature.

So you say that’s not bullying, it’s just entertainment? Then what about our country’s leaders? When a political rally elicits such responses as applause for the death penalty and boos for a gay soldier fighting for all of us and our freedoms and no one on the political stage has anything to say (until their press people issue a statement the next day) shouldn’t these people be brought up on bullying charges too? I remember in 2009 when Representative Joe Wilson shouted at the President, “You lie.” I was disgusted that there was such disrespect shown but in retrospect it seems as though it’s the way of our current world. He who shouts loud enough and gets enough people to shout with him is the one who is heard. And as political parties morph into things like the Tea Party, who have become the closest thing we have to lynch mobs or angry villagers with torches and pitch forks I fear we’re going to see a lot more of mob bullying before the election in 2012 takes place. Watch the anger and name calling that goes on by all political parties and you’ll see the training manual for teaching our kids that whatever they want to do or say is okay and if they can get more people to go along with it, then all the better. Don’t show respect to our country’s leaders or anyone else for that matter. We are the only ones who matter (and those who think like us or bring an extra pitch fork to the rally).

Look, I get that we’re not all going to agree (maybe on anything) but there’s got to be a better way to deal with it than what we’re doing right now. And don’t we owe it to our kids and ourselves to try and figure this out? If we need any reminder of why not to call someone a moron or be a bit more civil when we disagree than all we have to do is look to our kids, our future generation that we’re teaching by example. There will always be bullies in this world because there will always be people with low self esteem who feel the need to make themselves feel better by attacking someone they perceive as weaker than them or they’re jealous of but when did we all decide to excuse ourselves as if our “bullying” was justifiable? And how soon will this new and improved hate come out of the cyber world and start becoming bullies killing the kids they “hate” with their own hand instead or destroying kids emotionally until they take their own life?

In watching the Anderson Cooper show, there was a mother of a girl who was being bullied who went to the parents of the children who were doing the alleged bullying. Do you know what happened? The parents not only denied it, they started bullying the mother! If you have kids, God bless you because I wouldn’t want to raise kids in this day and age. But what I will do is re-examine my own behavior and try to change it because who knows if kids are reading what I’m writing when I send it out into the Interverse and I’d rather them get their hate from somewhere else, not by my hand. If bullying is so bad, why do we allow the media, politicians and ourselves to do it? – Don’t Get Me Started!

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Silent Sinner 5 years ago

I love you passion for change. i myself am not a fan of bullying. It ruined much of my childhood, but i can not play victim when i myself have been found bullying. Maybe not to an extreme but i have. These times and days are getting worse and our children are watching it all go down. You have expressed strong points and I thank you for taking a stand.


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somelikeitscott 5 years ago from Las Vegas Author

Thanks Silent Sinner. I appreciate you taking the time to read and comment. All we can do is try to be better, right?


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lisadpreston 5 years ago from Columbus, Ohio

Scott, I don't mean to sound like a Jewish mother but when are the two of you going to be parents? You do know what an excellent job you would do, right? I think after 23 years it would be time. You can adopt. It wouldn't be like bringing another child into this messed up world. You're not getting any younger and I think it's about time, don't you?


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somelikeitscott 5 years ago from Las Vegas Author

lisadpreston - well you're adorable to think that but no kids in this house any time soon. Besides, we all ready disagree about the raising of the two cats (who are named for musical theatre characters - how gay is that) so I don't think children are in our future. But thanks for the extra guilt! ;)


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lisadpreston 5 years ago from Columbus, Ohio

I actually broke up with a guy that I was engaged to simply because we were diabolically opposed to the rearing of my dog Mini. So I do understand about the cats and children. Keep working on it. i would love to see some little Scott's running around but in the mean time, keep up the good work that you do with our youth. You are a blessing to them. Guilt is my specialty. LOL. Love ya.


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somelikeitscott 5 years ago from Las Vegas Author

Wow! Look at me having the right idea (for once)...CNN article about building kids' self esteem as a way to protect them from the damage of bullying! http://www.cnn.com/2011/10/11/living/bully-proof-k...


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lisadpreston 5 years ago from Columbus, Ohio

Scott, you've always had the right idea. You are a progressive thinker and really care for human beings and their suffering. You suffered, therefore, you are the expert. God didn't put you through everything you went through for nothing. You help young people who suffer and I swear Scott, you do more good than you know. When I see young people dying by murder or suicide because they are different, it kills a part of me due to my own suffering as a youth. You have saved lives, and Scott, you need to know how important you are. The butterfly affect. Read the book. You are a butterfly, and with every flapping of your beautiful wings you change the world and save a life. You are good, you are beautiful and God, I love you.


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somelikeitscott 5 years ago from Las Vegas Author

lisa - wow, i'm just so humbled and touched by your words. thus all lowercase...thank you for your kindness.

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