Am I Anti-Social? No, I'm Not Anti-Social; I'm Just Not A People's Person

I'm the type of person you'll find on a friday night, writing stories or reading books. Perhaps even chatting online. No, it's not that i don't have a party to go to, i simply don't want to go.

I love my friends and family and spend time with them. My mother complains i never go out and mix with society. So what if i don't want to go to an alcohol-fuelled party? Would you prefer that i stay in and enjoy myself or go out, get drunk or get high and do something i'll regret later?

Who cares if i think The Sims and Need For Speed are the best games to play on a friday night? Or that i would rather settle down and watch a movie by myself, with friends or family? I care. And you know what else? I couldn't be bothered what you think. You can believe i'm anti-social. You can believe i'm a loner. But frankly my dear, I don't give a damn.

Introverts like me have a place in society. We're the ones who research things, predict outcomes in experiments and do the "behind the scenes" work. You extroverts are the ones that tell the world your achievements and brag about them. Introverts are quiet, calm and relaxed. We don't like parties or social gatherings. We prefer to stay at home and read or write or play computer games.

I am not going to conform to society's wish and be "loud and proud." Instead, i am going to be myself because there is no one out there in the world quite like me and never will be! So i am not anti social, i just don't like people.

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creativeone59 7 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona

Thanks for a nice and honest hub, thanks for sharing and thanks for being my fan. Godspeed. creativeone59

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CiscoPixie 7 years ago from I'm in a world of my own, but aren't we all? Author

thanks creative :) and it's a pleasure!

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broussardleslie 7 years ago

You might be a little harsh on extroverts, but I do understand what you are saying. I think that the world needs both extroverts and introverts for balance, and the sooner we can respect each others differences, the better off we'll be :)

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CiscoPixie 7 years ago from I'm in a world of my own, but aren't we all? Author

Yes, i do suppose i am a little harsh on extroverts and i apologize to them. Just had really bad run in's with many extroverts and that's what has caused me to be rather bitter towards them.

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broussardleslie 7 years ago

I am assuming that a lot of introverts share your sentiment, CiscoPixie. Congrats on the HubNugget nomination!

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CiscoPixie 7 years ago from I'm in a world of my own, but aren't we all? Author

or so i would like to hope :) thank you very much! Have a fantastic weekend!

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stars439 7 years ago from Louisiana, The Magnolia and Pelican State.

nice article. sounds like your pretty much in control of your affairs. it is wise not to become a victim of someone elses foolishness. god bless

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CiscoPixie 7 years ago from I'm in a world of my own, but aren't we all? Author

thank you stars :) God bless

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The Rope 7 years ago from SE US

WOW! There are a lot of folks who feel the same way..good luck with everything you do, it looks like you will go far!

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CiscoPixie 7 years ago from I'm in a world of my own, but aren't we all? Author

Thank Rope. I hope so :) Extroverts are okay.. but introverts TOTALLY ROCK!

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Waren E 7 years ago from HAS LEFT THE BUILDING............

I totally agree CiscoPixie!

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CiscoPixie 7 years ago from I'm in a world of my own, but aren't we all? Author

Thank you Waren :)

Kimbers 7 years ago

I am almost 42 and feel exactly the same way. I am not a people person and never have been. I have a 5 y.o. daughter who seems introverted and a 3 y.o. daughter who is very much an extrovert (like her father). My question is, do I encourage or discourage the both or let them choose their own path?

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CiscoPixie 7 years ago from I'm in a world of my own, but aren't we all? Author

My advice would be let them grow up being their own unique person... i was forced to be an extrovert and it turned my life upside down. So encourage your children to be who they want to be and never make them believe that being either an introvert or an extrovert is wrong. My brother is an extrovert and i'm the introvert. Good luck!

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Cleanclover 7 years ago from Piece of land!

Hey i am much like you Ashley. Instead of going out to parties i spend time doing yoga, meditation and exercise, as a result i am always relaxed, healthy and aware most of the time. This makes people around me jealous too but i care about only what i think.

The key is to conserve energy whether you are extrovert or introvert it does not matter, what matters is whether you are happy doesn't it?

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CiscoPixie 7 years ago from I'm in a world of my own, but aren't we all? Author

I agree with you. Although i'd love to take up yoga in the holidays.

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frogyfish 7 years ago from Central United States of America

Good for you in your honesty and sincerity. There is always room for expansion and that is much easier than getting whacked and running back to your safety. Keep proclaiming!

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CiscoPixie 7 years ago from I'm in a world of my own, but aren't we all? Author

Thank you frogyfish :) it is a lot easier indeed..

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Jess Killmenow 7 years ago from Nowheresville, Eastern United States

I'm like you except I, um, don't have a party to go to :/

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CiscoPixie 7 years ago from I'm in a world of my own, but aren't we all? Author

Well we'll throw an introvert party and stare quietly? :) thank you for commenting jess

Christopher 6 years ago

If only opposites attract then me and you will never work out. Haha. It's been awhile since you have written this sincere rant, but I'm EXACTLY like you!

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FindMyTeenFashion 6 years ago

Great hub! You are a strong, confident, and talented young women. You arr going to be great one day.

Fiona 6 years ago

It's a shame that to be loud and drunk is the norm. I'm not really a loud person but I do like to go out but since I'm kinda quiet I don't really mix in unfortunately. I have to be very drunk before I mix in. I prefer to go to cinema with friends. I don't find it easy to go clubing. I wish I wasn't quiet. It's seems to be a drawback in society. But I also don't want to be those girls that are constantly getting drunk to have fun and hook up with guys!

Dustin 6 years ago

I'm an introvert also, and to be quite honest.. introverts are generally more intelligent. We also see people for what they are.. greedy. Too many people sap me of my energy and I feel drained. I play wow currently and I'm really hating it after all these years because of the forced grouping and forced to make "friends" on a video game which I hate, just to accomplish tasks. Very annoying. I think most of us have just been burned too many times, and frankly.. extroverts are more interested in gossip, and drama. Both of which I don't enjoy in the slightest. I'd much rather find out how the human brain works, or what is inside of an atom. Extroverts wouldn't want to know any of that.

envy 6 years ago

I'm also an introvert. I talk to people on one on one. But when in a group I don't like having that attention on me when I talk makes me nervous

I have friends and all but don't like going out to events with them don't feel myself when been a loud person yea i go to clubs but with my husband. I have had invites but i just like hanging out with friends.

Andrea 6 years ago

OMG! I totally feel like that! :D it's my description! Thank you SOOO much for writing this awesome rant :)


jean 5 years ago

Thanks I needed that reassurance that there's nothing wrong with me!

5 years ago

I really like reading things like this, because it makes me realise that I'm not alone! I get slagged off all the time by family and friends because I stay in at night and read books (which I enjoy) instead of going to parties and getting drunk (which I don't). One of my friends said to me that I need to get out and enjoy like - well for an introvert like me, reading, watching movies, enjoying my own company - that is what I enjoy! I'm not going to waste my life away going to parties I don't want to go to, and spending time with people I don't want to spend time with just because that's what society expects of me! I'm proud to be an introvert, I'm proud of who I am!

Jake 5 years ago

I don't mind getting out with a small group of friends and drinking and smoking weed every now and then but ultimately I would prefer to chill at home and watch a movie. I generally don't have a very high opinion of most people. The uppity, overtly peppy extroverts of the world are some of the most overbearing people I've come in contact with. At least when you dislike a person who is introverted, you probably won't have to spend every ounce of will power you have to try and bite your tongue and avoid lashing out at him/her for being so damn loud and obnoxious and attention seeking. I find the kind of personality's and attitudes that are most popular in society to be extremely hard to put up with. But the opposite sex loves that kind of guy :/ Hard to find a woman that appreciates subtlety and kindness over brashness and arrogance.

Karin 4 years ago

so agree!!

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Aaron 3 years ago

I totally feel where you are coming from. I can be a total extrovert when I have a reason to be, but the vast majority of the time, I just have NO desire to be. I do a lot of volunteering for causes, and I can be the

"belle of the ball" when the situation arises. I also am training to be a counselor, and I can do that just fine when the situation needs. However, I have little to no desire to socialize with someone when I know that I will put more into it than I will get out of it.

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OverSizedMidget 3 years ago

Wow i feel same way!

Tucker 3 years ago

My mom just gave me a talk about having people over. Even though she didn't admit it, she might as well say that I'm unsocial and I give up on hanging out with friends; when in reality I was upset for a few hours about being stood up -_- why can't I be left to do what I want. Someday so want to stay home and somedays I want to hang, what else needs to be said???

Thank you for posting this, I can relate so well to this.

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