Let Children be Children: Raising Children in a Modern World

They can be silly, sometimes even irritating... but remember, there was one time when we were just like them... wouldn't we want them to remember their childhood as a great part of their growth and their lives?
They can be silly, sometimes even irritating... but remember, there was one time when we were just like them... wouldn't we want them to remember their childhood as a great part of their growth and their lives?

Parents... "do not be irritating your children, but go on bringing them up in the discipline and authoritative advice of God...do not be exasperating your child

Parenting is a rather challenging task that every mother and father should take into serious consideration. It could not be denied that with all the different kinds of pressures families are experiencing today, parents sometimes begin to lack the desire to simply "have fun" with their children. With heightened expectations from the children's performance in school and in other secular activities, parents sometime forget the fact that children are children. They are young and they deserve to enjoy that short span of time that they would be free from any particular pressuring obligations in life.

Due to the many requirements from a child as he steps towards maturity, there are instances when parents tend to over react on insisting excellence on their children. As a result, 80% of children who are achieving in school are pushed to do so and are not putting off the effort for their own good but for the sake of making their parents happy. The foundation of a child's being lays strong if the parents give them a chance to be who they really are and just be kids at the right age that they are in.

Disciplining could be handled effectively if parents would be able to show their children that being a good child is no pressure. There are instances when parents have too much high expectations that are at some point impossible for the children to reach. As parents, we should question ourselves, "Am I asking too much from my child"?

Admittedly, I could say that sometimes, I fall into the temptation of expecting too much from my son. There are instances when I even feel so stressed out especially when he seems to not care whether or not he reaches the standard that I have set up for him to attain. Standards are good, but they ought to be reasonable enough. As parents, we must know and accept that our children are unique from the others; there are some things that they can accomplish that others can't and there are things that others can attain that are out of reach of our children.

Failing to see the uniqueness of our child and comparing them to others usually cause us to not see how good our children our. Knowing our children through spending enough time with them is an important part of the process of assuring our children's development.

Providing them ample life skills through informal talks would make it easier for them to remember matters such as respect, obedience and other virtues we would want them to develop. Practically, illustrations and our personal examples make the process of learning more effective and directive in making the children remember the lessons we hope they would hold on to in their lives.

Letting them play and be silly every now and then is part of growing up.

Sometimes, parents need to access their "child-being" again and just be free with their children and play along. This builds up the connection between each other and further expands the relative communication that children should have with their parents. Building up good relationship with the children now would surely make it easier for parents to relate to their teenagers later on when serious issues in their lives arise.

True, parenting could be as stress-free as we want it to be if we make our expectations of our children more reasonable and our standards much easier to reach. Staying positive and knowing our children as they are and not as we want them to be shall free us from the strife of perceived failure.

Happy Parenting Everyone! :)

Simplicity Parenting: Using the Extraordinary Power of Less to Raise Calmer, Happier, and More Secure Kids
Simplicity Parenting: Using the Extraordinary Power of Less to Raise Calmer, Happier, and More Secure Kids

While some parents intend to make sure that their children get disciplined in a forceful manner, this book advises on a much calmer approach.

 
Screamfree Parenting
Screamfree Parenting

Do you tend to keep on screaming while disciplining your children? Do you end up feeling like "hell" and probably the worst person ever after scolding your child because you think you could have handled it in a more reasonable manner? If you often feel this way, don't despair as this book provides a more definite picture in defining better discipline that does away with screaming and uncontrolled anger.

 
In marriage, "it takes two to tango"... In raising children, "it takes four to do the chacha",  two of whom are the parents, the child and God's loving advice to protect and assist children in their growth.
In marriage, "it takes two to tango"... In raising children, "it takes four to do the chacha", two of whom are the parents, the child and God's loving advice to protect and assist children in their growth.

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gajanis786 5 years ago

Very good informative article......yes it is true that parents should realize that a child is a child and let them grow like a child and not exert extra pressures on them where they become psychologically sick.....and it is very important for parents to also realize this fact that every single child is different from other child and should be treated likewise....thanks.


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HennieN 5 years ago from South Africa

Brilliant hub - voted up. I agree with you 100% - let children be children and coach/mentor them to become awesome adults in the future.


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KevinTimothy 4 years ago from Tampa Bay, FL

Hey, this is good. It sure does take a lot of discipline to let children be children. Their time really is short and there is a really cruel world that awaits them.

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