Like Mother Like Daughter

Interesting facts about daughters

It is indeed very interesting to find that daughters are similar to their mothers in more ways than one. I have heard about this a lot of times but started to give it a serious thought only recently when my daughter has become quite grown up and I find the same similarities between her and me that I have heard people say as existing between me and my mother.

My daughter was entirely different from me in looks and nature. I used to even be happy (!) that she wasn't as loud (I'm not intentionally noisy but my voice borders on the rougher side and can never be as soft as I have always wanted it to be however hard I tried whereas her voice was sweet) or as excited as me. I am out to enjoy life, like to laugh a lot (except that I had forgotten to laugh those few years I was ruthlessly affected by rheumatoid arthritis) but she was the quiet type who would not want to open up as I did very often. She was more of an introvert whereas I was the other extreme.

I did not give a serious thought to all this because every individual is different and unique in their own ways and we should only learn to respect their traits if they are good or ignore them if they are not so good. Of course when we find our loved ones having an unacceptable nature, we may try talking to them about it and help them change for the better. My daughter's nature was however nowhere near 'unacceptable' so I did not worry about it.

This year my daughter turned sixteen and I see a lot of changes in her. I loved her for what she was and continue to love her for what she is but am struck by the stark similarities between me and her now.

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Mama, my friends say I sound like you

I am surprised how a voice as sweet as hers changed suddenly this year as she turned sixteen and is almost similar to mine that her friends who call her on the phone are not able to recognize who has picked up the phone. They get confused for a split second and then of course they realize who it is at the other end of the line.

Years ago there used to be a situation when my mom used to answer phone calls for me from my friends and there have been instances when they have even spoken to my mom thinking it was me on hearing just a 'hello' without stopping to ask who they were talking to. Then my mom would say that she would call me. There would be some laughing over it and that was how it was. Very strange how similar mothers and daughters can be in certain respects.

All of a sudden, my daughter has become an outspoken girl and I am very surprised about it. Of course children keep changing during their adolescent years but I hadn't expected such a drastic yet welcome change in her. She was never bolder, more confident and excited than she is now and I am very happy about it.

Observation

I am convinced that daughters watch their mothers go through their daily routine even though they are never actually involving themselves in any of the work that the mothers do. For instance, my daughter does not come to the kitchen unless otherwise she badly needs something. She is never there to help mommy in cooking. Of course she makes her own noodles or potato fries when she feels like eating and also when I ask her for help.

But strange is the fact that when she is preparing her own dishes, she is like me when it comes to the way she washes the vegetables or cuts them and cleans the place after her work. I mean the little things, so I infer that they keep observing their mothers all the time even when we think that they are engrossed in something else.

The same with my daughter-in-law

Recently I was visiting my son who has been married for almost a year now and living in the middle east. My daughter-in-law had never done much cooking at home until her wedding but started trying her hand at it only a few months before her wedding just to familiarize herself with the basic things to do when she would be on her own.

When I went visiting them recently, most of her activities around the house followed a pattern that her mother adopted in her own home. I was very much surprised by this. How does this happen? The only reason must be that children are very observant right from their toddler years. Her mother too was surprised by this similarity when I mentioned it to her. In other things also like spending and her attitude towards life she is very similar to her mother.

I am like my mom in everything

In the same way, my daughter is just like me not only in the way she works in the kitchen but in so many other ways too. Very often you can see the elderly people at home mentioning that the little ones are behaving just like their father or mother. But most often, girls take after their mother in most respects with a few exceptions of course. Especially the mother's nature is reflected in the daughter more as her age progresses.

We should understand something very important from this. Mothers should set a very good precedence for their children to follow in their life. If we are snobbish and arrogant it is highly likely that our daughters also turn out that way. On the other hand, if we are gentle and kind, the same qualities are likely to be exhibited by them too.

Sometimes the reverse happens when the child, after a certain age, starts realizing that her mother is not right in many things. I have seen such instances but they are very few. Stray cases I would say. Generally you can see many similarities between the mother and daughter like looks, speech and behavior and even mannerisms.

Another area of similarity would be that if you are good in arts and crafts your daughter is most likely to excel in the art. You cannot force them to learn the craft but you'll find that they develop a natural liking for it when they see their mothers make a beautiful quilt or paint a beautiful picture.

Conclusion

Though we can justify all this by saying that a child gets to spend most of his/her time with the mother, it is strange that only the daughter gets to imitate her mother in many aspects. Of course, the younger generation follows the latest trends and styles in dressing and make up that change with the times, yet in their heart, their mother is always their idol and they mostly behave like them. I emphasize the fact that there are exceptions to this but generally this is the case. Of course I am open to different inputs from you all and would love to hear you express your views on this topic.

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Janine Huldie 4 years ago from New York, New York

Rema, I love this article about mothers and daughters being alike, because I have always been told that I look like my mom. Even a little over a week ago, we (my mom and my girls) to the grocery store here and the cashier turned and said wow you look just like your mom. Then she noted that my girls also looked like me. I think I also started to act a bit more like my mom when I got married and especially after having my kids. Funny how this happens and do very much agree with your thought on this. Have voted up, shared and tweeted too!!


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remaniki 4 years ago from Chennai, India Author

Oh Janine, how very nice of you to have given such a beautiful comment on this hub. I am so glad you are the first visitor here. It is heartening to see many similarities between moms and daughters and we feel proud of it too. Thanks again for your kind words. And for the share and tweet too. Cheers, Rema.


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Sunshine625 4 years ago from Orlando, FL

Hi Rema, My daughters and I are also not alike. I am loud in a fun way, could be rude in a loving way and opinionated all the time while they are sweet and more quiet. Where did I go wrong? I often question myself. Then I watch my feisty granddaughter and how she is more like me and I get it ... a generation has been skipped ... there is a mini me!! Bless her heart. I wish her luck. :)

Thank you for sharing your story so that others could relate to it and appreciate our beautiful, wonderful daughters who have stolen our hearts for ever and ever.


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midget38 4 years ago from Singapore

Hi Rema, my mum is different from me too in many ways.....I'm quite easy going while she's fastidious....but we share a lot of the same values too. Not because she taught them to me, but because I came to appreciate certain things more as I grew up. Thanks for the write.......very thought provoking!


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remaniki 4 years ago from Chennai, India Author

Oh yes Linda, you are right. There are several examples of this that I actually omitted to mention. My mom used to be a dancer in her school days and I wasn't though I used to like watching someone else dance. Now my daughter is a classical dancer and my mother loves her for it and so proud that her granddaughter is like her. Oh these grandmas! That includes me too! :)

Thank you for the visit. Cheers, Rema.


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remaniki 4 years ago from Chennai, India Author

Thank you very much Michelle for stopping by. Of course I am not entirely like my mother too. As we age, we filter out what we find unfavorable in them and follow the good values that they have shown.

But as far as voice and a few mannerisms are concerned it is generally believed that moms and daughters resemble each other. At one stage in their life, mom and daughter are likely to be looked at as sisters too when the mother looks very young and the daughter mature.

These little things are pleasant and entertaining when you think about them. Thanks for your input. I am glad that each one expresses their views about their mothers here. Cheers, Rema.


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billybuc 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

I agree completely Rema; I have seen this happen over and over again. I would say that your daughter is very lucky to have a mother such as yourself; a very good person to emulate!


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remaniki 4 years ago from Chennai, India Author

Oh, thanks very much Bill for your kindness. I am lucky to have her and maybe she is too. Thanks again. Cheers, Rema.


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Vinaya Ghimire 4 years ago from Nepal

As I write this, I'm remembering my mother living 250 miles away from him. Yours is a touching story. Thanks for shedding light to mother-daughter story. I have two sisters, and I can trace my mother's characters in them.


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teaches12345 4 years ago

I wish I would have had more time to learn from my mother before she passed on in this life. As it was, I learned great life lessons from her. As you shared, I caught on to certain cooking skills as I watched her in the kitchen. Great hub and voted up.


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Pamela99 4 years ago from United States

Rema, I think that daughters typically have many of the same characteristics as their mothers. I think it is partially genetic, but very much environmental. Daughters learn from watching their mothers and it sounds to me like you and your daughter have a wonderful relationship. Voted up, awesome and interesting.


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Nell Rose 4 years ago from England

Hi Rema, first of all what a lovely photo! and yes I totally understand what you mean, I didn't realise just how much like my mother I was until recently, and in fact I am beginning to look like her too now I am older! lol! but thats fine because she was beautiful, in heart I mean, nell


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remaniki 4 years ago from Chennai, India Author

Thank you very much Vinaya for taking the time to read my hub. Mother-daughter relationship is always special.

Cheers, Rema.


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remaniki 4 years ago from Chennai, India Author

Hi Dianna,

I am sorry about your mother not being with you today. If she were, she would have been a pillar of strength for you. Even when mothers are physically weak, nothing can match the moral support they give to their daughters. Thanks for your input. Cheers, Rema.


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remaniki 4 years ago from Chennai, India Author

Thanks very much Pamela for the lovely comment. Very true how daughters resemble their mothers in so many ways. I feel so happy when my daughter says that she would behave exactly like me in specific situations because she approves of my actions. Thanks again Pamela. Cheers, Rema.


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remaniki 4 years ago from Chennai, India Author

Thank you Nell for the appreciation. Oh yes Nell. We tend to look very much like our mother as we grow older. You won't believe this, my mother used to look so different from her mother but now, in her seventies, she looks exactly like her and everyone is surprised about it. Very strange indeed! Your mother-aw-she was so beautiful.. :) Thank you for the time Nell. Cheers, Rema.


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vibesites 4 years ago from United States

I look like my dad, but I act more like my mom. Except that she cooks better than I am, and no one can beat her on that. :)

Thanks for sharing your lovely hub, Rema.


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Deborah Brooks 4 years ago from Brownsville,TX

You are so blessed.. I have two sons.. and they are my joy.. I always wanted a daughter then God gave me two daughters in laws that i love them so much.. they are wonderful.. I am so blessed. you and your daughter are beautiful.. God Bless you

sharing

Debbie


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remaniki 4 years ago from Chennai, India Author

Thank you vibesites for sharing your thoughts about your mom. Cheers, Rema.


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remaniki 4 years ago from Chennai, India Author

Hi Debbie,

Great to have you here. Thank you very much for your input. I have a son and a daughter and how nervous I was before I got to know it was a daughter! Thanks very much for the appreciation Debbie. Very nice of you to share. Cheers, Rema.


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Vellur 4 years ago from Dubai

A wonderful and heart warming hub. Like mother, Like daughter - Oh yes!!! I agree. Enjoyed reading, voted up.


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remaniki 4 years ago from Chennai, India Author

Thanks Nithya for stopping by and for the votes. Cheers, Rema.


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Brett.Tesol 4 years ago from Somewhere in Asia

Although many children would hate to admit, it is actually quite surprising how much like our parents we become. I remember when I was a teenager, suddenly my friends couldn't tell me apart from my father answering the phone (annoying at the time ha ha). Now that I am a lot older, I can see are a lot of similarities between us and am proud of these. A chip off the old block I guess LOL.

Beautiful, up, interesting and sharing.


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remaniki 4 years ago from Chennai, India Author

Great Brett. Nice of you to share your thoughts here. I could only talk f0r a mother-daughter relationship and semblances being a mother and talking to many other women about this.

So you too had such experiences...lovely. something to remember fondly of course. Thank you so much for all the votes and the share.

Cheers, Rema.


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dghbrh 4 years ago from ...... a place beyond now and beyond here !!!

Such a wonderful hub, thanks for sharing. All votes up and passing it on for sure.


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remaniki 4 years ago from Chennai, India Author

Thank you very much Deergha for the appreciation and the share. Glad you liked it. Cheers, Rema.


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His princesz 4 years ago

You are both beautiful. It must be an honor to hear our daughter say, I'm like you! I'm looking forward on that day :) Beautiful hub remaniki :)


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dwachira 4 years ago from Nairobi, Kenya

It is amazing how kids grow learning from their parent, your daughter in no exception. I noted that too with my son, he is one and half years old now and his mom can not take him away whenever am using the laptop, he want to be there and see what dad is doing, i guess this natural way of learning had been passed over many generations. Voted up and useful.


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remaniki 4 years ago from Chennai, India Author

Hi His Princesz,

Very glad to have you here and comment. Thanks for the compliment and I am sure that day will come very soon :)

Cheers, Rema.


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remaniki 4 years ago from Chennai, India Author

Very true Dwachira. All of us know that it is natural, yet when we experience it with our own children, we find it new and amazing. It all comes from simple observation. Knowing that they are watching us all the time, we better behave ourselves LOL :)

Thank you very much for your kind words of appreciation. Cheers, Rema.


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Ryem 4 years ago from Maryland

This hub is very interesting, it made me think of the similarities and differences between myself and my mother. I remember wanting to be exactly like her when I was a little girl, but as I got older I became more of an individual. There are still certain qualities of hers that I'll always have. I'm happy that you wrote this. Voted up


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remaniki 4 years ago from Chennai, India Author

Hi Ryem,

I am very happy too that you took the time to share your ideas about this topic. Thank you very much for stopping by. Cheers, Rema.


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marcoujor 4 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

Dear Rema,

What a beautiful introduction to your work. I am so proud of the traits I have that emulate my Momma but would have never admitted that in my earlier years.

I miss Mom every day, yet because of her strength I know we will meet up again. She remains in my heart and I adore learning of such wonderful Mother- Daughter relationships such as yours.

Voted UP and UABI. Hugs, Maria


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remaniki 4 years ago from Chennai, India Author

Hi Maria,

It's great having you here and commenting on my hub. Mother-daughter relationship is so beautiful that I would have been very unhappy if I hadn't had my daughter after my son.

Life is not complete without a daughter Maria. I am so glad you came by and shared your thoughts. I feel honored by your visit. Thank you very much. Cheers and hugs, Rema.


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Mama Kim 8 4 years ago

What a wonderful hub. ^_^ I too have similarities to my mom. I've also found that my son is very similar to me. My own daughter is too young to tell yet, but my guess is she'll pick up some of my traits as well. Your daughter is very beautiful! I enjoyed this hub immensely and am voting and sharing!


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remaniki 4 years ago from Chennai, India Author

Thanks Mama Kim for your lovely comment here. My son is also very much like me in some things. Thanks for the compliment as well as for the votes and share. Cheers, Rema.


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida

You have a lovely daughter. I really enjoyed reading this Hub. I have one daughter out of my four that looks just like my Mother. It is uncanny. Her voice is the same, too.

Beautiful Hub. I voted it UP, etc. and will share. Mary


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tillsontitan 4 years ago from New York

It seems whether we like it or not we wind up being our mother at some point in time (I like it). I remember saying, "Oh my God, I sound just like my mother!" Now, I hear my daughters saying the same thing. We're not ashamed, just surprised...its unintentional but after years of living together and knowing the love we have, it just happens.

Your daughter is a pretty girl and I'm sure she will be proud to be just like her lovely mother.

Voted up, useful, and interesting.


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remaniki 4 years ago from Chennai, India Author

Hi Mary,

Thank you very much for sharing your thoughts on this topic. Yes, sometimes it is very strange when we notice some unexpected similarities between grandmothers and grandchildren but it happens. Thanks for all your votes, the share and the compliment Mary. Cheers, Rema.


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remaniki 4 years ago from Chennai, India Author

Yes Mary. You are so very right in saying that we are so much like our mother in so many ways. Very true. Thank you very much for your time and effort to share your opinion on this subject. Much appreciated. Thanks for the votes too. Thanks also for your compliment. Very kind of you Mary.

Cheers, Rema.


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jenbeach21 4 years ago from Orlando, FL

I really enjoyed reading this hub. When I look at my daughter it is interesting to see all the ways she is like me and how different she is. She amazes me everyday and I hope she gets all my positive qualities and none of the bad!


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remaniki 4 years ago from Chennai, India Author

You are right Jen, all of us hope that our children get only our pluses and not the negatives. Very true. I fully agree with you on this one. Thank you for your comment here. Cheers, Rema.


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shruti sheshadri 4 years ago from Bangalore, India

this is so beautiful rema! I felt so good reading this, because I could really connect to it... We women are splendid creatures arent we? in our own unique ways... thank you :)

voted up, and shared !


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remaniki 4 years ago from Chennai, India Author

Thank you very much Shruti dear for the lovely feedback. 'We women are splendid creatures in our own unique ways'- you are absolutely right. I am very proud to be one and a mother too.

Thanks also for the votes and the share. Cheers, Rema.


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rajan jolly 4 years ago from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar,INDIA.

Very interesting and I agree daughters take on a lot of characteristics of their mother. My daughter who got married last year hardly cooked while she was with us. Now that she is married and living with just her husband in a foreign country she does all the cooking by herself as well as managing the home and a job.

Thanks for sharing.

Voted up and interesting. Shared.


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remaniki 4 years ago from Chennai, India Author

Thank you very much Rajan for your views on this topic. Nice to hear of your daughter who balances her home and job beautifully. I am sure we are all proud of our daughters and are surprised to see how capable they become once they leave the protected shelters of their parental home. Thanks for the votes and the share.

Cheers, Rema.


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Sally's Trove 4 years ago from Southeastern Pennsylvania

I enjoyed your eloquently thoughtful reflection on mothers and daughters. It made me stop and think about my mother and how she and I have come to look more and more alike over the last few years.

A while ago we were shopping and stopped at the customer service desk to check on an item price. After answering my mother's question, the clerk asked my mother if her "sister" needed any help! My mother, of course, considered this a compliment, while I, as you can imagine, considered it something else. Later, when my mother and I shared this story with a cousin of mine, this cousin said that she found it amazing how much my mother and I were beginning to look alike in recent years. The aging process seems to have something to do with this. Although I am pleased when people remark about how much I'm beginning to look like my mother, because she is a beautiful, youthful woman, I'm not so pleased that it's aging that's the cause!

Your hub is up, beautiful, and shared. :)


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MariaTeresaM 4 years ago from Philippines

Surely, there is an unmistakable bond between mother and daughter that will manifest itself sooner or later into making them appear similar in actions, personality, or looks, even if such similarity is neither planned nor intentional.


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remaniki 4 years ago from Chennai, India Author

Very nice of you Sherri to leave your lovely views on this subject. Though I have not started looking like my mother yet (sure I will very soon especially because I've stopped coloring my hair too), I resemble her in so many other ways that people talk about us being similar. It is very natural. I can understand your thoughts when people say you look like your mother for a different reason! I wonder what we can do about it anyway :)

Thank you very much for your votes and the share. Cheers, Rema.


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remaniki 4 years ago from Chennai, India Author

Yes MariaTeresa, you are absolutely right. The bonding between the mother and daughter is beautiful. Thanks for the visit and your excellent views. Cheers, Rema.

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