Mel Gibson-'Baby Daddy'

"Mad Mel"

Unless you reside on another planet you've likely heard, that actor/director Mel Gibson has fathered his eighth child. Don't pass out the cigars just yet. Mr. Gibson, famous for 'Braveheart, Pocahontas' John Smith,The Patriot, and The Passion of the Christ is becoming infamous for yet another role. That being the dual role of a cheating husband/'baby daddy'. "Say it isn't so Mel, say it isn't so".

Unfortunately it is so. Gibson reported to Jay Leno formerly of the Tonight Show, that he is indeed the father of an unborn child by his now girlfriend. He jokingly referred to himself as 'Octo Mel'. This in reference to his seven children by his estranged wife, and the soon addition of the child fathered out of wedlock. This most recent revelation is the culmination of a myriad of disappointing stories. Mr. Gibson has been on what has seemingly been a downward spiral, beginning months ago with a drunken tirade, followed by a string of misadventures. At the time of the Leno interview, and of this writing Gibson was not yet divorced from his wife of 28 years. Reportedly they have lived separately over the last three.

How very sad. Mel himself said as much. Concerning his failed marriage he reported that it is sad that 'it' happened. He took the blame, saying his wife is an 'admirable' woman. Admirable ! Some would say Gibson is taking the high road in speaking well of his children's mother. I am not one of them. It is distressing that Mr. Gibson thinks so little of the vow he made twenty eight years ago before God and man. For that matter, it is disturbing to observe the casualness with which our society views the breakup of what seemed at one time to be a strong marriage. It is just so ho-hum.

When the announcement was made by Mel on Leno, that he had impregnated his girlfriend, while still married, the audience applauded. When asked if he would marry his girlfriend, he replied " why would anyone get married again ?" So, in addition to bastardizing his original seven children by abandoning their mother, he is promising the same to number eight. Still, I suppose he has a point. If he could not keep the promise of his marriage vows to his first wife, what are the chances of him doing better with a second.

We have become downright relaxed about infidelity, and promiscuity. So, relaxed that society has coined a new phrase, a distorted moniker of sorts. There is no need for a husband, and in the case of some men, no need for a wife. A 'baby daddy', or 'baby mamma' will do. A generation of children will not hear their parents introduced as 'Mr and Mrs'. What is consistently being heard these days is, "this is my baby's daddy/mama". The significant other in the relationship is no longer significant.There is no longer any shame in giving birth to a child without being married. Mel Gibson is only an example as to how far we have fallen. He is not alone. In fact, Hollywood is a harbinger of this new trend. How many movie star mothers are sporting babies without husbands. A generation of kids will grow up without the comfort of having the same last name as both parents. The long term marriage commitment is dispensable. In all fairness there are a few holdouts in Hollywood. (hang in there Denzel, I am pulling for you). Listen, there is something to be said about having your name on the mailbox. Parenting children is more than providing sperm and eggs. Here is a novel idea. Love your child by marrying and staying married to his mom or dad. Be more than a 'baby daddy/mama. See it through, be a generational family.

Mel looked pretty good on Leno. He was obviously excited about his new life. Judging by the applause, the audience, was excited for him. There were lots of 'yuks'. Undoubtedly his kids were not home watching, and if so they were probably not 'yukking it up'. Our society has fooled itself into believing that 'children are resilient'. Not so much, at least not in a divorce. I would dare say, that most kids believe, 'love me, love my mother'. Children take it personally when their parents divorce. After all, "if I am part of my mother. you must hate that part of me."

I will not completely vilify Mel Gibson. A few years ago, he produced in my estimation, the greatest accomplishment of his career. Gibson produced and directed,The Passion of the Christ with enormous expense to himself. There were plenty of roadblocks to overcome. No one wanted to stand with him in the production of this obviously Christian and therefore controversial film. He believed in the project and forged on. It grossed millions of dollars. More significantly he told a great story, in fact the greatest story ever told. A tale emerged during the publicity of this venture. Whether it is true or not, I can not be sure. It was rumored that Mel Gibson took a slight part in the film. Though his face was never seen, his hands held the nails pounded into the feet and hands of Jesus. He wished to illustrate the fact that his sins placed Jesus on that cross. He was right. Mine too. The good news for me, and Mr. Gibson is this, "by HIS stripes, we are still healed."

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Melody Lagrimas 7 years ago from Philippines

This social sickness is indeed prevalent in many places. You have expressed it well in this hub. If only people come to accept Christ and His gift...


Sanjuana Salemme 7 years ago

I couldn't have put it better than you have. I love how you have mentioned God in here it is GREAT!!!! I love you and appreciate your friendship and your love for me all the yrs we have known each other, and now my family as well! Thank you God bless you always.

Sanjuana


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R Burow 7 years ago from Florida, United States Author

Thanks Sanjuana, and 'right back at you."


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SweetiePie 7 years ago from Southern California, USA

This is similar to what is happening with Jon and Kate right now. Jon says he did not cheat, but admits his actions, such as hanging out with a woman at odd hours of the day hurt his wife and kids. Honestly I am not really worried about whether Jon did cheat, or that Mel Gibson did cheat, but why remain married if you are going to do so? It seems he could have sought a divorce first if he was going to be seeing other women.


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R Burow 7 years ago from Florida, United States Author

SweetiePie, thanks for taking a look at my hub, and for leaving a comment. I have been hearing about Jon and Kate, but am not that familiar with what they are all about. Is it reality television?

I would think it takes a lot of energy to 'cheat around'. Why not put that same energy into saving your marriage, and honor your promise, by choosing to love, cherish, and shun all others, and not part until death. I would take your last statement one further, "if he were going to be seeing other women", why make a vow in the first place. Decide before the vow if you are strong enough to keep the promise you make to your bride, before saying ' I do'.

Thanks again, all the best.


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SweetiePie 7 years ago from Southern California, USA

Hi R Burow,

I do not believe in divorce personally and people who are not sure about their commitment to marriage should not get married.  However, I just think it is far worse to be married and start up with the cheating.  If Gibson had been divorced at least he is being out in the open with his intentions, but for years I have always thought his behavior was a little on the partying side.  Tabloid would show how he was posing with numerous young ladies at a bar before that incident where he called the police officer a derogatory name.  His behavior on that night did not indicate someone that was in love with his wife, well to me anyway.

Jon and Kate is a show about a married couple that have eight children, and often she is a little hard on him about doing certain things.  However, I really was turned off by the way he was acting the first episode this season saying he is sorry for hurting his wife and hanging out with that other woman, but acting all grumpy just because she made him go back to get her cell phone during a birthday party.  Jon claims not to have cheated, but apparently Kate seems upset about his actions and feels some betrayal on some level.  She is afraid of divorce and wants their marriage to succeed, but I really did not hear Jon saying those same things.

I believe in how marriages can be good and uplifting, but the sad reality is many people cheat, or decide to betray the marriage.  I guess I am only speaking for me own self, but if I was married and my husband wanted to cheat I would want him to be honest with me and seek a divorce.  I would feel a hundred times more betrayed if he was cheating on the side when we were still married because I will never be one that can forgive a husband that does that.

 


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R Burow 7 years ago from Florida, United States Author

I get you SweetiePie. It seems to me, that Mel, and much of society views seperation the same as divorce. It is not. Seperation = still married. I am sticking to my guns however. I think a man or woman should commit to keeping their vows. It is possible. Cheating should not be an option on the table. I do agree with you that it should not be tolerated. I think you would feel betrayed whether after a number of years your husband cheated first, or if he asked for a divorce in order to cheat. Cheating does not follow divorcde, divorce follows cheating. Of course if he is divorced, he is not cheating. Either way, if he cheats, or if he divorces to 'cheat' he is at the very leat a liar. He lied before God and in the presence of his friends and family. Men and women need to be more sober about the vow, and take it much more seriously. The vow is 'til death do we part' not 'til someone else comes along, and I am tired of being faithful.'

Thanks for the dialogue.


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SweetiePie 7 years ago from Southern California, USA

Do not get me wrong, I do believe it should be death do us part. I am just a little skeptical of some marriages, but many do work. My parents have been married for over thirty-four years for example and they are doing fine.


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R Burow 7 years ago from Florida, United States Author

Congratulations to your parents SweetiePie. Perhaps they are in the minority. But it needn't be so. It is possible for all marriages to work. God ordained marriage. Humans foul it up with selfish choices. Remember the last part of the vow. 'What God has joined together let no man put asunder."? Making a marriage work is honoring to God. With His help it is possible to stay together and love one another for a lifetime.


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SweetiePie 7 years ago from Southern California, USA

I think it is good you are encouraging people to marry for the right reasons. I really do respect this.


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R Burow 7 years ago from Florida, United States Author

SweetiePie,

Let's do this again sometime.?


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VeggieJenn 6 years ago

What baffles me is that he has actually built a church and still attends frequently. I am not saying he shouldn't - he should - but i guess I just don't get the disconnect. Perhaps he is a very confused man. It is a sad trend.


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R Burow 6 years ago from Florida, United States Author

VeggieJenn,

Thanks for your comment. I am sorry to just be getting back to you. I appreciate your stopping by and reading my hub. I will of course return the favor. Best wishes!


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Ambition398 6 years ago

Our society has fooled itself into believing that 'children are resilient'. Agree that this is oh not so. Look at the people in prison with little or no parental guidance in their lives while growing up. It's sad. Parents can mean so much, if only they'd make even a little effort.

Good hub

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