My Brest Friend v. Boppy Nursing Pillows

A nursing pillow is a solid investment (well, OK, it's a bit squishy) in breastfeeding. Not only does proper support save you from back and neck pain during nursing, but it also promotes a good latch. You wouldn't think that a little 8-lb. wriggling wonder would cause so much wear and tear, but looking down at your baby 12 times a day for half an hour can add up to a real pain in the neck!

So you know you want a nursing pillow, and you can't afford multiple, so which one should you buy? The answer depends on your needs, and whether or not you are certain you will be breastfeeding exclusively. Each pillow has strengths and weaknesses, and each one has purposes to which it is best suited.

Two Major Players

The two most popular nursing pillows today are the Boppy and the My Brest Friend pillows. I have owned both of them, using the Boppy for both of my sons, and the My Brest Friend for my second only. The two are very different, and I strongly suggest that after reading, you head out to a baby store and try them both out yourself (preferably while holding a baby, but if you don't have one yet, and don't have any friends willing to lend one, a doll will do).


The Boppy

The Boppy is a U-shaped, soft, overstuffed type of pillow that wraps around the waist of most women, working especially well as support in a chair with arms. It is a very popular choice because of its many uses.

The Pros:

  • Multiple uses, including as infant sitting or tummy time support
  • Bottle-feeding friendly (which Dad will appreciate)
  • Does not need to be adjusted to fit multiple people
  • Easily washable-- Under the slipcover it is covered in cotton
  • Now available in a version with an expandable middle
  • Waterproof slipcovers are also available

The Cons:

  • Flattens over time (and is nearly unusable for a second child)
  • Is squishy, and does not lift infant as well for breastfeeding, since the infant sinks down
  • Over time, as it flattens out, the infant has a tendency to roll into the middle of this pillow while eating (toward your stomach) and may wind up stuck between you and the pillow, pushing the pillow off your lap completely

Best Uses:

  • Bottle feeding
  • Nursing babies 3-10 months
  • Infant tummy time
  • Supported infant sitting/reclining

My Brest Friend

The My Brest Friend pillow is a D-shaped firm foam pillow that wraps around the waist and back, clipping on the side. It has a lower profile than the Boppy, with the exception of two mounds on the surface of its "shelf" that serve as head rests for your newborn. It is the nursing pillow of choice for many lactation consultants, and is provided for use by new mothers in many hospitals.  It is only designed to do one thing, and it does it well.

The Pros:

  • Firm support that the baby does not sink into
  • Adjustable buckle strap fits many different shapes and sizes of moms
  • Secure fit stays on even if you have to change positions because of buckle strap
  • The snug fit allows you to be able to stand up while nursing if you use your hands to support the baby and prevent the baby from rolling off.
  • Features a small pocket to hold nipple shields, lanolin, nursing pads, or other small items, such as pacifiers
  • Has a removable slipcover, and additional covers can be purchased
  • Features small head rests for the newborn
  • Does not stretch out or flatten over time
  • I found that the narrow profile made for easy storage, as it slid easily between my bed and nightstand.
  • A professional hospital grade one can be purchased by the consumer, which features a vinyl cover
  • A twin version is also available

The Cons:

  • Is really only good for breastfeeding (not tummy time, for example)
  • Must be adjusted to fit another person
  • The shelf-like shape can cause roll-off with particularly wriggly or older babies
  • The smaller size is eventually outgrown by older babies
  • The slipcovers are easy enough to wash, but the nursing pillow underneath is only foam, and is not particularly washable. I only felt brave enough to spot-treat.

Best Uses:

  • Breastfeeding 0-8 month old babies

Martha Stewart Recommends My Brest Friend

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travel_man1971 5 years ago from Bicol, Philippines

Bookmarked it for my future wife's info. LOL!!! Thanks, Ms. K!


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Kotori 5 years ago from Chicagoland Author

Glad I could help, Travelman, and good luck with the baby.


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sunbun143 4 years ago from Los Angeles, CA

I think the fact that the Boppy can be used for (supervised) supported infant sitting and tummy time makes it indispensable! I wish I had two so I didn't have to move it from room to room. I also used it as a foot prop when I was pregnant again! Thanks for writing this...and love your pictures!

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