Wishing With My Eyes Shut!

Everyday Wish...

I'm sure that as a parent, almost all of us wish for the same thing on a daily basis; that our children may never be seriously hurt, have to endure hardship, or feel the pain of heartache ever in their lives. I wish it with my eyes squeezed shut sometimes as if, if I wish hard enough, it will be granted to me. Especially every morning as they walk away from me on their way to catch the school bus.

But I cannot have my wish and I know it as surely as I know that the sun will, without fail, rise every morning.

As I was visiting with a friend one day, we began to uncover eachothers pasts. We have always been able to talk, but this time it was different. We shared stories of childhood and adolescence; some funny, some heartwarming, but also some very difficult and painful memories surfaced. It was good to talk like that. Although we cried, it was important I think. To her, and to me.

But that conversation brought to light for me something profound;

I am my mother's daughter. I am someone's child, and I am sure that my mother wished for me what I wish for my own children. But did her wish come true? I am hard evidence that that prayer went unanswered.

But that is not really the profound part that I want to share with you.

What it is is the fact that I am who I am today because of those hardships, and that I came through those tough times, not easily, but I did, and the fact that I'm OK is what really got me.

I can stop wishing now that my kids will go unscathed because it is an unrealistic wish. But what we can wish for, or in my case, pray for, is that our children have the strength of mind and character to get through those times. That they have wisdom and courage instead of despair and depression.

Of course I will always pray for their continued safety and well-being, but the realization that it is out of my hands and that Someone Else has the last say has helped me to let go of some of my anxiety when it comes to my children. My fear can sometimes be paralyzing, but I hope I will always refer back to this that I've written on this day to remind myself of Who is in control.

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munirahmadmughal 5 years ago from Lahore, Pakistan.

"My Christmas Wish"

The hub is realistic and full of sincere urge and longing for good wish for the children. The author of the hub has expressed the wish as under:

"Everyday Wish...

I'm sure that as a parent, almost all of us wish for the same thing on a daily basis; that our children may never be seriously hurt, have to endure hardship, or feel the pain of heartache ever in their lives. I wish it with my eyes squeezed shut sometimes as if, if I wish hard enough, it will be granted to me. Especially every morning as they walk away from me on their way to catch the school bus.

But I cannot have my wish and I know it as surely as I know that the sun will, without fail, rise every morning.

As I was visiting with a friend one day, we began to uncover eachothers pasts. We have always been able to talk, but this time it was different. We shared stories of childhood and adolescence; some funny, some heartwarming, but also some very difficult and painful memories surfaced. It was good to talk like that. Although we cried, it was important I think. To her, and to me.

But that conversation brought to light for me something profound;

I am my mother's daughter. I am someone's child, and I am sure that my mother wished for me what I wish for my own children. But did her wish come true? I am hard evidence that that prayer went unanswered.

But that is not really the profound part that I want to share with you.

What it is is the fact that I am who I am today because of those hardships, and that I came through those tough times, not easily, but I did, and the fact that I'm OK is what really got me.

I can stop wishing now that my kids will go unscathed because it is an unrealistic wish. But what we can wish for, or in my case, pray for, is that our children have the strength of mind and character to get through those times. That they have wisdom and courage instead of despair and depression.

Of course I will always pray for their continued safety and well-being, but the realization that it is out of my hands and that Someone Else has the last say has helped me to let go of some of my anxiety when it comes to my children. My fear can sometimes be paralyzing, but I hope I will always refer back to this that I've written on this day to remind myself of Who is in control."

The Creator has not left the creation un attended.

The guidancein the Holy Qur'an is:

When My servants ask Thee concerning me, I am indeed close (to them): I listen to the prayer of every suppliant when He calleth on Me: let them also, with a will, listen to My call, and believe In Me: that They may walk In the right way.

[2:186]

Or, who listens to the (soul) distressed when it calls on him, and who relieves its suffering, and makes you (mankind) inheritors of the earth? (can there be another) god besides Allah. Little it is that ye heed!

[27:62]

May God bless all.


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prairieprincess 5 years ago from Canada

Meg, this is a beautiful hub, and brings out such a profound truth! How every parent wishes this for her child, but also how impossible, but God still uses the pain for our good. Very moving hub ... thank you!


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megs78 5 years ago from quebec Author

Thank you for commenting Prairieprincess and Muni! Having children sure requires a lot of faith but its totally worth it isn't it?


mom/dad 5 years ago

Megan. God guided you in that writing. He brought the peace you as a parent needed. And yes, all things work together for good for those who love the Lord and are called according to His good purpose. And like a well-trained soldier(through hardship) you will be able to withstand the storms. Remember Job. Mom


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frogyfish 4 years ago from Central United States of America

A marvelous truth...and a little difficult to live by. You expressed the truth and faith of what we all need to use a bit more - well, especially me!

A saying I recently found from Mother Teresa fits here too: "We must learn to hold things loosely. That way it won't hurt so much when God has to pry open our fingers when He wants to take them."

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