Grandma's Advice To Our Youth Of Today

Our Youth Are Diamonds In The Rough

This Grandma Is Very Concerned With Our Youth Of Today

This Grandma is very concerned for our Youth today. I know times change, and we have to be able to change with the times. That doesn't mean that I have to accept the things I don't agree on. I’ve lived a long life, and for the most part I’ve had a good life. I am so concerned today about our youth. I don’t think they are preparing for a long good life because of the way they are treating their youth. They seem to take for granted that they will live forever. I blame a lot of things for the way the youth of today look at life in general. I begin to see a great shift in the way values and morals began to change so drastically about 15 years ago. I began to notice that children no longer said “please” and “thank you”, and they no longer referred to me as “Mrs.” Now, that into itself is probably no big change, but it led into other changes. Children began to show a general disrespect for their elders, their teachers, and law enforcement officers. I do think that because of both parents having to work to support the family, children have been left to their own devices. I was lucky to have a Mother waiting for me when I came home from school. Now, most kids go home alone.

Outside Influences

Now, with television and the internet’s influence that seems to be so great, I can’t help but wonder if and when parents and grandparents are going to be able to stop this downward spiral of bad behavior. I’m afraid adults have just come to accept bad behavior. It isn’t just bad behavior: it’s the drugs, the free sex, and all those other forces of influence that tell our Youth that it’s OK to act this way. It isn’t “cool” to be a good respectful person in this world. Well, I for one, would like to give some advice to the Youth of Today. They will probably never listen, but I can at least have my say! Let’s try to get back on the right path of life before it’s too late, Youth.

I Would Advise The Youth Of Today

I’ve thought of some things I think would be a good beginning to advise Youth:

Don’t drink alcohol, use drugs or smoke.

Don’t believe in “free sex”. Sex comes with a price. Make sure you are emotionally and physically ready to pay the price before you experiment with sex. Sex between two people in love is a beautiful thing. Sex just for the fun of it carries a lot of heartache. You can bring an unwanted baby into the world, or you can get AIDS of some other disease from which you may never recover.

Get a good education. The only way you will ever succeed in the world is to learn a marketable skill. Unless you want to spend your life “slinging hash” or working at the local discount store, learn a skill that will give you a decent income. You don’t have to go to college to do this. There are lots of good vocational schools that teach good skills. You might luck up and fall in love with someone of the opposite sex who is rich, but that would just be a bonus. In the meantime, prepare your life and look out for Number One: Yourself.

Keep busy doing the things that you enjoy and make you happy doing. Everyone needs a hobby. Never say, “I’m bored”!

Spend some time “playing in the dirt”. Enjoy nature, and watching plants grow. When you garden, you feel close to God. Stop and listen to the birds sing.

Don’t fall in love with anyone who does not have the same values you have. Don’t even date anyone who drinks, gambles, or uses drugs. They will make your life a living hell! Don’t ever think you have the power to change them; only they can do that.

Read good books, not trash! The Bible is the best, of course.

Listen to good music. Make yourself listen to good classical music. You might find you really enjoy it.

Learn to cook. Whether you are male or female, cooking from scratch is almost a lost art because of all the instant junk you can throw in the microwave. A home cooked meal is a joy.

Write. It’s very therapeutic. You don’t have to write the Great American Novel. Just learn to express yourself in words.

Make God an important part of your day. Pray. God listens to us, and does not judge us like our friends do. Always end your day by thanking Him for all the blessings you received that day.

Respect your elders. Be kind and patient with them. You will be old someday if you are lucky.

Always be true to your word. If you say you’ll do something, do it.

Be honest. Never take anything that doesn’t belong to you.

Be thrifty with your time and money. Once used, you can never get these two things back.

Don’t waste anything! In this age of disposables, don’t add your trash to the landfills unless it can no longer be used in some way.

Think before you speak. Once words leave your mouth, you can never get them back.

Be careful of the words you write. Those words can come back to haunt you.

Forgive.

Be tolerant of others and their beliefs. You may not agree with them, but try to understand how they feel.

Make good friends with those people you admire, and the ones that build you up, not tear you down.

Meditate. Take some quiet time. Just close your eyes or take a power nap.

I truly believe in the Golden Rule: “Do Unto Others As You Would Have Them Do Unto You”.

I Will Take My Own Advice And Apply It To Myself

There are many more words of advice I could give you, but I hope I’ve touched on some of the important things.

After reading my advice to the Youth of Today, my goal will now be to take my own advice beginning today to perhaps make me a better person.

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rebeccamealey 4 years ago from Northeastern Georgia, USA

Most of them do seem to think they are invincible. I think the best way is to teach by example, so applying to our own lives, as you added in the end may be the biggest help of all. Good job!


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Hi rebeccamealey, thanks for reading and commenting on this. Yes, I'm going to follow my own advice! Thanks again.


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homesteadbound 4 years ago from Texas

I think what you have shared is good for everyone to apply to their lives. The world would be a much better place. Great hub that obviously had a lot of thought put into it.


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aboutaustralia 4 years ago from Newcastle, New South Wales

Wonderful advice for our young folk to follow. The world is certainly changing but not always for the better. Your words of wisdom are Gold! Great hub, enjoyed it very much, voted up!


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Hi homesteadbound. So nice to see you! Thanks for reading and commenting on my advice to the Youth of Today. I've seen these changes taking place, and it worries me about the future. Thanks for the compliment, too. Have a wonderful day.


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Hello, aboutaustralia! Thanks for reading my concern and advice for our Youth of Today. Yes, the world is changing: too fast for me, I'm afraid.Thanks for the nice compliment, and the vote! I hope you have a great Holiday Season in Australia!


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aboutaustralia 4 years ago from Newcastle, New South Wales

Thank you Mary, Happy Holidays to you also. Kind regards, Sharon


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picklesandrufus 4 years ago from Virginia Beach, Va

Good advice..must say, I remember my mom saying a lot of these things to me and I'm pretty old now. Me being a product of the hippie generation, I now see her concerns, but I ended up ok, so something must have stuck...and we can hope after all the playing, this younger generation will remember some of the sage advice of their parents if they were fortunate to get good advice at all.


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Hi picklesandrufus, good to see you. We parents like to think that some of the advice we give our children will "stick". Sometimes it doesn't though, and our youth pay for their mistakes. I hope you are right in that some of the advice will be remembered. Thanks for reading. Goodnight.


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ithabise 4 years ago from Winston-Salem, NC

Poignant advice, Mary. The few nuggets you have shared, if diligently followed, would get so many further along from where they stand now. I wrote something like this not long ago. I am a younger person, but just young enough to not be part of this new crop sprung up--and I'm glad! I'm thankful for the strong mom and religious/moral values I had/have. There's a missing link in the generation today...something that causes them to overlook the importance of responsibility, faith, morality, and the like. May God have mercy upon us all because of these to whom our society will one day be left! It may not be a happy thought--perhaps it's controversial--but what will become of America's standing in the world considering the generations following? Will other youth, aspiring and more diligent, overtake us? Worth considering.


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Lord De Cross 4 years ago

You said it all Mary. I can tell you know more than anyone..I've been told that rasing girls is harder and you can tell me if it's true or not. Now there are things that are looming over us: Our arm forces coming back...lots of them will come into society and some of them have been instructed to do harm. Now the economy is not healthy at all. They cannot lie to me that know my math. You can fudge the numbers but not for so long...another thing, Do you think kids around 14 or 15 are going to listen to your advice? Sorry Mary, I know them well... We are in deep trouble and hopefully you won't be at the wrong place and the wrong minute. Furthermore, the Tentacles from the Mexican Maffia are recruiting our young guys for "door to door and school delivery." Yeah! Of course CNN and CBS and ABC are looking more into the immigration problem...and also leaving aside so many "pandemics" as Autism...sorry for releasing all these to you and our friends... every day is another day to thank our Maker to be alive!

LORD


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Dear ithabise, you seem to fully understand my concerns on the youth of today. It is wonderful that you had a Mother who taught you values, etc. and I know you are grateful for that. Where did we go wrong as parents and teachers??? I, too, worry about the future generation. You make a good point about others overtaking our youth because their aspirations, etc. are higher. Thanks you so much for your insight and comment. Goodnight.


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Dear Lord, thank you so much for your comment on my Hub about my concern for our youth. Your opinion means a lot of me. You are certainly more knowledgeable about the Mexican Maffia and the other bad elements you speak of. There was just an article in Time magazine about the troops are coming back into out society. Interesting. Lord, where did we go wrong? I think some parents just stuck their heads in the sand and refused to see the problems. You should write a Hub on what you just talked about. Goodnight, friend.


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Lord De Cross 4 years ago

Good night Mary!


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travel_man1971 4 years ago from Bicol, Philippines

I've been a youth for the past years. I'm 40 now and I still believe that I still have my youthful upbringing in me and will use my expertise in order to help others as much as I can.

Thanks for this very insightful hub, Ms. Mary. :D


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Good Morning, travel_man1971, thanks for reading my Hub on my concern for our Youth of today,and my advice. You certainly sound like you had good upbringing, and if you can use your influence on others that is commendable.So nice to see you here. Have a wonderful day!


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Lord De Cross 4 years ago

Hi there Mary,

We are trying our best on this side....to let our kids that tomorrow is not forever and money is the root of evil. But hormones and parenting crisis and peer pressure can top a load on them. I really have hope and we will keep touching their hearts with our own example. Actually my old kid is in the Airforce and my 18 yrs old is heading toward there too. Both are willing to help their friends with vivid examples. Thanks Mary for this hub...and sorry for the harsh comment from last night...but it is what it is!

LORD


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Lord, I didn't think your comment was harsh at all! You spoke volumes. I agree: all we can do as parents is to try to set good examples. "Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old, he will not depart from it." Remember? Have a wonderful day.


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oceansnsunsets 4 years ago from The Midwest, USA

Hi Mary, excellent hub and very very needed for today. I am so concerned for the youth, for our societies today. It seems people are making very bad choices, and more than that, they just don't care anymore. It seems people are swayed by untruths, things that in no way make any sense. That really concerns me.

Ideas like you mention above, are not outdated, but tried and true. What this country and the values many held long ago, are what helped to make it so wonderful. That is changing now. People don't have to agree, but there is no denying the fact we can observe a cause and effect change, absolutely.

Discouraged, and tired of what I see. Thanks for sharing your views with us, there is hope if people will wake up a little. Ironically, don't so many of us all know of people that didn't think that way at one time, and grew up and matured and "came around" eventually anyway. IT ALWAYS seems to turn out that ideas like you share above, DO end up being the best in the end. Catch on early, youth! Don't have to learn all the lessons the hard way, and miss out on so much. Voted up all but funny.


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Dear oceansnsunsets, I can always count on you to make meaningful comments. I know I'm considered old fashioned by the youth of today, but maybe someday they will look back and say, "You know, that old gal was right". I get discouraged at what I see today, too. I keep asking myself: where did we as parents go wrong? We just accepted these changes, I think. Thanks for the votes, too. If I don't "see" you again before Christmas, I wish for you and yours the very best, dear friend.


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Gypsy Rose Lee 4 years ago from Riga, Latvia

I know for a fact that the teens I see here on the streets of Riga are a rough, uncaring bunch and I don't think they would care if the police dragged them in every day. They would just get tougher. Smoking and drinking is common place near all the schools. Basically it's because their parents have grown-up in such a way that their parents or the kids grandparents went through occupation where it was easier to drink than to think. Then their kids the teens parents were already brought up to not give two cents about anything and so it became a vicious cycle. At this point unless something drastic happens nothing will change. There are of course normal young adults who educate themselves and do what they can to make something good out of their lives. That has been their choice and not something that came out of their upbringing.


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Good Morning, Gypsy Rose Lee, so nice to see you today. You have made a meaningful comment here on my Hub about my concern about our Youth. Our kids grandparents never went through as yours have, so they don't even have that excuse. They just don't seem to be concerned anymore, and it is a vicious cycle. I love your last sentence the most: their choice and not something that came out of their upbringing. I appreciate your taking the time to read and make the comment. Have a wonderful day, friend.


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Rosemay50 4 years ago from Hawkes Bay - NewZealand

A very good and wise hub Mary. You offer so much good advice.

I think you hit the nail on the head when you mentioned the fact that both parents need to work. Too many kids nowadays are latch key kids and have to take care of themselves on arriving home from school or in the school holidays. And of course when Mom gets home from a days work she is too tired to listen or even care what her children are up to. Dads often have to work overtime or away from home. It is an unfortunate fact that a one wage family cannot manage in today's climate and it is our youth that are paying the ultimate price.

And of course teachers now tend to be there to teach the curriculum and nothing more. Whereas when I was at school they were always willing to carry out activities outside of school. This presented good roll models to the children and gave them other interests. I am not saying that teachers should go that extra mile, but it would certainly make a difference.One of my teachers used to have 4 students once a month for Sunday afternoon tea. This was not only a pleasure but helped teach us how to behave in someone elses home, how to converse outside of family, and we had some wonderful discussions and debates.

Children of today lack those personal touches. And I agree that the TV and video games and the internet have a lot to answer for.

There will always be leaders and always followers and I guess the leaders with the bad influences always seem to be the more exciting to the youth of today.

I am always grateful that my own children have grown into decent adult with good morals and manners. It is also very heartening to see those traits that we taught them being passed onto the next generation.


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Good Morning, Rosemay50. Thanks for reading my Hub on advice for our Youth of Today. You have made a very insightful and thoughtful comment on this with some very good points. You touched on a point about teachers today. I was going to mention that in my Hub, but I didn't want to offend any teachers. They have so many demands made of them by the School Boards to just teach the cirriculum, nothing more. Your teacher did a wonderful thing by spending time outside the classroom with the students. I know that you, like myself, are proud of our children, but what of the future generation? I hope you and yours have a wonderful and blessed Christmas, friend!


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Rosemay50 4 years ago from Hawkes Bay - NewZealand

Well I hope I haven't offended any teachers Mary. I know that nowadays they have their hands tied even if they want to do something extra. There is so much to consider now such as insurance and lawsuits and the threat of being accused of indecent child abuse. Life is not as simple as it used to be.


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Oh, no, Rosemay50, No teacher should take offence at what you said! I have the upmost respect for that profession; they do the best they can under the present days demands of them. I know they must feel in their own hearts they don't do enough, but as you said, their"hands are tied". Thanks for coming back.


Sueswan 4 years ago

Hi Mary,

Wonderful words of wisdom for the youth of today.

Voted up and away.

Merry Christmas to you and Baby.


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Good Morning, Sueswan. Good to see you again. Thanks for reading about my concern for our Youth of today. Thanks, too, for the vote. Baby and I want to wish you the most Merry Christmas and a wonderful New Year. Regards.


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greatparenting 4 years ago from philadelphia, pa and corolla, nc

I agree with much of what you say but I do believe that it's not a given that a home with two working parents will produce a young person who is "left to their own devices"and who lacks all of these great qualities. Whether parents work inside the home or outside the home, they can raise great kids with sterling morals and values. Parents who care and who take the time they can to raise kids right can still work for a living and that's good because many have to.


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Hi greatparenting, I agree with you that just because the two parents work their children will not grow up to be good productive citizens with values and morals. You said it all when you said "parents who care and who take the time", that is the key, I think. I do know parents who work, but don't take that necessary time with their kids. These are the ones I'm most concerned about. Thank you for your insightful comment. BTW, you have a beautiful family, and I know how proud you must be of them! I hope you have a Merry Christmas with those you love.


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greatparenting 4 years ago from philadelphia, pa and corolla, nc

Thanks so much. I hope you and your family enjoy happiness and health through this season of joy and beyond.


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graceomalley 4 years ago

I agree that everything you said would put a person on a good path in life. I also think the young people of today are facing larger problems than any other generation. The problems of finding alternative energy when oil runs out, dealing with terrorism, the shifting of wealth into the hands of a smaller and smaller group of elites, the possibility of global pandemics, ect. will not be solved easily. There have always been troubles to overcome, but increased technology has made these troubles more and more serious. I don't envy the youth of today. I am an older person myself, and i find disrespect from the young just as annoying as the next person who has paid her dues only to have someone her child's age act like she doesn't know anything. - But i wonder if some of this attitude is due to the troubled world the young are inheriting. They have to deal with a world that is still paying the price for colonialism and slavery, let alone pollution, climate change and banking debacles.


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ladybluewriter 4 years ago from United States

I am going to say something as a former 29 year veteran educator of teens. I woke up and realized the problem with many of our youth today is no one raised them like grandma told us. Sure grandma's ideas and ways were tough, but the way I see it now for our youth to make it in our world. I would not say grandma fully understand everything either. Then we must let them know they are not dumb, stupid, and worthless. I once took a child with a head down on a desk and I changed that kid's life. I walked in my class one day and said hey we got geniuses in this class. The boy in the back picked up his head off the desk and he said "what do you mean?" The children said he would never do anything. They said he only got high and was sleeping it off. I answered the kid that day with these words: " I saw you on that field running one day. You beat everyone. I know you are really talented." Mind you that this was a special needs classroom. That same student came back the next day and his head never went down on the desk again. I had given himself worth, and then it was just showing him the path. He became my A student that year. I think to myself that it only takes a few words of faith in someone and a big heart to know they can turn it around. After all Einstein himself was a behavior problem in school. Many other very intelligent people had problems with dyslexia and ADHD but you would never know it, because they changed our world. I hope you all get a chance to see why I wrote the book Legacy of the Skull Master by SM Rodgers. It was about just that thing.


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ithabise 4 years ago from Winston-Salem, NC

@Ladybluewriter: Marvelous...simply marvelous. Gets me emotional for that one simple reason--people can change. We've just got to find the way to make them see their own worth.


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Hi graceomalley, thank you for reading about my concern of our Youth of today. You have made a very wise and meaningful comment, and I appreciate your views very much. You are absolutely right when you say that our children are inheriting a world of uncertainly and many problems, many of which OUR generation has caused. I have enjoyed this discussion so much. There is still a lot to be said, I suppose. In the meantime, I just pray for our children and the world to come. Thanks again. I wish you and yours have a wonderful Christmas. Regards.


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Hi ladybluewriter, thanks so much for reading and your very interesting comment. You really did turn this student around simply by praising him. I'm sure your work gave you a lot of self satisfaction. I sure don't know what the answers are, but I wish things would "turn around somewhat", before we lose this children altogether. Thanks for letting me know of the book. I have made a note to read that. I will appreciate it more knowing that wrote it. Thanks again. Regards.


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Hi ithabise, Thanks so much for reading and commenting on my concern for our youth of today. Yes, we have to find a way to make the youth see their own self worth. I hope you have a wonderful Christmas.


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ladybluewriter 4 years ago from United States

Mary615 and ithabise you do not know how many kids we have lost and how many are on streets, in juvenile, and committing crimes not to mention dropping out. What future is it for these kids, if we do not find the best within them and help them to grow toward a dream. Maybe we need to help shape their dream but we can do it in every community in the world. It starts with one person who sees the best in these kids. Strange things I have kids that I taught in school who see me now as grown ups with their own kids, and they run up to me and call me mother. What is unique about it is their ethnicity. We come from different races but see no barriers we could not break down. Love is love and giving others hope is when we see no barriers of diversity.


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Hi again, ladybluewriter, thanks for coming back and making another worthwhile comment on my Hub. You are right: it can start with just one person that will help these children find their way. What a wonderful sense of satisfaction you must have gotten to be remembered as someone who cared! Goodnight.


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ladybluewriter 4 years ago from United States

Thanks Mary615 for writing this hub. More people need to make a difference and you are opening the door.


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poetvix 4 years ago from Gone from Texas but still in the south. Surrounded by God's country.

Youth has always been difficult, but it seems so much more so today in our modern society. So many children have no one. So many children really feel, and they may be right, that the only family they have are the other youths who they think are their friends and often none of them even know the real meaning of the word. They are scared and alone so they lash out because they don't know what else to do. God help them.


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Hi poetvix, thank you for reading my Hub on my concern for the Youth of today. You have made a good point on this subject. I think you're right; the youth today are scared and alone. I still ask: where did we as parents go wrong? Thank you so much for your insight. Goodnight.


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epigramman 4 years ago

..well these are certainly valued and treasured words to live by and will most proudly be posted to my FACEBOOK page with a direct link back here for all to see and read and perhaps gain some wisdom - it was a grand day when we met my dear friend and please accept my sincere holiday wishes for you and your family with continued health and happiness into the new year of 2012.

lake erie time ontario canada 11:39pm about to go out for a walk along with the high winds of lake erie to literally bring in Christmas day


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Hi there epi, SO nice to see you here on my Hub about the Youth of Today. Thank you for your nice compliment. I, too, am so glad you have made your acquaintance here in HubLand. You are a dear friend, who I have the upmost love and respect for.

Did you see Santa flying over Lake Erie tonight?? I think I saw him going over my house about 5 minutes ago! It's now 12:05 in S. Florida. MERRY CHRISTMAS AND A HAPPY NEW YEAR TO YOU, friend.


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Capedium 4 years ago from Texas.

May God gives us(youth) strength

Youth is a challenge

Though with friends as you our future are meant to be bright

But my question is this, how many youths derive joy in words that do not lie.

If youth could learn and base there life on this things I have just read..

Our world will be a world where Angels call home..

Can I please ask !

How do we get our youth to read and follow that good path that consider dumb ??


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Hi Capedium, thanks for reading about my concerns for the Youth of Today. I'm pretty old fashioned I guess. Modern youth think they know everything! I just want to know where did parents go wrong??? Thanks for your meaningful comment, I appreciate it. Goodnight.


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Capedium 4 years ago from Texas.

Goodnight to you too.

Where did parent go wrong.. I have my observation, but I can be very wrong.

I read once that affections in decision are not always right..

I learnt that sometimes love blinds you from sticking to what you know is true.

The parent I believe are 70 percent to be blame.

How ? They love their kids to much, and hate to see them go through the same pain they did when they were growing up.

This is mostly the case.

Statics shows that 80 to 90 percent of the American youth or better still youth in general do not read and careless to what goes on in the environment (News).

They spend endless time surfing the web. Not to read but to search dirty sites and listen to rotten songs that has no lesson to teach.

And parents fear so much to lose their kids, they dare not lay a hand on them.. Did the Bible not say "spare the rod and spoil the child". Did it not say rebuke and shun every evil act..

Most parent are just too scare they might loose their kids if they try to mend their way. They are scare that they may go and never return in the quest of trying to find their own path. Their last resort is to watch them leave and pray to God they grow to become the children of their dreams. What can I say, the youth has too many privileges they do not deserve, they make them believe that they are as priceless as the sun and that that there is nothing the wont do if they treating to leave..

It is not old fashion.,it is the world that has lost it's pride, misuse of information and children that who can differentiate between a mothers love and the secret deceit hidden behind those walls the world calls fun..


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Hello again Capedium, I agree with everything you have said here; your comment is wise and meaningful! I hate to see young people waste their time on "junk" like they do. Your comment would make a beautiful Hub, you know? See you again soon, I hope.


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Capedium 4 years ago from Texas.

I could turn it to a hub. May be few curious eyes can see and try to change the world in their own little way. Like you do.. I have not really read your entire hub. But in your Biography I understand you have and Angels heart. A mother that will give in all of her best to see one child live a worthy life.


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Brandon Spaulding 4 years ago from Yahoo, Contributor

I voted you up and useful. I appreciate your concerns for our youth. I share many of those concerns. While I am in the young adult agegroup, 21-42, I have many concerns about how young people act toward each other and their elders. I'm also concerned with the impact of youth on local and Presidential elections. I think many of our youth don't understand how to feel good about themselves for the right reasons. It's ok to want to be popular for the right reasons like being a good person. I agree, many times this isn't as popular. However, I always wanted to be popular for being a good fun person. I never wanted to attack people because they were different either. I agree having a relationship with God through Christ plays an important role in how a person behaves. God is the number one best role model of all time. Our country was built on Christian principles and a disrespect for elders, authority figures, police, and neighbors can be a sign people need to get back to Christian principles. I think much of it starts with understanding how to feel good about yourself for the right reasons. Parents have to lead through example and I am encouraged to see high profile celebrites when they demonstrate faith in God and appreciation for conservative principles and behavior.


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Good Morning, Brandon! Nice to see you. Thank you so much for your wise and meaningful commment on my Hub and my cncern for the youth of today. I think our country has gotten too far away from God. I took my son out of public schools because the schools stopped praying. He now goes to a Christian school, where I hope he is beinging taught Christian values. Yes, it's too bad when our youth feel good about themselves for all the wrong reasons. You must have been blessed with parents who taught you good values and morals. Kind regards....


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teaches12345 4 years ago

Hello Mary! I am linking this to my grandparent's hub because it is exactly what we need to promote to our next generation. It holds valuable life lessons and ones that have proven to help a person life successfully. Voted up!


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Hi teaches12345, did you notice I linked your Hub to this one? I'd be happy for you to link this one to yours, too. Thanks for the votes, I appreciate that. We Grandparents have to do our part on behalf of our future generations, I think. Hope you have a wonderful day!


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teaches12345 4 years ago

Thanks Mary for your support and wisdom. Yes, we must continue to do our part in this rapidly changing and challenging world.


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Peggy W 4 years ago from Houston, Texas

Hi Mary,

Wow! You said a mouthful and it is all true. The common courtesy of addressing elders or teachers as Mr., Mrs., etc. has seemed to have disappeared quite some time ago. The influence and lack of morality taught on TV, in the movies, etc. is rampant. Parents and teachers can only do so much. Society in general seems to be headed in a downward spiral from what I can see. Gangs and gang activity seem to be more prevalent. Wars and acts of terrorism around the world seem to be never ending. The world economy is unsettled to say the least.

Following the Golden Rule would go a long way towards remedying the current state of affairs. I could go on and on, but you seem to have done a good job. We need to get back to many of the tried and true "old ways" of doing things. We would all benefit. Voted up, useful and will share, tweet and FB.


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weestro 4 years ago from Virginia

Great words of wisdom here Mrs. Mary! I've noticed it too, and after watching the bus monitor incident I'm not sure anyone would disagree with you! Voted up!


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Hi, weestro, thanks so much for reading and commenting on my advice to our Youth of Today.

I appreciate your vote, too.


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Hi Peggy W, I just wrote a comment back to you and it just disappeared! So, you may get two from me. I just said that you and I agree on a lot of things, and this subject is just another that we certainly agree on. I really thought about 10 years ago that values and morals would improve after a while of all this "free" stuff, but it has not improved. It has gotten worse.

Thanks so much for the vote, etc. I really appreciate that.

Hope you are having a wonderful day.


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Rufus rambles 4 years ago from Australia

Your suggestions are all good ones. The trouble with youth is that we all want to "do it our way". It seems that we all learn by mistakes. Being overly cautious and restricting ourselves can lead to other issues. But it is a sad fact that many of us will only reform ourselves once we have gone off track a bit...As they say "youth is wasted on the young!" Great article.


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Hi, Rufus rambles. Thanks for reading my advice to the youth. I know, I know, you young folks have to do it your way, even it you'll get hurt. My kids were all the same....they never listened to my advice, but thankfully they never got into BAD trouble. Thanks for the compliment on my Hub.

Goodnight.


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Sunshine625 4 years ago from Orlando, FL

Excellent advice from Grandma! I agree with all of your tips and advice!

I'd like to add...let your voice be heard and make a difference for a better world.

Grandma's rock! :)


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Hi, Sunshine625. I'm glad you like my advice for the youth of today, and agree with my advice. I'm sure you could add a few more tips. Young people sometimes have to find out for themselves and make their own mistakes.

Yes, we Grandmas ROCK!


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Sally's Trove 4 years ago from Southeastern Pennsylvania

Yours is such good, common sense advice, refreshing to read. Like you, I believe the values embedded in your points are too often disregarded, if they are even understood at all. For this disregard, my 90-year-old mother blames my generation, and I agree with her. The "Me" generation I belong to traded social responsibility for self-interest. Folks of my generation may have been "raised right," but by the time they got around to having children, those children were learning different lessons. When I whine about "kids today" to my mother, she wastes no time in telling me it's my fault, that my generation didn't do anything to prevent the rise of disrespect.

It's a huge topic, isn't it?

Thank you for this thoughtful essay. Up, interesting, useful.


ladybluewriter 4 years ago

I have to say I simply love it. I was raised to catch butterflies and play in the dirt. Not saying my grandma had it all right but I grew up to be a teacher that could understand children. I had to learn about computers and now am texting like the younger ones, but my grandma and my mother gave me all these values you speak about. Important to growing up and having children that do not follow in the trap of self unworth . Too much is pulling them away from the real things of life.


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Hi, Sally's Trove. Thanks for the nice compliment on my Hub on Grandma's Advice. I'm a little old fashioned, I guess. As I said times have changed, but my morals and values have not, and I have tried so hard to influence my children and grandchildren. This is a huge topic that we could talk about all day, you are right about that.

Thanks so much for the votes, I appreciate that, Mary


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Hi ladybluewriter, so nice to see you! Yes, too many factors are pulling our children away from the values we have tried to teach them, but what is the answer?? Have we spoiled them too much???

Thanks for reading, Mary


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Stephanie Henkel 4 years ago from USA

Wonderful advice! If only we could get our young people to follow it! I guess the best we can do is set a good example, and, when we have an opportunity, talk with them seriously about the basic values of life.


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Hi Stephanie, thanks for reading and taking the time to comment on my advice for the youth. We like to think that some of our advice will "stick", don't we?

I am concerned about the youth of today. They can be so violent like the young man who shot all those people in the movie theater.

Goodnight, Mary


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Dina Blaszczak 4 years ago from Poland

There is a lot of truth and wisdom in your Hub and I agree with things you say about young generation. It's sad, but young people change for worse instead of for better, however it's not only young people it's the whole world is going downhill...


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Hi Dina. Thanks for reading and taking the time to comment on my Hub about my concerns about our youth. I think you are absolutely right when you say the whole world is going downhill. I not only worry about our youth, I worry about our society as a whole. I wish everyone lived by the Golden Rule, don't you?

Goodnight, Mary


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midget38 4 years ago from Singapore

Wow. I should forward this to my students!! It's true. Many kids these days have forgotten all the things you've listed, especially saying Please and Thank You....in fact, I had a student who abused his own mother. I think such values cannot be labelled as "old fashioned' but rather basics of etiquette we all should know. Thanks for the write....I am voting across and sharing.


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Janine Huldie 4 years ago from New York, New York

Mary I couldn't have said it better and very much agree with all your advice to today's youth in this article, especially to do unto others as you would want done to you. Have to tell you I was blessed to have a wonderful mother and grandmother too, who pretty much taught me everything you laid out here and credit them with who I am today, but your words should be read by those who are young, because they truly speak volumes. Have voted up, shared and tweeted too!!


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unknown spy 4 years ago from Neverland - where children never grow up.

hello Mary. I honor and respect these advices, which are all valuable and will do good things to youths. So far, im doing all those things you've said. My grandma used to remind me to listen to older people who have experienced life already because they know anf learned from their past. My mom used to say to heed things she taught because "im just starting my journey while she's already going back".

I have a friend way back, he never do those things you've said. He's always on parties, wasting money, drinking and smoking..do not understand english movies and do not read books.. I quit hanging out with him because I feel like im turning into like him.


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ALUR 4 years ago from USA

As a mother of three young girls(under age of 13) I struggle with the world and the lack of ethics behind raising a child. The responsibility lies in the parenting role and exposing children to the wonder of innocence. With media and the role of the internet, it seems they are less inhibited and more daring yet they still are "children" with minds not quite ready to handle the consequences of adult behavior. Sadly, even the adults are not mature enough-wrapped in their own identitity struggles-to often be role models.

Solution if any: parent with care and love, expose your children to nature and something more and other than the world of electronics. Return to basics without being a grouch:)

You're welcome to rate/read my versatile hubs as well:)


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Hi midget38, thanks for reading and commenting on my advice for the youth of today. I try not to be so pessimistic, but I do get concerned. I know you are, too.

Thanks for the votes and the share, Mary


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Hi Janine, I was fortunate, too, to have had a mother who taught me right from wrong. I just ask myself: where did we go wrong with our children today???

Thanks so much for reading, commenting, the votes, and the share!

Have a wonderful day, Mary


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Hi unknown spy. It's always good to see you! You are SO right...sounds like your friend is not the kind of friend you should hang out with. I always tell my children: choose your friends wisely. You mentioned something else: Young people don't seems to have the respect I was taught to have to older people.

Thanks for reading and commenting, Mary


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Hi ALUR, thanks for reading my advice to our youth. Wow! You have three girls....I raised 4 girls of my own and adopted two others. It is hard to teach your kids values and morals when everything around them dictates other behaviors.

Your remark about adults not being mature makes a lot of sense.

Regards, Mary


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Rosalinem 4 years ago from Nairobi, Kenya

This hub is just fantastic and I will keep it as a guideline even though I am no longer a youth it still applies. Very well written and so very true in these values that you have listed.


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Hi, Rosalinem, thanks for reading my Grandma's Advice, and for the nice compliment on my Hub. Mary


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AudreyHowitt 4 years ago from California

I think we all worry about our own and about what we see and hear. I hear your concerns and I agree with Rebecca--we all need to lead by example--and I will bet that you are a shining star in that regard--cheers to you Mary


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Hi, AudreyHowitt. Yes, I have a lot of concerns about our Youth. We can only lead them by good example as you said, and hope they heed our advice.

Thanks for reading and commenting, Mary


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Alecia Murphy 4 years ago from Wilmington, North Carolina

I think one thing that is noticeable is how the internet has made generations even smaller. When I was younger, the internet was just getting it's legs- now it's almost as common as TV. As a result, a lot of people my age and younger seem to take things differently. However, I don't think anything compares to living life with your eyes wide open and listening to others. Voted up and more!


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Hi, Alecia Murphy. I would like to think my children and grandchildren would heed my advice to them and other youth. We parents and grandparents can only try because we don't want them to make mistakes that will ruin their lives.

Thanks for reading and for the votes, Mary


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healthmom 3 years ago from Ohio

Thanks for the sage advice. I will think of these things as I try and raise my toddlers.


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mary615 3 years ago from Florida Author

Hi, healthmom. I'm glad you like my advice to our youth of today. Oh, boy, you have a long road ahead if you have toddlers. It takes a lot of patience and love to raise children now a days.

Thanks for reading and taking the time to comment. Mary


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida

Just the other day, an example of the belief that they are invincible occurred. My niece's friends were out for a drive, one had on a seat belt, the others did not. Four of them were together in the car. One was totally unhurt (she had on a seatbelt.) One was unhurt. Two went to the hospital one in grave condition have had her head, kidney, spleen and other part of her body seriously injured. She remains in the hospital but she is alive. They were out, being teenagers, with no regard for their safety. The "It won't happen to me belief" was alive and well in the car. Your list of advice to them is time-tested. They are the same ones many of us lived by as we grew up. Respect for self and elders is so important but it is learned behavior I think. If disrespect for others is modeled, it often is adopted as a world view and lives follow that model...

As a adults we need to set the standard.

Thank you, Mary, for sharing this ....Angels are on the way ps


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mary615 3 years ago from Florida Author

Good Morning, pstraubie48. It never ceases to amaze me how many teenagers do survive when you think of their behavior. Yes, they think they are immortal! I do hope the one will survive and be OK. My 17 yr. old son is in no hurry to get his driver's license because of having so many friends involved in accidents. I don't push him.

Thanks so much for reading and adding your comment, Mary


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tillsontitan 3 years ago from New York

I cheated Mary and didn't read all the wonderful comments ahead of me (dr.'s appointment in a bit), but I have to say this is great advice and well said my friend.

A myriad of problems are affecting the youth of today. Back to basics and simple respect and living as you've outlined are certainly the cure!

Voted up, useful, and interesting.


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Eiddwen 3 years ago from Wales

A great hub as always Mary and voting up.

Eddy.


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mary615 3 years ago from Florida Author

Hi tilklsontitan (Mary). Always good to see you. I have preached all these things to my children and grandchildren, and I can only hope they will follow some of my advice.

Thanks so much for reading and the votes, Mary


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mary615 3 years ago from Florida Author

Hi Eddy. I can't help buy wonder if you folks in Wales have the drug problems we have here in the US that is taking the lives of so many of our young people. A good friend of mine just lost her beautiful 19 yr. old daughter just lost her due to drugs. Breaks my heart.

Thanks so much for your nice comment, Mary


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Nell Rose 3 years ago from England

Hi mary, this is great advice, and something I see everyday where I live, so many drugs and drink problems. At night its like my town turns into some sort of dark side. In the day its one of the most prettiest places in England, two sides of every coin. parents need to teach their kids as we were taught, have a great evening, nell


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mary615 3 years ago from Florida Author

Hi Nell Rose. Yes, I'm really concerned about our youth. I agree, parents don't seem to be teaching their children true values and good behavior anymore.

Always good to see you, Mary


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rajan jolly 3 years ago from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar,INDIA.

Very sound advice to the youth of today but when one is in the flush of youth one thinks it is going to last forever. Glad you put it down in black and white, Mary.

Voting this up, useful and awesome and sharing it ahead.


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mary615 3 years ago from Florida Author

Hi, rajan jolly. Good to see you. Yes, young people think they are invincible. I wish I could stop them from making so many mistakes, though.

Thanks for the votes and the share. I appreciate that, Mary


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pstraubie48 22 months ago from sunny Florida

You are right Mary.

And we as those who should model the behaviors we wish to see them develop.

Back in the day I can remember when other kids got to do things I did not. And I thought my parents were in the stone ages!! But as it turned out, I grew up and became my parents :D

Food for thought here for all of us.

Voted up+++ and shared


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Lady Guinevere 22 months ago from West Virginia

I see a whole lot of the things that you are seeing and noticing. My youngest daughter treats me like the child and her as the parent. Well that stopped and when I spoke up for myself she decided that I am no longer going to be involved in her life. I also see it here with some HP staff. I, too, wonder what the future is going to bring for these younguns and the rest of us. I wonder where RESPECT for others is in the world with these kids that are growing up...including some social media and pay for post sites that I have been involved in lately.

I asked a question of the ages of the staff here and not one person, so far, understands where I am coming from.

Voted up and sharing!


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Kiss andTales 22 months ago

Thank you for the subject of our young people and your sincere concerns, I too am a grandparent with the same concerns.

But what has help me is God's word, we can never go wrong in bring them up in the helpful teachings of the bible.

Reference Bible.

Ps 119:9How will a young man cleanse his path? By keeping on guard according to your word.

also at

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Pr 22:6Train up a boy according to the way for him; even when he grows old he will not turn aside from it.

this is true.

the problem we have with children and young Adults is this helpful training is missing, it is like a kid being passed on to anot


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mary615 22 months ago from Florida Author

Dear pstraubie48 Oh, yes, I thought my mother was SO dumb, but as I grew older I realized she was a pretty smart lady after all!

Thanks so much for reading, commenting, the votes and the share, Goodnight, Mary


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mary615 22 months ago from Florida Author

Hi, Lady Guinevere Yes, I truly worry about our future generations. That's too bad about your daughter and show she feels about you. Young people today just don't have the respect for us "elders" like I had when I was growing up.

Always good to see you, Mary


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mary615 22 months ago from Florida Author

Hi, Kiss andTales Thanks for reading and for your insightful comment. As a grandparent, I'm sure you want your grandchildren to grow into good responsible citizens just as I do. I think I trained my children well.....I am very proud of them.

Thanks for reading and commenting, Mary


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schoolgirlforreal 22 months ago from USA

Great idea to write about and good advice! I will be sharing on fb!


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Kiss andTales 22 months ago

You are welcome as you can see I did not finish I thought my comment did not post.

I have change my device ! I am using my phone to post comments. Due to my pad and gigabytes. Do not take my comments as being personal, most of the time it is just answering and replying to the hub or story written, I personally do not know you or your family. But I always know that what is given to us as a guide is the best thing we have in the bible.

So I love to share it with everyone. Some times people already know what the bible says. But reminders never hurt anyone.

Thanks again you are a great writer looking forward to reading more of your hubs


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mary615 22 months ago from Florida Author

Hi, schoolgirlforreal I'm glad you agree Grandma's advice is good for our youth! Thanks. Thanks for the share on FB, too. I appreciate that, Mary


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mary615 22 months ago from Florida Author

Hi again, Kiss andTales I noticed you didn't finish a sentence on your original comment. I have had some problems the past day of so commenting on my own Hubs, too.

So nice to meet you here on HP, Goodnight, Mary


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Peggy W 20 months ago from Houston, Texas

I commented on this good hub of yours 2 years ago but thought it important enough to once again share. This "grandma" advice is timeless and the youth of today would be well advised to listen to it.


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SweetiePie 20 months ago from Southern California, USA

I agree with many of your points, but I think this argument about the youth of today has been going on forever. People in the 1960s were telling their kids about the sex, drugs and rock and roll thing, and the kids of that era actually had a lot more freedom, and were more permissive than kids today. Even when I was in high school many kids had cars, and there was this place in the mountains where kids supposedly went to drink and party. One positive change I have been seeing these days is kids are not getting cars before they have a job, and many young people are riding public transportation. A lot of kids hang out at home, and yeah maybe they go on social media more often than their parents might like, but I think that is better than kids being off who knows where, and parents not caring at all. Kids actually seem to have more parental supervision today then when I was younger, and this can be good and bad. It is a bit disconcerting when you hear about a nineteen year old who lives with mom and dad, and they are speaking for her, and telling me she does not have an ID card. I actually had to speak to her directly and let her know now she is eighteen she can get one, so I have seen a lot of cases where kids might have helicopter parenting that went too far.

I never was interested in drinking and partying, and to me that is boring. I like classical music occasionally, but there is nothing wrong with good rock music. There are may musicians who are advocates for cleaning and healthy eating, and not drug addicted. Also, if a kid happens to be interested in music, perhaps learning the guitar and playing in a rock band would be a great thing for him or her. Studying an instrument in school would also encourage a kid to focus on other subjects.


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mary615 20 months ago from Florida Author

Hi there, Peggy W We parents and grandparents just have to keep giving our kids advice. They don't always listen, but now that my children are all grown, I can see they did heed some of my advice! I'm grateful for that.

Thanks for the reread and for sharing, Mary


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mary615 20 months ago from Florida Author

Hi, SweetiePie Thanks so much for reading Grandma's Advice, and for the meaningful comment. I grew up in an era where we young folks didn't drink or smoke or do drugs, either. I agree with you about teaching our children to play a musical instrument. My parents insisted I take piano lessons, and music has been a big part of my life.

So nice to see you, Mary


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travel_man1971 20 months ago from Bicol, Philippines

I still cling to one of the 10 Commandments that youth should respect the elders. Get a good education and avoid vices.

Thank you so much, Ms. Mary for sharing this.

-Ireno


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mary615 20 months ago from Florida Author

Hi, travel_man1971 If we could just succeed in teaching our children to live by the 10 Commandments PLUS the Golden Rule, it would be a wonderful thing!

Thanks for reading Grandma's Advice and commenting, Mary


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Nellieanna 12 months ago from TEXAS

Hard as it is, we must trust the youth to rally & to respond, just as we did when our choices were less desireable to our elders. We so want them to choose wisely.

You're a heroine and an inspiration to many, Mary Hyatt. My best wishes for your recovery from your present setback. Hugs and love.


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bac2basics 7 months ago from Spain

Hi Mary.

It´s been a long time but better late than never. I hope you are keeping well.

I agree with everything you are saying here except for the god part as I´m not a believer, but each to their own.


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ladyguitarpicker 7 months ago from 3460NW 50 St Bell, Fl32619

Hi Mary615, you have given some real good advice. I can understand everything you have written. I hope the kids will try and figure this out. Last week, my daughter was in the store and a young man 15, ran into my daughter with a shopping cart. He cussed her out and told her to get the F out of the way. To make the long story short she ended up in the hospital with 2 bulging disk, and a broken bone.

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