Picking The Right Baby Name: You Could Scar Them For Life!

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Whatever you decide to name your new addition to the family, you must realize one major thing: THEIR NAME WILL BE WITH THEM FOR THE REST OF THEIR LIFE!!!!!! Can you honestly say that you have undertaken anything more daunting? Your decision can not only shape your kid’s future, but possibly haunt them for the rest of their life?

All the material I have read has suggested that both parents be in agreeance or it will start a huge family war. Pretty solid advice I suppose since your baby’s mother will be the one to actually write out the birth information for the hospital.

But how do you actually go about selecting a name? There doesn’t seem to be any general consensus between the multiple books I have read. You’ll want to stay away from many of the names of the kids you picked on in school, and if it’s a girl you certainly don’t want to give your child a stripper name. If you find that you feel awkward just thinking about the day your little girl is practicing for a school play and someone yells out with her name: “please come to the stage, please come to the stage you’re up next!” you should probably think twice. Whatever you do, don’t think that by spelling a common name differently or some crazy way that you will somehow make your child unique… It’s a pain in the neck for everyone else your child will eventually come in contact with, professionally, educationally and everything in between.

Some people tend to name their kids after other family members. I myself am a Jr., and am named after my father. His logic was “I had to live with this name why shouldn’t someone else?” While I suppose this can be true, I have recently been having second thoughts about naming my kid after myself. It makes family get togethers difficult, but it would be a great way to honor not only myself but my father as well. The Mrs. and I have been going back and forth on if he would be Richard the first or the third… I think the first, but naming customs state he would be the third. Who knows. Maybe we should just avoid the train wreck of an argument all together. I must admit much to my wife’s pleasure, that I can remember from an old Encyclopedia Brown novel, one of his friends was going to buy an “authentic” civil war sword that had “the first battle of bull run” engraved on it. Encyclopedia Brown broke the case wide open with the thought that there was no way the sword could be authentic because how would someone know that there was another Bull Run battle to follow…. Random thought I know. If as a young kid you didn’t read Encyclopedia Brown, check Amazon for some great young adult reading options with this character. On second thought, forget it, maybe I’ll name him Richard 3G. At least if Steve Jobs was still around I might get a free iPad out of it….

We both seem to like the four syllable first name idea, so I’m now thinking Elizabeth Grace if it’s a girl. The middle name is for my grandmother, but the first name dosn’t have a family connection or anything, just something that sounds nice. I did have a boss once named Elizabeth, and she was the most genuinely bubbly, energetic, and dedicated person I have ever met. I suppose I wouldn’t mind naming my daughter after her. I don’t hold any grudges against my former boss, and don’t mind a constant reminder of a few of the best years of my professional career.

So now that I have figured out what I think will work nicely, now I need to convince my wife. I do in fact need to get her buy in after all. Odds are i’ll just be needing to agree with her. If only we could wait to name our new addition. At least with a family pet you can figure out their personality before you name them.

Maybe if I get her a really nice push gift she’ll let me fill out the birth paperwork………


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daisydayz 4 years ago from Cardiff

Great advise. Im not having a baby anytime soon, but i still think up the occassional name. Im not a fan of older traditional names personally as I like the idea of an unusual name. Me and my sister both had unusual names for our generation although they are a little more common now. Im Chantele and my sister is Briony But thanks to my mother spelling my name with 1'l' I know the whole issue of having to constantly correct people! Our middle names are after relatives so they are pretty basic Elaine and Olivia. Personally me and my husband like Skylar, Summer, Willow and Daisy at the moment, but would be totally lost if we had a boy. Our friends just named they're little girl Naimh and another Darcy all of which are pretty!

Good luck with chosing a name!


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RichardPac 4 years ago from Sunny Florida! Author

We also thought about Skylar, and both thought it was unique but classy at the same time :)


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daisydayz 4 years ago from Cardiff

Aww thats good to know!


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KrisL 4 years ago from S. Florida

I like "Elizabeth" because it has a lot of good nicknames that you and then your daughter can choose amomg . .. Lizzy, Liz, Beth etc.


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ananceleste 4 years ago from California

Definitively, this a thing to do as a couple. In our case, my husband named our girls and I got to name our son. Their names have their own meaning and story. Now after they are teens their name suits them like a glove.


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daisydayz 4 years ago from Cardiff

My best friend is Elizabeth but we call her Biz!


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RichardPac 4 years ago from Sunny Florida! Author

I'm curious, why did you get to name your son and your husband named the girls. Seems like there must be some interesting stories behind that game plan!


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justateacher 4 years ago from Somewhere Over The Rainbow - Near Oz...

Coming up with names that fit your child (and in my case grandchild) is indeed a daunting task...I have known others that have done the "the man names the girls and the woman names the boys" and usually it was because one or the other of them had a great idea for a boy name or girl name that they really wanted while the spouse didn't really like...so a compromise was made...don't know if that is the case with anaceleste...just what I know from my friends :)


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stanleyreese 4 years ago from Alabama

After five babies, my naming days are over...at least unless I am called upon for advice on grand kids. All but one of my children have distinctive names. Maggie is the exception. But, being such a smooth and transitional name, it seems to fit with Shanna, Bryant, Granger and Laina.


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RichardPac 4 years ago from Sunny Florida! Author

It's interesting to discover what methods others use for baby names. Some people opt to name their children with similar names, have a theme (biblical, local etc,) and fir the rest of us, it seems like there is no rhyme or reason. Sometimes things just need to "fit". We're actually thinking Lucas Donnovan since we're having a boy.


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ananceleste 4 years ago from California

Actually the story behind that was very simple. At the time of my first pregnancy,he wanted to name our daughter Roxette,( small rose)and I was doubtful. When the day came,I had a heart attack and a stroke during delivery. I was in the ICU for two weeks. My mother and my husband had to take care of those details. So they named my daughter according to the color of her hair, Amber.

When I had our second daughter, she was two months premature because I went into kidney failure. She only weighted 3 pounds, so she became our little rose, Roxette.

Our son was a very planned and monitored pregnancy. The fact that we both survived the process was a miracle. My father has six daughters and four granddaughters,no boys. So,I named him Jonathan, that means gift from God. My husband was so happy that he agreed. They all love their names, and know the story behind it. Take care.


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RichardPac 4 years ago from Sunny Florida! Author

Anaceleste, thank you so much for sharing! It sound like things worked out very well for you with the naming. It's funny how no matter what the story behind the names, they always just seem to "fit".


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Styles1920 4 years ago from North Shore, Massachusetts

This is a great hub! I always thought I would name my daughter something different and distinctive, but when it was time to choose we decided on Grace Marie; incredibly traditional but perfectly suited to her!


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RichardPac 4 years ago from Sunny Florida! Author

Grace Marie has a beautiful ring to it!

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