Negative, Soul Destroying/Devouring, and Otherwise DEMONIC Moms

Motherhood is one of society's most cherished institutions. Mothers, after all, bring life in this world.They're the most important parents,even more than fathers.They're the ones who nurture children.Songs & odes are regularly made re:mothers.
Motherhood is one of society's most cherished institutions. Mothers, after all, bring life in this world.They're the most important parents,even more than fathers.They're the ones who nurture children.Songs & odes are regularly made re:mothers.
Mothers because of their societal importance are viewed as divine or near so. Churches, associations, neighborhoo&/or communities routinely honor mothers. For without mothers, there would be no humanity.
Mothers because of their societal importance are viewed as divine or near so. Churches, associations, neighborhoo&/or communities routinely honor mothers. For without mothers, there would be no humanity.
Motherhood is often seen to be THE IDEAL state for women. Many religions stated that the highest state that a woman can be is a mother. They further add that motherhood is something that all women should aspire to.
Motherhood is often seen to be THE IDEAL state for women. Many religions stated that the highest state that a woman can be is a mother. They further add that motherhood is something that all women should aspire to.
Motherhood is considered to be the MOST FEMININE state. Mothers are the epitome of femininity. As fertile women,they give forth life. Mothers were also seen as religious archetypes & worshipped throughout time.
Motherhood is considered to be the MOST FEMININE state. Mothers are the epitome of femininity. As fertile women,they give forth life. Mothers were also seen as religious archetypes & worshipped throughout time.

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Motherhood is an institution that is highly cherished in many societies. After all, mothers are the ones who are givers of precious new life. In fact, most cultures view mothers as the most important parent, even more so than the father. It is the mother who teaches the children and otherwise nurture the child physically, emotionally, mentally, and psychologically. Mothers are so important that songs and odes are made in dedication to mothers.

Mothers in American society especially are viewed and considered to be nearly divine, if not so. Many opportunities are made to honor mothers whether through churches, associations, and/or in our neighborhoods and/or communities. Motherhood and mothers are held in high regard as without mothers, there would be no humanity. Motherhood is deified in American society, in fact, in most societies. There are religions that advocate that the most important vocation a woman can be is a mother. Many further proclaim that the duty of a woman is to be a mother.

Motherhood is oftentimes viewed as the idea state of womanhood. In fact, it is believed that it is the lifestyle that all women should aspire to. Mothers are often seen as the most evolved of humankind. They are often perceived as utterly altruistic, putting their children's needs before their own. They are furthermore seen as the most loving and forgiving of people. They are known as the go to and fixer up person. They are the people that one can to go for anything and tell the darkest secrets for they will not judge. For some, mothers are God incarnates. There is a saying that since God cannot be everywhere, HE/SHE invented mothers.


Motherhood is considered to be the most feminine state. To many, there is no more feminine woman than a mother. After all, she is fertile and is able to bear children. Motherhood has been glorified as the epitome of femininity from primordial times. This is evident in the cult of the Great Mother where women as mothers were worshipped, even deified. The Blessed Virgin Mary is seen by many to be the representation of the Great Mother. Feminine symbols of fertility have always been emulated, worshipped, or deified in one way or another.

There are enlightened mothers who have the best interest of their children at heart.They feel that children should be treated & disciplined w/  respect.They know how children are treated,& disciplined can impact them for better or worse.
There are enlightened mothers who have the best interest of their children at heart.They feel that children should be treated & disciplined w/ respect.They know how children are treated,& disciplined can impact them for better or worse.
Then there are MOTHERS who think of nothing to demean & otherwise treat their children disrespectfully. They are of the school that as parents,their children are lesser.They,as parents,feel that they CAN treat their children as THEY PLEASE.
Then there are MOTHERS who think of nothing to demean & otherwise treat their children disrespectfully. They are of the school that as parents,their children are lesser.They,as parents,feel that they CAN treat their children as THEY PLEASE.
There are MOTHERS who view parenthood as power-play & upmanship. They see their children as malleable subjects to subjugate &/or subdue. They oftentimes see their children as enemies, competitors, &/or other types of threats.
There are MOTHERS who view parenthood as power-play & upmanship. They see their children as malleable subjects to subjugate &/or subdue. They oftentimes see their children as enemies, competitors, &/or other types of threats.
There are mothers who are ENVIOUS of their children for one reason or another.The latter may have opportunities that they HAVEN'T or possess qualities that they DON'T so they resort to using any method to LESSEN their children.
There are mothers who are ENVIOUS of their children for one reason or another.The latter may have opportunities that they HAVEN'T or possess qualities that they DON'T so they resort to using any method to LESSEN their children.

The Good...........and THE BAD

There are enlightened mothers who put the best interest of their children at heart physically, emotionally, mentally, psychologically, and/or socially. They believe in building up their children. They are very careful in what they say to their children. They are furthermore prudent as to how to discipline their children. They realize that words can either have a positive or negative impact on children. They know that children believe about themselves what they have been taught by parents. They contend that children should never be treated in a less than life affirming way. To them, children are God entities deserving of the utmost respectful treatment to ensure their human dignity.

Then there are mothers who believe that as parents, they have the right to speak and treat their children as lesser and inferior beings. They contend that because they are the adults in the relationship, they are superior to the child. They are of the school that what they do and/or say to their children really do not matter. They further contend that their children will not be affected by the aforementioned after all the latter are resilient. They also maintain that no matter what they do to their children, the latter will love them anyway. There are still others who feel that NO MATTER how they TREAT their children, the latter HAVE to love them regardless.

Some mothers view parenthood as a power-play.They do not view their children as individuals to encourage and nurture. They simply see their children as malleable subjects to bend to their will. There are mothers who feel as if their children are enemies and/or competitors, not just merely children. A few mothers are jealous and/or threatened by their children because they have more opportunities. They also are jealous and/or threatened by their children's personality, intelligence, and/or talents. They can be envious that their children are in better circumstances than they were as children. As a result of these components, these mothers feel quite insufficient and/or insignificant in comparison to their children so they verbally lash out, reducing the latter's level of self worth. There are mothers who do not want their children to be better than them so they will use any means and methods necessary to diminish their child emotionally and psychologically.

Some mothers AREN'T a child's best friend. In fact, they make worst enemies seem totally angelic. These mothers do not have a clue as to how implement positive reinforcement to their children. They exist at varying levels of negativity.
Some mothers AREN'T a child's best friend. In fact, they make worst enemies seem totally angelic. These mothers do not have a clue as to how implement positive reinforcement to their children. They exist at varying levels of negativity.
To some mothers,employing harsh verbal discipline or saying harsh words is essential parenting.They feel that harsh words are part of reality. They maintain that from harsh words, maybe their children will learn a valuable lesson.
To some mothers,employing harsh verbal discipline or saying harsh words is essential parenting.They feel that harsh words are part of reality. They maintain that from harsh words, maybe their children will learn a valuable lesson.
There are mothers to whom NOTHING is BEST,even good enough.They tell their children they're wrong more than right.They feel it's their job to make their children PERFECT,even bybelitting,personal attacks,& other destructive forms of reinforcement.
There are mothers to whom NOTHING is BEST,even good enough.They tell their children they're wrong more than right.They feel it's their job to make their children PERFECT,even bybelitting,personal attacks,& other destructive forms of reinforcement.
Soul destroying mothers are negativity magnified.They constantly tell their children what they CAN'T do.They're true negaholics. They think of nothing of using destructive words to destroy what little self-esteem, &initiative their children have.
Soul destroying mothers are negativity magnified.They constantly tell their children what they CAN'T do.They're true negaholics. They think of nothing of using destructive words to destroy what little self-esteem, &initiative their children have.
There are mothers who are completely soul devouring. It is their intention to destroy the remaining vestiges of their children's humanity & personhood.It isn't unusual for such mothers to demoralize the latter to make them as if they're NOTHING.
There are mothers who are completely soul devouring. It is their intention to destroy the remaining vestiges of their children's humanity & personhood.It isn't unusual for such mothers to demoralize the latter to make them as if they're NOTHING.

Mothers from...........H-E-L-L

Some mothers are definitely not a child's best friend. One can aptly say that there are mothers who make one's worst enemy seem saintlike. There are mothers who are clearly non-nurturing mothers. They habitually play havoc on their children emotional, mental, psychic, and/or psychological health. They think nothing of doing things that negatively impact on their children. They possess little or no inkling as to how to be a positive mother. That is neither in their purview of consciousness nor in their vocabulary. It is much easier for them to exist in varying levels of negativity.

To these mothers, it is nothing to utter a harsh word or say mean and/or hurtful things to children. They maintain that what they say to their children as just par for the course of being a parent. They further insist that using harsh words are no big deal. They assert that using harsh words is part of being in the real world. They explain that people are not going to be mild in their speak, they are going to be quite blunt. Some will even go as far to state that being considerate of a child's feelings is analogous to mollycoddling, spoiling, and/or otherwise infantilizing them. After all, they aver that children are mentally and emotionally tougher than credited. They feel that using harsh words will teach their children associative lessons as what is permitted/acceptable and what is prohibited/unacceptable.

There are mothers to whom nothing is even good enough. Such mothers never see what is positive in their children, only what is negative. These are the mothers who believe that children should never be praised for positive acts as they are expected. They believe that by their often harsh and destructive reinforcement, their children will learn and improve, hopefully never to repeat the mistake. They also believe that some belittling and other forms of personal attacks will be more of a positive reinforcement to the child than more constructive and positive reinforcement. They are of the school that vinegar is a much better medicine than honey.

There are mothers who can be described as soul destroying. These mothers can wreath psychic havoc on their children. They are negaholics. They love to spew negativity and/or other forms of venomous and vituperative attacks on their children. Whatever their children aspire, wish, and/or desire to do, they are routinely told that they CAN'T for whatever reason the mother deems logical. This is the mother who will psychically destroy her child/children in one form or another. This mother is really dangerous to her children both emotionally, mentally, psychically, and/or psychologically. Anything that this child does positively is routinely diminished to the lowest common denominator of utter and/or abject negativity. This is the mother who will prevent, even destroy any chances of success and/or positivity in her child's/children's lives.

There are mothers who are completely soul devouring. It is nothing for such mother to denigrate and demoralize their children to making the latter think that they are personae non gratae or less. These mothers are not happy and/or unsuccessful in their lives and apparently, they do not wish for their children to be so either. They want their children to be as miserable and discontented as they are. If their children show any type of promise or potential, they would routinely employ psychic verbal abuse or other forms of verbal harassment of the darkest, most demonic kind. No type of verbal abuse or other forms of verbal haranguement is too harsh, brutal, and/or destructive to the fragile self-esteem of their children. They want to demoralize their children so much as to remove every vestige of their basic humanity, reducing them to non-persons.

What these negative mothers fail to realize that words CAN & DO hurt their children emotionally, mentally, psychically, & psychologically. Children do become what THEY are told, especially by their mothers.
What these negative mothers fail to realize that words CAN & DO hurt their children emotionally, mentally, psychically, & psychologically. Children do become what THEY are told, especially by their mothers.

Conclusion

There are mothers who do not believe in positive reinforcement. To put it more succinctly, these mothers believe in negative, even destructive reinforcement. They are of the school that they can speak to their children any way they deem possible, even if such speech is devoid of encouragement, kindness, and/or respect. Some of these mothers believe that it is totally unnecessary to afford their children consideration in terms of speech and/or other verbal interaction. They believe that whatever way they speak to their children, it will not negatively impact on them.

What these mothers fail to realize that words and speech can hurt their children emotionally, mentally, psychically, and psychologically. Negative words can be just as abusive as a slap. Saying negative words to children can destroy what vestiges of positive self-image they have. The purpose of motherhood is to encourage and offer constructive reinforcement. Children live and become what they are told by their parents, especially their mothers.

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HattieMattieMae 3 years ago from Limburg, Netherlands

While I agree with what you are saying you're article, I would say there is no point in saying they are demonic. They are usually mothers that have been harmed by their mothers, and other people. It would be better like Louise Hays states, send love to the child in those mothers, and hug them. Forgive them, and send unconditional love to them. They were not safe as children, and abused themselves. There is no reason to blame it on demonic forces, or evil intentions. It is the human condition that was passed on generation to generation. We can not solve problems, by sending more hatred there way. Love is what heals, and you talk about positive mothers. If they had someone in their lives that gave them the same love, perhaps they would feel love, that it is a safe place, and not the abusive world they believe it is. Your words have just as much power in your article to be harmful or harmless. Being one of these children, I do not aim hatred, anger, and more pain. These mothers are already in enough pain and suffering.


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gmwilliams 3 years ago from the Greatest City In The World-New York City, New York Author

I meant demonic in a psychic, negative sense. Yes, I realize that some of these mothers were abused themselves; however, others were not. I appreciate your eloquent response and greatly thank you for stopping by. It is greatly appreciated in kind.


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HattieMattieMae 3 years ago from Limburg, Netherlands

psychic vampirism you mean. Draining the life right out of you. Yes it is emotional, psychologically damaging. Most need to learn to set up spiritual, emotional, and psychological boundaries to get away from this situation. Most of these mothers are not aware consciously of what they're doing.


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citywolf 3 years ago from Oregon

I think that the author was using demonic in a hyperbolic sense. There are no perfect mothers, I myself have a caring, nurturing, nagging, overprotective mother that I love very much. I have seen the other side of the coin and it is not pretty. A very dear friend of mine has no immediate family because her mother is detached, self-absorbed, negative and disinterested in her life's achievements. Her father is also selfish, narcissistic and neglectful. I am her closest family, it's a shame because she is beautiful, expressive, smart and talented; all of the attributes a good parent could wish for. It's too bad that often children with a mother as you describe often don't have a good father either, thus putting more pressure on one bad parent and making their performance even worse! Also, I must say this although, I am now on a different tangent. I cannot abide parents who never criticize or yell at their kids!! These parents are a menace to society. Children need to disciplined and taught serious lessons throughout childhood to keep them safe and prepare them for life with all of it's hardships. Kids need to learn to be smart and tough for what lies ahead. If parents can't manage that, then they should not have children.


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gmwilliams 3 years ago from the Greatest City In The World-New York City, New York Author

Yes, I believe that parents do have to apply discipline and corrective measures; however, those measures must be constructive & encouraging, not negative & destructive. Citywolf, thank you for stopping by and for your response. It is appreciated.


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CraftytotheCore 2 years ago

GM, you were speaking clearly to me here my friend! I've stated openly before I have a mother from you nowhere.

It took me almost a lifetime to understand that she does not love me, and I had to accept that. I'm fine with it now because forgiving her healed my pain. But the turmoil she put me through my entire life and still tries to indulge herself with is pathetic.

I've come to the conclusion that my mother suffers from one or more personality disorders. Histrionic, narcissistic, I don't know. I've had other relatives vouch for this and tell me they believe that as well.

The worst part is that she won't stop. It's like an abusive ex that keeps coming around. She refuses to accept responsibility for her part in abusing me when I was a child, or trying to sabotage my life now that I'm older. There is no stopping this woman. She has done everything in her power to hurt me emotionally, physically, verbally and mentally since I was born.

A few years ago she told me she was sorry I was ever born because I ruined her life.

She has never accepted responsibility for the act in which creates a child. Instead, she blames me for being born.

And what you say in here is true. She has never been proud of anything I've accomplished. Total strangers have praised achievements that I've conquered while my mother can't bring herself to saying good job.

Fortunately, I'm nothing like her. I would never treat a total stranger with the horrific treatment my mother has shown me.


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gmwilliams 2 years ago from the Greatest City In The World-New York City, New York Author

Thank you for stopping by and responding. What you have written is sad, no child should have to endure this.


happytobetheonly 2 years ago

When I read your article, I thought you must have had my mother in mind. When you mentioned the 'soul-devouring' mother, it confirmed that you were writing about my mom!

What I can't bear is the way society ( all societies all over the world) revere motherhood and treat mothers as almost divine beings. What is so great and glorious about carrying a foetus to term and then pushing it out? Every animal can do it! 'Motherhood' comes not from popping out a baby, but from raising the child lovingly and well. Like everyone else, mothers should work to EARN respect and love. They should not be given them as a right, yet that is what society mandates! Anyone who speaks ill of their mother is seen as evil, deviant and almost psychopathic. However bad your mother is, you are expected to worship the ground she walks on. Every year, I nearly choke with rage at the hype surrounding Mother's Day. That is a time when everyone is expected to pay obeisance to their mothers, no matter whether they like their mother or not. Compare the sound bytes and hoopla to the resounding silence for Father's Day. Why are fathers considered so much inferior to mothers? Are they not a parent too? Did they not 'give life' to their child by contributing their genetic material? Just because a father does not carry around a foetus for nine months, for the duration of his entire life, the father is regarded as a second-rate parent, compared to the mother. Why don't the fathers of the world stand up and demand equality? We have achieved equality between the sexes, between races, between disabled and non-disabled people, between gay and straight people and so on. So, why is it considered okay to discriminate against fathers? Why is it still acceptable to treat fathers as 'lesser' parents and inferior as compared to mothers?

Speaking for myself, my father is both father and mother to me. He did not carry me in a uterus, but he has carried me in his heart for WAY more than a mere nine months; and he will continue to do so till the day he passes from his world. He has been the 'primary'parent for me for most of my life. On his behalf, and for other dedicated and great fathers like him, I feel outraged at the treatment meted out to them, and I hope the world will see the error of its ways some day.


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peachpurple 2 years ago from Home Sweet Home

yes, harsh words is essential sometimes. For example; I told my son that he can play online games for an hour and then he must stop, go for a bath and do his homework. He refused to budge, keep saying cannot stop. He had sore eyes and made his dad mad. I got scolded. So, I had to use stern harsh words to stop him.

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