Grandmas? Do girls think they'll be Grandmas when they grow up?

Grandma!
Grandma! | Source

Little Girls

What little girl doesn't love dolls? What little girl doesn't love babies? Are girls born to be Grandmas or do they grow up to become Grandmas? They are born to be many things but are they born to be Grandmas? In many cases "Grandmahood" is unavoidable, it comes with the territory if you have children. There are different Grandma names, like GG, Nana, Gramma, Mamaw, Gram...no matter the name its still Grandma.

Are little girls are born to be mothers? Put a boy toddler and a girl toddler in a room full of toys and let them choose their own. The girls will go for the dolls and kitchen stuff while the boys head straight for the cars and trucks. Of course this doesn't happen 100% of the time. As a little girl I preferred a gun and holster over a doll and I know boys who prefer kitchen stuff over trucks, but generally they seem to pick the toys we think they will. Nature?

Grandma at Halloween!
Grandma at Halloween! | Source
Nona (Grandma)
Nona (Grandma) | Source

Little Girls Growing Up

Little girls love their dolls. They carry them by the neck or hair everywhere they go. They throw them into carriages and sometimes carry them by one foot but they also cuddle them and feed and burp them doing what they see Mommy do. It seems girls are trained to be mothers from birth without any actual training, could it be in their genes? When little girls become teenagers they often find they are in need of funds and turn to babysitting. I believe babysitting is boot camp for motherhood and babysitting adventures stay with you throughout your life. You get to watch other people’s children and find out what these children are really like when their parents are not at home. Everyone knows children will test a babysitter’s patience in every way humanly possible just to see how much they can get away with. All you have to do is read the Dennis the Menace comic strip to find out what one child can do to a babysitter! In spite of it all, it is a learning experience.

Girls soon grow out of babysitting and start more seriously dating boys. This period of trial and error leads them to the man of their dreams, hopefully. The wedding planning is another trial but this time it is a trail of the family bonds, most noticeably the parents of the bride and the bride. Wedding planning can try the nerves of even people with nerves of steel. All brides are beautiful and while not all weddings go off without a hitch, the weddings are beautiful too. Having come this far it often happens that shortly after the honeymoon an announcement is made that a baby is on the way. This is not always the course these events follow, but for the sake of argument we will keep it that way in this article.

Now comes the Grandma part. When you had your first baby you held the little stranger and your heart nearly burst. Instantly this strange, funny looking baby was the most important person in your life. Whether you had one or six, each one generated the same reaction of awe and never ending love. While they were growing up you had your moments of doubt as to their purpose, was it to torment you or bring you joy? However, you both survived childhood and the pre-teen and teen years. You may have some scars but they only better prepare you for what is to come. When they got married, no one was good enough and you were afraid of being the dreaded mother-in-law, but once mention is made of an impending grandchild all of that disappears. Your son or daughter-in-law is now your son or daughter and your baby is having a baby!

There is no Grandma training. You worry, can I love this little baby like I did my own? Will it love me? Not to worry, love appears when the baby does. This baby becomes the most beautiful, wonderful baby you’ve ever seen. You love it beyond understanding right from the start and the best is yet to come. It doesn’t matter if you have one or ten, each grandchild causes the same reaction. You carry enough pictures of this baby to weigh down a small boat.

Oops, that's Grandpa waiting his turn, not Grandma!
Oops, that's Grandpa waiting his turn, not Grandma! | Source

Benefits to being a Grandma

This marvelous little baby doesn’t live with you. You can visit it and cuddle it and when it gets cranky or tired you return it. You don’t have to stay up all night for teething or gas. You only have minimal diaper changes when the baby comes to visit and no laundry or bottles to wash. This isn’t so bad at all. Then the baby starts to grow and notice its surroundings it starts to recognize you and smiles when it sees you. This is wonderful, you are a special person to this little dynamo. Then the miraculous day comes when the baby says “Bamma” (which is baby talk for Grandma.) Now the fun begins. You can play with the baby and teach it really cool things. You can buy the baby anything you want, and it all goes home with the baby! Soon Bamma turns to Grandma. Now we’re cooking. The baby knows Grandma has a soft spot. You can spoil the baby and just tell your children, this is what Grandma’s do. This precious little baby looks like your side of the family, at least you think so. This baby is the smartest baby and you get to brag about your grandchild! Whether the baby lives down the street or across the country, you carry those precious grandchild pictures and show them to everyone and anyone whether they’re interested or not. After all, this is your grandchild. If you’re lucky you form a close bond with your grandchild. You bore your friends and anyone else who will look with picture after picture. As your grandchild grows you spend more time with your grandchild. You’re not the old gray haired grandma of long ago, but a younger more vibrant grandma. You take your grandchild for walks and to the zoo. You get to babysit and it’s not boot camp anymore. When your grandchild stops being a baby and starts to be a child, you can ride bikes with your grandchild and maybe even roller skate. And yet, when your grandchild misbehaves, just say, Mommy wouldn’t like that. You don’t want to be the bad guy.You can defend their bad behavior too, just say to your adult child, "I remember when you were this age, you did such and such."

There's No One Quite Like Grandma

You need to start paying attention to the new games and technology gadgets so your grandchild will think you’re hip and you're Grandma! You need to know what’s playing in the movies and what’s in and what’s not. You need to always tell your grandchild how wonderful their parents are and that their parents are always right, even when you don't agree with their decisions. You need to be part mother and part Grandmother to your wonderful grandchild always remembering this is your grandchild, not your child. Your child is now the parent, sometimes a hard pill to swallow but one that will lead to harmony between you and your adult child. Look in the mirror - yes, that is you, not only grown up but a Grandma!

Grandma (me) with my grandchildren a few years back.
Grandma (me) with my grandchildren a few years back. | Source

Do girls grow up to be Grandmas?

So how did this happen? How did you become a Grandma? It is the natural course of events when you have a daughter, or a son, who has children. Do all girls grow up to be Grandmas? Of course not, nothing is absolute. I would imagine research of some kind would show the majority of girls do grow up to be Grandmas, with or without training. The nice thing about it is it comes naturally and it is something you will enjoy for the rest of your life! So, do girls grow up to be Grandmas? Most of the time the answer is yes!

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Read More About Grandmothers

A tribute to grandmothers and grandmother hubbers by Lord De Cross's, "Grandmothers that are Like Mothers, What would We do Without Them?

A lovely poem by Mary615, "A Gradnmother's Endless Love: A Narrative Poem"

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Comments 15 comments

jami l. pereira 5 years ago

I wont ever be a grandma , and i never had any grandmas that i remember , i hope everyone will get to experience them one day . I know that is a part of my life that i miss and wish that i had , thanks for this lovely read ! I voted up ,awesome, and interesting and ..i am also a new follower . Have a blessed day all day!:)


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Cousin Fudd 5 years ago from From the Blue Ridge Mountains of Western North Carolina

Grandma's are so cool. I remember mine and how smart they were. My wife is a great grandmother and I agree it is only natural.


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tillsontitan 5 years ago from New York Author

I am so sorry Jami that you never got to experience a Grandma. There's just something so warm and loving about a Grandma. I think, from reading your comment you are that warm and loving person. I wish you the very best. Thanks for the good votes and follow!


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tillsontitan 5 years ago from New York Author

Cousin Fudd, I agree, I think Grandma's are the best! We seem to have that instinct and it comes alive the minute the first grandchild is born!


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ChrisIndellicati 5 years ago from New York, NY

I miss my Grandma she was awesome and she always knew the right things to say, great hub voted up beautiful and interesting :)


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tillsontitan 5 years ago from New York Author

I agree, mine was too. Glad you liked my hub.


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Trish_M 4 years ago from The English Midlands

Hi :)

Yes, I think that most little girls grow up knowing, almost instinctively, that motherhood is likely to be their destiny ~ and grandmahood surely follows.

Sadly, for some, it isn't meant to be, even if it is their heart's desire.

And sadly for some children, it is the 'carrying them by the neck or hair or by one foot' that the mothers seems to remember, better than the caring and cuddling.


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tillsontitan 4 years ago from New York Author

So true Trish. I know not everyone is blessed with children some by choice, some by circumstance. Yes, it is terribly sad for those that don't have good memories of their mothers.


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Trish_M 4 years ago from The English Midlands

Thankfully, I am one of the lucky ones ~ caring parents and grandparents & great kids! :)


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tillsontitan 4 years ago from New York Author

Ditto Trish, me too!


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida

Beautiful Hub with beautiful photos! I only have one photo of my maternal grandmother. She was a beautiful lady who let me brush her long, long hair. She died when I was very young so I didn't have the benefit of her influence.

Thanks for linking my poem about a Grandma's Endless Love.

I voted this Hub UP and will share, too.


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moonlake 4 years ago from America

Enjoyed your hub. I love being a grandma and just couldn't wait to become one. I loved all the chatter and even yelling in the house. Little feet running and happy. Voted uP! Shared.


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tillsontitan 4 years ago from New York Author

Thank you Mary. I was very fortunate and had both of my grandmothers into my twenties. Both outstanding ladies. I was only too happy to link to your poem.

Moonlake the best part about being a grandma is we get all the benefits without any of the dirty work ;)


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Au fait 20 months ago from North Texas

I liked playing with toy cars, blocks, tinker toys, etc., and building materials. I used to make doll furniture out of peach crates and use up all my father's nails. I wasn't crazy about dolls, especially baby dolls. As the youngest, there weren't any babies in our house much or in my life much until my sibs started getting married.

I want my daughter to live her life as she wants to. If she chooses marriage and a family that's fine with me and if she doesn't, that's fine too. No pressure from me to have a family or make me into a grandmother.

I think most little girls gravitate to dolls and babies, etc., because that is the way they are steered. They want to be like Mommy and do the things Mommy is doing and that is usually cooking and cleaning and maybe taking care of a younger sibling. Mom may work outside the home, but little girls rarely see that part of Mom's life so they don't think about modeling it so much.

Most people choose traditional gifts for little girls and boys and children quickly pick up on the what is considered appropriate for girls and boys and so it is a vicious circle. We provided all kinds of toys for our daughter as she was growing up, some that were traditionally considered for girls, some that were thought best for boys. She really enjoyed giving her Barbie a ride in the bucket of her Tonka front end loader. :)

A very good article to encourage thought and exactly what one really does want for their children/daughters. What I want if for my daughter to be happy in her life and live it her own way even if that turns out not to be my way. Voted up and BAUI, pinned to Awesome HubPages.


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tillsontitan 20 months ago from New York Author

I totally agree Au Fait. We love our children, help them grow, and hope they make the right decisions. Not everyone is cut out for motherhood...or marriage. All we want for them is to be responsible, happy adults. It has to be their way, not our way, it's their life.

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