Parenting Advice, How to Raise Disrespectul Children. Guaranteed ways to ruin your child's life and sabotage his future.
I decided to write this hub on parenting advice for two reasons: I had an incident at school with a student whose parents handled their job and responsibilities extremely poorly (you can read about it by clicking on this link) and after watching the HBO documentary Homeless: The Motel Kids of Orange County.
The documentary is about children who live in a motel across from Disney World because their parents can't afford to live anywhere else. What disturbed me most was the case of a six year old girl named Rudee whose parents basically don't parent. The child wanders the property, alone, at all hours of the night and day. My heart broke for her because she needs someone looking out for her; she needs the guidance and protection that her parents are supposed to provide but don't.
This hub is my attempt to shed some light on parents acting badly. Hopefully someone who needs to will read this, change their behavior, and rescue the future of their child.
Don't Give Your Child Boundries
If you want your child to grow up to be disrespetful and ruin their life then don't give them rules and boundries. Let them choose where they go, what they do, and who they align themselves with. If your 6 year old wants to run the streets at all hours of the night by all means allow her to do so. She will meet some very interesting people who will gladly teach her the life lessons that you don't feel the need to. On the street your child will learn lessons like:
- It's perfectly ok to go with a stranger as long as they give you candy.
- There is no such thing as a bad touch.
- You're never too young to start smoking, doing drugs, or drinking.
- Guns and matches are FUN!
- and most importantly F*** the Police!
Model Bad Behavior
You are your child's greatest teacher so if you want them to grow up to be disrespectful model bad behavior. Allow you child to see you acting inappropriately in public by cursing people out, flipping people the bird, and yelling at them. Let them witness you "keeping it real" by airing your dirty laundry in public and causing a scene. Your child will immediately internalize your actions and strive to make you proud by emulating your behavior.
Emulating your bad behavior will open up a some pretty special doors to your child: strip clubs, jail, the unemployment line, and the hospital when someone punches them in the mouth for cursing at them.
Teach Them To Blame Others
Why should your child be accountable for his actions when there is a perfectly good person he can blame for causing him to act the way he did? It's not juniors fault he stole the car-it's the fault of the person who left the keys in it. It's not Minime's fault she cursed her teacher out after all the teacher provoked her by asking her to complete her classwork.
By teaching your child to blame others you reinforce the concept that they are accountable for nothing and to noone, therefore they can do and say whatever they choose to without fear of repercussions. Jails around the country are filled with men and women who were taught this valuable lesson when they were young, and if jail is good enough for those people it's good enough for your child. They'll receive free medical care, free clothing, free food, and free lodging-what a deal.
Encourage Bad Behavior
If you really want to sabotage your child's future you MUST encourge their bad behavior. Reinforce their desire to use bad language by video taping them and laughing every time they sputter a curse word. Your child will learn that If their behavior makes you laugh other people will admire their ability to utter a string of curse words too. Be sure to encourage their bad behavior in public, at family gatherings, and at social events. Make sure that if someone tells your child that their behavior isn't acceptable you speedily put that person in check and inform them that YOU are raising your child to be a menace to society and they need to "stay out you bizness".
Overindulge Your Child
Overindulging your child will not only teach him to be disrespectful to you but also to those people around you. Start him off on the right foot by giving him everything he wants when he is young-heck give him two of everything one to keep at home and one to carry around. Make sure that she has the most up to date toys, clothing, and electronic devices without requiring anything of her. When you are in public and your child throws a tantrum by all means give her a toy or treat-never discipline her and show her the proper way to act. This will ensure that by the time she is a teenager or young adult she will have the mindset that her happiness is all that matters no matter the cost to those around her.
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