Parents Who Have Megafamilies Are Putting Their Children At A Severe Disadvantage

PARENTS GONE TOTALLY AMOK.......THEY JUST DON'T CARE ..................

There are people who continuously have children, being unconcerned of the ramifications, socioeconomic, psychological, and/or emotional it has on THE OTHER children of the family.These parents are in love with the idea of having children.
There are people who continuously have children, being unconcerned of the ramifications, socioeconomic, psychological, and/or emotional it has on THE OTHER children of the family.These parents are in love with the idea of having children.

VERY LITTLE MONEY, EVEN FOR THE NECESSITIES

In megafamilies, money is stretched to the limit.Parents find it extremely difficult to adequately provide for their children.Such children have no health/medical care and oftentimes have poor nutrition.Some depend upon outside help to keep afloat.
In megafamilies, money is stretched to the limit.Parents find it extremely difficult to adequately provide for their children.Such children have no health/medical care and oftentimes have poor nutrition.Some depend upon outside help to keep afloat.

HIGHER INCIDENCE OF NEGLECT IN MEGAFAMILIES

In megafamilies, parents CANNOT give all their children the INDIVIDUALIZED attention they need.It is commonplace that some children are going to be left to their own devices while other children will receive parental attention.
In megafamilies, parents CANNOT give all their children the INDIVIDUALIZED attention they need.It is commonplace that some children are going to be left to their own devices while other children will receive parental attention.

SUFFER THE POOR, POOR CHILDREN-SUFFER INDEED!

Despite the authenticated studies of psychologists, social scientists, and sociologists stating that there are myriad disadvantages of large families from being socioeconomically disadvantaged to having low academic achievement, there are parents who insist on having megafamilies. These parents want a large number of children because it is their dream to do so regardless of the negative ramifications on their children. These parents usually do not economically plan for their children's futures economically, educationally, and culturally.

What is in the minds of such parents you may wonder? Apparently, something must be seriously amiss with them. These parents adamantly believe in having child after child without giving much thought as to the ramifications to their particular family dynamic. They purport to "love" children when in reality they do not. They, in all actuality, view their children as mere appendages, not individualized human beings.

There are countless stories of parents who have megafamilies that do not have the monies to provide for their children's rudimentary needs such as food, clothing, and shelter. They often shop at thrift and second hand stores, purchasing inferior clothing and nonnutritious food. Studies substantiate that children in megafamilies often do not eat proper, healthy, and nutritious food because such foods are often pricey. Many children in megafamilies have to settle for scraps and oftentimes depend upon outside donations to stay afloat. Parents who elect to produce megafamilies appear to be unconcerned with the physical welfare of their children.

Children in megafamilies often do not have medical and/or dental care as their parents do ot have the socioeconomic means to afford such care for their children. As a result, children in megafamilies are oftentimes unhealthier and have poorer dental hygiene than children from small families. Parents of megafamilies fail to realize that children need the proper care in terms of nutrition, clothing, and medical care. All they are concerned about is just producing children en masse.

It is quite obvious that parents who have megafamilies are neither nurturing nor plan regarding the outcome of their prolific breeding. This is apparent in that children in megafamilies have higher poverty rates than children in small families. They often live at the bare socioeconomic survival level. This causes them to develop an extreme poverty consciousness.

There are hardly any megafamilies that could aptly be classified as socioeconomically affluent and/or wealthy. Affluent and/or wealthy people tend to be highly educated and highly educated people are more likely to have small families because of its myriad benefits to the family unit. The typical large family can be described as being socioeconomically poor to impoverished.

Even though the socioeconomic situation of parents of megafamilies can be classified as perilous and tight, they nevertheless insist on having more children than they can reasonably provide for. Such parents are in love with the fantasy of having lots of children without considering the actual reality of raising them. To reasonable, logical and intelligent people, one to two children are all they can raise providing both the basic and luxurious things in life.

Parents who have small families are extremely concerned with their children educationally, socioeconomically, and culturally. They realize that it takes a substantial amount of money to raise children properly. They tend to favor a qualitative approach to life whereas parents of megafamilies are only concerned with mass reproduction without being concerned with its aftereffects.

It is simply near to impossible for parents to effectively raise megafamilies. In such a family environment, one or more children are often overlooked and neglected. It is usually the oldest and/or older children who are neglected and/or overlooked while the youngest and/or younger children are doted upon. In the megafamily environment, children are never given the individualized parental attention they need as it is impossible for parents to do so. Children in megafamilies seldom, if ever, interact with their parents but with each other. It is a truism that children in megafamilies raise themselves as their parents are either unavailable, distant and/or absent.

Parents in megafamilies just let events occur in terms of having children. As a result of not planning for their children, the familial environment is extremely chaotic and haphazard. Megafamilies often live from hand to mouth, merely subsisting instead of living. Such parents are in love with the theoretical aspect of having child after child for its own sake.

Having children involves more than a physical act. There are educational, intellectual, and psychosociological aspects to raising children beyond the rudimentary level. Parents who have megafamilies fail to acknowledge this and as a consequence, their children......SUFFER!

Although parents of megafamilies are blind to this fact, their children are definitely not! Many children of megafamilies voice how unhappy and deprived they were growing up in such an environment. Chris Rock, actor/comedian, reported that he often had to eat sugar sandwiches because there was so little food in the house. Mark Wahlberg, actor/producer/businessperson, indicated that he had very little growing up and often had to sleep 4 to a bed. The late Charles Bronson, actor, asserted that as a child, he wore one of his sibling's shoes and one of his sister's clothes to school because his parents could ill afford to provide adequate clothing.

The average child in a megafamily report that there was not enough food and clothing, adding that they often wear secondhand, unfashionable clothing which made them the odd person out among their peers. The typical parent of megafamilies have a low standard of living and cannot conceive of a more affluent way of living and impart this philosophy to their children. The culture of poverty and poverty consciousness is a de rigueur fact of life among megafamilies.

Parents of megafamilies just provide their children with the mere rudiments of food, clothing, and shelter, if that. They usually cannot and/or do not provide their children beyond the rudimentary level. It is the parents' belief that if their children want more, they should work for it or simply do without because luxuries are not important. They believe that money is not important and quite inconsequential.

Parents of megafamilies view their children as part of the group. The child's individual needs and wants are unimportant to such parents. Individuality is usually derided in the megafamily system as a sign of selfishness. In this family construct, the needs of the whole override the needs of the individual. In the megafamily, either one is a member of the group construct or he/she is a total nonentity.

To summarize, parents who have megafamilies are not concerned as to how their prolific reproductive habits negatively impact on their family structure. Parents of megafamilies are often struggling, poor to impoverished. Megafamilies often do not have the money for necessities, let alone luxuries. Children in megafamilies live at the mere, basic survival level. Any level beyond the basic rudimentary level is a total anathema to them.

Children in the megafamily system develop a poverty consciousness mentality as a result of constantly having to live at a subsistent level. They grow up to believe in only purchasing the cheapest articles available whether it is food, clothing, and/or shelter. Children in megafamilies are not cherished by their parents who view them only as part of a group instead of as individual with different wants and desires.

While parents of megafamilies claim that they love children, such is not the case. They are only in love with the theory of having, not the reality of having lots of children. Oftentimes, they are so overwhelmed by the number of children they have that they assign the raising of their children to their oldest and/or older children, depriving them of their childhoods.

Parents of megafamilies do not know the deleterious effects of their lifestyle on their children. The average child resent being in a megafamily structure where they live substandardly without the proper food, clothing, dental, and medical care. Parents who have megafamilies have something truly amiss. They indeed have a huge void in their lives which would be better served by having outside hobbies and interests. For those who want lots of children in their lives, why not volunteer to help countless needy children instead!

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Nan Mynatt 5 years ago

Good hub, I think that they wanted to get on public aid. No it isn't fair to the kids. I think that in most cities there is more help for clothes and shoes. There is the Salvation Army, Goodwill and others, in my city the Catholic Charities give clothes away free. I marked you up.


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gmwilliams 5 years ago from the Greatest City In The World-New York City, New York Author

To Nan Mynatt: Thank you very much. I believe that children in megafamilies are at a severe disadvantage for the abovementioned. I staunchly believe in family planning so that children have a high quality of life.


Johnthebaptist1 4 years ago

you just described my upbringing perfectly. Everything was the cheapest possible crap. We collected pop bottles thrown out along the roadside to turn in for 3 cents each. I remember being so embarrassed to wear kmart sneakers with the big "k " on the back. I think they cost 2 or 3$ a pair. Big surprise I turned into such a delinquent. I used to feel somewhat guilty about that stage of my life but reading your stuff kind of opened my eyes to the fact that my parents played a big role in that.


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gmwilliams 4 years ago from the Greatest City In The World-New York City, New York Author

Children of large to very large families have little or no amenities. The clothes they wear are either castoffs and/or on sale. I read this on blogs on the subject. My mother indicated that the ONLY clothes she and her siblings received were from DONATIONS. Children from large to very large families have no medical care, eat processed and/or inferior foods, and have OUTSIDE assistance. This is true. Again John, at least you are responding truthfully and are not in denial like many commenters from large families. You should write a hub on your experience to educate those about the EVILS of large to very large families. You can do it better than I can EVER do!


chloelozano 4 years ago

I commend you for your bravery in writing this Hub. You spoke the truth knowing the feedback by some may not be positive and that's part of what makes a a good writer.

My husband and I have two children, both planned, and we can afford to provide for them. Right now we have the ability to feed our kids healthy food, clothe them nicely, and we own our own home in which each child has their own room. Our children receive appropriate medical and dental care and are very healthy. My son has some developmental delays due to birth trauma and we are able to get him he help he needs as well as give him the one-on-one attention he needs. We are also able to pay for extras for our kids like swim lessons, gymnastics, soccer, t-ball, etc...

My youngest daughter is going to be four years old soon and we have discussed the possibility of having another child at length. In the end we decided to stop at two. We have our boy and our girl and we can give them a good life right now. The simple fact is we could not be able to provide them with the quality of life the have now if we threw another child into the mix, especially given my son has special needs. I love babies. I love the way they smell, I love holding them, and I love the cuteness... But I love the kids I already have more and to have another baby right now would just be selfish.


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gmwilliams 4 years ago from the Greatest City In The World-New York City, New York Author

Thank you for your comments! As the late Frank Sinatra says, "That's life!"


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JoanCA 3 years ago

I come from a large family and this is very true. We did largely raise ourselves and our parents couldn't afford to invest in us. My mother was too tired from all the cooking, cleaning and laundry to really spend any time with us. I also never did activities. I always wanted to learn to play a musical instrument but that was out of the question for financial reasons. My daughter loves music and is learning to play four instruments. Having a smaller family means having both the time and money to allow kids to do things they're passionate about.


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gmwilliams 3 years ago from the Greatest City In The World-New York City, New York Author

AMEN to that, SMALL FAMILIES DO LIVE BETTER and ARE INDEED BETTER THAN LARGE FAMILIES. Children from megafamilies cannot afford to indulge in activities that are normal for children from small families. They also cannot afford to educate themselves. Parents who have megafamilies are indeed selfish, thinking about THEIR NEEDS and DESIRES instead of thinknig about the children. Thank you joanCA for your intelligent input.


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Jennifer Mugrage 22 months ago from Columbus, Ohio

Wow.

You clearly have really strong feelings on this, GMWilliams.

You don't define "megafamily." Is is three or more children? Five or more? Or does it have to be fifteen or twenty?

I was the oldest of six children. We were not "left to our own devices." We interacted with both parents, every day, like a normal family.

Although my folks are extremely frugal, our clothes were not so old or unfashionable that we got made fun of. Our food was nutritious. We went to the doctor, the dentist, etc. We got a decent public school education, plus we had tons of books around the home. All of us took music lessons of some kind at one point or another.

No, we didn't have schedules packed with dance, gymnastics, art, and language classes. But we survived. Our parents didn't put us through college. They helped with some expenses ... but we got scholarships, summer jobs, went to affordable schools. All of us are functional adults.

We didn't wear name-brand fashions, go to Harvard, or become high-powered execs (OK, one of us did). But neither were we sitting around naked in a freezing trailer, eating potato chips. We just had a regular upbringing as normal human beings.


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gmwilliams 22 months ago from the Greatest City In The World-New York City, New York Author

A megafamily is a large family (6 or more children per family), or more specifically, a family of 8 children or more. Three to four children is a medium sized family.


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gmwilliams 22 months ago from the Greatest City In The World-New York City, New York Author

In a way, you have aptly confirmed this article. You were one of six children and you and your siblings were partially left to your own devices. An overwhelming majority of children in large/very large families are left to their own devices either socioeconomically, emotionally, and/or psychologically. Their parents simply do not have the financial, emotional, and/or psychological resources to raise their children properly. It is common for children from large/very large families i.e. megafamilies to do without, even the rudiments as opposed to children from small families (1-2 children ) whose parents were prudent enough to ensure that their children have myriad opportunities and advantages in terms of travel, dancing/music/language lessons, good medical/dental care, the best schools/colleges, and in general exposure to the finer things in life which eludes children in large/very large families who have to be satisfied with the bare rudiments in life. You acknowledged that children in large/very large families survive. That is the minimum level. No child should survive, they should THRIVE and children from small families have the means to THRIVE, not only as children but as adults.


lkjdskfjef 16 months ago

I grew up in a megafamily (10 kids). It was miserable.


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gmwilliams 16 months ago from the Greatest City In The World-New York City, New York Author

lk, Of course it was miserable. Kids growing up in poverty and lack. Kids living on top of each other, no privacy, no amenities. All because of irresponsible parents who have deep psychological issues.

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