Perspectives: The Charitable Spirit - Giving Too Much Can Cause Tears

Introduction

A very dear soul and one of the first friends I made on HubPages is MickeySr. He reached out to four other hubbers, marcoujor (Maria), martiecoetser (Martie), docmo (Mohan), and myself with an idea to write about heartfelt issues, each with his/her own take. Together, we are the Perspectives Team. Each Perspective addresses the emotional/soulful aspects of humans. We tackle a different perspective each month. Please join us and listen. Participation is welcome via comments and/or willingness to be a guest writer for our next month's theme, which is 'Regret and Hope'. Please contact MickeySr. if interested.

Each month we invite a guest writer. This month's guest is Sunnie Day. Welcome, Sunnie!


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When Does Charitable Spirit Go Beyond?


As usual, I wasn’t sure where I wanted to go with this month’s perspective. Giving is typically a selfless act. Sometimes, when you give too much, it hurts. Especially when it’s to family and they end up treating you wrongly despite what you’ve sacrificed to teach them morals, love, consideration, compassion and understanding.


My twenty year old son (who still lives at home) and I had a tremendous shout-out-blow-out over my telling him ‘no’ when he wanted to borrow my car to go honky tonking on a Friday night. His car was in the shop and I’d let him use mine to get back and forth to work; that was the agreement. He didn’t want to hear ‘no’ to the Friday night assumption on his part of using my car and kept questioning every reason I gave him for my decision. None of them pleased him and it turned into such a loud fight that the neighbors came out and tried to reason with him. You see, they know what I’ve been through with him as an ADHD/Conduct Disorder child most of his life. They’ve known him since he was almost three, so he’s got lots of outside family. They also know his father passed when he was only 15 years old and they all knew his father. As a neighbor pulled him away from the argument, my son threw the spare car key he was using into the darkness and told me to go find it. My heart bleeds and I cry every day. I ask Jesus to knock through my son’s wall and re-enter his soul. The charitable spirit needs to bring my son back. That’s what I want for Christmas and every day, for that matter.


Is There Such a Thing as Giving Too Much?


I have done everything I possibly can to give my son a good life and to bring him out of his emotional and societal distresses. When the state let me down, I went out of pocket to help my beloved son come back to the sweet soul he was as a child. I have done without since he was born in 1992 to provide for him and even more so when I divorced his dad in 1998, who could only keep up with child support for a couple of years. He was a damn good father and loved his son more than life; that’s all that mattered to me. God bless his soul, my son’s dad came down with bladder cancer and it killed him in January of 2007. I knew his dad had bigger fish to fry, so I never went after him for delinquent child support; I made do. It’s all in the Spirit of Giving.


I suppose I gave too much, but how do you not give everything you can to your child? He recently told me I should let him fall (I’m constantly reminding him of when his car payment and insurance is due because he’s consistently delinquent and is trying to establish credit). I find that hard to do because he’s my only child and I don’t want to see him hurt. Yet he hurts me when I say no. Is it my fault? Am I too good of a parent or not a good enough parent?



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Where Is This Is Leading?


With Christmas only 10 days away from the posting of this hub, my heart aches. Every semblance of the spirit of Christmas makes me cry as if I’ve lost something. The video I post for you today is the epitome of the spirit of giving, yet it made my cry out loud. My heart aches.

I’m insecure in my decision to have left my $50,000 year job, as my son has recently thrown in my face, for the unknown reality of working towards my dream of being a full time writer. My son won’t talk to me, yet we live in the same house. It’s as if I was the one who did wrong. Did I? Did I give too much? Have I failed to give my son the Spirit of Giving? Or have I only shown him how to take?

Strangers accept our gifts of kindness without rebuke. Why do those who are close to us refuse to see what is given to them from our hearts? It tears my heart out that I can’t give my son the Christmas he’s used to having, but now we won’t have Christmas at all. Parenthood has its many rejoices but the heartache that comes with it, causing a constant flow of tears, is hard to deal with. Hearts bleed sometimes because of the charitable spirit.

I apologize for the darkness of this hub and I don’t expect a lot of comments. Please visit my comrades as I know they will lift your spirits.

http://marcoujor.hubpages.com/hub/Perspectives-The-Charitable-Spirit-Good-Deeds

http://martiecoetser.hubpages.com/hub/Perspectives-The-Charitable-Spirit-Kindness-Generosity-Charity

http://docmo.hubpages.com/hub/Perspectives-Pooh-The-Charitable-Spirit

http://mickeysr.hubpages.com/hub/Perspectives-The-Charitable-Spirit-Charity-And-Its-Fruits


Merry Christmas to all and to all a good life!

P.S. After 3 days of silence my son admitted he was wrong. It looks like we will have a Christmas after all!


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© 2012 Shauna L Bowling

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billybuc 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

It's an interesting question....can you give too much to a child? Can you give too much love? No, never! Can you give too much protections and comfort? I believe you, or any parent, can. Is it understandable? Most definitely! Is there blame in doing so? Ridiculous! All we can do is the best we can do, and hopefully learn from it.

I'll always be in your corner, Sha, so get used to it. :)


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bravewarrior 3 years ago from Central Florida Author

I love you Bill. You always have a way of understanding and making me feel good even when I feel down. By the time I posted this, all is once again smooth on the homefront. I decided to post it anyway because of the questions I asked myself and other parents may sometimes ask of themselves. Parenthood is hard. It's a precious gift, but as in all things worthy, it comes with the good and the not-so-good.

Merry Christmas Bill. I wish you and Bev a joyful, loving holiday!


Sunnie Day 3 years ago

Dear Shauna,

Oh my dear heart, the stories I could tell about one of my sons who has broken my heart more than I can count. It is such a hard place to walk as a mother. You ask so many questions that I have yet to come up with any solid answers. I did come to one realization through many years of pain and that was giving is different than enabling. I was enabling him so badly. That is another hub indeed but giving of your love, your motherly wisdom is free and there is no amount too great. God bless you for writing from your heart. One day I will share my story should you want to know, if it would help you in anyway.

Love and hugs my new dear friend,

Sunnie


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marcoujor 3 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

Sweetest Sha,

You have a beautiful sleeve, especially when you wear your heart on it!

Deep down, some days maybe almost hidden, you son knows very good and well that you would give him the world, if you could. He loves you. Your structure, consistency and faith mean more than any tangible gift.

Christmas 'will' come and I pray you have the peaceful, joyful and blessed day you so truly deserve.

Love you and the video is perfectly uplifting, Maria


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bravewarrior 3 years ago from Central Florida Author

Kim, most of our hard times are over. Every now and then the 'old' Christopher rears its ugly head. We're back on track now. And yes, I would love to hear your story.

Maria, you are so sweet. Yes, Christmas will come, just not with as much 'pow' as it has in the past. And we're both ok with that. In fact, I will be baking cookies this weekend!


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MartieCoetser 3 years ago from South Africa

Getting more kicks than halfpence will, indeed, hurt even the most generous charitable spirit. Although we don't give with the hope to receive anything in return, our spirit/soul is programmed to expect at least gratitude. If not, a flame of anger gets ignited, blocking our willingness to give. This is the way our soul operates. Anger destroys; killing anger, saving our own best qualities, inter alia the ability to give unconditionally, WILL keep us too busy to pay attention to our fellowman and their needs.

At the age of 20, without any experience of parenthood, a person has no concept of gratitude. Taking love and care for granted IS their natural trait. Only after 'kicked out of paradise' a person realize what life is all about. My advice to all parents is always: "You are the parent, the one in charged. Be wise and fair, which evidently means that sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind; don't give up your reins."

Children ARE demanding. To be kind, a parent is often compelled to say 'NO'. Then let you no be your no and don't yield to the tantrums thrown by your babies.

Shauna, NO, would also have been my answer, unless the child or any other person, is in the position to replace my car in case of an accident.

Just keep on being the Brave Warrior and don't loose the Battle of Parenthood.

Thumbs up for this perspective on charity.


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bravewarrior 3 years ago from Central Florida Author

Martie, I stuck to my guns. No was no was no. Period. Years ago I probably would have relented just to end the argument. I have grown as a parent. Hopefully, that will facilitate my son growing as a man. Thank you for your insight - much appreciated!


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mckbirdbks 3 years ago from Emerald Wells, Just off the crossroads,Texas

Hello Martie, there is no finer cause than your only son. At this moment in time you are unhappy with the way he presents himself. And it is a shame that he disrespects you. Without going into great detail, I will say that an attitude adjustment is in order. You know your strength, you know your heart, now have the strength to take a step back. Time for this boy to come through the passageway to manhood. Oh, the attitude adjustment has to come from you, have a first aid kit handy as you watch him fall down a few times and skins his knees.

I have daughters, so was spared the heart break of sons.


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bravewarrior 3 years ago from Central Florida Author

mcbirdbks, I'm working on it. (BYW, I'm Shauna, not Martie!) He's my only child so it's a little hard to let go. As I said, I'm working on it....


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mckbirdbks 3 years ago from Emerald Wells, Just off the crossroads,Texas

Oh, sorry bravewarrior, I got confused. I also wanted to say, the other side of the coin from giving is taking. In your relationship you are the giver, your son the taker. You can fix that.


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bravewarrior 3 years ago from Central Florida Author

I'm working on it, mcbirdbks. I think I've done a pretty good job thus far. Everyone has room to grow. Parents and children alike.


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Sunshine625 3 years ago from Orlando, FL

You truly are a brave warrior. From the day our children are conceived until the day we die we will always be there for them. Well, most of us will. Some won't. We are part of the "will" group. We live and we learn and continue to teach them, and they continue to teach us. I smiled when I read your P.S. :)


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bravewarrior 3 years ago from Central Florida Author

Thank you for your very supportive comment, Linda. Some people just don't understand. I'm glad you do!


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Mhatter99 3 years ago from San Francisco

As one who was highly involved with charities can we give too much? I can only say, try it close to that extent. You will find the sign post with that question shrouded with much more. Thank you for this.


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bravewarrior 3 years ago from Central Florida Author

Thank you Martin, that's comforting!


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Docmo 3 years ago from UK

Sweet Shauna : your endearing and honest take on the charitable spirit is just what we all need. A dose of reality and the check on just how much charity one can exude? You have doen so much and endured aso much and yet your unselfish spirit still doubts when it says no. Charity is not just saying yes to everything one is demanded of, as you already know. I am glad your son has since come back to let you know he was misguided in his demands. I am sure despite all the friction there is so much love that binds you both. Merry Christmas to you, dear Sha. Much love from here.


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bravewarrior 3 years ago from Central Florida Author

Doc, only great love would have brought tears to my eyes all the way from my heart. I don't think anything but personal ingratitude can make one respond in a such a way that the heart literally hurts.

All is good now, as I knew it would be. I called on God, Christopher's dad and my own love to bring him around. There is power in love and prayer.

Merry Christmas, Doc. I look forward to meeting you the next time you come to Orlando, my friend!


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ImKarn23 3 years ago

Shauna..your words bring tears to my eyes and a heaviness to my heart! It strikes very close to home! I have a daughter and a son and my daughter has been...wild from the start - only to get worse when she was diagnosed with diabetes at the age of 10 and when her parents separated when she was 12..

none the less - her lack of respect and compassion serious worries me - and her willingness to 'go to the edge' does as well...

at 30 years old - there's nothing i can do, but - i do believe it is possible to give too much - out of love always, probably some guilt - but always in the best of faith..

life is tough..parenting is tough...doing it alone is tough - and we can only do our best...my 25 year old son? a god send!

i'm so glad your son relented...

merry christmas to you both...


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lindsay123 3 years ago from Philippines

For me, there is no such thing as too much when you give. If i could remember it right, God wants us to give to the extent that we have nothing to give anymore. It is easy to give when you have plenty right? The real value of giving would be when you give even though you have less.. thanks for this great hub,, reminded me that i really need to give something to others this Christmas.. not just because i am ought to do so, but because its what i love to do..


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Eiddwen 3 years ago from Wales

A wonderful hub and thank you for sharing.

Eddy.


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bravewarrior 3 years ago from Central Florida Author

Leslie, going it alone is tough but we do the best we can do and hope for the best. My son really has grown into a very compassionate person. I guess they just always expect more from Mom.

Lindsay, I'm glad you got something from this hub. Giving is what we do. Life will always have it's ups and downs. I'm just glad my downs are few and far between!

Eddy, as always, I thank you from the bottom of my heart. You are so supportive! Have a great day!


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Ruchira 3 years ago from United States

Brave warrior

You have highlighted some great points. When charity exceeds then there is doubt and despair as to why?

Thus giving in moderation make the acceptor comfortable.

Voted up and sharing it across


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cclitgirl 3 years ago from Western NC

This sounds tough. :\ I hope that for the holidays, your son will see a little bit of love and not anger. Thinking of you.


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bravewarrior 3 years ago from Central Florida Author

Ruchira, sometimes it's hard to not go with your heart. Holding back some becomes necessary when giving to your children, otherwise they won't learn how to take care of themselves.

Cyndi, all is well. He just had a 'momentary lapse of reason'. Thanx for your concern!


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Gypsy Rose Lee 3 years ago from Riga, Latvia

Shauna despite of the topic this is an incredible hub which I can tell comes from your heart. So glad to read at the end that your son reached out to you. I sure hope you have a Christmas of rediscovering each other and regaining the love you may have lost along the way. Bring Christ into your Christmas and the Christmas angels will bless you both. I admire your want to be a full time writer. We are having heavy financial problems yet I too am still searching for a way to make my writing bring in some pay. It is what I truly love and without that I would feel lost in this world. Wishing you all the very best and merry and bright holidays. Hugs and passing this on.


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bravewarrior 3 years ago from Central Florida Author

Rasma, thank you for your kind words. All is well once again. My son tells me he loves me every morning before he goes to work and gives me a hug. Christ will definitely be the reason for Christmas this year. We will celebrate Him and each other.

Merry Christmas to you and your family!


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MickeySr 3 years ago from Hershey, Pa.

"Strangers accept our gifts of kindness without rebuke. Why do those who are close to us refuse to see what is given to them from our hearts?"

During Jesus' life He went from town to town to spread His gospel message (and to instruct His disciples He would leave behind to carry on His message) and, to verify to people that He spoke with authority, that He was not just a good man with nice ideas, just another teacher, Jesus performed miracles that evidenced He was far more than just a good man with nice ideas, just another teacher. Many people (who don't actually study the Bible text) imagine that the Bible is a poetic book of fluffy religious axioms - but much of it is written more like a reporting, a record of historic events, than it is like a sappy 'inspirational' instruction on how to live . . . Luke begins his gospel writing to a friend that he had investigated these things, that he interviewed eyewitnesses and is now going to set forth in an orderly fashion an account of Jesus' life. Throughout the Bible things are said like 'and we were not alone but 400 people witnessed this' and 'many others who remain alive to this day saw this as well', etc. So, a lot of the text of Scripture reads more like people who experienced something wanted to document it, rather than just a book of pretty sounding religious proverbs.

Now, my point here is this; as Jesus went from town to town, healing illnesses and curing the blind & the crippled, town after town welcomed Him and brought to Him their sick - except when He came to Nazareth. In Nazareth Jesus was not welcomed, He was mocked and ridiculed . . . because Nazareth was His hometown, it's where He grew-up. They all knew Him there, He was Joseph's son, the little boy who worked in His father's carpentry shop - there were some who thought He should have come there first or stayed there always helping, there were some who thought He must think He's a big shot going around making a name for Himself, etc, etc. Jesus was thanked and appreciated everywhere He went - expect by those who knew Him all His life . . . instead of just seeing His caring & kindness & selflessness for what it was, they had too many issues, He should have 'this' or why didn't He 'that'.

This, this Biblical account of Jesus visiting His hometown, is where the phrase 'A prophet is not welcome in his own home' . . . and, sadly, too often 'kindness is honored by everyone - except those closest to us'.


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bravewarrior 3 years ago from Central Florida Author

Mickey, I'm taking this as you telling me I am right in giving; not being chastised as I felt mcbird was doing in her comments to me. Being a parent is difficult. Being a single is even more difficult, especially when you can't call on the other parent for help except through spirit.

Your comment is comforting. I love you, my friend. God Bless You!


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Deborah Brooks 3 years ago from Brownsville,TX

Oh my heart breaks for you.. why do things happened? I know it hurts to be rejected by loved ones especially your children you have done so much for .. the love your have for them and then they get mad and turn their back on you. I know oh so well. Praying for them and the situation is the best thing to do... the Lord God hears a parents cry.,. He knows our hearts.

God Bless you and I pray for you and your son too.

I pray you can have some kind of Merry Christmas

Sharing

Debbie


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bravewarrior 3 years ago from Central Florida Author

Debbie, prayer does indeed work. My son and I are back on track now. We will have a nice Christmas. It will be meager in the gift department, but we are having some neighbors over to join us for Christmas dinner. All is well!

Merry Christmas!


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shiningirisheyes 3 years ago from Upstate, New York

I kept a rather low profile over the Holidays and missing this heart wrenching hub from my dear friend is my one regret. Had I attempted to look in on those I've grown to love on Hub pages, I would have realized a very dear and loving friend was hurting and in need of my shoulder.

I am comforted in the very last line. You know Shauna, the one heartbreak I live with daily is my not being able to have children. Those were just the cards dealt me and I live with it. I share this with you only to emphasize my advice is not coming from a Mothers stand-point but from an Aunt, Great Aunt and cousin to many children I helped out during times just as your description.

I am not sure if this is going to help but here goes. We have a family member - no need to point out who it is, who put two people through a living hell. Arrested on more occasions than my fingers and toes can count, this is no exaggeration. He crashed over 12 cars and was fortunate enough to walk away with only stitches each time. The family fights were just as you described and many family members, neighbors and friends attempted to intervene as yours did.

I can only say that the day came when he realized the loving and nurturing parents he was fortunate for having. He realized their actions were for his greater good. He also focused the rest of his time with his two parents to be the best son a person could have. Today he is a wonderful father with a life any parent would be proud of. Had someone told me this would be the result so many years ago I would have had them admitted into the local psychiatric facility.

I only share this as your day will come when you realize every action was for the best and you would change nothing.

Hang in there. I love you and am pulling for you.

Beckie XO (fireflies your way my friend).


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bravewarrior 3 years ago from Central Florida Author

Beckie, thank you for sharing your story; it's very inspirational! My son and I are back on track now. He gets his moments, usually around Christmas, the anniversary of his father's death and his dad's birthday. I think that's where his outrage came from. I have to try to pay attention to the times when he acts up and try to understand.

Thanx for caring my dear friend. Love Ya!


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shiningirisheyes 3 years ago from Upstate, New York

My heart goes out to him as I can not imagine losing my Dad, let alone around Christmas. Sending warm thoughts and wishes to you both.


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bravewarrior 3 years ago from Central Florida Author

Actually, Beckie, my son's dad died on January 25, 2007. My son was only 15. So we have another hard time coming up here in a few weeks.


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fpherj48 3 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

Shauna.....The blatant reality, is simply this.....From the moment of conception, "we" become mothers. "Mothers," (MY belief) are very unique, individual, beings...apart from all others.....to include THEIR own former self.

In one single moment...the instant we hold a tiny, precious life in our arms, we are transformed....completely. And from that moment on...is when we begin to truly know what all-consuming LOVE is. We are suddenly certain, that it is nothing which can be learned in books or be "taught"....it's not an experiment....nor a dress rehearsal.

Our LOVE for our children, is the most real, authentic, natural and most powerful force in the universe. Nothing nor anyone, has a simple chance of proving otherwise, to me.

That "love" goes beyond anything and everything that life or the world can throw our way. It simply super-cedes ALL.

And, Shauna...because I know this...and believe it with every fiber of my being....I must share with you, that whatever you do, say or go through....it is right and fair and pure. It stems from the greatest love of all. None of it, can possibly be wrong.

Never doubt yourself....the "mother" you are. I PROMISE you, your son IS the man you hope for him to be. It takes our children a bit more time to come to the realization. After all, he hasn't loved himself as long nor as powerfully as his mother has. "All in good time, Sha."

You may count on it!..............UP+++


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bravewarrior 3 years ago from Central Florida Author

Paula, your response simply melts my heart. You're right; the purest love is that of a mother for her child. I've never been able to love another the way I love my son. (Nor do I put up with the crap from others that I absorb from my son! Can you say divorce? Twice? Tee hee).

You have validated the way I choose to 'mother' my son. It all comes from the heart and only wanting the best for him. It's funny.... so often my son will say, "you don't even know me"! Hello? I knew you before you took your first breath outside my womb! Are you kidding me?

Motherhood has its share of trials and heartache, but it's only because it is with our hearts that we act. We do the best we can while still trying to grow ourselves. There is no harder job on earth. At the same time, there is no job on earth that is more rewarding.

Mothers put Picasso to shame! We are the true artists. Look what we create! Yeah, it takes a lifetime but, as they say, Rome wasn't built in a day!

Thank you for your perspective, Paula. You have strengthened my maternal soul.

Enjoy your day!


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B. Leekley 3 years ago from Kalamazoo, Michigan, USA

I'm childless myself, so my tentative thoughts are from speculation, not experience. I wonder if the greatest gift and help that parents can give with love to a growing-up offspring is autonomy, backed up by moral support (and perhaps material support, depending on circumstances) and a home in their home when and while needed, under house rules. When to give an opportunity for autonomy and self-reliance and when to give material help can be a difficult judgment call. I'm glad to read in the comments that you and your son have been working things out ok.


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bravewarrior 3 years ago from Central Florida Author

B. You are right in what you say. My son still lives wth me. At age 20 I don't have him on a curfew but I do expect common courtesies such as letting me know when he's leaving the house, where he's going, what time he has to be at work, etc.

I think it's harder for the mom to let go of the apron strings than it is the child, who is desperately seeking independence. That is, of course, until he needs mom's guidance (and wallet?!)

Thank you for the comment. So glad to took the time to read and comment!


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CraftytotheCore 3 years ago

Ok Brave, I have to know where the heck do you live? I need to move there!!! Pronto!!! :D

Seriously, my neighbors would call the police and have! So, where are these kind and loving neighbors who respond with reasoning and empathy ??? I need to know!

My son was hospitalized several times last year. He has Autism/ADHD/Mood Disorder. The doctors were trying to stabilize his meds, but every time they started him on something new, he'd have a terrible meltdown which would land him in an emergency room or hospital. Anyway, during all that time, no one ever stopped over to see how I was coping, or bought a casserole or even waved hello as they drove by. I had to do this alone with my husband (who works full time).

At one point my son was in a hospital on the other end of the state (2 hours from here) because all of the beds were full. Full! Can you imagine? All of the beds were full at the children's hospitals! Sad! Well, visiting hours were only 5-6, near New York (parents are not allowed to stay over), rush hour, no thanks. I saw him 1 time during that hospital stay and it was awful that I couldnt' see him more. (The gas alone was too much to afford.) I couldn't sleep, eat, nothing. I was a wreck. Anyway, not one person came to ask if we were ok.

During this time, my husband's teenager was living with us. He was almost 17. He had finished all but one credit of high school. He was a straight A student and held down a pretty much full-time job. He also went to church 3x a week.

Also, my grandfather was in the hospital during this time recovering from a surgery and he too was an hour away at another hospital.

My husband's teenager decided he wanted to go stay with church friends. Fine with me because I was going through you know what and back and figured he was safe going with the people at church and they were more than happy to help him, offered him a place to stay and would take him to church with them. My husband's ex called the police and told them we abandoned him. ? Anyway, the one time I actually got to go visit my son, I was welcomed home by 2 police cruisers in my driveway waiting to talk to me about abandoning a teenager. Luckily, they went to the church friend's house and he told them his mother is NUTS!

I'm glad you have a wonderful son. He seems like an aspiring young man. I think they all go through a phase.


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bravewarrior 2 years ago from Central Florida Author

Crafty, I apologize. I never got notification of your comment. That is horrible how your son is treated. I guess I'm lucky. I live in Longwood, Florida. I bought my house just before my son's 3rd birthday, so all the neighbors have seen him grow up and have seen what I went through in the process. Things have calmed down, but he still has his moments. He's 21 now and knows everything. I know nothing....

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