How to Bring REALLY Bring Sexy Back...Housewife Edition

Well, it goes without saying that sometimes we stay-at-home moms have a tendency to let ourselves go; and why not, we are just staying-at-home most of the time, right? WRONG!!! It is never okay to walk around looking like Hagar the Horrible unless you're nine months pregnant or have the swine flu (regular flu doesn't count). I will admit that sometimes after a long night of teething babies, nightmares, fevers or stomach aches it is hard, and I do mean HARD to pull it together. BUT, we do want to remain the HOUSE-wife not the EX-wife, so it is worth the small effort to pull that wild hair back into a ponytail or feather those short locks just enough to get the "sexy" messy look. If sweatpants are a must, at least pair them with a good figure flattering tee to keep it interesting.

It goes without saying that there is no need to do an America's Next Top Model makeover on a daily basis, but a little chapstick works wonders sometimes, and even for those who NEVER put make-up on their faces, a little concealer after those hard nights is a good idea. Don't think of it as fixing flaws; think of it as accentuating assets. After all, we mom's are modern day superheros in the flesh, and when is the last time you saw a hero who wasn't hot? (That is, of course, with the exception of Spider Man, sorry TobEy.) Our husbands love us no matter how we look, I am sure, because they know our beauty potential firsthand, but I am also sure that as beautiful as they know us to be, they certainly wouldn't mind coming home and seeing us "pretty". Besides, you owe it to yourself!

It is essential, and I do mean essential for a mom to have a wardrobe that follows the rule of the three C's at all time:

  • Cute
  • Comfortable
  • Classy

Its that simple, and it doesn't matter if you're 25 or 45! First let's consider cute. Cute is NOT what you see walking down the runway or the red carpet. That fashion is reserved for special occasions only. Trust me, not even Heidi Klum and Tyra Banks are going to go the grocery store in the same outfit they wore to the Emmy Awards, and neither should you. Cute is what you see in the catalogs and mall display windows. Cute is something that you can wear around the house and LEAVE the house in without an explanation to that person you ran into about how you were just "picking something up quick" or "had to leave in a hurry."

Now, let's tackle comfortable. If it you constantly have to pull it down, up, tug at the sides or do any touching to it other than smoothing something down after sitting, then its not comfortable. If you have to pull your shoes off while you sit and put them back on only when you have to walk, they are not comfortable. If you can only put it on while taking a deep breath then chances are its not going to be too comfortable when you finally get in it. With that being said, here's a side note:

We are mom's; we have given birth to one or more children and we come in all shapes and sizes. Being healthy is important, but mental health is just as important as physical health. Love yourself the way you are, change yourself because you want to, not because you think you need to!

Now back to the matter at hand. Let's talk about being classy. We all have had one of those days where we wake up feeling like a million bucks, and we want the WORLD to know. You know those days when you really don't have anywhere you HAVE to go, but you find a reason to go somewhere anyway just because you think you're looking so good. There is one rule to remember about being classy. Anytime that your children are with you, the world sees you as a mom. They do not see the high school prom queen, the sorority girl or the hot girlfriend, they see a MOM with a CHILD. Now, if you're noticeable enough to draw attention to yourself, there are only two options that the world is thinking. Either they're thinking, she's a pretty mom, or they're thinking, she should be ashamed of herself.(There is the exception of a hormonal teenager or pervert thnking you're a hot mom, which they refer to as a not so flattering acronymn if you ask me.) Remember the classy rule goes a long way towards determining the first thought directed at you. Just a hint on somethings that aren't so classy:

  • If we see your butt crack when you bend over to give the baby the paci, not classy.
  • If your neckline plunges so low you have to wear a special bra with it, not classy.
  • If your shorts are so short that we see the dimples in your buttocks, not classy.
  • Bellybutton showing, not classy.

The list goes on and on, but you catch my drift......

Its okay to be HOT sometimes...I mean SMOKING!

OK, so now that we've covered the basics, lets talk about when we're not operating in our mom capacity. Let's talk about when we're operating in wife mode. That fashion a is whole different story. For example, if you and the hubby are going out to very ritzy affair, throw comfortable and cute out the window. Now we want the red carpet look, and trust me, you're not going to be comfortable in that, but you sure will look FLAWLESS! However, we do still want to keep it classy because we have a reputation to uphold, children or no children.

If you're heading out for a fun date night/day with the hubby, keep all three of the C's but upgrade the cute factor a bit just to keep him in awe! And when it comes time to head to the privacy of our bedroom, let all three of the C's go, even classy!! I may be young, but I'm often told that I am wise beyond my years, and I think it is quite alright to let your hair down when you get behind closed doors with the one you love. On those nights that aren't so wild, keep the three C's in mind even at bedtime. They make lots of nighttime outfits that fit those criteria, and I'm sure your hubby will appreciate it when he's holding you tight.

Last but not least, my fellow housewives, remember to always make time for mommy. Take that long hot bubble bath, go get that mani/pedi (or do it yourself), and sometimes, dress up for dinner at home! Also, even though there are some fashion staples like the ittle black dress that never go out of style, remember that we need to update our wardrobes ever so often. I know its hard when you're constantly buying for the kiddos and trying to maintain a budget at the same time but just adding a few pieces each seaon goes a long way.

I often get the comment from people that "you don't look like a mom" when I am out and about with my children. Clearly, these people have no idea what mom's look like. I told you, Housewives of the 21st Century are a new breed!!!! We make this look GOOD!!

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no body 6 years ago from Rochester, New York

As a man who has been married twice with a sum total of 31 years I know a wise woman when I hear one, or read one. I am so appreciative of a woman that cares about her appearance. A woman that loves her husband and family and trys to impress him while doing other things the family needs. On the other hand, I am so offended at the "Homer Simpson" steriotypical male that can just let themselves go, sit on the couch, belch, fart, be lazy, etc. The wife is still supposed to get all gooey around him? I don't think so. I wouldn't if I were her! If these how-to's apply to women, then as a man I say they go double for him. It is his duty to secure his wife. It is his job to see she is happy, to the best of his ability. I know that he can't MAKE her happy. But you know what I mean. Don't just sit around and expect her to be all attracted to anything you become. Don't think a glib remark will take away so much wrong done in a day. Don't take her for granted. Make her feel like your queen, your sweetheart. Get up and be helpful and try to not get in her way doing it. Know her and anticipate her needs. Get your head out of your butt for two seconds and think about her needs and not just your own. Those things that she does will be so much easier for her to do because she'll feel sexy. She'll be more of what you want and it's because you are doing what you were supposed to have done in the first place. Blessings sister.


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aesmith2009 6 years ago from USA Author

Thanks for the comment, and you are very right about the pendulum swinging both ways. Men can't expect women to accept the slob sterotype that people portary husbands to be. The way a man acts doesn't make him manly, handling his responsibilites and having the right attitude shows manliness to me a whole lot more than a dirty t-shirt and rude farts.

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