Raging Hormones - Coping With Teenage Depression and Emotional Changes

Teen Depression is a very delicate affair which needs careful handling by both parents and siblings

Hormonal changes begin to occur in both boys and girls as soon as they enter puberty. In most of the cases, initially the signs are more psychological than physiological. For many parents this is a very rough time when their teen begins to be more demanding and at most of the time unreasonable. This is not because they are unreasonable but due to the mere fact that they are facing changes which are far more uncomprehending for them as well.

Hormonal changes bring about many changes in a teens personality, especially to their emotional side. Both boys and girls tend to become more aggressive in their behavior. This is sometimes an indicator of inset of depression.

Telltale Signs

Most of the time, teens will go into an unexpected rage followed by a sudden phase of withdrawal. Some of the common symptoms for teen depression from bad to worst are:

· Sadness or hopelessness

· Irritability, anger, or hostility

· Tearfulness or frequent crying

· Withdrawal from friends and family

· Loss of interest in activities

· Changes in eating and sleeping habits

· Restlessness and agitation

· Feelings of worthlessness and guilt

· Lack of enthusiasm and motivation

· Fatigue or lack of energy

· Difficulty concentrating

· Thoughts of death or suicide

The Results

Depression has never been an easy situation for parents to handle. Most are not trained or realize the implication and the lasting effects that this phase can have on a teen.

· They may start having problems at school which may lead to a dropout.

· In some teens, threats of running away and in some cases actual act leads to destruction of a teen’s education and they may even end up in a life of crime.

· Many teens have been seen to have an inclination for drug and alcohol abuse after going through an unmanaged phase of depression. This, they do as a resort to self medicate them. But unfortunately they become a victim of yet another horrific trap.

· Generally depression is followed by a phase of recovery which sometimes is not directed in the correct path. Those teens who suffer from low esteem issues due to their appearance may eventually lead to eating disorders. They can lead to obesity or end up with an undernourished teen. Both situations are equally bad.

· Hiding behind the computer is these days a very common practice which most teens are seen. This to a limit is an acceptable pass time and school requirement. But excessive usage in a depressive state may turn it into internet addiction. Such teens avoid person to person contact and remain in isolation which is not a good sign at all.

· The worst results that have been seen as a teenage depression outcome are self injury, reckless behavior, violence and even suicide

Prevention Is Better Than Cure

There are ways and means to help your teen fight depression. The best is to help your child prevent it from happening in the first place.

This is a twofold measure for both the teens and the parents. The first step against fighting off depression is identifying the cause of the depression. Usually the cause is hormonal change coupled with minor issues which seem to magnify.

It is essential for the parents to keep open channels of communication with their teens. The problem actually begins when there is no one to listen to a teen’s anguish without interruptions. Usually parents forget that what may seem to be a small issue for them may be a big social problem for the teen. As a parent what you can do is be a good listener for a while. This you can do by offering support to your teen but not all the way to over shadow his or her liberty. If you see a problem that the teen would probably not handle correctly you should get involved but in a gentle but persistent way.

If you see symptoms of withdrawal or the teen refuses to take help from you then best is to seek professional help from a doctor or a psychiatrist.

A teen who is going through a phase of depression may not know it, but his siblings and friends who spend more time around will definitely notice the changes in mood swings, habits and activities. Best is not to leave a depressed teen alone. Try to help him or her with the problem that they are facing and also inform the parents or the school staff for further assistance.

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Andrea 7 years ago

A very well written and informative article!

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Owais Siddiqui 7 years ago Author

Andrea, Thank you for your appreciation

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motherinthemaking 5 years ago from Australia

Thanks for the advice. My husband has depression which is managed well now. I am pregnant with our first child and having his depression pass to them is a worry for me.

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Owais Siddiqui 5 years ago Author

Usually depression is not genetically transmitted. All you have to do is provide your child loving attention and a serene environment to grow. Both parents contribute in raising a child.

kat 4 years ago

I'm a 14 year old. I hate this. I feel like I'm drifting apart from life. I get angry all the time and have mood swings. Especially on my period week. I almost tried commiting suicide last week. I wanna quit already...

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Owais Siddiqui 4 years ago Author

Just relax and take life one day at a time. Make peace with your mom and be friends with her. Believe me, everyone has gone through this so the adults know how it is and how to handle.

Madd 4 years ago

I am also 14 and have tried to commit suicide as well, usually I try to kind of tell my mom when I know I'm going into another bout of depression but she just blames it on PMS, no matter what time of the month it is and laughs, I just don't know what to do

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Owais Siddiqui 4 years ago Author

Believe me, your mom knows best. In a couple of years you too will be laughing thinking about these days. Its only hormonal changes and nothing more. It can be somewhat scary at times but stick to your mom she'll help you out.

Blibbyblob 4 years ago

I am 11 and I have been having mood swings at night. I am on my iPod at 10pm crying and don't know what to do when this happens. I have told my mum about it when it last happened but the best my parents do is calm me down a bit. I want it to stop. :'(

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Owais Siddiqui 4 years ago Author

@Blibbyblob this is how life is. You will have to be brave and try fight it off. Mood swings and depression will go away. Just hang on

Guest 4 years ago

Well im 13, and im also starting this stage. I have had all those dot points and i have thought about death but the other way around! Im thinking about how i don't want to die. And i keep thinking about it. Its kinda going crazy. Is this also normal? I keep thinking about how i love my family and i want to stay with them forever. I have teared up because of this. Nothings wrong... Right?

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Owais Siddiqui 4 years ago Author

This is part of the process and you will soon be over with it and laugh when you'll think back. just remember your mom and as a matter of fact every grown woman you see around has been through this. so stay strong you are doing good already

Confused girl 4 years ago

Could you also get this before your first period ever?

anabelle 4 years ago

Im 13 and sometimes I feel like life isn't real, like i am in a game or in a movie. I really don't know. Im not thinking of suicides or death. Is this also a process of Hormonal changes? I would really like to know. And this would help me a lot. I might have to go to the doctor soon just for a yearly check up. Sometimes I feel like someone is behind me. All the time. Am I going paranoid because im worrying too much? Thank you, this post really helped me and my parents understand the pain!

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Owais Siddiqui 4 years ago Author

@Confused girl : Hormonal changes take place just before your first period which will lead to your first period eventually. Yes it is possible to have some psychological effects. You should talk to your mo about it or some other female adult close to you.

@anabelle: becoming an adult means a lot of physical and psychological changes. You should not worry unnecessarily. If there is a reason for thinking someone is following you then you should talk to some adult to get you help, but if you are just being paranoid and no one is actually following you, then you need to relax a bit. Stay with with your family or friends when you go out and be happy. you should also befriend your mom and talk to her more.

Dawn 4 years ago

Hi I'm 16 and I believe that I have anxiety and depression. I never want to leave my room, always on iPod, I think neg. I have problems sleeping, I don't want to do anything anymore, I eat less and think that I'm ugly. I have memory problems, I lash out all the time and feel guilty. Sometimes I want to hurt myself but I'm scared. And for the anxiety I have no friends, I can't speak correctly or start or continue a conversation. My hands sweat and my heart is in my throught. Do u think this is hormones? It's been like this for a good 9 months. I just want it I stop.

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Owais Siddiqui 4 years ago Author

I think you should sweat out a bit. This helps in most anxiety related problems. Step out of your room more often. Take a walk or go out for a jog. Sweaty palms with lots of anxiety is linked with Thyroid imbalance, you may also check up with your doctor on that.

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Confused Teen 4 years ago

Hey everyone. I'm 13 and I think I have depression of some kind. I already have my period and stuff so I don't think its my period or anything making me feel like this. I've been having a lot of trouble with these girls at school and I just feel down and upset all of the time. I've tried to commit suicide 3 times, two in the past 3 months. The other time was a year and a half ago. I cut myself and I feel really depressed. I don't think I'm ugly, and dating and boys isn't an issue. I haven't been sleeping and eating well, but its not too bad. And I have a lot of friends, its just because of this one girl that dictates one of the groups I hang out with and it adds to my "depression". My mom doesn't know about the Self Harm or suicide, but she thinks that it is just hormones making me feel this way. I'm really unsure, and I'm scared. I really just want to know whether or not people think I have a mental health condition or if I just have a bad case of hormones.

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Owais Siddiqui 4 years ago Author

Yes you are correct. people can sometimes be very mean. However, cutting yourself is not the solution. It will only give them something more to laugh about, while only you will suffer. You can stop hanging out with that group and be with other friends. I am sure others will also leave that group and follow you.

I suggest you talk to your mom about it and also tell other friends why you left their group.

a girl who needs answers! 3 years ago

I'm 11 and I don't know if im depressed or not but when i get really happy its like i blink and i get super mad, then sad. A lot of nights i cry myself to sleep, i think im ugly. im sassy, i have thought of suicide i have never tried it because im too scared to. i have tried to talk to my mom but she just doesn't listen. i don't really know who to go to. i can never fall asleep before 1 in the morning and i lose my appitite a lot.

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Owais Siddiqui 3 years ago Author

You are at the verge of entering puberty which is playing havoc with your mind and body. This is just a phase and will soon be over. every grown woman you see around has gone through this rough patch, so don't worry too much about it. I am not sure why your mom is not listening to you. Probably its been a long time since she went through this phase and has probably forgotten about it. I suggest you talk to your school nurse or on of the female teachers at your school. I am sure they will be more than happy to help. Stay cheerful and be good.

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