A Good Son

It takes a good mom

Sweet Lorraine, from her son's lens
Sweet Lorraine, from her son's lens

Sweet Lorraine

I love and admire many women. I have been blessed, and touched by some of the most beautiful female souls ever to come in one's life. It gives me extreme joy to celebrate and find opportunities to pay tribute to my mom, surrogate mothers, aunts, sisters, in laws, girlfriends and my one and only daughter. This, for as long as i live, will be practice that will never stop.

And there is Lorraine. The woman who gave birth to the man who would be my husband. She is one human being i will always be grateful to.

I met Lorraine at her home in North Carolina, over thirty years ago, as her son's new bride. I remember our introduction and embracing my new mother in law. While i had some apprehension, whether she was going to at least, like me, nothing close to it happened. Thank God!. I found her very warm, and actually thought she was sweet. So, we had a good start. And that gracious spirit prevailed all throughout my entire stay. Being Asian, my worry about a white mother in law who may be condescending proved to be unwarranted. She was loving and very thoughtful, to my delight. She was a class act, a fine hostess. My admiration for her would grow each day that we were together.

I can still remember how she and my father in law, made time to give me a grand tour of the home. I felt their pride as we made our way through every room. Lorraine's touch was everywhere. The place was organized, impeccably clean. The, we walked outside into a lush garden where she grew cherry tomatoes, blueberries and a trellis of beautiful pink roses. Later, we all sat down for a little game of domino, traded stories and laughed. She excused herself to work in her kitchen where she prepared us a delicious fare of healthy salad, organic beef patties, with whole grain freshly baked bread culminating with frozen fresh fruits. Nothing seemed to be a feat for her, but rather, as i observed her in the coming days, i begun to admire a lady who to me, clearly knew her purpose in life. I never once saw her fret, have a meltdown, nor whine about anything. This is not to say that theirs was a perfect family and was never visited by problems. That is not reality.

The fact that he was moved 11 times in a span of 12 years because of his dad's work, he had to deal with adjusting to 11 new schools and various environments. This included facing bullies, becoming a bully to beat the bullies, among many terrible things that happened. Growing up was rough. Thank God for the safety of home where he was treated like a prince by a loving mother. It didn't matter what happened outside, Lorraine welcomed her son and made sure he knew how precious he was. A nutritionist who could have pursued her own career, she chose to be a full time housewife. If there was a mother whose sole concern was to raise a fine man, she was one.

After graduation, Lorraine had to face her nomadic, now handsome and grown son who was raring to see the world. The day he announced his acceptance of a job in faraway Asia, she knew she had to finally let go, and let him fly. If she had any anxiety or fear of the unknown, she didn't let him into it. She may have whispered it to her husband in their bedroom, or the woman of faith that she was, she would have laid it at God's feet in prayer. I have read her handwritten letter to her son before he enplaned for his assignment overseas. It was full of love.

The separations would be long, but the visits home would be well planned. For years, it would be that way.A magic wand did not give me my wonderful husband. A beautiful being, my mother in law did, with the years of loving and guiding she invested in making him into what he is. By God's grace, I became the recipient of her generosity the day we met, then fell in love (at first sight) in the Philippines thirty years ago. I knew i had found a gem of a human being, in the likeness of the mother he dearly loved. Far apart, they were connected by letters Lorraine used to write regularly, and he never failed to reciprocate with a phone call. After staying by her husband and caring for him after a bad fall from his horse, son took his mother to travel and see the world. She was 86 years old. They had such a good time, they did it again when she was 90. She passed away at age 94.

Lorraine is gone, but her legacy remains with us. One of the things she loved to do was to make her voice heard, by writing to legislators, leaders and media. Some of her thoughts were so bold, and intelligently expressed, they were often published. I wish we could post them here, but much of our things are currently stored. But, she was so good, she got invited to speak in Universities and Town Meetings. She would have loved the synergy in the internet. I wish she was still with us. She would, for sure have her own Hubpage, be in Facebook, and be a Twitter. I would like to make her proud that in my own little way, i have joined the many voices that dare to be heard in this universe. If just for my own edification, i have her son as my number one fan! Woohoo!!!

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dohn121 7 years ago from Hudson Valley, New York

What an excellent tribute to a great woman (and a great husband too). You know that I would become your 100th fan if I wasn't already! Don't worry, you'll get your fan, I.V.

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BkCreative 7 years ago from Brooklyn, New York City

This is lovely IslandVoice.

Mothers deserve tributes, not because they do so much but because they do - Everything!

Loved seeing the circa 1970 photo of you and husband.

And of course I am already your fan!

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Dottie1 7 years ago from MA, USA

I pray for you IslandVoice that you will be blessed today with your 100th fan for paying tribute to Sweet Lorraine through this wonderfully told story.

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ReuVera 7 years ago from USA

What a great tribute to your mother in law!

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IslandVoice 7 years ago from Hawaii Author

Dohn: You are always a delight to find here with your kind words. Your wish for me for my 100th fan was fulfilled by ReuVera! Thanks for much!

Bk:I wish i could be half of what Lorraine was, but i am blessed to be her son's wife. She was a wonderful mom who raised a wonderful son! Circa 70, a great time!

Dottie: Answered prayer! Thank you so much!

ReuVera: You made my day! I understand you are a mother and son team? That makes this milestone hub even more incredible! Thank you, thank you!!!

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Dottie1 7 years ago from MA, USA

Yahoo prayer answered and more lovely photos added!

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IslandVoice 7 years ago from Hawaii Author

Yes Dottie! I worked so late yesterday putting this hub together, i realized i needed to do justice by adding these precious photos. Pls pray for my next 100 fans! Which means i have to get better at this writing. Appreciate you a lot!

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jiberish 7 years ago from florida

It's rare to read such nice words about a mother-in-law. This was a very touching piece, thank you.

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IslandVoice 7 years ago from Hawaii Author

Thanks Jiberish! I've been meaning to do this and i thought, the time was right. I know what you mean about in laws! hahaha

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ReuVera 7 years ago from USA

I can't but come back and read this wonderful hub again! Lorraine was definitely a special woman, the Mother how a Mother should be. And you are definitely a special daughter-in-law to give so hearty appreciation to her.

Thank you for your kind words for me. Yes, we keep a deep bond with my son and I flatter myself that it has something to do with the way I was raising him.

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IslandVoice 7 years ago from Hawaii Author

How so delighted i am to meet you ReuVera! I would like to read more about you and your son. Thank you again for making my milestone by being my 100the fan! I truly appreciate it very much!

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Kimberly Bunch 7 years ago from EAST WENATCHEE

For nice, here's one I wrote:


cosette 7 years ago

what a beautiful hub. she sounds like an amazing woman. the way she treated her son (like a prince and showing him how precious he is) was wonderful also and very moving.

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IslandVoice 7 years ago from Hawaii Author

Kimberly: Thanks! I will read yours.

Cosette: Mom was precious and her son, my life! Thank you for visiting.

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bayareagreatthing 7 years ago from Bay Area California

Such a beautiful tribute! I am so touched by the honor you have shown to your mother-in-law! It is an inspiration to me. Thank you for opening your life and sharing a little of your world with us!

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IslandVoice 7 years ago from Hawaii Author

Thanks bayareagreathing! Thanks to my mother in law for giving me a good reason to give her a tribute. Like in photography, the subject matters a lot more. I'm glad you enjoyed the read.

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Ddraigcoch 5 years ago from UK

Island voice. You are as special as your mother in law to give her such a beautiful place in eternal cyber space. She sounds like a loving and kind person. You are lucky to have the fruits of her labour in your husband.

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IslandVoice 5 years ago from Hawaii Author

Thanks Ddraigcoch! I like how you put it, eternal cyber space'. I have been blessed indeed, to have known such a beautiful person in my mother in law, and to be married to her son. Thanks for your kind words. Best!

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ReuVera 5 years ago from USA

I came back today to this hub by mere chance and again, I am so fascinated by the words of your love and by Lorraine's character! How happy she should be to know that you and her son are blessed to be together again! I know that she knows this.

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IslandVoice 5 years ago from Hawaii Author

Love you Vera! I count you precious, and feel your warm friendship, and beautiful thoughts. God bless you richly!

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